Holy shit, I think. Vegetative state?
“So, bottom line is that he’s going to die?” I ask, incredulously.
Please let this be a bad, bad dream.
“Yes, it’s inevitable,” the doctor tells us.
“When?” I ask and then hammer him with a whole slew of questions. “Can I go talk to him? Can he hear me? Is he in pain? What are we supposed to do? What am I supposed to do?”
“Yes, you can talk to him.” The doctor is young, good-looking, and has compassionate eyes. If I weren’t in such distress, I’d probably be flirting with him. “He’s highly medicated, and he won’t be in any pain. He’s slipped into a coma, so he won’t talk back, but we believe coma patients can hear you. So go talk to him, tell him you love him, and say goodbye.” He stops and sighs. “I know this is tough, but he signed the back of his driver’s license indicating his wish to be an organ donor. We need your approval for that. He was a strong, healthy man, and his organs could help many families whose loved ones will die without them.”
I zone out most of what he said because all I can focus on is the word was. He was a strong man.
Was?
I turn and glance at Phillip. “Was?” I put my elbow on my knee, hold my chin in my hand, and close my eyes.
How am I supposed to do this?
I cannot do this.
A voice inside my head—probably the same stupid one that can never say no to a dare or take no for an answer—says, You have to.
“You didn’t answer the when part,” I say.
He shakes his head and purses his lips. “Not long. Maybe a few hours; maybe a few minutes.”
“When do you need to know about the organ donation stuff?”
“When you make a decision, let his nurse know, and she’ll get you the appropriate paperwork. You can all go in to see him, but please, no more than two at a time.” He gets down on his knees in front of me, touches my hand, and says seriously, “Jadyn, I’m very sorry about both your mother and father. I was here when they both came in, and we really did everything we could.”
And I realize that this has been hard on him too. “Thank you. I appreciate everything you did,” I manage to say.
Mr. Mac comes walking back down the hall. Mr. Diamond heads him off and updates him on the situation.
“I’m going in there,” I state. I want to see Dad, but I feel sick to my stomach. Part of me feels like if I just pretend this isn’t happening then maybe it won’t be. The other part of me needs to say goodbye. I feel like a big fat chicken.
Get a hold of yourself. You are so not a chicken.
I walk up to Mr. Mac, look at him with well-practiced puppy dog eyes, and give him a hug. He really looked like he could use one and, truthfully, I’m hoping to soften him up a little.
“Would you come in with me?”
Okay, so maybe I’m a bit chicken.
“I don’t know if I can, JJ,” he answers truthfully. “It tears me up to see him like that.”
“Me too. But we have to. We’ll do it together, okay?”
He nods his head yes, and we walk into the ICU.
I hate to say it, but Dad looks worse. His skin is very gray. I don’t know why this is such a shock to me, but it is. I nod my head to Mr. Mac, indicating he can go first.
He puts his hand on my dad’s shoulder and says, “Hey, buddy. Not our best night ever, huh? And we have had some nights, haven’t we?” He pauses, remembering and smiling. Then he continues, “Things aren’t looking so great for you, so I want you to know I’ll take care of your angel, as promised.”
Huge tears stream down his face, and he doesn’t bother to wipe them away.
It’s really hard to watch a grown man cry.
He slowly backs away from the bed, so I walk over and perch gently on the edge of it. The hospital smells like cleaner and medicine and disinfectant, yet through it all I can still smell my dad.
It’s not even his cologne.
It’s just him.
I lay my head across his chest.
“I love you, Daddy. So much. I don’t know what I am going to do without you and Mommy.”
This sucks.
No one should ever have to go through this. It’s just so horribly, incredibly awful.
The organ donation thing comes to mind, and I think if I can save even one family from having to go through this, I should do it.
I walk straight out to the nurse and say, “Let’s do it. Let me sign the papers.”
While I’m signing, she says, “You know you’re doing a wonderful thing. In a few minutes people across the country will get the call they have been hoping and praying for. Because of you.”
“No. Because of my dad,” I say, and walk back in with Dad.
He dies a few hours later.
Phillip’s parents drive us home. We get to their house and, like a robot, I wash my face, brush my teeth, and pull on a pair of Phillip’s sweats and a T-shirt. Danny’s mom whips up some sandwiches. They look good, but I have no desire to eat. I sit there on the sofa and don’t say a word.
Really, no one says a word. I think we’re all in shock.
Finally Mrs. Mac breaks the silence. “I think we should all try to get some sleep.” She turns to me and says, “JJ, the doctor gave us some sleeping pills for you. I think you should take one.”
I shake my head no. “There will be a lot to do tomorrow. Oh, I guess it already is tomorrow. I mean, like, later today. Anyway, I helped my parents plan Grandpa Reynolds funeral last year, so I know there’ll be lots to do, and I don’t want to feel all groggy.” I took a sleeping pill once after I broke my arm and had a hard time staying awake the next day.
Danny’s dad says, “JJ, we can do everything for you, honey. You don’t have to.”
“Yeah, I do,” I tell them. “I think I need to.”
