I talk to my kids about bullying ALL THE TIME! No ‘mean girls’ allowed here! There’s psych why people do it & view/attitude change can help it!
xxxxx @Kateplusmy8 No wonder why cyberbullying/bullying is at an all time high. Parents are teaching their children that its ok.
I know! I talk about bullying with friends often! How can kids not bully at school when the parents are doing it online??!
I’d love to be the national spokesperson for cyber bullying. I cannot believe it is tolerated & mostly ignored! BULLYING MUST STOP!!!
Kate Gosselin, the woman who wrote that she grabbed her toddler son and spanked him as hard as she could to the point that she thought she would seriously injure him, had the nerve to actually say that she would “love to be the national spokesperson 4 cyber bullying.” This is a woman who is a champion at mocking and criticizing and threatening others.
In March of 2012, Kate Gosselin, non-bully, tweeted these happy thoughts:
Good day! Busy Sunday here! Church, C&M baked two birthday cakes, now family weeding project outside! Then dinner to make etc. Are you tired? Yeah, me too!:)
But on that day, the reality was that Kate was screaming at her little children as they worked all day doing yard work for her … while she jogged around the driveway and sat in the shade. She was visibly mean as she was screaming at the children to stay away from her car and to move faster and to stop fooling around. The kids were crying, but they were not allowed to stop working. Kate wasn’t just yelling at them, she was being cruel and degrading, and treating them with complete disrespect. She should have been more careful about who was standing nearby watching her abusive behavior.
THE WHEELS ON THE BUS GO ’ROUND AND ’ROUND – ALL OVER JON
Kate not only physically abuses her children, she emotionally abuses them as well. She criticizes Jon publicly at every chance she gets – in interviews and on TV. This is the father they love, but she can’t put aside her hate for him to try to take care of their emotional well-being. One can only imagine the terrible things she says about him directly to the kids.
None of that matters to Kate, however, as long as she continues to have the kind of support like this on Twitter, where her followers bad-mouth Jon right along with her:
xxxxx @Kateplusmy8 watched last ep with John in it on Sat.He was horrid to the kids very bitter and twisted!You never took your pain out on them
No parent should punish innocent kids for the way things turned out. Extra love is needed…Kids/I thriving now so all is good!
Once again, instead of asking the tweeter to stop criticizing the father of her children, Kate eagerly joined in and threw Jon under the bus yet again. She accused him of “punishing” the kids, while in her mind she was busy giving them “extra love.”
THE BUCK STOPS HERE
Many adults have come and gone from the Gosselin children’s lives over the years. Some may have even witnessed abuse, but chose to remain silent about it. This begs the question: Who should have reported the obvious abuse of the Gosselin children at the hands of their mother? The answer is, well, everyone who knew about it.
People who report abuse are protected by law. Even that very restrictive and threatening Confidentiality and Nondisclosure Agreement pertaining to the Gosselins had to include wording that the Confidential Information could be disclosed “in response to a subpoena or other legal process.”
The Pennsylvania Code, which is an official publication of the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, sets forth regulations regarding child abuse and explains who is a mandatory reporter. A key clause in the Code states that to protect children from abuse, reporting requirements take precedence over any ethical principles or professional standard that might otherwise apply. This pertains even to those people who signed Kate’s super-special Confidentiality Agreement. Here is the text concerning child abuse taken directly from the Pennsylvania Code:
Subchapter G. MINIMUM STANDARDS OF PRACTICE—CHILD ABUSE REPORTING
http://www.pacode.com/secure/data/049/chapter16/subchapGtoc.html
§ 16.102. Suspected child abuse—mandated reporting requirements.
(a) General rule. Under 23 Pa.C.S. § 6311 (relating to persons required to report suspected child abuse), Board regulated practitioners who, in the course of their employment, occupation or practice of their profession, come into contact with children shall report or cause a report to be made to the Department of Public Welfare when the Board regulated practitioners have reasonable cause to suspect on the basis of their professional or other training or experience, that a child coming before them in their professional or official capacity is a victim of child abuse.
(b) Staff members of public or private agencies, institutions and facilities. Board regulated practitioners who are staff members of a medical or other public or private institution, school, facility or agency, and who, in the course of their employment, occupation or practice of their profession, come into contact with children shall immediately notify the person in charge of the institution, school, facility or agency or the designated agent of the person in charge when they have reasonable cause to suspect on the basis of their professional or other training or experience, that a child coming before them in their professional or official capacity is a victim of child abuse. Upon notification by the Board regulated practitioner, the person in charge or the designated agent shall assume the responsibility and have the legal obligation to report or cause a report to be made in accordance with subsections (a), (c) and (d).
§ 16.106. Confidentiality—waived.
