For my parents
Nalini and Rama Krishna Rau
Tamarindus indica:
Tamar-i-Hind, or Date of India. Folklore has it that the tamarind tree is the home of spirits that do not let anything under the tree survive. Accordingly, travellers are advised not to sleep in its shade. The tamarind tree is never used for auspicious ceremonies, as its fruit being sour, it is believed that the ceremony will turn sour and thus become fruitless and lose all meaning.
Kamini
I called my mother every Sunday from the silence of my basement apartment, reluctant to tell her how I yearned to get away from this freezing cold city where even the traffic sounds were muffled by the snow.
“Well, who asked you to go?” Ma would have demanded. “Did somebody tie your hands behind your back and say ‘Go-go to that Calgary North Pole place?’”
So instead I said, “Ma, there are mountains in the distance, all covered with snow. I can see them gleaming like silver cones in the sunlight when I go outside my apartment.”
“You sound like a travel brochure,” said Ma. “I hope you wear that sweater your Aunty Lalli knit for you, you catch cold so easily.”
“These mountains are almost as tall as the Eastern Ghats. Do you remember that trip with Dadda in his inspection saloon?”
“The Western Ghats.”
“We never went up the Western Ghats, Ma. You are talking about the Eastern Ghats.”
“Don’t tell me what I am talking about,” snapped Ma. “We went up Bhore Ghat and you started crying when the engine had to reverse downhill because you thought we were going to crash off the cliffs. Roopa had an asthmatic attack—your father left us nothing but a legacy of sickness—and that foolish office peon we had then, what was his name?”
“Bhurey Lal,” I said. “But Ma, that was not on Bhore Ghat. You are inventing your memories.”
“Yes, Bhurey Lal, he was loyal though, do you remember, he stayed up all night leaning against the fridge door because every time the train jerked the door flew open and all the food fell out? Do you remember now?”
“Ma, I remember perfectly, but it was on the Araku Valley section. Where we stopped in the middle of the Dandakaranya forest and Dadda told us that this was the same forest in the Ramayana where Sita was kidnapped by the demon Ravana. And we got fresh honey from the tribals in the forest.”
“Kamini, what tribals? You are making up stories.”
“Why do you always believe that I am making up stories? I don’t, I never have.”
“There you go again,” said Ma, triumphant. “What did I tell you? Hanh?”
I sighed and changed the subject. Ma still wanted to win every argument, she would never-ever change.
The year that I turned six, I began to sense a strange movement deep inside Ma’s body, a pulsing beneath the skin. Yes, certainly there was a difference. I, who was so sensitive to every nuance in my mother, could feel it every time I climbed into her lap. Ma sat motionless in the verandah, and her hands, normally busy with knitting or hemming, darning or cutting, lay quiet on the folds of her sari. She barely spoke, and I felt that if I had missed my mother before, when she disappeared into one of her moody silences, now I had lost her completely.
She wouldn’t allow me on her lap, pushed me gently away, pleading in a distant voice, “Baby, I am tired, go and play.”
I was suffused with a helpless jealousy against this thing that had stolen Ma. Not even my father’s hug, his stories about the man-eater of Kantabhanji, the elephant who fell in love with a steam engine, the beehives hanging like upside-down palaces beneath a forest bridge, none of these stories diminished my hurt.
“Noni” said Dadda, “come, I will tell you about the Lakshman-jhoola bridge. That bridge is hundreds of years old, it is said, made of rope and wood and prayers. It swings thin as a dream over the River Ganga thundering down a rocky gorge, and on the underside of the bridge is a city of bees. You can hear their buzzing over the sound of rushing water, and you have to walk across the Lakshman-jhoola without shaking it even a bit, for then the queen bee wakes up from her sleep and sends her armies after you. Noni, are you listening?”
I closed my ears to my father’s tale and asked instead, “Dadda, why is Ma so quiet?”
Perhaps I would run away, then Ma would rise from her silence and wail after me, “My darling, come back.” I packed my Meenu doll, a toothbrush and the chocolate bar Dadda had bought from Billimoria Uncle’s petrol bunk.