Phillip’s cell rings. “Danny,” he says to me, then gets up and walks into the dining room to talk. Obviously so I can’t hear. As usual, Phillip is trying to protect me.
Like I’m not already painfully aware of what happened tonight.
He walks back into the room and hands me his phone.
“Are you okay?” I ask Danny.
“Ohmigawd, Jay. Yes, are you okay? No, that’s a stupid question. Of course you’re not okay. I am so sorry. God, I should’ve been there with you.”
“You couldn’t have known.”
“I’m headed out the door now. I’ll be there as fast as I can.”
“Don’t do that, Danny. It’s been a long night, and I don’t want to worry about you driving. And we’re all just getting ready to go to bed, so get some sleep first and come in the morning, okay?”
“O-kay,” he answers.
There’s silence on the other end and I wonder if the call dropped, but then Danny sighs, “Jay?”
“Yeah?”
“It wasn’t just about making Jake jealous. See you in a few hours.”
Phillip takes the phone away from me and gives it to Mrs. Diamond.
“Alright. It’s been a long night.” Mrs. Mac stands up and claps her hands together. “Everybody to bed.”
The Diamonds go home and I ask pathetically, “Is it okay if I sleep in Phillip’s room? I don’t wanna be alone.”
“Sure, honey,” Mrs. Mac says, hugs me, and heads to her room.
Phillip grabs my hand and leads me upstairs. He lies on his bed, props a pillow behind his back, and holds out his arm. I snuggle into the crook of it, put my head on his chest, and close my eyes.
Phillip doesn’t say anything to me. He just runs his fingers through my hair over and over again.
It is incredibly soothing and at some point I must have fallen asleep.
I wake up a few hours later, still lying on his shoulder.
“You’re awake,” he whispers.
“Why?—” I start to say, looking at him and wondering where I am.
Then it all comes rushing back.
“Oh God. It really happened?”
“Yeah, it did.” He strokes my hair again.
God, he’s sweet.
“It seems like so long ago, but I’m sorry I yelled at you after the party.”
“I doubt it’ll be the last time,” he chuckles.
“Phillip.”
“Well, at least I hope it won’t be the last time because it would mean you weren’t with me.”
I roll my eyes at him. I don’t get mad at him that often. Just when he disagrees with me.
“I’ll always love my Princess.” He smiles. “Even when she’s mad at me.”
Then he winces and says seriously, “I’m really sorry about everything. This is going to be so rough, but I want you to know that I’m here for you. My family’s here for you.”
And they were there for me.
Especially Phillip.
He stood by my side and held my hand through it all. As I picked out caskets and gravestones, planned the funeral, chose the pallbearers, picked the music, the scriptures, the speakers, and even when I had to decide what clothes they should wear.
And every night, the only way I could go to sleep was lying on his shoulder.
I never could’ve gotten through these last few days without him.
“May they rest in peace,” the pastor says, finishing the eulogy.
Now it’s my turn.
I walk slowly up to the podium at the front of the church, turn, and gaze out at all the people who came to the funeral. My parents really did touch many people’s lives. Mrs. Mac and Mrs. Diamond tried to discourage me from speaking at the funeral, which quite frankly, just made me want to do it more.
Because, really, how could I not?
Hopefully, I can say everything I want to say.
Deep breath.
Game face in place.
Okay.
“I want to share a quote with all of you from a book I’ve been reading. It goes, ‘Do human beings ever realize life, while they live it – every, every minute?’ We’re all busy people and it’s easy to get so wrapped up in life that we forget to live. My parents knew how to live. They enjoyed the little things in life, like sunsets, great parties, telling jokes, hanging out with friends,” I can’t help but smile, “even silly things like giving piggyback rides. I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t want us sitting around here crying over the fact that they are gone. I think they’d rather we celebrate the fact that they lived—every, every minute, and would challenge us all to do the same.”
The lights dim and the presentation starts. My cue to step away from the podium and take my seat.
When we were at the church planning the funeral it was very sad and somber. And I don’t know what hit me, but I looked at Mr. Mac sitting there, not smiling, and I just thought, this is not what Mom and Dad’s lives were about.
If Dad were here, he and Mr. Mac would be laughing and joking about something. They had more inside jokes than a group of seventh-grade girls.
I know you have to do the religious part, and I wanted to do the religious part. But they sorta felt disconnected. The religious part felt more about what was next for them, and I’m happy that they are in heaven and all that, but what about us, the ones they left behind?
We don’t really want them in heaven. We want them back with us.
I want them back with me.
So I told our pastor that I wanted to do something that would make people feel good. To help them remember the fun times, to see that my parents enjoyed their lives.
They loved to celebrate.
So I wanted to do something that would celebrate my parents’ lives.
Phillip, Danny, and I would be outside shooting hoops or playing a game of H-O-R-S-E, and Dad would come out and be like, It’s gorgeous out—a day like today is worth celebrating. I always thought “celebrate” was sorta code for, If I say I’m celebrating something then my wife won’t complain to me about sitting here smoking a stinky cigar. But that wasn’t it. Because before you knew it, Mom would be out there sitting on his lap, drinking a wine cooler, and celebrating with him. Then pretty soon half the neighbors would show up, and they would all be drinking and eating and really celebrating the fact that they were together, that it was a beautiful day. I think they definitely appreciated daily life and not just special occasions. Hell, they made everyday occasions special.