To protect children from abuse, the reporting requirements of § § 16.102—16.104 (relating to suspected child abuse—mandated reporting requirements; photographs, medical tests and X-rays of child subject to report; and suspected death as a result of child abuse—mandated reporting requirement) take precedence over any ethical principles or professional standard that might otherwise apply.
Every producer, crew member or person employed by Discovery/TLC/Figure 8 Films who witnessed any abuse of the Gosselin children bears some responsibility for allowing it to continue and for not reporting it. Every executive who knew about the abuse is responsible. Everyone who turned a blind eye to the abuse bears some blame. It is probably safe to say that no damning, un-aired Gosselin film where Kate is screaming at, threatening and spanking her children will ever see the light of day. That unseen film is proof that all the adults who witnessed the abuse, or saw signs that made them strongly suspect abuse, and who could have and should have done something to protect those children, failed them – all because there was a boatload of money to be made off of them. The Gosselin children were nothing more than collateral damage in a business driven by greed, where profit trumps the safety and well-being of our most innocent. The welfare of those children was everybody’s business.
THE THREAT
The question most people will be asking right about now is: Why hasn’t Jon Gosselin spoken up about the abuse? I can’t answer that. Only Jon can answer that. I don’t know that he hasn’t reported it, and I don’t know what conversations or arguments he’s had with Kate about it. I don’t even know if he was ever present for the physical abuse.
I do know that Jon had to sign Discovery’s agreements not to talk about it, and the contract he signed forbids him from talking about it. But that piece of paper should never have been anyone’s excuse for not intervening if they saw or knew about the abuse happening. Fully understanding this, Kate took it a step further than just threatening Jon with the repercussions of him violating the Nondisclosure Agreement. Kate told Jon that if he ever breathed a word about her abusing the kids, Discovery would sue him for every cent he’d ever make, and she would make sure he never saw or had any contact with his children ever again.
Probably the most complicating factor in reporting child abuse is that it can be very hard to prove, since it is open to interpretation, especially in a state like Pennsylvania, which allows parents to use force “for the purpose of
safeguarding or promoting the welfare” of a minor. The Pennsylvania Code states:
Parents can use reasonable supervision and control when raising their children. 23 § 6302. [Civil Code] Parent/guardian/person responsible for general care and supervision/ person acting at request of the above may use force for the purpose of safeguarding or promoting welfare of minor including the prevention or punishment of his misconduct, if the force is not designed to cause or known to create a substantial risk of causing death, serious bodily injury, disfigurement, extreme pain, mental distress, or gross degradation. 18 § 509. [Criminal Code]
Howard Stern said it best in 2014. “You’re beating your children for your incompetence as a parent. If you’ve gotta spank your kids, something’s really wrong with you, not the kids.”
ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE
All you need is love. Those words appear on the screen, with calming, happy music playing as the “Discipline” episode of Jon & Kate Plus Ei8ht comes to a close. And then Kate gives her final thoughts for the TLC viewing audience:
“Our positive words and our positive reinforcement is the best thing you could ever give them.”
“You know, love is the best discipline of all.”
– Kate Gosselin
END CREDITS.
There is an INF paparazzi video online, taken in August 2010, of Jon bringing the kids back to Kate’s house after his custody time. The kids are in hysterics, screaming and crying about having to go back inside to Kate. They are inconsolable, despite Jon’s efforts to calm them.
This was one of the saddest things I had ever seen happening with these children.
I had spoken to Jon on the phone that day, just before he left his apartment with the kids. He told me he was having trouble getting the kids to go back home. He ended up being almost an hour late bringing them home because they didn’t want to leave him and go back to whatever awaited them at home.
The video is easy to find. Just Google “Gosselin kids screaming,” or anything similar, and you’ll see it for yourself. It is painful and gut-wrenching.
Watch it until the end when Jon gets into the car to leave. That’s me driving him. I was there, and I saw and heard the terrified cries of the children for myself. I didn’t read about it online, or speculate about what might have happened, or make assumptions about what was causing their distress. I was there. Eight little children were terrified of going home to their mother.
“I Wish…that there would be peace on earth and only love –
no abuse, hurt, gossip, strife or struggles for anyone!”
– Kate Gosselin
9.19.11 Kateplusmy8.com
It is truly heartbreaking to think about the many times the Gosselin children also must have wished that there would be no abuse and hurt.
KATIE DEAREST
“They’re crying which means they haven’t been abducted
and they’re not dead, so that’s a good thing, right?”
– Kate Gosselin
There are people in this world that should not be blessed with having children. I’m not talking about people who make a conscious decision to not have children – those people are actually the least selfish of us all because they are aware that having kids is not a commitment they are prepared to make. No, the people who don’t deserve to have children include those who would harm them in any way, those who would disrespect them, those who would view them as possessions, those who would ignore them, those who would treat them as a means to get rich, those who are not prepared to teach them well, those who have a constant need to dominate and control, and those who would view them as mere extensions of themselves instead of as separate and unique beings. It is no surprise that Kate Gosselin meets every one of these criteria for someone who should never have children.
