Bare Bones

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by Bobby Bones




  DEDICATION

  For my grandma, my mom, and everyone who ever took a chance on me

  CONTENTS

  Dedication

  Introduction: Or, Why We’re All Here

  1 The Boy Behind the Ninja Turtle Mask

  2 Nerd Alert

  3 Smooth Operator

  4 Country Mouse in the Big City

  5 Stupid Panty Hose Tricks

  6 Bones Bared

  7 Fight. Grind. Repeat. And Sometimes Lose

  8 Bones Goes Country

  9 Gnawing at the Bones

  10 A Total Nightmare

  11 Every Day Is a Good Day

  Acknowledgments

  Photo Section

  About the Author

  Credits

  Copyright

  About the Publisher

  INTRODUCTION:

  OR, WHY WE’RE ALL HERE

  July 13, 2015

  Right now, I am packing to fly to Los Angeles tomorrow, which is crazy. I’ll tell you why.

  But wait. First let me introduce myself.

  Hi. I’m Bobby.

  I do a radio show (a few of them, actually). It’s really the only thing I’m good at. I have done a radio show basically every day of my life since I was a teenager. I don’t like vacations. I don’t even like weekends. I like to work. And to me, my work is talking on the radio. It’s nice to meet you.

  Okay, back to why I’m shoving my stuff in a bag to head out to the West Coast from Nashville, where I live.

  About six months ago, I met up with a casting agent from one of the major networks while she was visiting Nashville, after a friend introduced us. We were talking about life and random stuff at the bar in her hotel. I really didn’t know the importance of her job, which is what happens most of the time when I meet people in really high positions. Too dumb to know I should be networking, I just kind of stumble into things instead.

  Three weeks after I met the casting agent, however, she sent me an e-mail inviting me to L.A. for a “meeting.”

  I’ve had “meetings” before, and most times they are just that, a meeting between you and someone else. You never get a job in that meeting; you rarely get a job from the meeting, either. But you go, because maybe, just maybe, something will come up later and that person you had the meeting with will remember you for it. That’s Hollywood logic for you. (Something I’m still learning. I’m used to Arkansas logic—more on that later.)

  So I flew four and a half hours to Los Angeles just to take the meeting, after which I planned to get on the first flight back to Nashville for a few hours of sleep before the usual 3 A.M. wakeup time for my morning radio show. It was going to be a pretty grueling couple of days, but when a TV network calls, you come a-runnin’.

  As it turned out, the meeting wasn’t just a meeting but a real live job prospect. “We’re doing this show. Unfortunately I can’t really tell you much about it, because we’re keeping it under wraps,” the casting agent said. “But we’d love for you to audition.”

  Hell, yeah!

  I headed over to the studio where the auditions were being held. Now, I’ve interviewed for plenty of radio jobs, but I’d never been to a Hollywood audition. As soon as I entered a room filled with a bunch of great-looking people, I lost most of my hope of landing this gig. Listen, I’m a 6.2 at best on the 1-to-10 scale. But in Pretty People Land, where I was at that very moment, I immediately dropped to no better than a 3.8. There were models, reality stars, CNN anchors. And then there was me.

  It didn’t help my self-esteem any that I had worn jeans, a T-shirt, and tennis shoes when everyone else was in their Sunday best. I had no idea I was supposed to dress up! I am that clueless. As they say, you can take the boy out of Arkansas, but you can’t take the Arkansas out of the boy.

  In the middle of all this Los Angeles cool, that’s exactly where I was catapulted back to: Mountain Pine, Arkansas, the tiny mill town where I grew up. At the audition, everyone, except me, seemed to know one another. The way they hugged and kissed hello, it was if they were all long-lost best friends at a high school reunion. Meanwhile I sat in the corner, staring out from under my baseball hat like a creep. I was right back at Mountain Pine School, the kid who ate lunch by himself in the corner of the cafeteria every day until graduation.

  It was almost a relief when they called my name. Almost, because I had no idea what to expect when I sat down at a table with three other people.

