Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman (Письма к сыну – полный вариант)

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by Филип Дормер Стенхоп Честерфилд


  I can assure you that I drink here very soberly and cautiously, and at the same time keep so cool a diet that I do not find the least symptom of heat, much less of inflammation. By the way, I never had that complaint, in consequence of having drank these waters; for I have had it but four times, and always in the middle of summer. Mr. Hawkins is timorous, even to minutia, and my sister delights in them.

  Charles will be a scholar, if you please; but our little Philip, without being one, will be something or other as good, though I do not yet guess what. I am not of the opinion generally entertained in this country, that man lives by Greek and Latin alone; that is, by knowing a great many words of two dead languages, which nobody living knows perfectly, and which are of no use in the common intercourse of life. Useful knowledge in my opinion consists of modern languages, history, and geography; some Latin may be thrown into the bargain, in compliance with custom, and for closet amusement.

  You are, by this time, certainly tired with this long letter, which I could prove to you from Horace's own words (for I am a scholar) to be a bad one; he says, that water-drinkers can write nothing good: so I am, with real truth and esteem, your most faithful, humble servant, CHESTERFIELD.

  LETTER CCCXVII

  BATH, October 9, 1770.

  MADAM: I am extremely obliged to you for the kind part which you take in my health and life: as to the latter, I am as indifferent myself as any other body can be; but as to the former, I confess care and anxiety, for while I am to crawl upon this planet, I would willingly enjoy the health at least of an insect. How far these waters will restore me to that, moderate degree of health, which alone I aspire at, I have not yet given them a fair trial, having drank them but one week; the only difference I hitherto find is, that I sleep better than I did.

  I beg that you will neither give yourself, nor Mr. Fitzhugh, much trouble about the pine plants; for as it is three years before they fruit, I might as well, at my age, plant oaks, and hope to have the advantage of their timber: however, somebody or other, God knows who, will eat them, as somebody or other will fell and sell the oaks I planted five-and-forty years ago.

  I hope our boys are well; my respects to them both. I am, with the greatest truth, your faithful and humble servant, CHESTERFIELD.

  LETTER CCCXVIII

  BATH, November 4,1770

  MADAM: The post has been more favorable to you than I intended it should, for, upon my word, I answered your former letter the post after I had received it. However you have got a loss, as we say sometimes in Ireland.

  My friends from time to time require bills of health from me in these suspicious times, when the plague is busy in some parts of Europe. All I can say, in answer to their kind inquiries, is, that I have not the distemper properly called the plague; but that I have all the plague of old age and of a shattered carcass. These waters have done me what little good I expected from them; though by no means what I could have wished, for I wished them to be 'les eaux de Jouvence'.

  I had a letter, the other day, from our two boys; Charles' was very finely written, and Philip's very prettily: they are perfectly well, and say that they want nothing. What grown-up people will or can say as much? I am, with the truest esteem, Madam, your most faithful servant. CHESTERFIELD.

  LETTER CCCXIX

  BATH, October 27,1771.

  MADAM: Upon my word, you interest yourself in the state of my existence more than I do myself; for it is worth the care of neither of us. I ordered my valet de chambre, according to your orders, to inform you of my safe arrival here; to which I can add nothing, being neither better nor worse than I was then.

  I am very glad that our boys are well. Pray give them the inclosed.

  I am not at all surprised at Mr.---'s conversion, for he was, at seventeen, the idol of old women, for his gravity, devotion, and dullness. I am, Madam, your most faithful, humble servant, CHESTERFIELD.

  LETTER CCCXX

  TO CHARLES AND PHILIP STANHOPE

  I RECEIVED a few days ago two the best written letters that ever I saw in my life; the one signed Charles Stanhope, the other Philip Stanhope. As for you Charles, I did not wonder at it; for you will take pains, and are a lover of letters; but you, idle rogue, you Phil, how came you to write so well that one can almost say of you two, 'et cantare pores et respondre parati'! Charles will explain this Latin to you.