So, even though it was painful, Katie, Lisa, and I went through all our photos and selected a few that showed my parents doing just that.
Celebrating their lives.
Phillip scanned them all into the computer and created a slide show of them set to music.
Notes play and pictures flash by:
Mom as a baby.
Mom with no front teeth, with pigtails, on her bike.
Mom with her high school friends, in their graduation caps and gowns.
Dad as a chubby, bald baby.
Dad dressed as a cowboy, with Uncle John dressed as an Indian.
Dad playing basketball in high school.
Then the two of them together in college, looking goofily in love.
Dad and Mr. Mac in college, togas on and cigars in their mouths.
A big group of dad’s frat brothers, all holding red cups and making silly faces and gestures.
Mom and Dad at a fraternity formal, Mom with bright blue eyeliner and big hair.
Mom with her best friends on Spring Break at the beach.
Mom catching the bouquet at the Mac’s wedding, and Dad pretending to be scared.
Their college graduations.
Mom, with an amazingly happy look on her face, holding out her engagement ring while her friends are gathered around looking at it.
Mom and Dad dancing and kissing at their wedding.
Dad carrying Mom over the threshold of our new house.
A group of their friends in a hot tub on a skiing trip.
Daddy holding me at the hospital the day I was born.
Mom and Julie holding Phillip and me as babies.
Mom holding my hands in the air, teaching me how to walk.
Daddy holding my hands in the air, teaching me the signal for Touchdown, when I was two, with a Nebraska game on the TV in the background and everyone around him dressed in red.
Daddy teaching me to ride a bike.
Christmas morning, wrapping paper everywhere.
My parents at Disney World, watching the parade, with me asleep over Daddy’s shoulder.
Dad, Phillip, Danny, and me playing soccer in the back yard.
Daddy blowing out the candles on a very pathetic-looking cake I had frosted.
Mom and me at my eighth grade graduation.
Our families all standing in front of a fountain in Kansas City, with the Plaza lights aglow around us.
A Thanksgiving Day flag football game, with all our families.
All our neighbors together for the annual block party.
My family, with the Diamonds and the Macs, this past 4th of July.
I glance at Phillip, who’s sitting next to me. When I was going through all the pictures, I realized how much Phillip and I have been together. He was in practically every picture with me, even if he was lurking in the background somewhere.
The screen flashes.
Dad, by the grill, holding a plate of very badly burnt hamburgers with Danny’s dad and Danny laughing.
The slide show is incredible. Phillip didn’t want me to watch it before the funeral, and now I see why. It’s like he got me the perfect gift and didn’t want me to open it early.
What would I ever do without that boy?
I reach over and put my hand on top of his.
He glances at me, and I mouth Thank you to him. He smiles at me as he wipes tears from his eyes.
At the visitations, all the ladies were telling me what a lucky girl I was to have such a devoted and supportive boyfriend. At first, I told them that Phillip was not my boyfriend, just one of my best friends, but most of the ladies I said that to sorta rolled their eyes at me.
&
nbsp; Like Phillip was really my boyfriend, and I was trying to keep it a secret.
When Mrs. Mac told someone that Phillip and I were just very close friends, the lady sneered and practically insinuated that close meant, uh close, as in based on the way he is always touching me, we must be sleeping together.
Which, well, we are, kinda. Since I can’t go to sleep without his shoulder next to me. But, you know, not in the way that lady assumed.
So finally both of us gave up.
It was easier to just agree than to try and explain.
So, when people asked him how his girlfriend was doing, he said, she’s hanging in there. And when people said I had an amazing boyfriend, I smiled and agreed.
And, of course, Phillip had to give me some shit about that.
So last night, when it was just us, he was referring to himself as my amazing boyfriend, my support system, my devoted lover, my, uh, close friend.
He really does make me laugh. And being able to laugh occasionally, in a situation like this, has helped release some of my pent up stress.
At least I haven’t blown yet.
The video ends, and the pastor requests that everyone join us at the place of rest.
And, seriously, this is the part I have been dreading.
This is the part that freaks me out.
The place of rest.
As in, the Cemetery.
Where they will be buried.
And I will never see them again.
Okay, yes, I know they are dead. I know they aren’t coming back.
I know they are never going to talk to me again.
But, for some strange reason—and I know this sounds kind of sick—having their bodies still here, like at the funeral home and here at the church, it’s like they are still a little bit here.
It kills me to look at Mom and Dad lying there in their caskets, not smiling at me, not teasing me, or telling me they love me.
But, at the same time, they are still here.
Well, sorta.
I mean, I definitely believe in God and heaven and all that. And I believe that their souls have gone to heaven, and that someday, when I die, we will be reunited.
But that doesn’t mean I am ready to let their bodies go into the ground.
Kiss Kiss Page 145
