as stepfather, 115, 135, 145
Vietnam trips of, 131–32, 141–43
as Vietnam War supporter, 127, 131–35, 143
wartime service of, 17, 29
wedding of, 118
Alsop, John, 11, 51
Alsop, Patricia “Tish,” 129, 157, 158–59, 183
Alsop, Stewart, 10–11, 113, 117, 128, 139, 140, 144, 146, 157
Alsop, Susan Mary
adjustment to changing times, 145–46
and Bill Patten’s health crises, 79–80, 100, 103, 105
birth of, 3
births of children, 61, 69
career regrets of, 76–77
childhood of, 3–5, 169, 185
in China, 149
in Coopers’ social circle, 34, 42–45, 50–51, 64, 86–87
coronation of Queen Elizabeth II viewed by, 86
couturier dresses of, 42, 51–52, 56–57, 67, 145–146, 156, 174, 184
critical attitude toward America, 76, 95
death of, 192–93
death of Bill Patten, 105–8
death of Duff Cooper, 87–88, 89, 101
death of mother, 169–70
deaths of friends, 150–51, 183, 185, 191
death of sister, 4–5
debutante life of, 7–11
De Gaulle’s 1958 coming to power observed by, 97–98
and Diana Cooper, 43, 47, 88, 174
as diplomat’s wife, 23–24, 29–30
drinking problems of, 187–90
on Edith Wharton, 181
education of, 6
in English society, 20, 49–50, 53–54, 68, 96
family background of, 1–3
French politics and society as interest of, 27–29, 30–32, 67, 90, 94–95, 97–98
on French strikes of 1947, 55–56
friendship with Joe Alsop, 73, 115, 160, 165, 169, 181–83
Georgetown house of, 170–71
grandchildren of, 146, 181–82, 186, 190–93
intellectual aspirations of, 8–9, 42–43, 71, 74
international affairs as interest of, 30, 90–93, 95–97
in Ireland, 68
on Jimmy Carter, 166
at Johnson White House, 130
and President Kennedy’s assassination, 128, 129
in Kennedy White House social circle, 120–29
and Henry Kissinger, 147, 166–67, 178
in Laos, 157–59
love affair with Duff Cooper, 45–49, 50–54, 56–57, 64, 69–71, 103
love affair with Gladwyn Jebb, 101–104, 107
at Maine house (Blueberry Ledge),104, 141, 170, 175–76, 182, 190, 191, 192
and Marietta Tree, 8, 9, 11, 62, 64, 155–57, 160, 175, 184–85
marriage to Bill Patten, 12, 13–15, 46
marriage to Joe Alsop
divorce from, 170
Dumbarton Ave. home of, 116–18
problems in, 135, 137–41, 151
proposal and acceptance, 112–16
separation from, 151–154
subordinate role in, 138
wedding ceremony, 118
“Mildred Jungfleisch” character modeled on, 69, 73–76
as mother, 61–64, 77, 88–89, 182
and Nancy Mitford, 73–76
old age of, 183–92
on Pamela Harriman, 168
Paris household of, 22–23, 78
in Parisian society, 31–34, 42–45, 90, 94–95
at Paris V-E Day celebration, 25–26
paternity of son, 60, 61–62, 89, 188–89
physical appearance of, 9, 42, 66, 139, 146, 160, 181
political leaders in Paris social circle of, 29, 44–45, 67
political science studies of, 107–8
pregnancy with Billy, 59–61
Red Cross work of, 24–25
relationship with mother, 9, 19, 64–65, 106, 146, 169
in Rome, 81
self-control of, 103, 153
at Senlis country house, 50–51, 69
sense of responsibility, 150
social skills of, 9, 66
social success of, 66–68, 74–75, 171–72
in Texas, 161–62
at Venetian balls, 81–83, 174
in Vietnam, 141–43
on Vietnam War policy, 133, 142–43
Vogue job of, 11–12
wartime journey to Paris, 20–21
as Washington hostess, 122–23, 138, 147, 156–57, 172–75, 180–81, 184, 186, 191
in Washington social elite, 126–27, 165
Washington 1949 visit of, 65–68
Watergate apartment of, 152–53
