WORKING STIFF
THE MISADVENTURES OF AN ACCIDENTAL SEXPERT
Grant Stoddard
DEDICATION
FOR NEW YORK CITY
EPIGRAPH
The true New Yorker secretly believes that people
living anywhere else have to be,
in some sense, kidding.
—JOHN UPDIKE
CONTENTS
DEDICATION
EPIGRAPH
PROLOGUE
4089
AMERICAN GIRL
THE TIME DIFFERENCE
HOMELAND INSECURITIES
HASIDS AND HAYSEEDS
LIVE FREE OR DIE
SLEEPING MY WAY TO THE MIDDLE
BABY STEPS
TWO DAYS IN THE VALLEY
FREE FOOD
NERVE ENDINGS
CHINATOWN
ALL THE WAY AND BACK AGAIN
BRIDGE OVER TROUBLED WATERS
HATE MAIL
FISH AND CHIPS ON MY SHOULDER
THE LONG FRENCH KISS GOOD-BYE
THE TALENT
THE RANCH
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
P.S. INSIGHTS, INTERVIEWS & MORE…
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
PRAISE
CREDITS
COPYRIGHT
ABOUT THE PUBLISHER
PROLOGUE
I HELD IT IN my hands. Once detached from my body, my genitalia seemed much more impressive. Bouncing it in my left palm and then in my right, I reckoned its weight and volume. I held it closer to my face, closer than hours of stretching, straining, and forcefully curving my spine had ever gotten me before.
“It’s perfect,” I kept saying to myself in between gulps of supermarket merlot.
With some hesitation I put it to my lips. I immediately grew fearful that Tom Wheeler or one of the cowboys from the ranch would drop by at any moment, and that it’s secretly observed private moments like this that give us city folk a bad name in these parts.
“Magnificent!” I concluded as my lengthy inspection continued. I opened another bottle.
I would have been a lot happier about the respectable amount of water my disembodied penis could displace when dunked in a pint glass, or the number of papers it could anchor on a breezy terrace, if I wasn’t financially bound and contractually obligated to insert it into my bottom.
Given its ultimate destination, I took solace in the fact that I hadn’t immortalized the organ at its absolute largest. This was by circumstance rather than design; maintaining a thumping erection whilst balls-deep in two pints of tepid plaster of Paris for 120 long seconds had proved a task I wasn’t equal to, what with my mania, cabin fever, debilitating homesickness, and recent anxiety attacks.
I poured a glass of wine and felt the dip in temperature in the sprawling house. The fire was beginning to die out. There was more cut firewood under the house, but since my next-door neighbor’s horse was viciously torn apart by a mountain lion, I was dreading to go rooting around down there after dark. I had self-diagnosed the episodes I’d been having over the past few weeks as anxiety attacks and hoped that I’d seen the last of them. Holing up in a ranch house in the Sierra Nevadas for three months seemed like a fantastic opportunity to get some writing done, but it soon transpired that I really wasn’t at all up to the challenge. The weeks of isolation, the paranormal goings-on, the burning to death of a ranch hand, the packs of nocturnal terrors that patrolled the area around the house, and the cessation of my livelihood—the gonzo sex column I wrote for the sex Web site Nerve.com—had all suddenly come to bare and sent me stark raving mad and so very far from home.
Holding an accurate facsimile of my own member in my hands, it’s hard to believe how little action the thing actually saw over the course of its first twenty-four years. Since then, of course, it’s played a starring role in some of my greatest adventures. I imagined that a cross-section of it would reveal a series of concentric rings, just as one could reckon the harsh winters and long summers from a felled English oak. Each ring of the member might similarly speak of its own history: the lengthy humiliating dry spells, the blissful monogamous periods, an orgy, a week spent at a BDSM retreat, and, of course, Lisa.
What’s really remarkable about the thing is how little wear it seems to have shown for all the miles I’ve put on it in the name of a half-decent salary and comprehensive health insurance.
