by Diana Brain
They also have a certain view regarding how things need to occur or unfold in the long run. As such, these people do what they like. They are also determined to pursue their demands and the need to satiate their need to successfully frustrate people by their character and ability to delve into decision making. Friends, as well as other people whom you may not think of as controlling, also have certain views regarding the ways in which some things should be done. The main difference is that people have different views regarding how others should behave.
There’s also a major difference in opinion. Therefore, as an individual, it becomes important to weigh such issues and come up with a viable idea that can be passed across respectfully. However, this is not usual for control freaks that are committed to frustrating people. Such individuals are usually focused on making others feel bad about themselves, and this is usually through controlling them. Also, friends, as well as other people who may not be regarded as controlling individuals, have certain views regarding the manner in which things need to be done. Their views are standard and reflect the need to be positive about many things in society, including how to approach matters. They may also have views regarding how to conduct themselves in different situations.
Over and above, maybe that is the main difference between real friends and control freaks who seek to manipulate and control others. The bully is known to have defined and well-fixed ideas regarding how the result should be acquired in the long run. On the other hand, besties seek to highlight key areas where an individual needs help in order to improve in either life or career in general. The ultimate outcome is based on assisting one person to become a better version of themselves. Also, such people recognize that there are different ways to gain access to positive vibes in the overall chase for a better life.
And maybe this is the main difference between toxic people and good-hearted individuals. So, therefore, what’s really inside the mind of a controlling person? A lot of objectives is the right answer to this question. We might also think of their ideas outcomes, wants, demands, expectations, standards, coupled with should in the long run. The objectives of bullies and dictators, as well as manipulative people, tend to be based on making the right way for themselves in such a way that people should think or dress just as they do. Such differences may be illuminated and illustrated using an example of classrooms as well as teachers.
As such, a teacher, as well as most scholars, would think of as an individual who is controlling is the one who aspires to see students take certain actions in school. They enjoy seeing students sitting in a certain way as they look into a particular direction while producing a certain amount of work. These individuals may think that there is the right way of doing things in school. They may also think that there is a specific hairstyle that every student needs to have. Teachers who do not seem to be this controlling are often more relaxed when it comes to addressing the posture of students while they are writing as well as the particular attire that they need to wear.
These tutors are more interested in the academic performance of their students and not how they eat or dress. In the last research analysis, individuals who have been bossing other students around and those who probably care about how students will score excellent grades are totally different. The main difference in these people is that one group is more focused on how students will make it in the future while the other team is more focused on how they dress or run or even present themselves while not in school.
This is a perfect social experiment for different people. Such teachers are also more interested in their student’s educational outcomes more than how they fair on as individuals seeking to create friends in the institution. In the last chapter of research and analysis, it was discussed that those who are interested in bossing others around as well as those who are looking forward to keeping friends have different traits and personalities. They are probably seeking the same aim in the long run. Therefore, the main difference is that autocrats are known for making their jobs slightly harder. By pedantically making various specifications of how other people need to behave, these individuals are building upon their traits and tearing down other people’s ability to focus on their lives.
Therefore, they are likely to irritate each other in the long run. They two sets of individuals also don’t get along because one is always obsessed with following the other and finding out how they lived in order to irk them. It all boiled down to getting to understand what would annoy the other person in the long run. As such, even the individuals who we often think of as people who are not as controlling are pretty much controlling to the extent of ruining other’s lives in many ways. They aspire to realize what the outcome of their actions would be when it comes to issuing controlling elements in other people’s lives.
In regards to wanting to find out what a certain outcome would entail, but always leaning on a more relaxed version of oneself, these manipulative individuals seem to appreciate the fact that if they highlighted issues about the final destination and then delved into certain discussions, there would be the need to specify all the impending actions needed for an individual to get there. With all that has been said and highlighted in regard to how manipulative some individuals may be, the need to be controlling on others may not make some sense right now; especially not to you.
If you are a person who enjoys life and loves others, including friends and family, you would not want to control anyone. Even if you are in the behavior of being perfect, you will remain in your own space and not someone else’s. Therefore, controllers are in the world to ruin life for everyone. They would like to micromanage other people, including what someone says, how they act, what they think, in addition to what they would like to eat or have in an event. Such individuals ruin the chances of someone making new friends.
They also want to impose their beliefs on you. You cannot be yourself around such people. They often insist on becoming your top priority. Also, they want to influence your life in all ways they could even if it would be in a negative way. Such people might also push all your buttons in order to get an emotional reaction out of your peaceful self. This is simply because they would like to exploit you at your weakest points. They also have no respect for your boundaries.
