Erotic fantasies
Brilliant ideas for raunchy role play
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The tips for revving up your sex life contained in this book are all tried and tested winners. We hope you (and your partner) have a great time and enjoy developing your fantasy life, but please do think before you act. We can’t be held responsible for any arguments or other fallout resulting from using the tips in this book. Please make sure that your partner is happy with any plans before you go ahead, start gently if you’re not sure, and remember that sex in public places is illegal. Have fun and play safe.
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Brilliant ideas
Introduction
1. Dirty dancing
Dancing is described as the vertical expression of a horizontal desire. And we automatically assume that a good dancer is a good lover.
2. The five sexiest surprises
Here are five sizzling surprises to spring on your man. Don’t try them all at once!
3. Five more sexy surprises
If you’ve already run out of ideas then here are five more to get his imagination working overtime.
4. Get out of bed
The chaise longue—what a piece of kit. It immediately conjures up images of raunchy 17th century sex. Take a look at the film Dangerous Liasons if you don’t know what we’re talking about.
5. Three movie fantasies to recreate
Movies are great fantasy inspiration—this scenario is already set up for you and you get to emulate the sexiest people in the world.
6. Sex on the brain
For a lot of people, especially women, sex is as much in the mind as in the more obvious erogenous zones.
7. Spice up your life
Time to reinvigorate yourself with something completely different.
8. Tie me up, tie me down 1
The first time someone ties you up is a revelation. You are no longer in control and with that comes a feeling of total abandonment.
9. The cinq à sept
Take the wildness of an affair and translate it to your present relationship.
10. Sex in strange places 1
What was the strangest place you had sex? How was it? Exciting, weird, scary?
11. All in the mind
Any sexual thought is sexual fantasy. And any sort of sexual thought gets the job done.
12. Paying for it 1
Slut sex can be a massive turn-on for both of you.
13. Paying for it 2
Here’s one for those of you who like your slut sex a little more glamorous.
14. Paying for it 3
If you really want to make a performance out of your role play then this idea should inspire you.
15. Surprise for him!
Isn’t it time you got in touch with your creative side?
16. Surprise for her!
Some of your surprises will be easy to organise. Some will take more planning.
17. Two clichéd (and-that’s-because-they-work) fantasy role plays
Before you know it, you’ll be down the local fancy-dress shop for your Robin Hood or nun’s outfit.
18. Another clichéd (and brilliant) fantasy role play
Pick a night to play out your fantasy, although sometimes it’s best just to go for it spontaneously as it helps you to feel less self-conscious
19. Even more clichéd (and brilliant) fantasy role plays
Acting out fantasies takes a bit of practice, but can certainly brighten up a boring Saturday night.
20. Pain games
In forgoing all control, there’s a whole heap of freedom.
21. Power games
For the dominant partner—what’s not to love? They get to do exactly what they want, exactly the way they like it.
22. Danger (soft core)
Danger is the fastest-acting aphrodisiac.
23. Danger (hard core)
Danger makes life seem more intense and heightens sexual desire along with everything else.
24. Dirty little secrets 1
The plan here is to create the sex equivalent of the perfect holiday.
25. Wait. We said wait! (For her)
Delay orgasm and you’ll know the true meaning of ‘climb every mountain’.
26. Wait. We said wait! (For him)
How to have more, longer and better orgasms.
27. Give yourself a real eye-opener
Explore voyeurism and exhibitionism and bring a completely new verboten edge to your sex life.
28. Another real eye-opener
Here’s another fantasy role play based on exhibitionism and voyeurism.
29. Try another eye-opening fantasy
Welcome to our live bed show…
30. Top fantasy destination
You don’t necessarily need to leave the house to find great new sexual locations.
31. Two more favourite fantasy destinations
If you enjoyed ‘working late at the office’, try these.
32. Shivering with anticipation (for her)
Here’s how to charge yourself up into an erotic good mood.
33. Mind games
Building up an elaborate fantasy life is fun, creative and free, plus you get to know more about the hidden depths of each other’s psyche!
34. Porn star protocol 1
Porn star Stormy Daniels gives us the low-down on her job, her love life and her top sex tips.