  The casting director said, “Talk about the current events of the day. Here, I’ll get you started.” She threw out a topic from the day’s news and said, “Go!”

  I might suck at socializing (and dressing, apparently), but if there’s one thing that I’m good at, it’s being quick on my feet. The two are related. When you’re not popular as a kid, either you have to be funny or you’ll routinely get the crap beaten out of you. I’ve built a career on the survival skill I honed early on: being a smart aleck who is good with a fast comeback.

  So I sat there for two or three hours giving the ol’ Bobby Bones take on everything from the Kardashians to global warming to the relative merits and demerits of Siri. Meanwhile, the casting director kept switching out the other two people on my panel. It was like the Hunger Games of television.

  “Thank you. Your bags are here,” they told the people asked to leave every single time. “We appreciate your time. You’ll be escorted down.”

  It was excruciating. Whenever the casting agent stood up, I was just thinking, Uh-oh. Please don’t stop at me. Please don’t stop at me. Please don’t stop at me. Please—oh, I made it. Ahhhhh.

  By the time we broke for lunch, a hundred people had been whittled down to thirty-five. After lunch, it was right back to panel after panel after panel, and people getting cut and people getting cut. I’m not kidding. I felt like Katniss Everdeen fighting for her life. There were boy-band members—real-life, once massively famous boy-band members—who got cut right in front of me. Hunger Gamed out, their names went in the sky as they died. Meanwhile I kept getting pushed on and on until the day ended at 6 P.M. with six of us left. “We thought you did a great job,” one of the casting agents said to me.

  I couldn’t believe it. I’d made it through. I was going to be on TV!

  “We’d like to have you come back to the audition next week,” the casting agent continued.

  What! This wasn’t the audition?

  Turns out that this daylong death march was just the start, an early round to cut out the riffraff, which is exactly what I still was at that point (and still feel I am). So a week later, I was back on a Southwest flight from Nashville to L.A. This time, though, I showed up in a suit. I only put on a suit when it’s time to go into battle.

  I knew exactly what my game plan was this time. My job wasn’t to be the funniest; my job wasn’t to be the smartest; my job wasn’t to be the most anything. Actually, that’s not true: my job was to be the most human. While I can hold my own with great talents and have an opinion in the face of big personalities, I’m just a regular guy. I’ve accepted my position in life: that I’m never going to be that cool. And I’m okay with that.

  Throughout my career—whether it’s The Bobby Bones Show broadcasting across the country every morning on the radio for more than a decade, my comedy band Raging Idiots, or this TV show I was trying out for—I’ve always had the same voice, and I’m lucky to have it. Having grown up a trailer park kid on welfare and food stamps, becoming jaded is impossible. Although now I make a good living, which I’m not ashamed of; when you’ve been poor, it never leaves you.

  Oh, wait. I’m gonna have to take a break from writing and continue this book later, because the person’s here at my apartment for my spray tan.

  PAUSE FOR SPRAY TAN. THANKS FOR YOUR PATIENCE.

>   I’m back. I get that it’s funny to talk about how normal I am when a spray-tan person just left my place (that’s why I put it in the book). Listen, I swear I wouldn’t care about being spray-tanned or any kind of tan, but apparently you can’t be pale on TV because the lights wash you out. Because I’m about to go be in front of the cameras for three days, I had to get spray-tanned. Don’t judge me. Even though if, as a kid (when being tan wasn’t a problem since we spent all our time outdoors without our shirts), I could have seen into the future and how much money I’d spend on getting a tan, I’d judge me, too.

  So anyway, at the “real” audition for what I now knew was a new network talk show, I was going to sit at a table and just “be myself.” And that’s what I did. I wasn’t spectacular, but I felt pretty solid, even though there were some big players like the Real Housewives. (And not the crappy ones. Apparently, there are two levels of Housewives. Who knew? There’s, like, the Minor League Housewives who don’t matter very much and the Big League Housewives who make bank.) During the audition, everyone was trying to get in the last word or the most words, in the hope of being noticed. Everyone but me.

