by Anne Lamott
Angela sometimes wore her short honey-colored hair in two vertical tufts, like velvet giraffe horns. Her wide eyes were steel-blue. She was Jewish, expansive and yeasty and uncontained, as if she had a birthright for outrageousness. She knew things. Mattie couldn’t live without her.
The smell of wet soil, blossoms, and grass wafted through the kitchen window as Mattie heard Angela’s news. “But you’re not going to have to live without me,” Angela said, crying. “We’ll talk every day, and I’ll come up every chance I can.”
Mattie went back into therapy to deal with the devastation of losing Angela. The therapist pointed out gently that some of her grief must be related to her deteriorating marriage. In some ways, losing Angela was harder. It was like the death some years before of Mattie’s old cat, who had loved her the way her parents were supposed to have loved her: purely, without conditions. In any case, for a few months Mattie didn’t have the strength to bear both her friend’s departure and the end of her marriage. And then one day, she did.
When the leaves began to blaze and the days grew shorter, she brought her children and their things to the house she had grown up in. She brought some furniture, their dog, two cats, a couple of porno movies stolen from Nicky, and his bottle of Valium. He did not ask her about them. It was assumed that the children would live with her, and visit him on the weekends. He adored them but would not have been willing or able to share custody, even if Mattie had been willing. As it was, he took them most weekends, often late Saturday morning, then dropped them off Sunday nights with an air of weary heroism, like a firefighter returning the engine to the firehouse after a particularly difficult outing. The children were grief-stricken that he did not live with them anymore. Mattie prayed with them every night, then prayed separately for their hearts to heal, even prayed for Nicky’s happiness and half meant it. After a month of weekend visits with Nicky, the children’s distress lessened.
Mattie hadn’t worried so much about Ella, who had ways of comforting herself and a generally sunny disposition. But Harry was sad and concerned. He was erratic, like Nicky: sometimes he acted so mean to Mattie and Ella that Mattie wanted to strike him, and at other times he could be utterly charming, especially with his sister. He’d carry her around from room to room as if she were an animated grocery sack, making faces and wisecracks to amuse her. Mattie saw how much he wanted Ella to disappear sometimes, but that he also listened for her when she was in her crib. He put his face right into hers to make her laugh, and she chortled, pleased that something was so grabbably close. Then he’d pinch her and make her cry. He took things from her, and she wailed, while he looked blank and innocent. He hugged her too tightly, he loved her too much, he hated all the same things he loved about her—her ineptitude, her cuteness, her messiness, her smells.
Mattie stopped seeing the therapist, and paid for Harry to go instead.
It helped; time’s passing helped. Nothing really helped. And the house—it had been a mistake to move back in. It was falling apart, revealing mold and memories and ghosts. Mattie’s beloved father had died of a heart attack in the laundry room, twenty years before. He was fifty-one and had never looked better than in the moments before his death. He had looked a lot like Mattie’s brother, Al, did now, but trimmer, tall, with thicker brown hair, and the huge teeth that hardly fit in his mouth. Everyone had loved her father, including, about half the time, Isa. Still, it had been a miserable marriage, a shifting, malignant lava-lamp of a marriage, although it always looked great from the outside, two tall handsome parents well-known in the town for their willingness to serve on the city council, the school board, liberals who agitated for the poor, who had an air of being with it, hikers in the days when knapsacks were avant-garde. They were people to whom others turned for advice. But inside the house, which they had bought for $20,000 in 1963, slammed doors and loud silences filled the spaces between exquisite meals and good California wine.
Mattie had thought she was getting such a great deal when she moved back in—free rent on a house with a bedroom for each of her children. But it didn’t take long to notice the secrets and memories tiptoeing around, holding their highballs, debonair and amused at first, then hissing in the master bedroom as her mother had when her father returned from his monthly trips to Washington, D.C. Harry was now sleeping in the bedroom where Al had grown up, where at fifteen he had started doing drugs while Isa and Alfred pretended he was doing homework; Ella slept in Mattie’s old room, the one with the slanted ceiling and eaves, behind which all manner of nightmares had waited quietly.