35. Porn star protocol 2
More porn star tips from Stormy Daniels.
36. Indecent proposal
Women think about sex at least four and a half times a day. The trick is to hold on to some of these fleeting images so you can make use of them.
37. Beyond the beyond
The road to excess leads to the palace of wisdom. Tips for the sexually adventurous (not for the faint-hearted).
38. DIY porn 1
You need a lot of trust to photograph/video each other nude doing rude things, but it can build intimacy, spice up your love life and give you a few visual tips.
39. DIY porn 2
If you want to immortalise each other together, lay down some ground rules first.
40. Sex as sport (for her)
These days casual sex is an exciting alternative to traditional relationships. It can be an emotional minefield, though, so here’s how to have the spark without getting burned.
41. The pleasure of pain
Images of kink are everywhere. Most of the time they are used to shock in advertising, but experimenting along the edges of your ‘shadow selves’ can lead to mind-opening experiences.
42. More pleasure of pain
Adding a little pain to the proceedings is stimulating for some because it releases endorphins—the same feel-good chemicals we get when we exercise.
43. Sex in strange places 2
Don’t forget that if you want incredible sex you need to keep that edge. Dare to be different.
44. Sex in water (solo)
There’s nothing quite like a bit of splashing and thrashing around in water, especially if it’s combined with a bit of aqua erotica!
45. Sex in water (together)
Water is the most essential element of life, so it’s not surprising we feel revitalised when we’re splashing around in it.
46. Play some games
Remember the gold-covered women in Goldfinger? Here’s how to paint and play with each other to your heart’s content. It’s silly but it works wonders.
47. Get decorating!
If you’re not that fussed about new underwear or sex toys, why not try some liquid latex?
48. Tie me up, tie me down 2
Create your own bondage chair by tying your partner firmly to a straight backed chair with arms and blindfolding him or her.
49. Another clichéd (and brilliant) fantasy role play
Bored with naughty nurses, had enough of being disciplined by teacher? Try this one then.
50. Two final favourite fantasy destinations
A fantasy destination will get your creative juices flowing and some others besides.
51. Dirty little secrets 2
Try wearing each other’s underwear to work.
52. What you see
Actively look for images that turn you on and use them in fantasy and lovemaking.
‘I have too many
fantasies to be a
housewife. I guess
I am a fantasy.’
MARILYN MONROE
Introduction
Somebody once said that sexual fantasy was the ‘thinking man’s television’, and they weren’t kidding. Hours of entertainment and you don’t even have to leave your sofa to enjoy it. If you get up off your butt and take your fantasies into the bedroom, they’ll give you explosive orgasms too. What goes on in your mind is as important as what’s going on around your genitals. However, just like talking dirty, it has to be your own ‘script’. Many people read the lists of top male fantasies or top female fantasies (usually both headed by lesbian sex) and don’t believe it. If you’re a woman who thinks about two girls getting stuck in and this drives you over the edge, terrific. But if it doesn’t, you shouldn’t give up finding out what does. Men tend to have more access to porn, and that hotwires their fantasies and preferences pretty early on. Women don’t usually have this advantage. But bear with us. Even if sexual fantasy isn’t a big part of your life right now, it’s a habit well worth getting into. Sexual fantasy increases your libido. The more you think about sex, the more you want it. Plus, just a glimmer of the thought of your fantasy during sex will increase your pleasure a hundred-fold and if you’re a woman it’ll make orgasm faster (if you’re a bloke, more enjoyable).
Your fantasy can be filled with people you know really well or people you glimpsed on a bus twenty years ago, and again they can be idealised versions—more exciting, demanding, inventive. Think in detail. Tell yourself these stories while masturbating. Imagine hands grasping, tongues licking, words being whispered. (You don’t need the whole story when you’re having sex, just a flash of detailed scene.) It takes practice—you’ll enjoy it!
Once you’ve discovered fantasyland, up the dirtiness quotient. The true power of fantasy lies in forbidden thoughts, so try thinking of some real extremes. Remember, this has nothing to do with who you are in real life.
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Dirty dancing
Dancing is described as the vertical expression of a horizontal desire. And we automatically assume that a good dancer is a good lover.