“It looks good,” said Jamye. “Are you ready to do this?”
“Not yet. In a few minutes,” I said.
Jamye had arrived from San Francisco the evening before. I had been counting the days to her arrival since she decided to drive out and keep me company for a while. She’s a great friend; I know her from my adopted home, the East Village. Aside from the previous day’s grocery run to the comparative metropolis of Oakhurst, I hadn’t seen another human being in the week before she arrived. The house’s position on the brow of a hill, looking into a steep valley, meant that I could see the headlights of her rental car for the twenty minutes it took her to wind her way around the hill to its apex. I almost hugged her to death when she pulled up to the house.
I’d told Jamye about my latest and ultimate Nerve assignment over the phone and she’d said she’d be more than happy to assist me when she arrived. She’s a sex educator and virtually unflappable. After she dropped her bags she mixed the plaster for the mold. We left the plaster cast to dry overnight.
The inherent symbolism of the situation was certainly not lost on me. My leaving Nerve was tinged with acrimony, sour grapes, and bleatings of betrayal and disloyalty. Rufus Griscom, Nerve’s CEO, had remained civil, nay friendly, toward me, even as his lawyers threatened legal proceedings that would no doubt scupper my eponymous TV pilot. It was his deeds rather than his words that yelled “go fuck yourself.” How I allowed it to become a literal instruction, I’m not sure.
“Will you hug me afterward?” I asked.
“Of course! I’ll be very gentle. Promise,” said Jamye.
She disappeared into the bedroom and reemerged wearing a dildo harness over her pajamas, which were covered in little cartoon penguins.
I tossed the last remaining log and some newspaper on the fire to warm up the room a little, took off my bathrobe, and got on all fours on the shaggy rug.
“It’s going to feel strange at first, but it gets better,” said Jamye. “I promise.”
She took the mold of my penis from the mantel and inserted it through the silver ring in her strap-on harness and ran her hand up and down it, as if she were masturbating. My friend Jamye was sporting my cock. It was strange, but I’d somehow allowed myself to become quite numb to it all. It was work. People talk about becoming their jobs, and for better or worse I’d sort of become mine.
My appointment to the position of Nerve’s resident sexual guinea pig was based on my willingness to try things that most people, especially those with legitimate literary aspirations, wouldn’t deign to. When, after a few installments, the column became very popular, my desk became a depository for all kinds of sexual toys that companies had sent us to promote vis-à-vis me sticking them up my bum and writing about them. If I didn’t intercept mail containing the penis-stretching system, topical arousal cream, or the scrotal augmentation starter kit from a company called Monster Nuts, chances were I’d be spending my weekend test-driving them. It wasn’t until I was writing about the intricate workings of my nether regions that I had to devise a way of dealing with the thought of friends and family back home in our dreary little English commuter town reading it.
What would they think? Who was I kidding? I doubt they even remembered me. But what if they did? Would I be publicly shamed if and when they saw me again? And what’s more shameful, commuting over three hours a day to be a mortg
age broker in the city, only to flop into the doughy arms of a local girl each night for curry and telly, getting legless on the weekends at a franchise theme pub or…this?
I’ll come back to that.
Being in another country, in an alien job, and surrounded by “sex-positive” Ivy League grads who sang my praises and commended my bravery made it easier, but the fact remained that I didn’t even want to think about my own prostate gland, and precisely why I was professing its awesomeness to an international audience of countless strangers was completely beyond explanation.
Jamye rolled a condom over the prosthetic, squirted some lube onto the end of it, then very tenderly applied a squirt to my bum and gently rubbed it in.
“Okay?” she asked.
She placed her hands on my waist.
“Wait!” I said and downed the remaining merlot.
“Okay,” I said, acutely aware that I was at the end of something big.