Kate may have always wanted lots of kids, but years of watching her behavior on TV and seeing how she treats her children make it very apparent that she completely lacks the mental and emotional maturity to nurture and raise children, and to understand, respect and relate to them. Her behavior often resembles that of a 13-year-old child who is old enough to believe she knows everything, but too young to understand she knows almost nothing.
Everything Kate says and does relative to her children seems to come from some angry, impatient place; this almost always manifests itself as constant irritation with them. Any words of praise she has uttered about them sound hollow and insincere, especially since she has been so publicly critical of them so often. It is heartbreaking to hear her mock and ridicule her beautiful children. It must be terrible for them to be caught in the constant vortex of turmoil created by their mother, the person who is supposed to be their safe port in a storm.
THE MOTHER’S DAY TRADITION
For years, Kate Gosselin has been trying to sell herself as the finest example of motherhood that ever existed, but her actions scream the exact opposite. Let’s do a little comparison. The following paraphrased excerpts are from blogs that Kate wrote for Mother’s Day 2012. They represent the kind of mother Kate Gosselin has tried to fool the world into believing she is.
Mother’s Day at the Gosselins
Posted on May 7th, 2012 by Kate G
Kate writes that her twins and sextuplets have all been plotting and thinking for weeks about what to make her for breakfast on Mother’s Day. They’ve even asked for a list of foods that Kate will eat according to her, because they know how routine and boring her food choices can be…
Kate says that her kids are excited to pull off their Mother’s Day tradition of breakfast in bed. They may even let her take a nap and have a relaxing day for Mommy…
After breakfast in bed and a nap, Kate says the kids usually sneak in extra surprises like home cards telling her how much they love and appreciate her, and sometimes they create coupons for back massages for when she’s the most stressed out. Then she adds, Um, is there one for, like, every day? Wink wink.
Kate looks down the road to when she has teenagers and she envisions a spa day for all of the girls with pedicures in side by side chairs, chatting and laughing and spending time together. She adds an insult to her yucky boys that they may even leave the boys home to make them dinner. Lol!
Kate wants her kids and us to know that a loving mother is the most important part of any child’s life. She feels underappreciated and thinks that she, like most moms feels taken for granted and stressed out sometimes.
Kate tells us that the greatest gift we could give is to show mom that she’s not forgotten and that she’s really important and that we’re really thankful for her.
And remember everyone, being a mom is the most difficult of any job ever, but it’s by far, the most rewarding. Kate tells us that mothers are not only caring for their own children, but they are also educating and forming the future citizens of our world…and mothers have just one shot to do it right!
My Mother’s Day Plans + coupons for Moms
May 9, 2012
Kate says that one of her favorite traditions in her house is breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day! She says that all the kids have been planning the big meal for weeks! And we should check out her latest coupon blog for more Mother’s Day deals.
One of my favorite traditions in our house is breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day! All the kids have been planning the big meal for weeks now. Check out my latest CouponCabin blog for more of our plans and make sure to see below for some great Mother’s Day deals!
Reading those posts, Kate would have us believe that her children, including the six who were 7 years old at the time she wrote those blogs, were “plotting and thinking” about her Mother’s Day celebration for weeks. Not likely, unless she was mentioning it to them every day for weeks. Kids pretty much live in the here and now, and just one week can seem like an eternity to them. Kids will think ahead to the biggest, most exciting holidays of the year and to their birthdays, which are all about them, but Mother’s Day would barely register as a blip on their radar until it was almost upon them.
Let’s take a moment to review some more of Kate’s words in these posts. Kate says the “greatest gift” is to show your mom “that she’s not forgotten,” that “she’s really important,” and that “you’re really thankful for her.” That’s such beautiful sentiment. Coming from Kate, it is sheer hypocrisy. Her words must only apply to HER being showered with appreciation and gratitude; because Kate is certainly not showing that same respect to her own mother, who she has conspicuously cut from her and her children’s lives.
Kate also uses that word “tradition” again. There are absolutely zero “traditions” in the Gosselin children’s lives. There are a lot of manufactured events that she wants the public to believe are traditions. A “tradition” to Kate Gosselin means that TLC filmed her doing something with or for the kids one time, and she wants you to believe it happens that way year after year.
INDIFFERENCE
I have heard Kate say some incredibly hurtful things to Jon and her children. Here is a look at their daily reality through some of Kate’s actual words:
“You’re costing me even MORE money!!!
“We’re late because of you!!!
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