8. Deuteronomy 8:3, NIV.
9. Margaret Bullitt-Jonas, Holy Hunger: A Woman’s Journey from Food Addiction to Spiritual Fulfillment (New York: Vintage, 1998), 70.
10. Proverbs 29:18, KJV.
11. Quoted in Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham, The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning (New York: Bantam, 1992), 152-53.
12. William H. Crisman, MDiv, STM, The Opposite of Everything Is True: Reflections on Denial in Alcoholic Families (New York: William Morrow, 1991), 24.
13. Kurtz and Ketcham, The Spirituality of Imperfection, 164.
14. William James, The Varieties of Religious Experience (1902; repr., New York: Mentor-New American Library, 1958), 98-99.
Chapter 4
1. Michael E. Zimmerman, Eclipse of the Self (Athens, OH: Ohio University, 1981), 247.
2. Luke 11:35-36.
3. C. J. Swett and M. Halpert, “High Rates of Alcohol Use and History of Physical and Sexual Abuse,” American Drug and Alcohol Abuse 20 (1994): 263-72.
4. Dana Candler, Deep unto Deep (Kansas City, MO: Forerunner, 2004), 4.
5. Benedicta Ward, trans., The Saying of the Desert Fathers: The Alphabetical Collection (Kalamazoo, MI: Cistercian, 1975), 167.
6. Galatians 2:16, 19; 5:23; 3:22.
7. Isaiah 53:2-6.
8. Brennan Manning, The Signature of Jesus (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 1988), 220-21, quoting Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplations (New York: New Directions, 1961), 35.
9. Quoted in John Garvey, The Prematurely Saved and Other Varieties of Religious Experience (Springfield, IL: Templegate, 1986), 15.
10. From Bread and Wine: Readings for Lent and Easter (Maryknoll, NY: Plough, 2003), 1.
Chapter 5
1. Henri J. M. Nouwen, The Wounded Healer: Ministry in Contemporary Society (New York: Bantam Doubleday Dell, 1979), 88.
2. Luke 3:8-9.
3. Susan Cheever, Note Found in a Bottle (New York: Washington Square, 1999), 188.
4. St. Frances de Sales in a letter to Madame de la Flechere, dated May 1608, quoted in “The Little Virtues,” published by The Monastery of the Visitation, St. Louis, MO.
5. 2 Corinthians 4:6; 1 Corinthians 1:27, NASB; 2 Corinthians 4:7, NASB.
6. Luke 23:34, KJV.
7. Gerald May, Addiction and Grace (New York: HarperCollins, 1988), 139.
8. William Silkworth, Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women Have Recovered from Alcoholism, 3rd ed. (New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 1976), 58.
9. Romans 1:23.
10. Rilke is quoted by Margaret Miles, “Pilgrimage as Metaphor in a Nuclear Age,” Theology Today 45:2 (December 1988): 174.
Chapter 6
1. Peter Hiett, “Sex Appeal” (sermon, Lookout Mountain Community Church, Golden, CO, October 4, 2004).
2. Patrick Carnes, Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction (New York: Bantam, 1992), 22.
3. Rev. Michael J. Cusick, MA, LPC, founder/director, Restoring the Soul, Lakewood, Colorado, www.restoringthesoul.com.
4. Jennifer Schneider, MD, PhD, and Robert Weiss, MSW, CAS, Cybersex Exposed (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2001), 24-25.
5. Steve Siler and John Mandeville, “Traitor,” Somebody’s Daughter, copyright © 2005, Nashville, TN: Music for the Soul. Used by permission.
6. Leonard Shengold, MD, Soul Murder: The Effects of Childhood Abuse and Deprivation (New York: Ballantine, 1989), 6.
7. A. A. Milne and Ernest H. Shepard, The Complete Tales of Winnie-the-Pooh (New York: Dutton Juvenile, 2001), 187.
8. 2 Peter 3:8, NIV.
9. Romans 4:17, NKJV.
10. 10. Dana Candler, Deep unto Deep (Kansas City, MO: Forerunner, 2004), 11.
Chapter 7
1. Caroline Knapp, Appetites: Why Women Want (New York: Counterpoint, 2003), 53.
2. Quoted in “The Lean Years,” Elle, March 2007, 425.
3. Caroline Knapp, Drinking: A Love Story (New York: Dial, 1996), 8.
4. Professor Al Andrews, “Psychopathology,” Colorado Christian University, Lakewood, CO, Fall 1996.
5. Wendell Berry, “Song in a Year of Catastrophe,” The Selected Poems of Wendell Berry (Washington DC: Counterpoint, 1998), 76.
