Copyright © 2015 by Melissa Cistaro
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Cistaro, Melissa.
Pieces of my mother : a memoir / Melissa Cistaro.
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(hard cover : alkaline paper) 1. Cistaro, Melissa. 2. Cistaro, Melissa—Childhood and youth. 3. Cistaro, Melissa—Family. 4. Mothers and daughters—United States. 5. Abandoned children—United States—Biography. 6. Absentee mothers—United States—Biography. 7. Mothers—United States—Death. 8. Mothers—United States—Correspondence. 9. Olympia (Wash.)—Biography. I. Title.
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contents
Front Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Author’s Note
Then: A House Underwater
Now: A House in Los Angeles
Now: Christmas Day
Then: Fire and Sugar
Now: Arriving in Olympia
Then: One at a Time
Now: Brown Speckled Hen
Then: Big Yellow House
Now: Cherished
Then: Merry to Melissa
Then: All Kinds of Flowers
Now: Mementos
Then: Prized Possessions
Now: Between Paper and Pen
Then: Terry, Our Ninth Live-In
Now: Into the Wild, Blue Yonder
Now: Transparent
Then: All Things Red
Now: Faithful
Now: Thirst
Then: Just Off Center Road
Now: Naked
Now: Tethered
Then: Warmth
Now: Inside Out
Then: The Last Litter
Now: Ashes, Ashes
Now: Some Kind of Trust
Then: Rabbit-Rabbit
Now: Strike Three
Then: Getting to California
Then: Running on Empty
Now: Real Soon, Sugar
Now: Bleeding
Then: Pee-chees
Now: Four-By-Four Photograph
Now: Permanent Ink
Then: Gone
Now: Ache
Then: First Dance
Now: A Handful of Butterflies
Then: Pennies on the Dashboard
Then: The Devil Under Jamie’s Bed
Now: Mind and Heart
Then: African Tomatoes
Then: Strip-Searched
Now: Monsters
Then: Brick Fight
Now: Oh, Bean
Then: Lola Asks
Then: Hands
Then: The Good Girl
Now: Solitude
Then: Clear Lake
Now: Darkness
Then: The Cost of a Blue Chair
Now: A Thousand Places at Once
Now: A Few Small Repairs
Now: Leaving Olympia
Epilogue
A Conversation with the Author
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Back Cover
For my family—past and present
author’s note
This story is a work of nonfiction and is drawn from memory, letters, early recollections of my childhood, and family lore. Some names and time sequences have been changed. The letters of my mother are written verbatim and at times condensed. Undoubtedly, there are things I’ve remembered differently than others, but this is the only version I know. This is my attempt to put the pieces back together.
THEN
a house underwater
Bun-Bun notices my mom outside before I do. He tells me about it. We watch her walk toward her car. She’s wearing her summer dress that is the color of ripe avocados. Her brown purse, slung over her shoulder, is as fat as the raccoon that crawls into our garbage cans late at night, and she has an armful of clothes hooked into her elbow. Her favorite coat drops onto the pavement. It doesn’t look like a coat the way it crumples up on the ground.
I know that coat so well, every bit of tan, brown, yellow, and red—every small wooden button. So many times I have traced the curling patterns and small rows of dots with my fingertip, and my mom always reminds me that the pattern is called “paisley.” She turns around, picks up her favorite paisley coat, and tosses it on top of the pile of clothes she’s already put in the backseat of her blue car, then slams the car door shut.
As she turns around to look back at the house, I have Bun-Bun do a little wave and a dance as I duck below the window in my room. She’ll think Bun-Bun has really come to life. His tan head and floppy ears are made of real rabbit fur that only recently began to shed around his green eyes and on the tips of his ears. I know how to make him look like he’s hopping through a field. I lift my eyes just above the ledge. My mom is standing next to the car looking down at her feet.
I am supposed to be taking a nap, but it’s too hot and I don’t like to sleep. During nap time my whole room comes to life and anything can happen. Stuffed animals talk to each other, fairies fly out of the wall sockets, and plastic horses gallop across the hardwood floor. My brother told me that when I’m five like him, I won’t have to stay in my room during nap time.
For days now the air has been like fire, so hot that it ripples above the concrete and makes things outside look like they are underwater. It is the kind of heat that has made our next-door neighbor’s dogs hide underneath our house where it’s cool and dusty. Mr. Bird, who owns the dogs, came over and told us this just yesterday.
“Dogs know what to do with themselves when California heats up like this, but not people,” he said. “It’s the kind of heat that could cause some folks to snap.” And when he said that word, “snap,” he took the toothpick out of his teeth and broke it in two. Then he laughed like he thought he was clever. Later, I saw his broken toothpick on our porch and kicked it into the dead grass where it got lost in all the yellow.
