by Nancy Friday
“turning 50 was the end of an era…”: O’Neill, “Decades as an Icon,” p. C10.
“I couldn’t care less…”: “Feminist Fatale,” Longevity, July 1994, p. 16.
“Theirs will always be a stillborn form of feminism…”: Susan Faludi, “I’m Not a Feminist but I Play One on TV,” Ms., March/April 1995, p. 39.
“Revolutionary woman may join…”: Germaine Greer, The Madwoman’s Underclothes (New York: Atlantic Monthly Press, 1987 [1986]), pp. 37–38.
“The change hurts…”: Greer, The Change, p. 53.
“Sex must be rescued…”: Greer, The Female Eunuch, p. 18.
“She’s the kind of person…”: Molly O’Neill, “In an Ivy League of Her Own,” New York Times, October 20, 1994, p. C1.
“the two derogatory names…”: Banner, In Full Flower, p. 194.
“the woman’s capacity for orgasm…”: William H. Masters et al., Heterosexuality (New York: HarperCollins, 1994), p. 470, citing B. D. Starr, and M. B. Weiner, The Starr-Weiner Report on Sex and Sexuality in the Mature Years (Stein and Day, 1981).
“Today, fifty is nothing…”: Bernard Weinraub, “Hollywood Braces for Look into Mirror of ‘Sunset Boulevard,” New York Times, December 9, 1993, p. C17.
A man of forty-five looks distinguished…: Lynn Darling, “Age, Beauty and Truth,” New York Times, January 23, 1994, sec. 9, p. 5.
“It is perhaps only in old age…”: Carolyn Heilbrun, Writing a Woman’s Life (New York: Ballantine, 1989 [1988]), p. 126.
“I remember having lunch…”: Darling, “Age, Beauty and Truth,” p. 5. “Suddenly, their whole creativity is released…”: Margaret Mead, Blackberry Winter: My Earlier Years (New York: Morrow, 1972), pp. 246–247.
“she seemed to become prettier…”: Sheehy, The Silent Passage, p. 145.
“We’re tired of being good all the time…”: Laurel Graeber, “Zenia Is Sort of Like Madonna,” New York Times, October 31, 1993, p. 22.
Women ages fifty-five to sixty-four earn 41 percent more…: U.S. Census, “Current Population Reports,” Series P-60. Figures adjusted to reflect constant 1993 dollars.
“there’s something especially alarming…”: Holly Brubach, “Retroactivity,” New Yorker, December 31, 1990, p. 76.
“The silence of being unseen…”: Rita Freedman, Beauty Bound (Lexington Mass.: Lexington, 1986), p. 204.
“For them, the bad mother had to disappear…”: Marina Warner, From the Beast to the Blonde: On Fairy Tales and Their Tellers (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1995 [1994]), pp. 211–212.
“Agents call it inventing the girl…”: Guy Trebay, “Inventing Kirsty,” Harper’s Bazaar, July 1994, p. 127.
“youth is the only thing worth having”: Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray (London: Penguin, 1985 [1891]), p. 50.
“but also the logical consequence…”: Bettelheim, The Uses of Enchantment, pp. 274–275.
Games People Play: Eric Berne, Games People Play (New York: Ballantine, 1985).
“Emma Bovary… capture, captivate, and serve”: Kaplan, Female Perversions, pp. 251, 257–258, 261.
“It is hard even now to remember…”: Erica Jong, Fear of Fifty: A Midlife Memoir (New York: HarperCollins, 1995 [1994]), p. 332.
“I was afraid that if I let out my rage…”: Richard Rhodes, How to Write: Advice and Reflections (New York: Henry Holt, 1995), p. 4.
“The appeal of the straightforward…”: Brubach, “Landscapes with Figures,” p. 107.
During World War II…: Holly Brubach, “Survivors,” New Yorker, August 27, 1990, pp. 74–75.
“The important question…”: Ann W. Richards, “Girls, Pull Your Freight,” New York Times, June 25, 1994, p. 23.
“This is not the message…”: Sam Howe Verhovek, “Family Becomes Issue in the Texas Governor’s Race, New York Times, June 22, 1994, p. A16.
nearly 50 percent of American women…: Thomas F. Cash and Patricia E. Henry, “Women’s Body Images: The Results of a National Survey in the U.S.A.,” Sex Roles 33, nos. 1/2 (1995): 19–28.
“‘Courtship feeding’…”: Fisher, Anatomy of Love, p. 35.
“Luggage that one travels with…”: Sigmund Freud, The Interpretation of Dreams (New York: Basic, 1965 [1914]), p. 393.
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