by Ty Tashiro
Thank you to my parents for their patience, persistence, faith, and abundant wisdom.
I am indebted to hundreds of researchers whose research findings provided the scientific foundation for this book. There are countless others to thank for their sharp ideas and generous support. A few of these remarkable friends and colleagues include Pat, Amy, Andy, Ashley, Hedy, Elliott, Sarah, Jeff, Jill, Kellie, Kate, Pippa, Aimee, Marina, Andrea, Lauren, Ellen, Jen, Kristen, and Jennifer.
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