  Among all the famous faces talking around me, there was only one person who made me truly starstruck. I first spotted him when he sat down a few seats away from me during lunch. It was the greatest defensive back of all time: Florida State Seminole, All-American, and NFL Hall of Famer—that’s right, I was sitting next to the one and only Prime Time! Deion Sanders!

  I have always been a huge sports geek and did a national sports show for years. As a kid, I watched Deion in the NFL, and now . . . he was sitting right next to me. It was almost too much to believe. To make sure I had proof, I took some pictures of him while he wasn’t looking and sent them to my friends (loser move, I know).

  After I was done being a stalkerazzi I moved a few seats over so that I wasn’t right next to him but a bit closer (I didn’t want to be pushy). Although running through my head in a steady stream were the words, “I’m such a huge fan! I’m such a huge fan!” I played it cool.

  “Hey, man. How you doing? I’m Bobby. Nice to meet you,” I said to Deion freakin’ Sanders.

  “I’m Deion.”

  No kidding!

  “Nice to meet you.”

  Then we continued to eat our very healthy meals, as we are both gentlemen who try to stay in shape. Really, he was the gentleman eating. I was just sitting there thinking, Don’t stare too long. Don’t stare too long. Don’t stare too long. Okay, look. Okay, turn away! all the while texting all my friends, “I’m sitting next to Deion Sanders” or reporting on things I heard him saying to other people: “Deion just said this . . .”

  With lunch over, it was time to be professional again. When I got my new panel, Deion was on it! He sat to the left, I sat to the right, and a random Housewife sat in the middle. Don’t even remember who sat there, because I was in love with Deion.

  We just clicked in that way people talk about when they find their soul mate (although I have no clue about that, actually, since I suck so bad at relationships with women, as you will soon read). Deion and I wound up working together for about five hours that day, much of it spent doing two-man panels. I thought we had formed a bond. But if I was at all unsure, what happened next made it irrefutable.

  Deion and I were backstage talking when someone came around and offered us both a beer.

  “No, thanks,” he said. “I don’t drink.”

  After refusing as well, I said, “I don’t drink, either.”

  “Let me guess. Messed-up parents?”

  “Yeah.”

  “I’ve never had a drink in my life.”

  “Me neither,” I said.

  In that very moment an ironclad bond was forged. It was clear that although we were from two very different worlds, we had experienced the same kind of struggles. Deion said he’d only ever met one other person who felt the same way about drinking. Neither one of us was morally against it; we’d just decided it wasn’t for us, because of what we had seen it do to others.

  We returned to the panels, and if we had chemistry before, we were killing it now. There was a new level of admiration and empathy between us. When he talked I just shut up, not because he was Prime Time, but because this was a dude who had been through tough circumstances. I totally related to and respected him—and wanted to hear what he had to say.

  At the end of the day, after we’d been partnered up for hours, Deion Sanders said to me, “Let me give you my number.”

  “Hey, man. I’m never going to call you,” I told him straight up. “So if I get your number, I’m just telling you now that I will never use it, because I would feel like I am bothering you.”

  But Deion put his number into my phone and said, “I want you to call me.”

  “I’m not going to.”

  Now I’m back in Nashville, packing—just zipped up the ol’ garment bag, which I hate doing; I can’t iron worth crap, never could, and packing a garment bag means that something is going to need to be ironed—because I’m returning to L.A., where I’ll see Deion again. This time, we were told, it’s not an audition but a “chem test,” meaning they are looking for people who work well with the two of us.

  As excited as I am, I also know how the game works. This is a fickle business.

  At any moment Johnny Seacrest, Ryan’s long-lost brother, could show up and take the job. And that’s just how you do. Even if he doesn’t, there are still many obstacles between getting the job and having a TV show. The network has to agree to make the pilot; I have to do well on the pilot; the pilot has to be picked up to run on TV; then viewers have to tune in. The likelihood of me hosting a show with my new good buddy Deion Sanders is slim at best.