There are different theories that highlight reasons as to why someone would want to have major control over you. One highlights the fact that people who cannot control themselves often become suspects of controlling others. This occurs on an emotional level where people seek to take control of others who seem weaker in character in their opinion. When a person is insecure to the extent of seeking comfort in other people’s misfortunes, it becomes obvious for them to seek some sense of positivity from others since they have low self-esteem. Therefore, such individuals can also hide their despair in other people since they will be looking for somewhere to dispose of their disappointment. As such, maybe control freaks are scared of being abandoned for their miserable character and desperation.
They do not really feel secure in any type of relationship. Therefore, to seek comfort in life, they tend to lean towards becoming control freaks in other people’s lives. Perhaps the main paradox is that these people’s character creates what they may fear the most. Controlling people are also known as narcissists. They aspire to control the environment they live in by any means possible. That would imply that other people are treated as pawns. The main issue with this perspective is that these controlling bullies will make others wonder why they have been selected as pawns. If it is nothing personal, why do such people feel like the main target of the issue being highlighted?
The main reason is the person is not just good but admirable. There is really nothing wrong with them. As such, they don’t really have a target on their back, and they don’t deserve to be disrespected in any way. Simply analyzed, there is nothing wrong with these individuals. They are only a target for people who have issues with themselves. The controller is the party that seeks to control everyone and everything ar
ound them. Eventually, then, we have some element of being control freaks to some extent. The main difference is that there are some of these control freaks who we would rather avoid. Then, there are others who would rather get to understand and be friends with. It turns out that the main issue is not control but the need to display some sense of control in public for the person to be seen. Others just want to form strong fragment social bonds.
Subtypes of Narcissists
It’s not easy to be in a superior position to everyone. Someone once said so. As such, narcissism has already been defined as a person’s tendency to consider themselves as superior as well as entitled with the ability to marginalize and demean other people in order for them to feel good about themselves. In the “I’’ centered status-conscious as well as the materialistic society; such people have become toxic to society, thereby leading to highly destructive environments. Narcissists aren’t really the same. Some are known to be chronic, while others have a manipulative tendency. Therefore, there are subtypes of narcissists arranged in different unique orders that many people should familiarize themselves with in order to get hold of certain traits that could be destructive to others. It’s also vital for people to be aware of how such individuals can affect their lives in order to avoid being disappointed in the long run. These are the different types of narcissists:
Over Narcissist
An over narcissist is an individual who possesses several of the most common traits appended to narcissism. They include grandiosity, attention-seeking, exaggeration, excessive self-importance, charm, one-upmanship, negative put-downs, in addition to blatant entitlement and aggressive manipulation. Generally, such individuals often exude some element of a strident lack of empathy towards people. Specifically, only what they think is of value and importance. That is what matters to them most of the time. They also expect everything to be done according to their wishes since they think that the world revolves around them.
You could be sick, but their question would be what if you could drive them to the mall? Such people have a buried personality that they fail to express in the actual sense. They also fail to express themselves in truth as a response to early injuries. They have replaced such elements with highly developed compensatory falsehood. This alternate personality to the actual self is grandiose. Such people are self-absorbed. The over narcissist is also raging with anger within. They have passive aggression towards other people.
The Introverted Narcissist
The introvert is also known as the convert. This individual will often use statements such as they cry since other people are stupid. That often makes them sad. With that said, not all narcissists are really grandiose or offensive. Some are pretty calculative when it comes to pinpointing other people’s issues and using their problems to attack others. Also important to note is the fact that many authors have successfully identified this type of person. Their traits include but aren’t limited to self-absorption, the lack of empathy, smugness as well as quietness, and the need to judge other people harshly.
Although the introverted narcissist is usually misunderstood most of the time, these individuals take pride in their shy and quiet nature. They are overly obtrusive when it comes to demonstrating their false superiority complex. They will successfully subtly manifest their hidden conceit. Most of the time, it will be something like not really not saying it but demonstrating their actual actions using their smirk as well as body language. It’s vital to note that not all introverts are really manipulative in any way. This is just a subtype of narcissism and can be categorized under people who would rather use their personality to hurt others.
The individuals who may have influence over others around them can make them feel slightly unaccepted in the society. What introvert and extrovert manipulative persons share in common when it comes to character is the fact that they hide their real character in order to gain access to their next target. They also seek to plot calculative moves on their friends and relatives with the need to satiate their hunger in the long run. In many ways, these individuals seek to use their personality against others while trying to harm their friends as well as relatives. Therefore, they end up harming others. They always think that they are better than others too. The extroverted one is always so quick to point it out, but the introverted one will silently display these feelings while looking down upon the others. That is the main other difference between an introverted as well as an extroverted manipulative individual in this category. Here are additional traits of introverts with the main reference to psychology and manipulation.