4089
WHEN I MET HER, Beatrix Cecilia Montague was somewhere between seventy-five and eighty-five years old. She was born in colonial India and attended a posh girls’ finishing school in Harrogate, Yorkshire. Her hobbies included bridge, golf, and tennis—her mother was the all-India women’s tennis champion. She made sure she never missed an episode of EastEnders, Neighbours, or Coronation Street, owned a beige fifteen-year-old Ford Fiesta and a cockatoo named Dippy. She smoked a pack and a half of Lambert and Butler cigarettes per day, washed and reused the half dozen pieces of cling wrap she owned, and seldom arose before eleven. She delivered a right-wing newsletter throughout the neighborhood regardless of inclement weather. Her hair was salt white and pepper gray save for a pompadour, stained the color of egg yolk from cigarette smoke. Her entire wardrobe was polyester and sported all sorts of unclassifiable stains. On any given day she could smell of faintly spicy sweat, pet stores, or musty cupboards. She didn’t flinch when using racist, empirical terms like “golliwog” and “pickaninny.” Beatrix Cecilia Montague was my college roommate.
Mrs. Montague—I never once addressed her as anything else in three years of living with her, so I won’t here either—was above all else a woman of principle. She wasn’t in the business of taking advantage of anybody and was vigilant in ensuring that she wasn’t being taken advantage of herself. This is what I knew about Mrs. Montague prior to meeting her: in her inconveniently located ground-floor flat in leafy Hanwell, W7, she had a spare room that she rented to students for twenty-five pounds per week. She had one pet, a cockatoo, she was a smoker, and she would not be providing meals.
“Twenty-five quid?” said Sandra, my mum’s best and brassiest friend, when I told her about my bargain over a meal from Mandarin Court, an establishment known locally as “the chinky.” “Blimey, that’s cheap, innit? A cockatoo? Are you sure it doesn’t say she’s looking for a cock or two?”
Getting a cheap place with no lease was of the utmost importance to me. Here’s why: I was not exactly college material. A precocious five-year-old, I had peaked early intellectually. Since then I’d become bone idle and had developed a socially debilitating love of heavy metal and had a D+ average. Undeterred, my dad threatened severe economic sanctions unless I at least tried to get into a school.
In the United Kingdom, where until recently education was entirely paid for by the taxpayer, all university places are provisional until the publication of A-level results in the second week of August. A-levels are the equivalent of SATs. Let’s suppose your first choice of school was Oxford but you didn’t get the grades required there. You would have to opt for another one of the schools you were provisionally accepted to who would admit you based on your A-level results. Schools are required to keep these provisional places open until the results are published. This means that after publication a lot of university places suddenly become available and there is a mad scramble to fill them. (On the day the results are published, broadsheet newspapers include supplements made up purely of ads from different schools to entice those still without a place to secure one over the phone!) Places at better schools are snapped up instantly by the most qualified, but the trickle-down effect means that a lot of the shittier universities are practically dragging people in off the street regardless of their academic aptitude. That’s how I got in.
Upon getting a place at Thames Valley University my plan was to leave Thames Valley University. I felt by the age of eighteen there was barely any room left in my brain to learn any new stuff—even “Media Studies”—but I also knew that my attending university, even for a semester, would make my father a happy man. Nobody in our family had gone to college and it was my father’s ambition that I should be the first to go, in spite of me expressing absolutely no interest in furthering my education or even having the grades to get into anything but the most piss-poor of institutions. In our town, going to university was far from expected from a child, and I felt it unfair that I was being randomly singled out to attend. In my graduating class, I would say less than one in twenty kids went on to university, or “uni,” as it’s known.
All I really wanted to do was play in what I now realize was a dreadful rock band. My plan was a tightrope act: I had to teach my parents a lesson about not overestimating their children, but I knew that if I made that lesson an expensive one, I’d never be able to forget it. That’s why when I saw Mrs. Montague’s ad in TVU’s Accommodations Office, I knew I had found the perfect housemate. TVU had no student housing but instead provided listings of whole houses to rent with other students or rooms to rent within a family home or private residence. In either situation, it was unheard of to pay less than fifty quid a week.