  I am told, Phil, that you have got a nickname at school, from your intimacy with Master Strangeways; and that they call you Master Strangeways; for to be rude, you are a strange boy. Is this true?

  Tell me what you would have me bring you both from hence, and I will bring it you, when I come to town. In the meantime, God bless you both!

  CHESTERFIELD.

  PG EDITOR'S BOOKMARKS:

  A little learning is a dangerous thing

  A joker is near akin to a buffoon

  A favor may make an enemy, and an injury may make a friend

  Ablest man will sometimes do weak things

  Above all things, avoid speaking of yourself

  Above the frivolous as below the important and the secret

  Above trifles, he is never vehement and eager about them

  Absolute command of your temper

  Abstain from learned ostentation

  Absurd term of genteel and fashionable vices

  Absurd romances of the two last centuries

  According as their interest prompts them to wish

  Acquainted with books, and an absolute stranger to men

  Advice is seldom welcome

  Advise those who do not speak elegantly, not to speak

  Advocate, the friend, but not the bully of virtue

  Affectation of singularity or superiority

  Affectation in dress

  Affectation of business

  All have senses to be gratified

  Always made the best of the best, and never made bad worse

  Always does more than he says

  Always some favorite word for the time being

  Always look people in the face when you speak to them

  Am still unwell; I cannot help it!

  American Colonies

  Ancients and Moderns

  Anxiety for my health and life

  Applauded often, without approving

  Apt to make them think themselves more necessary than they are

  Argumentative, polemical conversations

  Arrogant pedant

  Art of pleasing is the most necessary

  As willing and as apt to be pleased as anybody

  Ascribing the greatest actions to the most trifling causes

  Assenting, but without being servile and abject

  Assertion instead of argument

  Assign the deepest motives for the most trifling actions

  Assurance and intrepidity

  At the first impulse of passion, be silent till you can be soft

  Attacked by ridicule, and, punished with contempt

  Attend to the objects of your expenses, but not to the sums

  Attention to the inside of books

  Attention and civility please all

  Attention

  Author is obscure and difficult in his own language

  Authority

  Avoid cacophony, and, what is very near as bad, monotony

  Avoid singularity

  Awkward address, ungraceful attitudes and actions

  Be neither transported nor depressed by the accidents of life

  Be silent till you can be soft

  Being in the power of every man to hurt him

  Being intelligible is now no longer the fashion

  Better not to seem to understand, than to reply

  Better refuse a favor gracefully, than to grant it clumsily

  Blindness of the understanding is as much to be pitied

  Bold, but with great seeming modesty

  Boroughjobber

  Business must be well, not affectedly dressed

  Business now is to shin
e, not to weigh

  Business by no means forbids pleasures

  BUT OF THIS EVERY MAN WILL BELIEVE AS HE THINKS PROPER

  Can hardly be said to see what they see

  Cannot understand them, or will not desire to understand them

  Cardinal Mazarin

  Cardinal Richelieu

  Cardinal de Retz

  Cardinal Virtues, by first degrading them into weaknesses

  Cautious how we draw inferences

  Cease to love when you cease to be agreeable

  Chameleon, be able to take every different hue

  Characters, that never existed, are insipidly displayed

  Cheerful in the countenance, but without laughing

  Chitchat, useful to keep off improper and too serious subjects

  Choose your pleasures for yourself

  Civility, which is a disposition to accommodate and oblige others

  Clamorers triumph

  Close, without being costive

  Command of our temper, and of our countenance

  Commanding with dignity, you must serve up to it with diligence

  Committing acts of hostility upon the Graces

  Common sense (which, in truth, very uncommon)