Quiet Smugness/Superiority
Many of extroverted narcissists are easy to spot. They have an extra grandiose of mannerism coupled with attention-seeking traits that match machinations. On the other hand, introverted narcissists are pretty more challenging to pinpoint when it comes to analyzing and understanding their true characters and origin. This is at least at the outset of everything when someone is still seeking to understand them. In the long run, these individuals are keen on silently manipulating others and taking advantage of them by making sure that they are taken advantage of. While they may not express their negative minds outright, you’ll be in a position to successfully analyze their characters based on their ability to control or manipulate you.
Such individuals also have the tendency to yawn as well as a groan or sigh in the presence of other people. When they take any form of action, including speaking, their comments begin to critically take some certain sense of direction while focusing on their concerted views. This is a seemingly impenetrable smugness that is a front covering a sense of vulnerability in these individuals. Therefore, it’s vital for victims to be aware of such personalities before they become part and parcel of their lives, especially in this current century. Part of these people’s insecurity is usually the inability to relate to other people meaningfully as other human beings successfully.
Self-absorption
Don’t be fooled by covert narcissism. These individuals are as dangerous as any other subtype of narcissists. Some may highly emphasize one personality more than the other. A person with an outgoing personality can easily show-off. They may also need to be at the center of everything since they are pretty much attention-seeking. A person with an outgoing personality may be very narcissistic when it comes to bullying and victimizing others. They may also become stubborn when it comes to initiating successful projects either at work or school because such people are driven by the fact that they can easily destroy others in a blink of an eye.
At the same time, these individuals want to work with people who have no control over their lives. They want to be the center of attention when it comes to initiating peaceful projects. They are majorly attracted to self-centeredness since they wish to take over every project but in the wrong way. Such individuals are not pushed by the need to address issues in a positive manner in the society. Instead, they are focused on how they can change their lives by harming others in every way that they can. Some of these people are self-absorbed individuals who are not easily identified. Some of them are also focused on challenging individuals in different ways that may seem manipulative.
On the surface, it can be challenging to identify these people. They can appear to be pretty shy and anxious. They can also look humble. You should not be confused by these characters because they are just on the surface. The actual person lies in the self-absorption nature of the individual who seeks to manipulate everything to suit their gains. Their gratification can also be pretty indirect through their emotional investment in a different person. With that said, it becomes challenging to decipher the traits of a person, especially when they have been hiding their true traits. They take things personally, in many cases.
They feel distrustful and mistreated as well as unappreciated. An individual with an outgoing trait may always show off because they need to be the center of attention in different ways. As such, it may be impossible to seek help from these people because they are l
ikely to judge you. Such individuals may also come across as bullies. They may be entitled playboys or authoritative people who may be over-excited with becoming over-controlling over other people’s lives. On the surface, it can be challenging to identify these people.
They can appear to be pretty shy and anxious. They can also look humble. You should not be confused by these characters because they are just on the surface. The actual person lies in the self-absorption nature of the individual who seeks to manipulate everything to suit their gains. Their gratification can also be pretty indirect through their emotional investment in a different person. With that said, it becomes challenging to decipher the traits of a person, especially when they have been hiding their true traits. They take things personally, in many cases. They feel distrustful and mistreated as well as unappreciated.
They often dream of greatness even though they understand that they cannot accomplish such success in real life. Some public figures and celebrities exude traits of extroverted narcissists. These are people who completely crave attention. According to radio host Dr. Wendy Walsh, this is not accepted in the industry of entertainment. It’s actually a requirement since it provides the people with a higher rating. Either way, these people still make it to the list of individuals with a narcissistic personality disorder.
This is particularly when wanting admiration and lacking empathy as well as feeling entitled in matters that don’t concern the. They are still self-centered since they expect special treatment from everyone they interact with. They also often feel that others don’t fully appreciate their specialness. As such, they may tell their friends as well as relatives that feel unappreciated and misunderstood. They may also say things such as people have not fully recognized and respected their unique nature when it comes to matters of handling business or any other project. Either way, these people still make it to the list of individuals with a narcissistic personality disorder. This is particularly when wanting admiration and lacking empathy as well as feeling entitled in matters that don’t concern the. They are still self-centered since they expect special treatment from everyone they interact with.
