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164. Aditi Tandon, ‘Govt sits on report wanting khap curbs’ The Tribune, 14 May 2011.
165. Phyllis Chesler and Nathan Bloom, ‘Hindu vs. Muslim Honour Killings’ Middle East Quarterly, Summer 2012, pp. 43–52.
166. ‘Techies Death: “girlfriend” arrested’ The Hindu(26 May 2012).
167. Vikram Patel et al, ‘Suicide mortality in India: a nationally representative survey’, The Lancet, Volume 379, Issue 9834, 23 Jun 2012
168. Carol Upadhya and A. R. Vasavi, ‘Work, Culture, and Sociality in the Indian IT Industry: A Sociological Study’, National Institute of Advanced Studies and Indo-Dutch Programme for Alternatives in Development, August 2006.
169. Ibid.
MATCHMAKER, MATCHMAKER
170. Rochona Majumdar, Marriage and Modernity; Family Values in Colonial Bengal (Duke University Press, 2009).
171. Ibid.
172. Ibid.
173. Ibid.
174. A. K. Sur, Sex and Marriage in India: An Ethno-Historical Survey (Bombay: Allied Publishers, 1973).
175. Ibid., p. 20.
176. Ibid., p. 34.
177. Ibid., p. 45.
178. Ibid., p. 47.
179. Ibid., p. 51.
180. George P. Monger, Marriage Customs of the World; From Henna to Honeymoons (Santa Barbara [CA]: ABC CLIO, November 2004) pp. 151–152.
181. A. K. Sur, Sex and Marriage in India; An Ethno-Historical Survey (Bombay: Allied Publishers, 1973).
182. Ibid.
183. Ibid.
184. Ibid.
185. Rochona Majumdar, Marriage and Modernity; Family Values in Colonial Bengal (Duke University Press, 2009), p. 27.
186. Ibid., p. 218.
187. Ibid., p. 219.
188. Nainika Seth and Ravi Patnayakuni, ‘Online Matrimonial Sites and the Transformation of Arranged Marriage in India’, IGI Global, 2009.
189. Meghana Biwalkar, ‘Matchmaker, matchmaker…’, The Business Standard, 3 October 2006.
190. Samantha Iyer, ‘Match Fixing in India; Where Tradition Meets Technology’, Master’s thesis, The University of Texas at Austin, May 2009.
191. Ibid.
192. Rukmini S., “Caste no bar”, in words if not in action’, The Hindu, 5 Aug 2013.
193. Sudhir Kakar, ‘Match fixing’, India Today, 26 October 2007.
194. Prabhu Razdan, ‘Ash to Marry Tree First’, Hindustan Times,28 November 2006.
195. Rochona Majumdar, Marriage and Modernity; Family Values in Colonial Bengal (Duke University Press, 2009), p. 35.
196. Sudhir Kakar, ‘Match fixing’, India Today, 26 October 2007.
THE BIG FAT INDIAN WEDDING
197. Elliot Hannon, ‘India’s Government Aims to Curb Excessive Weddings’, Time World,21 May 2011.
198. Ibid.
199. Sudha Ramachandran, ‘An end to big fat Indian weddings?’ Asia Times,11 May 2001.
200. Shaifali Sandhya, Love Will Follow; Why the Indian Marriage is Burning (Noida: Random House India, 2009).
201. ‘Top Ten Most Outrageous Billionaire Weddings’ Forbes, 26 May 2012.
202. Anupreeta Das, ‘Middle-class India plows new wealth into big weddings’ Christian Science Monitor, 29 September 2005.
203. Ibid.
204. Padma Srinivasan and Gary R. Lee, ‘The Dowry System in Northern India; Women’s Attitudes and Social Change’ Perspectives on Families and Social Change Volume 66, No. 55, December 2004, p. 1109.
205. Ibid., p. 113
206. Lucy Ash, ‘India’s dowry deaths’ BBC NEWS, 16 July 2003.
207. Veena Oldenburg, ‘Dowry Murder; The Imperial Origins of a Cultural Crime’, (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2002), p. xxx.
208. Ibid.
209. Ibid.
210. Ibid.
211. Ibid.
212. Rochona Majumdar, Marriage and Modernity; Family Values in Colonial Bengal (Duke University Press, 2009), p. 241.
213. Anupreeta Das, ‘Middle-class India plows new wealth into big weddings’ Christian Science Monitor, 29 September 2005.
214. Ibid.
215. Ibid.
216. Shaifali Sandhya, Love Will Follow; Why the Indian Marriage is Burning (Noida: Random House India, 2009).
217. Ibid.
218. Shubhangi Swarup, ‘Something Happened to the Indian Wedding’ Open Magazine, 19 June 2010.
219. According to a survey of 1,000 brides by the Fairchild Bridal Group.
220. Sameer Reddy, ‘My Big Fat Indian Wedding’ Newsweek, 12 April 2008.
221. Satish Jha and Ismail Zabha, ‘Wedding bells toll communal harmony in Gujarat’ Daily News & Analysis, 28 February 2011.