on White House art committee, 121
writings of
for Architectural Digest, 179–80, 185, 190
The Congress Dances, 177–79
Lady Sackville, 162–65, 168, 172
Letters to Marietta, 155–57, 159–62
Yankees at the Court, 176–77
youthful friendships of, 9–11-
Ambassadors, The (James), 64
American Red Cross, 24
Anti-Americanism
in France, 91–92
of Nancy Mitford, 75–76
Appeasement policy, 39
Architectural Digest, 179–80, 185, 190
Aragon, Louis, 4
Aron, Raymond, 67, 91, 95
Astor, Brooke, 156, 172, 175
Astor, John Jacob, 2
Astor, Sir John Jacob “Jakie,” 50
Astor, William Waldorf, 163
Astor family, connection to Jays, 2
Atget, Eugène, 73
Attlee, Clement, 41
Auchincloss, Louis, 108
Auriol, Vincent, 67
Austen, Jane, 68
Bacon, Katharine “Kate,” 145, 182
Bacon, Katharine “Kitty,” 145
Bagration, Princess Catherine, 178
Baldwin, Stanley, 38
Balenciaga, Cristobal, 42
Bardot, Brigitte, 94
Bassiano, Princess, 81
Bayard family, connection to Jays, 2
Beaton, Cecil, 82, 192
Beaumarchais, Jacques de, 176–77
Beaumarchais, Marie-Alice de, 107, 176–77
Beevor, Antony, 186
Beistegui, Charlie de, 50, 78, 81, 173
Bellenger, Sylvain, 190
Bérard, Christian, 44, 67
Berlin, Aline, Lady, 107, 165
Berlin, Sir Isaiah, 49, 86, 107, 108, 123, 165
Bernier, Olivier, 175–76
Berry, Pamela, Lady Hartwell, 52
Bevin, Ernest, 41, 45, 48, 51
Bidault, Georges, 93
Bissell, Richard “Dick,” 126
Blair, William McCormick “Bill,” 11, 192
Blake, Robert “Bob” and Sylvia, 190
Blessing, The (Mitford), 72–73, 75–76
Bloomingdale, Donald, 66
Blueberry Ledge (Northeast Harbor, Maine), 104, 141, 170, 175–76, 182, 190, 191,192
Bohlen, Avis, 78, 123, 129, 137
Bohlen, Avis (daughter of above-mentioned), 186
Bohlen, Charles “Chip,” 29, 77, 78, 92, 123, 126
Bonaparte, Pauline, 40
Bordeaux-Groult, Elise, née Duggan, 9, 97, 100, 114, 150–51
Bordeaux-Groult family, 107
Boudin, Stéphane, 121
Bourdet, Denise and Edouard, 50
Bousquet, Marie-Louise, 41
Bowra, Sir Maurice, 122
Braden, Thomas “Tom,” 140
Bradlee, Benjamin “Ben,” 127
Brandon, Henry, 156
Breese, William, 10
Brezhnev, Leonid, 149
Brinkley, Susan, 181
Brown, Rob, 191
Brown, Tina, 172
Bruce, Alexandra “Sasha,” 179, 184
Bruce, David, 77–78, 127, 156, 159, 160
Bruce, Evangeline “Vangie,” 78, 122, 156, 175, 179, 191
Brzezinski, Zbi
gniew, 138, 168
Buchwald, Art, 143–44
Buell, Mary, 176
Bullitt, William, 22, 26
Bundy, McGeorge, 124, 129, 134
Bunker, Ellsworth, 134
Bush, George H.W., 184
Byrne, Jimmy, 10
Byrnes, James, 45
Cabot, Mabel “Muffie” Brandon, 156, 190
Cabrol, Fred and Marguerite “Daisy,” 50
Cachin, Marcel, 41
Caffery, Jefferson, 24, 55, 66
Camus, Albert, 67
Capote, Truman, 138
Caputo, Bruce, 167
Carlisle, Kitty, 159
Carter, Jimmy, 165–66, 167
Castellane, Boni de, 67
Castellane, Diane de, 100
Castlereagh, Lord Robert Stewart, 178
Catto, Henry, 172, 183
Cecil, Lord David, 123
CGT union, 55
Chaffee, Kevin, 190
Chamberlain, Neville, 38, 39
Charles, Marion Oates “Oatsie,” 175
Charmley, John, 174
Chavchavadzé, Princess Elisabeth, 82
Chennault, General Claire Lee, 29, 113, 149
China
Alsops’ trip to, 149
détente with, 148
Churchill, Randolph, 168
Churchill, Winston, 16, 35, 38-40, 45, 48–49, 51, 93
Churchill, Winston (grandson of above-mentioned), 168
Clark, Miss, 62–63
Clifford, Clark, 130
Clinton, Hillary, 185–86
Coca-Cola, as focus of anti-Americanism, 91