Before my mother and I took a train to London to meet her and see the available bargain room, I hoped that Mrs. Montague was a sexy divorcée, or better yet, an independently wealthy widow in her early forties, yearning for the company of an eager house boy as per the ad’s insinuation. The way I saw it, what a sultry Mrs. Montague could teach me in the bedroom would ultimately have a more practical application than anything I’d glean from a patchily attended semester of Media Studies classes at Britain’s worst university. The school’s only real claim to fame is that it used to be Ealing College of Art and was attended by rock heroes like Queen’s Freddie Mercury, The Who’s Pete Townsend, and Ron Wood from the Rolling Stones. With such a rock-and-roll precedent, I idly hoped that, if nothing else, a bit of uni might bolster my chances of rock stardom.
After a week spent convincing myself that I’d be spending the autumn at the mercy of a nymphomaniacal Anne Bancroft type, my mother and I pulled up to Golden Court, the grand name given to what looked like a run-down assisted living home. Mrs. Montague opened the door to her dusty little flat. To my utter horror she had about forty years on the Mrs. Robinson character from my sordid imagination.
She ran a wrinkly hand through her thick wild hair and peered at us both from behind her bifocals.
“Hello, you must be Grant,” she said with a dark brown voice and a throat that begged in vain to be cleared. “And you must be Grant’s mother. Won’t you both come in?”
She turned on her heel and we followed her down a narrow hallway. My mother was trying hard not to make eye contact with me. She was finding a lot of amusement in the thought of me shacking up with the old buzzard and was very close to succumbing to a fit of the giggles.
Mrs. Montague showed us in to one of her two living rooms and introduced us to Dippy, who was emitting cranium-splitting squawks at the rate of about two per second. The late-afternoon sun picked up the thick dust that filled the room and gave everything a tangerine aura.
“The bird came from my grandchildren. A gift if you please. Heaven knows what they were thinking.”
She turned on her heel to fetch tea and biscuits, both allowing my mother to expel some of the laughter that was threatening to shake her apart and treating us to another rear view of her trademark quick march. I’d never seen a senior citizen walk with so much haste and conviction. Long, quick strides, each
foot planted down as if stomping an injured field mouse out of its misery.
“Ain’t she posh?” said my mum, and she struggled to regain her composure.
In fact Mrs. Montague was just about the poshest person I had ever met, and in the truest and most literal sense of the word. (Posh is an acronym for Portside Out, Starboard Home, the preferred cabin allocation for the upper classes as they traveled by boat to the far reaches of the British Empire, so as not to subject their faces to any more sunshine than absolutely necessary.) The various knickknacks from Africa and India around the room suggested a colonial past, the dust and tatty furniture suggested a chaotic one. She hurriedly returned with some tea in chipped pastel-colored mugs and an assortment of biscuits arranged on a glass plate.
“Well, you must tell me about your journey.”
When you are raised in the borough of Thurrock in Essex, London is often referred to as “town,” and a visit to the capital might be signified by saying that you are simply going “up the road.” The insinuation of geographical proximity to the nation’s mighty capital is of course borne out of the indignity of residing in one of the UK’s cultural blind spots. Conversely, to Londoners, Essex is a far distant and unfortunate place. The way Mrs. Montague oohed and aahed through my mother’s recounting of the ninety-minute trip, you’d think we’d trekked in from the Congo.
Growing up, I felt incredibly intimidated by and ill at ease in London. All of my family had lived there at one time or another but had all moved east long ago. As a child I would accompany my mother on day trips to Covent Garden, Kensington High Street, and Knightsbridge. I vividly remember the filth, the overtly sexual atmosphere, the punks, seeing the black, the brown, and the Irish for the first time and being frightened and confused by the maelstrom of stimuli. I felt an immense relief when it was time to get back on the train and go home.
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