  But the way I look at it, every day that I’m moving forward is a day I’m not moving backward. Just the fact that I’m in the race at all is a miracle. It’s crazy that a kid who grew up on welfare in rural Arkansas, with a checked-out mom and no dad, is now someone who finds himself in the same room with network producers and an NFL great, even if I am too weirded out to call him.

  Above my bed, I keep a picture of my hometown’s road sign—MOUNTAIN PINE, POP. 772—as a constant reminder not only of where I come from and how much I’ve gone through to get where I am, but also of the kind of people I talk to on the radio every day. I try to help and entertain them with my show and my stories and hopefully this book. They are people just like me. I’ll never forget that.

  THE BOY BEHIND THE

  NINJA TURTLE MASK

  It sounds weird to say this, but I’ve almost died a bunch of times in my life. The first time I was five years old, running through the rain in the woods of Hot Springs, Arkansas.

  Although I really spent most of my life in the nearby and much smaller town of Mountain Pine, on this fall afternoon in 1985, my mom, dad, little sister, and I were living in a house in Hot Springs. It was only temporary, though. We might have been there for a month.

  I was being chased by my cousin. I say “cousin,” but it was actually my mom’s best friend’s daughter, who we just called a cousin. That’s a southern thing. And there were moments when we all lived together, so the idea of family wasn’t such a stretch. Anyway, she was chasing me with a stick through the front lawn. Well, “lawn” isn’t really accurate, either. In front of our house, there were a lot of woods, which is different. Rich people have lawns; country people have woods. So we had woods.

  I ran up a ladder propped against the house and climbed onto the roof. No way was she going to get me up here. But up the ladder my cousin started, waving that stupid stick. Below me there was an old boat trailer. Why there was a boat trailer parked beside our house, in the woods, I have no idea. We didn’t have a boat.

  I moved to jump onto the grass. But my foot slipped on the rain-slicked roof and I did a belly flop right onto the base of the boat trailer. My stomach hurt so much I couldn’t walk. My cousin scrambled down the ladder and lay down next to me in the wet gras
s. I wouldn’t have slipped if it weren’t for that damn rain! The same rain that rained out my first-ever Little League baseball game that my dad had signed me up for. That was where I was supposed to be, instead of getting chased around by my cousin with a stupid stick.

  I didn’t know any better, so like any dumb kid who grew up in Arkansas, I stayed outside and tried to ignore that I was hurt. Finally I got up and limped into the house and didn’t think much about it. But my stomachache got so bad through the rest of the day and night that I couldn’t eat or sleep. And it was hard to breathe. Where we came from, though, you didn’t just go to the doctor. That’s a poor-person mentality that basically comes from the fact that doctor visits are expensive without insurance (and one I still have today, even though I now have great health insurance). The medical protocol for poor people is: If something hurts, get over it. If something hurts real bad, put salve on it. Something has to hurt real, real bad to merit a trip to any kind of fancy-pants doctor. And forget about the dentist—I didn’t step into one of those guys’ offices until I was in my twenties (and I’m still paying for that).

  The day after my fall onto the boat trailer, my breathing became even more labored. That’s when my mom decided to take me to the hospital. I had only seen the inside of a hospital on TV. So although I was in terrible pain, getting to walk into an actual hospital with real doctors was exciting enough for me to forget about my injury for a moment. However, in the emergency room the pain returned and was so bad that I couldn’t walk anymore. All the novelty wore off. A nurse rushed toward me with a wheelchair, which she immediately rolled into an examination room where people in white coats did whatever they do with X-rays and other big machines. Even at that age, I knew something bad was going on. It all ended when a doctor said to my mom, “We’ve got to get him into surgery immediately.” While a mask was slapped on my face, my mom began to cry. I passed out immediately. (I’m still a total lightweight to this day; a dose of NyQuil and it’s like I’ve been hit by a tranquilizer gun.)

 

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