I open my bedroom door and peer into the living room. My brother Eden is asleep on the couch with a box of Lucky Charms wedged underneath his arm. The TV is on and I watch for a moment as Underdog flies across the gray screen, and I remember that my brother Jamie isn’t here. He’s almost six and the oldest. He left the house earlier to go swimming in his friend Bobby Winston’s pool. My mom was mad when Mrs. Winston showed up early to grab Jamie for swimming. She told Mrs. Winston that she only had two cigarettes left and didn’t want to go out to the store in the heat.
When Mom is out of cigarettes, she counts on Jamie to be here with Eden and me so she can run down to the corner market. If she has to wait too long to get them, the house begins to swell with noise—the clap of cupboards opening and closing, the crack of the ice-cube tray slamming against the counter, and her voice rising over ours like a mockingbird.
I wish that Mrs. Winston had offered to lend her some cigarettes or get her some, but she didn’t. She just pointed to her hairdo, which she called a “beehive,” and said, “This darn heat is just killing me and my hair too.”
After Mrs. Winston left, my mom said she thought that hairstyle looked “goddamn ridiculous.” I picked up the box of cigarettes lying on the table and carried it to my mom. She tapped the last two out of the package. Then we sat side by side on the plaid couch as she smoked each of them. Out of her red shiny lips came rings of smoke like little white doughnuts floating through the air. I reached up and stuck my finger through the center of one. She pulled my arm away and whispered, “No, just watch.”
She said she liked it when the rings began to lose their shape and stretch out. She said they were beautiful the way they disappeared. I didn’t like it when they went away. I preferred it when they first came out of her red lips and looked like powdered doughnuts.
“Make more,” I said. And she did, like magic, over and over.
With my brother Eden asleep and Underdog ducking back into a telephone booth, I sneak past them and into the kitchen where our old fan is clunking around in circles, but no cool air is coming out. On the counter there is a pitcher of sticky orange Kool-Aid with three black flies floating on the surface. The sight of the soggy flies makes me uneasy, and in an instant, the heat feels like it will swallow me. I want my dad to come home from work.
I race back to the window in my room to see if my mom is coming back in. She is standing in the same place. I want to tell her that it is too hot out there for her, that she could melt. But she’s stuck out there, it seems, and I’m stuck in here.
I need her to come back in the house. I need her to tell me that nap time is over and that tonight we will go to Fosters Freeze where the ice cream races out of a noisy machine and into perfect swirls of vanilla and chocolate.
Instead, she opens the car door and gets in. I lay my hand against my bedroom window. The glass is warm and it feels like I can almost reach her.
I know this is not a trip to get cigarettes.
I want to yell out to her: “Please don’t leave…” I am trying to say it. But nothing comes out. I just watch her without blinking once. Bun-Bun and I both have stupid plastic eyes and sewed-on mouths. Inside of us there is nothing but sawdust.
Then I see her mouth break open wide like a fish gasping for air. She is crying inside her car. The air wobbles above the concrete. Everything is underwater. It crosses my mind that I could swim to her if I knew how. Jamie does; he would swim to her if he were here.
I press my forehead against the glass and swallow every word I know. Underwater, everything is quiet and full of ripples. My mom is a mermaid as she swims away from me, her thick hair waving like strands of long seaweed. I don’t hear the sound of the car engine starting up, but I watch as my mom backs up and drives away in her baby-blue Dodge Dart.
• • •
Jamie says he was bad and that’s why Mom left. Eden cries the most and spends extra time in the backyard looking for gypsy moths and black crickets to kill. I collect small boxes from around the house—empty Band-Aid tins, Lipton Tea containers, and Lucky Strike matchboxes. They are tiny suitcases that I can hide things in. Anything I want: buttons, bad thoughts, daisy petals, and even the shiny sequins that fall off my Christmas stocking. I put these small boxes just beneath my windowsill, all lined up and in order, and keep them there so that I can show them to my mom when she comes back.
Our dad tells us she’s taking “a break” from us for a while but he doesn’t like to talk about it. Jamie says maybe we will see her when the weather cools down. Or maybe she will come if one of us has a birthday. I keep hoping it is all a mistake. When I hear laughing late at night outside our house, I stay awake in case it is her coming back. And sometimes I hear the radio next door shouting out songs she would sing along to. I can feel her swaying me in her arms and singing “Good-bye, Ruby Tuesday.” I am waiting for her to come bolting through the front door and never stop hugging us again.