The laundry room where her father had died looked almost exactly the same as before, with its old washer-dryer from Sears, lots of sunlight and trees outside the window, and space to move around. Isa had spent hours here, pawing through her husband’s clothes, looking for clues to his absences, searching her teenage son’s pockets. What did she think she would find—needles, bindles, a treasure map? She’d searched her daughter’s clothes here too, for cigarettes and birth control pills, which she’d found and seized like a customs inspector.
Why, in the current crisis of divorce and bottomless loss, had Mattie run back to the past, to her parents’ home, her husband’s side of the bed? She hadn’t known where else to go. It was free and it was familiar.
“Where else can I go? Nicky owned that house before we got married. It’s his. Otherwise, he doesn’t have much money, I don’t make much. He’ll help us, but I can’t afford to rent anything as nice as this. With a yard.”
When Mattie moved in, Angela, who called herself a Newj, for New Age Jew, flew up to perform an exorcism, a deep-smoke smudge with Native American herbs that made the house smell for days as if the Grateful Dead had been practicing in the garage.
After the first autumn rains, Mattie discovered just how much damage her mother had been disguising over the years with paint and caulking and cabinets. Isa had evidently installed cabinets wherever rot or cracks or mold had appeared. So there were cabinets everywhere, which was great for storage. But if you removed even one section, you discovered that behind the shelves were moldy patches of Sheetrock, exposed live wires in broken sockets, ugly swatches of bore beetle infestation. Mattie shuddered to think what was behind the cabinets in the damper areas—the garage and laundry room.
The rats’ scratching grew louder. She asked her mother to pay for an exterminator. Mattie was barely getting by with child support and a little extra from Nicky and the money she made as a fit model for Sears: she was a perfect size 12. But she had forgotten to get an education.
“Oh, for Chrissakes,” Isa had said when Mattie asked her for the money. “What is it with you? Why don’t you count your blessings for a change?” Mattie did count her blessings, all the time. She always had. She’d always believed in a freelance God, but kept it to herself, as her parents and brother were devout atheists. A few years into her marriage, she’d found a church nearby, where she staggered like Monsieur Hulot into a relationship with Jesus. And she had come out of the closet as a believer. Her brother referred to it as her blind spot. Her mother refused to discuss it, as if Mattie believed in pyramid power. Mattie didn’t care. She thanked God several times a day for what she had, and trusted Him for what she needed. She thanked Him for two healthy children, for her church, for a house with a yard. She thanked God for helping her finally get out of her marriage, and for helping her more or less survive the pain of Angela’s leaving. She even thanked God for giving her such a difficult mother, because she believed that while it had been nearly life-threatening to survive Isa’s mothering, the price she and Al had paid was exactly what it cost to become who they were. She thanked God, and her mother, for giving her Al. And she prayed to accept and believe that she had everything she needed. But she also had rats.
• • •
Ella lay in her crib one afternoon playing with her belly button, in the room where Mattie had grown up. Ella had just woken from the nap she took every day after a vigorous morning at day care. Matti
e couldn’t take her eyes off Ella—her blond hair, pudgy limbs, sweet and self-sufficient character. When Ella was born, she’d been colicky and had to suckle all the time; when she wasn’t nursing, she’d needed to suck on Mattie’s fingers. She’d graduated to a pacifier for a while, then found her thumb. The discovery of her belly button at a year and a half had marked the start of a new relationship, one of pleasure and comfort.
Whenever her shirt and pants gaped open, she’d put her finger inside. She twiddled the belly button, played it as if thumping the twangy connection between her and her mother, her belly a guitar.
Her belly button was an extra sense organ: if something had a nice texture, if it was slippery, say, or warm, she put it against her tummy; her voice would grow thick and furry, and she would say clearly, as if there could be any mistake, “My belly.” Mattie had to make sure she had access through her clothes so she could find it. When she did, her whole body went soft and she let out a sigh.