6. Joe McQ, The Steps We Took (Little Rock, AR: August House, 1990), 23.
7. Sterling Thomas, Sacred Hearts: Daily Reflections for Divine Renegades (Denver, CO: Quantum Mind, 2000), 61.
8. Margaret Bullitt-Jonas, Holy Hunger: A Woman’s Journey from Food Addiction to Spiritual Fulfillment (New York: Vintage Books, 1998), 241.
9. Quoted by Simon Tugwell, Ways of Imperfection (Springfield, IL: Templegate, 1985), 229.
10. Romans 2:4.
11. Brennan Manning, The Wisdom of Tenderness (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 2002), 8.
12. Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith (New York: Riverhead, 2005), 29.
13. Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way (New York: Tarcher, 2002), 40.
Chapter 8
1. Anthony De Mello, Wellsprings (New York: Doubleday, 1986), 227.
2. Silkworth, Alcoholics Anonymous, xxvii.
3. Kurt Cobain, Journals (New York: Riverhead, 2003), 3.
4. Luke 18:17.
5. Pedro Arrupe, Hearts on Fire: Praying with Jesuits, ed. Michael G. Harter (Chicago: Loyola, 2005), 66.
6. Psalm 42:1, KJV.
7. Ram Dass and Paul Gorman, How Can I Help? Stories on Reflection and Service (New York: Knopf, 1985), 51-54.
8. John 4:24.
9. John 19:28, NIV.
10. See John 1:29 and Revelation 13:8.
11. Acts 17:24-27, Barclay.
Chapter 9
1. Anne Lamott, Joe Jones (New York: Shoemaker and Hoard, 1985), 14-15.
2. Melody Beattie, Playing It by Heart: Taking Care of Yourself No Matter What (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1999), 129-30.
3. Lamott, Joe Jones, 12.
4. Beattie, Playing It by Heart, 18.
5. Beattie, Playing It by Heart, 17.
6. Deuteronomy 34:7-8.
7. Exodus 4:1.
8. Deuteronomy 34:10-11.
9. Frederick Buechner, Telling Secrets (San Francisco: Harper, 1991), 92.
10. Exodus 33:12-13.
11. Lamott, Joe Jones, 55.
12. Exodus 33:18.
13. Exodus 33:1.
14. Told by William Cope Moyers, Broken (New York: Viking, 2006), preface from “The Politics of the Brokenhearted” by Parker J. Palmer.
15. 1 John 4:18, NIV.
16. Peter Van Breemen, Certain as the Dawn (Denville, NJ: Dimension, 1980), 13.
17. Silkworth, Alcoholics Anonymous, 84.
18. Hebrews 11:39-0.
19. Hebrews 12:1-2.
Chapter 10
1. Dan Allender, To Be Told (Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook, 2005), 181.
2. Connecting this film to the gospel and many of the ideas in this chapter come from a sermon by Peter Hiett, “The Deepest Story: Darwinism and the Seventh Day” (sermon, Lookout Mountain Community Church, Golden, CO, February 17, 2007).
3. Proverbs 23:7, KJV.
4. See 1 Kings 3:16-27, KJV
5. 2 Corinthians 8:9, NIV.
6. Colossians 1:15-17, 19-20.
7. Abraham Heschel, Man Is Not Alone: A Philosophy of Religion (New York: Harper and Row, 1951), 47.
8. Luke 15:20, NIV.
9. Matthew 23:37, NIV.
10. Jeremiah 3:1-3, NIV.
11. Hosea 2:14, NIV.
12. Sebastian Moore, The Crucified Jesus Is No Stranger (New York: Seabury, 1977), 49.
13. Hosea 11:8, NIV.
14. Luke 19:10; John 1:1; Romans 5:19; 2 Corinthians 5:21; Ephesians 2:8-9; 4:8.
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15. Robert Bly, Iron John: A Book About Men (New York: Vintage: 1992), 61.