Cocteau, Jean, 41, 44, 45, 48, 81
Colloredo-Mansfeld, Fritz, 25
Congress Dances, The (S. .M.Alsop), 177–79
Congress of Vienna, 177–78
Constant, Benjamin, 104
Cooper, Lady Agnes, née Duff, 36
Cooper, Sir Alfred, 36
Cooper, Artemis, 186
Cooper, Lady Diana, née Manners
as actress, 38
death of Duff, 87, 88, 188
at farewell ball, 56
friendship with Susan Mary, 43, 47, 88, 174
hostess at Paris embassy, 40–42
marital bond of, 37–38, 52
at Saint-Firmin country house, 51, 64, 86–87
and successor at Paris embassy, 73
tolerance of Duff’s adultery, 38, 48
at Venetian ball, 82
in Washington, 122
Cooper, Duff, later Lord Norwich
as ambassador to Paris, 40, 41, 45
correspondence with Susan Mary, 46–47, 49, 52, 53, 62, 63, 67, 70, 71, 79, 102, 108, 168, 174
death of, 87–88, 188
departure from Paris, 56–57
elevation to peerage, 86
family background of, 36
Franco-British alliance promoted by, 36, 39
health of, 85–86
and Louise de Vilmorin, 48, 56–57
love affair with Susan Mary, 45–49, 50–54, 56–57, 64, 69–71, 103
marital bond of, 37–38, 52
Parisian life of, 35–36, 70
and paternity of Billy, 59–62, 89, 188–89
political and diplomatic career of, 36, 38–40, 48
resignation over Munich agreement, 39
at Venetian balls, 82–83, 174
womanizing of, 37–38, 47–48, 52, 54, 70–71
writings of, 36, 49, 85, 86
Cooper, John Sherman, 133
Cooper, Lorraine, 175
Corrigan, Mrs., 50
Coty, René, 97
Coward, Noël, 41
Crile, George, 145, 169
Crile, Katie, 182
Crile, Molly, 182
Cronkite, Walter, 134
Cross, Elliot and Martha, 11
Cuban missile crisis, 123, 131
Cuevas, Marquis de, 82
Cukor, George, 138
Dalí, Salvador, 82
Darlan, Admiral François, 21
Davies, Anna Patten, 12, 14, 51, 79
Davis, Todd, 191
Dayan, General Moshe, 138
De Gaulle, Charles, 25, 28, 35, 40, 67, 98, 127, 144, 184
Deharme, Lise, 41
De la Renta, Oscar, 161
Democratic Convention of 1960, 109
DePuy, General William E., 133
Devonshire, Duke of, 68
Devonshire, Deborah, Duchess of, 82, 122
Dewavrin, André, known as Colonel Passy, 67
Dewey, Thomas E., 65
Dien Bien Phu, 93
Dillon, Douglas, 127, 129, 159
Dior, Christian, 51, 82
Ditchley Park, 49, 53–54, 60, 68
Don’t Tell Alfred (Mitford), 73–75
Dowd, Maureen, 185–86
Downes, Amanda, 190
Dulles, John Foster, 86–87, 92–93
Dumbarton Ave., Alsop residence at, 116–18
Dunne, Dominick, 190
Du Pont, Ethel, 20
Du Pont, Henry Francis, 121
Du Pont, Pauline Louise, 9
Durfort, Béatrice de, 190
Dylan, Bob, 145
Eden, Sir Anthony, 38, 45, 93, 96
Eisenhower, Dwight D., 21, 26, 87, 91, 92, 96, 111, 114
Eliot, T.S., 21
Elizabeth II, Queen, coronation of, 85–86
European Coal and Steel Community, 87
European Defense Community (EDC), 87, 92
Evans, Kay, 164, 192
Falaise, Maxime de la, 65
Fath, Jacques, 81
Fellowes, Daisy, 41, 82
Ferrer, Mel, 138–39
Fini, Leonor, 82
FitzGerald, Desmond, 12, 14, 15, 17
FitzGerald, Frances “Frankie,” 117, 134, 190
Flanner, Janet, 75, 91, 160
Fleming, Ann, previously Lady Rothermere, 52
Forbes, Malcolm, 172
Ford, Gerald, 165, 166
Fox, Charles James, 36
Foxcroft school, 6
France. See also Paris
in Algerian War, 95
anti-Americanism in, 91–92
-British alliance, 35, 39
De Gaulle’s 1958 coming to power, 97–98
economic/political impact of war on, 26–27
and European Defense Community (EDC), 87, 92
in Indochina war, 92–93
strikes of 1947, 54, 55–56