  Commonplace observations

  Company is, in truth, a constant state of negotiation

  Complaisance

  Complaisance to every or anybody's opinion

  Complaisance due to the custom of the place

  Complaisant indulgence for people's weaknesses

  Conceal all your learning carefully

  Concealed what learning I had

  Conjectures pass upon us for truths

  Conjectures supply the defect of unattainable knowledge

  Connections

  Connive at knaves, and tolerate fools

  Consciousness of merit makes a man of sense more modest

  Consciousness and an honest pride of doing well

  Consider things in the worst light, to show your skill

  Contempt

  Contempt

  Contempt

  Content yourself with mediocrity in nothing

  Conversationstock being a joint and common property

  Conversation will help you almost as much as books

  Converse with his inferiors without insolence

  Dance to those who pipe

  Darkness visible

  Decides peremptorily upon every subject

  Deep learning is generally tainted with pedantry

  Deepest learning, without goodbreeding, is unwelcome

  Defended by arms, adorned by manners, and improved by laws

  Deserve a little, and you shall have but a little

  Desire to please, and that is the main point

  Desirous of praise from the praiseworthy

  Desirous to make you their friend

  Desirous of pleasing

  Despairs of ever being able to pay

  Dexterity enough to conceal a truth without telling a lie

  Dictate to them while you seem to be directed by them

  Difference in everything between system and practice

  Difficulties seem to them, impossibilities

  Dignity to be kept up in pleasures, as well as in business

  Disagreeable to seem reserved, and very dangerous not to be so

  Disagreeable things may be done so agreeably as almost to oblige

  Disputes with heat

  Dissimulation is only to hide our own cards

  Distinction between simulation and dissimulation

  Distinguish between the useful and the curious

  Do as you would be done by

  Do not become a virtuoso of small wares

  Do what you are about

  Do what you will but do something all day long

  Do as you would be done by

  Do not mistake the tinsel of Tasso for the gold of Virgil

  Does not give it you, but he inflicts it upon you

  Doing, 'de bonne grace', what you could not help doing

  Doing what may deserve to be written

  Doing nothing, and might just as well be asleep

  Doing anything that will deserve to be written

  Done under concern and embarrassment, must be ill done

  Dress like the reasonable people of your own age

  Dress well, and not too well

  Dressed as the generality of people of fashion are

  Ears to hear, but not sense enough to judge

  Easy without negligence

  Easy without too much familiarity

  Economist of your time

  Either do not think, or do not love to think

  Elegance in one language will reproduce itself in all

  Employ your whole time, which few people do

  Endeavor to hear, and know all opinions

  Endeavors to please and oblige our fellowcreatures

  Enemies as if they may one day become one's friends

  Enjoy all those advantages

  Equally forbid insolent contempt, or low envy and jealousy

  ERE TITTERING YOUTH SHALL SHOVE YOU FROM THE STAGE

  Establishing a character of integrity and good manners

  Even where you are sure, seem rather doubtful

  Every numerous assembly is MOB

  Every virtue, has its kindred vice or weakness

  Every man knows that he understands religion and politics

  Every numerous assembly is a mob

  Every man pretends to common sense

  EVERY DAY IS STILL BUT AS THE FIRST

  Everybody is good for something

  Everything has a better and a worse side

  Exalt the gentle in woman and man__above the merely genteel

  Expresses himself with more fire than elegance

  Extremely weary of this silly world

  Eyes and the ears are the only roads to the heart

  Eyes and ears open and mouth mostly shut

  Feed him, and feed upon him at the same time

  Few things which people in general know less, than how to love

  Few people know how to love, or how to hate

  Few dare dissent from an established opinion

  Fiddlefaddle stories, that carry no information along with them

  Fit to live__or not live at all

  Flattering people behind their backs

  Flattery of women

  Flattery

  Flexibility of manners is necessary in the course of the world

  Fools, who can never be undeceived

  Fools never perceive where they are illtimed

  Forge accusations against themselves

  Forgive, but not approve, the bad.

  Fortune stoops to the forward and the bold

  Frank without indiscretion

  Frank, but without indiscretion

  Frank, open, and ingenuous exterior, with a prudent interior

  Frequently make friends of enemies, and enemies of friends

  Friendship upon very slight acquaintance

  Frivolous, idle people, whose time hangs upon their own hands

  Frivolous curiosity about trifles

  Frivolous and superficial pertness

 

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