222. Prashant Dayal, ‘Govt extends support for mass wedding at Wadia’ Times of India, 27 February 2012.
223. Maitreyee Handique, ‘Making mass weddings an earthly affair’ Live Mint,12 June 2011.
224. ‘Indian Bridal Virginity Tests Spur Criticism’ Huffington Post,25 May 2011.
225. Deepali Gaur Singh, ’Mass Marriages and Virginity Testing in India’ RH Reality Check, Asia,28 September 2009.
BREAKUP NATION
226. Anand Giridharadas, ‘The uncoupling of India Divorces rises, as notions of love changes’ The International Herald Tribune, 19 February 2008.
227. Ibid.
228. Pallavi Pasricha, ‘What makes Delhi the divorce capital?’ Times of India, 4 August 2007.
229. Viju B., ‘Divorce cases in Mumbai soar 86% in less than 10 years’ Times of India, 27 July 2011.
230. Anand Giridharadas, ‘The uncoupling of India Divorces rises, as notions of love changes’ The International Herald Tribune, 20 February 2008.
231. Vicky Nanjappa, ‘Bangalore; The rising divorce rate in the IT sector’ Rediff, 2 August 2007.
232. Odeal D’Souza, ‘Another tag for Bangalore: Divorce Capital’ DNA India, 14 August 2011.
233. Anand Giridharadas, ‘The uncoupling of India Divorces rises, as notions of love changes’ The International Herald Tribune,20 February 2008.
234. Ibid.
235. Gaurav Jain, ‘The Rearranged Marriage’ Tehelka 6 (43), 31 October 2009.
236. Ibid.
237. From an IMRB survey in 2011.
238. Survey done by matrimony portal Bharatmatrimony.com. 1,058 respondents were covered in Chennai, Mumbai, Delhi, Kolkata, Hyderabad, Bangalore, Pune, Madurai, Mysore, Tiruchirappalli, Coimbatore and Jaipur. All women were between 20–30 years of age.
239. Gaurav Jain, ‘The Rearranged Marriage’ Tehelka 6 (43), 31 October 2009.
240. Shaifali Sandhya, Love Will Follow; Why the Indian Marriage is Burning (Noida: Random House India, 2009).
241. India Today Sex Survey, 2011
242. Vineeta Pandey, ‘55,000 Couples Waiting for Divorce in India’ DNA,24 June 2010.
243. Aastha Atray Banan, ‘Waiting forever to break free’ Open Magazine, 1 April 2013.
244. The study was conducted by two NGOs—Save Indian Family Foundation and My Nation.
245. Jane E. Meyers, Jayamala Madathil and Lyne R. Tingle, ‘Marriage Satisfaction and Wellness in India and the United States: A Preliminary Comparison of Arranged Marriages and Marriages of Choice’, Journal of Counseling and Development Volume 83 (2), Spring 2005, pp. 183–190.
246. A period of waiting a Muslim woman observes after the death of her husband or after a divorce. She cannot marry anyone else during this time.
247. Anthony Giddens, Runaway World; How Globalization is Reshaping Our Lives(New York: Routledge Chapman & Hall, 2003).
MODERN LOVE
248. Jaspreet Nijher ‘I have tried and tested live-in formula: Kareena’ Delhi Times Vol. 12, No. 324, 21 November 2012.
249. India Today Sex Survey, 2010
250. Gaurav Jain, ‘The Rearranged Marriage’ Tehelka 6 (43), 31 October 2009.
251. Sanjay Srivastava, personal interview, 6 November 2012.
252. ‘Over 53% children face sexual abuse; Survey’, Times of India,10 April 2007.
253. Abhijit Banerjee, ‘It’s Time to Get Real’ Hindustan Times, 30 October 2012.
254. India Today Sex Survey, 2011.
255. Outlook Sex Survey, 2011.
256. A.K. Sur, Sex and Marriage in India: An Ethno-Historical Survey (Bombay: Allied Publishers 1973), p. 139.
257. John Hart, ‘The Studio 54 of Sex’ The Daily Beast, 7 April 2009.
258. Pariyaram Mathew Chacko, ed. Matriliny in Meghalaya; Tradition and Change (New Delhi: Regency Publications, 1998).
259. Verrier Elwin, The Muria and Their Ghotul (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1992).
260. Ibid.
261. Ibid.
262. Ibid.
263. Meren Longkumer, H. C. Srivastava, Palaniyandi Murugesan, ‘Alcohol Abuse and Risky Sexual Behaviour among the indigenous college students in Shillong, India’ (Mumbai: IIPC, 2000)
264. Richard Burger, Behind the Red Door (Hong Kong: Earnshaw Books Limited, 2012), p. 200.
265. Ibid.
266. Ibid, p. 220.
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