and Suez Crisis, 95–97
Franklin, Benjamin, 1, 177
Fraser, Lady Antonia, 122, 161
Frenay, Henri, 28
French Communist Party, 28, 55, 60, 91
Friendly, Pie, 186, 192
Fritchey, Polly, 168, 175, 188
Frost, David, 166–67
Fulbright, J. William, 133
Galbraith, John Kenneth, 128
Ganay, Anne Marie de, 173
Ganay, Christine de, 165
García Márquez, Gabriel, 141
Georgetown
Joe Alsop’s Dumbarton Ave. house in, 116–18
social elite of, 125–26
Susan Mary’s connections to, 66
Susan Mary’s house in, 170–71
Genet, Jean, 67
Germany
appeasement of Hitler, 39
Berlin airlift, 63
postwar rebuilding of, 45
Getty, Ann, 172
Giles, Sir Frank, 67, 107
Giles, Lady Katherine “Kitty,” 164
Goldman, Guido, 181
Goodman, Benny, 8
Gotlieb, Allan, 172
Gould, Florence, 41
Graham, Katharine “Kay,” 123, 140, 147, 168, 172, 180, 191
Graham, Philip “Phil,” 110, 123, 126
Groton School, 9, 12–13, 104, 118
Haig, Sir Douglas, 49
Harper’s Bazaar, 42, 66, 77
Harper’s magazine, 134
Harriman, Averell, 77, 126, 165, 168
Harriman, Pamela Churchill, 165, 168
Harvard University, 13
Heath, Edward “Ted,” 138
Heinz, Teresa, 180
Helms, Richard and Cynthia, 159
Henderson, Sir Nicholas “Nicko,” 172
Hepburn, Audrey, 138–39
Hitler, Adolf, 15, 39
Hoagland, James “Jim,” 172
Ho Chi Minh, 45
Hoover, J. Edgar, 114
Houghton, Maisie, 190
Howar, Barbara, 161–62
Hull, Cordell, 17
Indochina War, 92–93
Irelan, John, 181
Ismay, Lord, 50
James, Henry, 64
Jay, Augustus, 2
Jay, Delancey, 2, 14–15
Jay, Emily (sister), 3, 4–5
Jay, Emily Kane, 2
Jay, John, 1, 176, 177
Jay, Peter Augustus (father), 2–5, 9, 17
Jay, Pierre-Auguste, 1
Jay, Susan Alexander McCook (mother), 51, 61, 63, 79, 80, 105, 156
characterized, 3
death of 169–70
relationship with Susan Mary, 9, 19, 64–65, 106, 146, 169
Jay, Susan Mary. See Alsop, Susan Mary
Jay family, 1–2
Jebb, Cynthia, later Lady Gladwyn, 103
Jebb, Gladwyn, later Lord Gladwyn, 93, 106, 108
characterized, 102–3
love affair with Susan Mary, 101–4, 107
Johnson, Lady Bird, 130, 180
Johnson, Lyndon
Kennedy people in administration of, 129
vice presidential nomination of, 110
Vietnam policy of, 131–32, 134
Jordan, Dorothea, 36
Juin, General Alphonse, 92
Katzenbach, Nicholas, 124–25
Keats, John, 64
Kennedy, David, 111
Kennedy, Ethel, 111, 124, 180
Kennedy, Jacqueline “Jackie,” 111, 120–22, 129, 161, 172, 184
Kennedy, John F.
on Algeria, 95
assassination of, 128–29, 161
at Dumbarton Ave. dinner parties, 122–23
friendship with Joe Alsop, 112
inauguration of, 119
inauguration-night visit to Joe Alsop, 119–20
Joe Alsop’s support for, 110, 111–12
nomination for presidency, 109–10
and press, 129
and vice presidential nomination, 110
Kennedy, Robert “Bobby,” 109, 124, 125, 129, 133, 134
Kent, Princess Michael of, 186
KGB trap, Joe Alsop in, 114, 144
Khrushchev, Nikita Sergueïevitch, 101, 105, 127, 149
Kidder, Dorothy “Dottie,” née Robinson, 9, 100
Kimbrough, Emily, 159–60
King, Martin Luther, Jr., 125, 134
Kipling, Rudyard, 163
Kissinger, Henry, 147, 148, 165, 166–67, 178
Kitchener, Horatio Hubert, Lord, 163
Korda, Alexander, 70
Kraft, Joseph, 126–27
Lady Sackville (S. M. Alsop), 162–65, 168, 172
Lagerfeld, Karl, 174
Laos, Susan Mary’s trip to, 157–59
La Panouse family, 33
La Rochefoucauld, Edmée, Duchess de, 41
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