A sitter, who is not our mom, comes to live at our house so our dad can go back to work. And when that sitter gets tired of us, a new one arrives. Everyone says I am too young to remember what’s happened and that children my age simply don’t remember the details. I can’t blame them for saying that. But I am as quiet as a cat, watching everyone and everything.
NOW
a house in los angeles
2003
My sandals clap across the hardwood floor and into the blue room where my children sleep. There are school art projects that dangle from clothespins, Legos in every color, stuffed animals of every breed, and shelves full of books. A small night-light flickers in the corner of the room. My seven-year-old son is already asleep on the top bunk. My little girl has called me back in for the third time. I remind myself to be both patient and firm. She is four.
“Yes, Bella?”
“Mama, I keep thinking about the scary cat with red eyes.”
“Have you tried thinking of all things blue?” I ask, hoping she’ll be soothed by our nighttime ritual of naming all the things in the world that could possibly be blue.
“Yes. I tried that. I can’t sleep,” she says with a whimper. She reaches out and pulls at my arm. I do not feel the patience in me tonight.
“Mama, can you stay with me on my bed? Please?”
She doesn’t understand that I am goddamn tired. My husband is out of town, as he is so often these days. I know that if I lie down, I won’t be able to get back up. My mind is on the school lunches I haven’t yet made, the stacks of dishes lined up all the way around the kitchen counter, and the wet towels that are beginning to smell because they haven’t made it into the dryer yet. And then there are the twenty-four shamrock place mats that I promised to cut out for the preschool class tomorrow and the haircut appointment I need to cancel.
I look out to the yellow light in the hallway. The headache that began this afternoon in my neck is now settling in behind my eyes. I rub my left eyebrow back and forth, trying to chase the pain away. I can’t do this drawn-out routine with Bella. I can’t do the twenty questions, not tonight. Okay, I think, take a deep breath and count to ten. That’s what all the parenting books say to do. I need to come up with something—some kind of sleeping dust from the sandman, some magic spell from Wynken, Blynken, and Nod.
“How about if you close your eyes and think of great names for pets? And not just the name of the pet, but you also have to think of what the pet looks like—in detail.”
She stares up at me, her eyebrows furrowed. “But that might make me think of the cat.”
Her mind never settles. If she were like her big brother, the routine would be a bedtime story, a back scratch, and off to slumberland. But not Bella. She is a girl with an epic imagination.
“Bella, please. It’s time to sleep.”
“I’m trying,” she protests.
I watch her eyes blink, and tuck the covers snug around her body. I place her vel
vet bear underneath her chin and her shaggy cat in the crook of her arm. As I lean down to kiss her good-night, her eyes pop open wide and stare at me.
“Mama, what did your mom do when you were scared?”
Her question catches me off guard.
The room seems to tilt sideways. I don’t feel dizzy, but heavy—like I might not be able to stand on my own two feet. I recognize it, this feeling, this physical sensation of being pulled backward, like standing in the undertow at Stinson Beach.
I do not recall slipping off my sandals and lying down alongside Bella on her bed. But suddenly I am here next to her, staring up at the ceiling with its tiny glow-in-the-dark stars. Star light. Star bright. First star, I see tonight. Wish I may, wish I might, have this wish I wish tonight.
“Mama,” she asks again, “what did your mom do when you were scared?”
“I can’t remember, Bella.” My body is stiff on the bed. I am trying so hard to do the right things, to be a good mother. “I didn’t get scared much,” I say. That’s not the truth either. “I guess she tucked me in and said things to help me to feel safe. Sort of like the things I say to you.”
My mouth aches. I am a coward. I am afraid of the undertow. I don’t want her to know that sometimes a mother can’t stay. “Let’s close our eyes and go to sleep,” I whisper to her.
She smiles, pleased that I am lying on her bed, then whispers a reminder, “Don’t leave, Mama.” The room tilts again; the ceiling stars go blurry. The words I never once said.
I cannot tell Bella that my mom left when I was a little girl. And yet it was a simple fact, a well-memorized statement when I was growing up. “My mom doesn’t live with us,” I’d say in the same way I’d say, “Lilacs are my favorite flowers.” It didn’t occur to me that becoming a mother myself could wash to shore the wreckage of the past. To tell my daughter this truth is to tell myself the darkest truth. That I was leavable. Unkeepable.
I come from a long line of mothers who left their children. What if there exists some sort of genetic family flaw, some kind of “leaving gene” that unexpectedly grabs hold of mothers like the ones in my family? What if that leaving gene is lying dormant inside me? And what if my daughter, with her fretful imagination, worries that I might leave one day?
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