There is nothing quite as sexy as someone who dances well so why not build some sexy moves into your fantasy. Here’s how to turn striptease fantasy into reality and become a lap dancer—in the privacy of your own home. It’s easy to learn how. Have a search for online tips or rent movies featuring stripping such as Striptease and Showgirls. It’s fairly straightforward though: just dance seductively wearing very little while your partner/audience stuffs cash into your g-string; sexy, fun and profitable. Some exercise classes now use pole dancing as a way to fitness. Check out ‘Polestars’ for a course near you; they have a great website (www.polestars.net).
So how do you become a sexy dancer? It has a lot to do with rhythm. And relaxing. Here are a few basic dos and don’ts:
Relax; let the rhythm flow over you, there is nothing worse than a tense dancer.
Don’t do too much—it’s not about how much you move, but how you move.
Be aware; look around you, not at the floor.
There are lots of internet sites offering to teach people to dance, so you don’t even have to leave your own home as you struggle through the first stages. Or for a more exotic scenario you could head for a belly dancing course (also available online) and wow your partner with your technique.
‘Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.’
DR SEUSS
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The five sexiest surprises
Here are five sizzling surprises to spring on your man. Don’t try them all at once!
After a sedate dinner (once the kids have gone to bed) tell your partner that pudding is on you. Literally. Get the ice cream and spread it all over.
Go to dinner at your in-laws wearing no underwear. But be sure to let him know you’re not wearing any just as you get out of the car. He can mull over the fact all through dinner and ravish you on your way home.
Rent a porn movie. Nothing too drastic. We’re not talking hairy men shagging horses. Watch it together with a bottle of champagne.
Go to bed in suspenders and stockings on what is otherwise a normal weekday. Obviously you need to make sure he sees them! So saunter oh-so-casually past him to get a glass of water or turn on the alarm clock.
Treat him to a surprise day in a spa (really). Enjoy all the facilities on offer; the sauna, Jacuzzi and pool. Just focus on yourselves and your bodies for 24 hours; what could be better than that? Once back in your room, try out some of the massage techniques you’ve experienced on each other.
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Five more sexy surprises
If you’ve already run out of ideas then here are five more to get his imagination working overtime.
Pounce! This will obviously only work if you’re alone in the house. Pick your moment and pounce on your partner. The unexpected approach will be a huge turn on. Just make sure it’s somewhere less obvious than the bedroom. Go for the bathroom, or the kitchen table. Remember that scene in The Postman Always Rings Twice—Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange covered in flour and consumed with passion.
Sex slaves—promise to be his or her sex slave for the next two hours.
Promise him five blow jobs whenever he wants them. The generosity of this gift will touch any man. And amaze most of them. Men’s most common complaint about their sex life is that they never get blow jobs from their partners.
Check out a new position on the internet or in a book and try it out on him or her.
Invite him to go to a sex shop with you. You don’t need to buy the double headed black mamba for heaven’s sake. In fact some sex shops now (Ann Summers for example) are perfectly respectable places to be seen in. And you never know what you might find.
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Get out of bed<
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The chaise longue—what a piece of kit. It immediately conjures up images of raunchy 17th century sex. Take a look at the film Dangerous Liaisons if you don’t know what we’re talking about.
Sex on a bed is all very well, but don’t ignore the potential of other pieces of furniture for creating a sexy mood and acting as great props in your fantasies. So if you want to spice things up think about how to use your home to its best potential.
Explore every room in your home for new sexy possibilities and think how a simple prop may transform a room into a sex den. Invest in a sheepskin rug for in front of your fire and suddenly you’re transported to your own romantic log cabin. A dozen candles to light your bathroom will turn it into a sensual spa. The possibilities are endless.
Don’t act like you’ve been planning it all day. Just grab the moment and don’t think too deeply about it. Pounce on your partner in the bathroom for example and take things from there. Or tell him or her you’ve been thinking about having sex on a particular chair all day (in fact chairs are great, he sits, she straddles—think about Christine Keeler and how good she looked in that picture). All you need to do is use your imagination. Think laterally.
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