16. Brennan Manning, The Signature of Jesus (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 1988), 214.
17. Peter Hiett, “The Wild Man” (sermon. Lookout Mountain Community Church, Golden, CO, October 20, 2002).
18. Jürgen Moltmann, The Crucified God (London: SCM, 1974), 35.
19. See 1 Timothy 2:4.
20. Brennan Manning, A Stranger to Self-Hatred (Denville, NY: Dimension, 1982), 123.
Chapter 11
1. John 5:6.
2. John 5:7.
3. John 5:8-9.
4. Thornton Wilder, The Angel That Troubled the Waters (New York: Coward-McCann, 1928), 149.
5. Wilder, The Angel That Troubled the Waters, 148.
6. Anne Lamott, Grace (Eventually) (New York: Riverhead, 2007), 22.
7. Yehudit Inbar, interview from “Spots of Light: To Be a Woman in the Holocaust,” Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum, Jerusalem, 2006.
8. 2 Corinthians 4:16, 18.
9. As told by Brennan Manning, The Wisdom of Tenderness (San Francisco: HarperSan Francisco, 2002), 49.
10. 2 Corinthians 5:21, NIV.
11. See Isaiah 53:5.
12. Wilder, The Angel That Troubled the Waters, 149.
13. Kevin O’Shea, The Way of Tenderness (New York: Paulist, 1978), quoted by Brennan Manning, The Wisdom of Tenderness, 33.
14. Julian of Norwich, All Shall Be Well Daily Reading from Julian of Norwich, ed. Sheila Upjohn (Harrisburg, PA: Morehouse, 1992), 142.
15. Anthony De Mello, Awareness (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1997), 118.
16. John 5:10, 12, 18.
17. 1 Corinthians 15:54-57.
18. Hebrews 12:2-3.
19. Used by permission.
20. John 5:24.
Chapter 12
1. Peter Hiett, Eternity Now! (Nashville: Integrity, 2003), 251.
2. John 1:29-31.
3. Hiett, Eternity Now! 247.
4. Romans 6:3.
5. Hiett, Eternity Now! 248.
6. Romans 6:1.
7. Romans 7:24.
8. G. K. Chesterton, Orthodoxy (New York: BiblioBazaar, 2007), 79.
9. Hiett, Eternity Now! 253.
10. Romans 7:21-23.
11. Romans 7:25.
12. John 14:1-3, NIV.
13. See John 14:5-6, NIV.
14. Hiett, Eternity Now! 253.
15. 1 John 3:1.
16. Eusebius to Emperor Valens, fourth century, quoted in Peter Hiett, “Are We There Yet?” (sermon, Lookout Mountain Community Church, Golden, CO, April 28, 2007).
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I am profoundly grateful to …
My daughter, Kristin—your resilience and grace continue to reshape your own brokenness and the brokenness of others.
My son, Graham—your questions remind me that real faith asks, confronts, seeks, and doubts.
My parents—your courage to begin again, believe again, and try again teaches me to hope.
My friends—Clint and Jen, Joan, Mark, Judy N., Judy B., Sheri, Jenna, John, Lis and Perry. Your gentle presence in my life during the past year has been a treasured gift.
David, my wonderful counselor—your presence in my life has made His Presence more real.
Aram Haroutunian—your shepherd’s heart has found me on more than one occasion.
Peter Hiett, my pastor—your courage and passion to proclaim the radical Love of God relentlessly leads me back to the story that is deeper, higher, and wider than any human story.
Dan Allender, my first teacher about addiction—your own brokenness is more beautiful than all of your brilliance.
Dudley Delffs for believing and championing this project.
Phyllis Klein, my editor, for refining ideas and raising necessary questions.
All at Waterbrook Press for allowing me to tell the stories of addicts and those who love them as well as The Story of the One who loves them most.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sharon Hersh is a licensed professional counselor and the director of Women’s Recovery & Renewal, a ministry of counseling, retreat, and support services for struggling women. She is an adjunct professor in Addictions Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary, Mars Hills Graduate School, and Colorado Christian University. She is the author of several books, including Bravehearts, “Mom, I Feel Fat!” “Mom, I Hate My Life!” and “Mom, Sex Is No Big Deal!” She is a sought-after speaker for conferences and retreats. Sharon lives with her family in Lone Tree, Colorado.
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1. Compulsive behavior—Religious aspects—Christianity. 2. Addicts—Religious life. 3. Substance abuse— Religious aspects—Christianity. 4. Redemption—Christianity. 5. Love—Religious aspects—Christianity.
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