Mattie reached down in the crib and lifted Ella out. “Let’s go make something with blocks. Harry will be home soon, and we’ll have grilled cheese sandwiches.” Both of them missed Harry when he was at school—he had just started first grade—but life was much more peaceful in the hours when he was gone. Harry was busy, and loud, and lived in movement. He took life by the throat and shook it. He had his father’s temper, his gift for instilling fear in others. He’d made an instant friend of the boy who lived next door, right after they’d arrived in the house. While she walked one afternoon with Ella and Harry, Mattie had noticed a towheaded boy, a year or so younger than Harry, in costume chain mail, a wooden sword dangling from his belt, in the yard next door. He’d been watering a hydrangea bush, as his blonde mother watched from the back step with a dish towel draped over her shoulder. Mattie stopped and waved to the mother, and the boy had whipped around, still holding the hose, so that Ella and Mattie had been sprayed. The mother had come running, with everyone laughing but Ella. Mattie wiped Ella’s face with her T-shirt while Ella tried to decide whether to cry, and the boy’s mother handed Mattie the dish towel. The two boys faced off, staring at each other as if seeing themselves in a mirror.
The mother’s name was Margrethe. She was from Denmark, but had only a faint accent. The boy was named Stefan, and he only whispered. He could hardly contain himself; he had something marvelous hidden in his fist behind his back. His mother urged him to share it.
“No, no, is my little itty tro,” he said with great pleased worry.
“Show Harry your itty tro,” said the mother. Mattie was alarmed to see the agitation on Harry’s face. He seemed to be in a battle to restrain himself from knocking the boy over, as if he was about to say, “I’m going to shoot it out of your hand, boy.”
Stefan peered into the opening of his fist.
“Is my itty tro,” he chirped. “My little itty tro.”
“But what is it?” asked Harry. “What do you do with it?”
Stefan moved his fist through the air like a toy plane. “Zah! Zah!”
Mattie reached for Harry, who was breathing hard now. She felt heat spreading through his T-shirt, and his heart pounding beneath her hand.
“What is his little itty tro?” Mattie asked as nicely as possible.
“I don’t know, this is the first I’ve heard of it,” said the mother.
“Is my itty tro!” Stefan proclaimed, and flew his fist through the air. “Zah zah zah!”
Harry studied Stefan in a hard, bored way. Then he said, quietly, too quietly, “Give me the itty tro.”
Stefan looked at him, worried as a kitten, and took one step back.
“Give me the itty tro!” Harry said. Stefan made a quiet strangled sound, like the sound a hurt deer might make. Harry raised his fist, and Stefan opened his own hand to reveal a feather.
Somehow they ended up best friends. They played together nearly every day.
Mattie now held Ella in her arms. The rats in the walls were squeaking. God, they had gotten so loud. The scratching had been bad enough, but the squeaks sounded like a mob was assembling back there, lighting torches. Beams and rafters were being nibbled into battering rams. Mattie scurried out, carrying Ella, and went to call her mother.
• • •
Isa answered right away, but as usual she was running out the door. “I’ll call you later, darling,” she said.
“No, Mom. We’ve waited long enough. The rats are getting worse and worse, and I really need you to pay for an exterminator.”
“Oh, for Chrissakes, this can’t wait till I get home? Two hours?”
Mattie sighed. Of course it could wait two hours, but with Isa, two hours could turn into two months or two years. “Call me later,” Mattie said, and hung up. “Ees go?” Ella asked. Mattie nodded: Isa go, always go, going, going, gone. She was in her prime at seventy-one, an inspiration to everyone in town, beautiful like an aging model in a vitamin commercial, elegant, lively, opinionated. Mattie was in awe of her energy and drive. Her sharp corners had been sanded over the years, and she’d mellowed slightly along the way, was gentler now, sometimes even able to listen.
Mattie wondered, looking at Ella, how different she herself would have been if Isa had been this way thirty years before, instead of so anxious and critical. Mattie could see that Angela’s best qualities—her spiritual thirst, her soulfulness, her equal capacity for playfulness and grief—were the direct result of having had a tense and neglectful mother like Isa. Angela had suggested that Isa’s gift had been as a foil: looking at her charming unhappiness all those years, Mattie could see exactly who she didn’t want to be when she grew up. Either you became like that, as Mattie and Angela hadn’t, or you became the antidote for the mother’s poison. What you needed you invented, and then gave away, so there would be some of it in your world. What would Ella decide to become—or not? Mattie saw herself and Angela as the trees that grew out of cliffs and boulders above the ocean near Monterey—evergreen creatures, windswept, magnificent, twisty, gnarled pines growing out of the layers of rock, where maybe there had once been some nutrition, maybe there had once been soil from which the trees had sprung, but then the soil had blown away, and they still grew.
• • •
Mattie and Ella sat on the floor in front of the fireplace, eating crackers, building a castle, still waiting for Harry. Their aging Cavalier King Charles spaniel, Marjorie, lay beside them. She had soulful brown eyes and a creamy white coat dappled with reddish-brown. She was old and sick. “Marjorie,” Mattie said, “will you pay for an exterminator?” Like the Little Red Hen trying to get someone to help her with the wheat.
• • •
Harry wept when he got home that afternoon and overheard Mattie tell Al on the phone that she was going to have the rats poisoned. “All they want is a chance to live and take care of their tiny families,” Harry cried in protest. So she abandoned the idea for a time. She took the children to the hardware store and bought some Have-a-Heart traps.
She baited and set them, but it turned out that Have-a-Heart traps were called Have-a-Heart because they didn’t actually trap rats. They did just the opposite, in fact; they seemed to provide the rats with a lovely late-night snack of cheese.
Now she was afraid again all the time.
She wasn’t particularly afraid of mice, but rats were more like snakes—snakes in bad fur coats.
In bed alone at night with no husband or best friend within range to protect her, a snail between two shells, she listened to the mewling of the rats. Sometimes there was an awful soft slithering sound, as if a rat was slowly drawing its tail across the wall behind her bed, and when that happened she went and got Harry and brought him into her bed. Having him in bed with her was about as peaceful as sleeping with a monkey, but better than being alone with the rats.
• • •
By mid-November, darkness had truly arrived, like the darkness that had been inside her for many months now. Go to bed, put on some thick socks, the cold weather said, an
d she did. She knew she was not going to get the lift she’d gotten used to from October’s sun, so she looked for domestic sun: candles, lamplight, fires in the fireplace.
The storms of winter began, tossed down by towering clouds and marked by sudden shifts of light. The stark changes helped: she felt less stuck because the sky wasn’t ever stuck. It grew dark and threatening, and then the sun came out and lit up the leaves. The leaves shone back. Darkness descended again, but through the dark and dreary skies, sunbeams slanted, bright and operatic. She’d had days like this when she’d first met Nicky—dark, bright, dreary, operatic. He had been a lecturer of English at San Francisco State; she was the manager of a restaurant on Shattuck. She had bummed around the country for a while after college, with a boyfriend she had expected to marry. He went to live in Spain and she had joined him for a couple of years, but he drank too much and they fought, and she had returned to California without him. She slept in her old room at Isa’s until her mother’s frantic schedule and wild mood swings started to drive her nuts. Mattie moved out, rented a cheap studio in San Francisco. She went to work as a manager in a waterfront dive, and finally decided to study literature at San Francisco State. She was exhausted by her workload at the restaurant and school, feeling half dead, until she met Nicky. He reached down and pulled her to her feet, made her laugh again, took her dancing, took her to bed, took her to Paris. How had her marriage gone from there, the glorious place where it began, to this ugly end?