“Where are you going, my kishmish?” asked Linda Ayah absently.
Even Linda had no time for me, so busy was she fussing over Ma, who was now beginning to look like a taut and lustrous mango.
“Nowhere,” I said, shifting my bag to the other hand.
Linda Ayah looked up sharply. “Uh-huh, what mischief are you up to, monkey-child?” she asked.
I burst into tears and immediately Linda Ayah became all attentive and sweet. “My kanmani, my baby, Linda will hoof-hoof everything away,” she said, wiping my face with the end of her sari, stroking my hair. “Now what is happening, tell me?”
It all tumbled out. Ma had gone away somewhere, only a ghost lived in her body. When Dadda went out of town on line duty I was allowed to sleep in Ma’s room, and when I woke in the night for water or pee-pee, she was not there. The verandah door was open, and when I thought I was going to dry up from thirst, the ghost wandered in pretending to be my mother.
“You dream too much,” said Linda Ayah, her veined arms tight about my body. “Your Ma is not a ghost. She loves you still but you are too heavy for her. She has a baby inside her tummy now, my sugar bit.”
I had three months to get used to the idea of having another child in the house.
When it came time for the baby to be born, Ma went back to her mother’s home in Mandya. My grandmother’s house was full of people, some of whom lived there and others who visited for a couple of days, caught up on all the family gossip and left. I liked the house, for unlike the Railway colony house we lived in, there seemed to be no secrets lurking in the corners of rooms, and best of all, none of the ghosts and goblins about which Linda Ayah told me. Ma was a different person here, giggling with her sisters, allowing her aunts and cousins to pamper her. I wished we could live in that house forever.
When my sister was born, all the relatives were surprised at how dark she was.
“Where did this one come from?” remarked Chinna, Ma’s widowed aunt, who was a permanent member of my grandmother’s household. She cupped the baby’s head with one gnarled hand and cradled its tiny bottom with the other.
“No one in our family is as black as this child. Must be from your husband’s side,” said Ajji, my grandmother. “She looks like a sweeper-caste child.”
How cruel Ajji was, I thought. I glanced at Ma, lying in bed refusing to comment, watching dreamily as the baby was oiled and massaged, bathed and rocked to sleep by Chinna or Ajji. She took my sister from them only to feed her, allowing me to watch the infant suck and snort at the plump nipple. She let me touch the baby’s cheek, smiling as the creature left the breast to suck blindly in the direction of my wondering finger. “Seesee, she likes you already,” she laughed. “She knows that her big sister is going to look after her.”
“Meghna, that’s what we will name her,” suggested Ajji. “She is like a dark, rain-filled cloud.”
Ma did not agree. “No,” she said, “her name is Roopa.”
Afterwards, people looked at the two of us and said that we looked like the sun and its shadow. Ma held Roopa against her breast and said, “No, not the sun and its shadow. You have it all wrong. Kamini and Roopa—wealth and beauty—that is what my two daughters are.”
And some people raised their eyebrows as if to say, “That
darkblack thing, a beauty? Only a fond mother’s eyes can see beauty where it does not lie. After all, if you ask a crow who sings the best in the world, won’t she point to her own chick?”
Ma and Roopa and I stayed for three months at Ajji’s house. That was the amount of time a daughter stayed with her parents after the birth of a child.
“Time enough to be pampered and washed, to rest from the pain of bearing life,” said Ajji firmly, making sure that Ma heard, because she wasn’t willing to keep a married daughter in the house for longer than that. “After that you return to your husband.”
For three months Ma went back to being a girl, sleeping when Roopa did, playing cowrie with me. She sat in the back verandah allowing her oiled limbs to soak up the sun, waited for Chinna to summon her for a bath, moaning with pleasure as steamy-hot water was poured over her puffy body. Later on, she stood pliant and drowsy in her blouse and petticoat while Chinna wound a soft, old sari about her belly.
“To bring your mother’s waist back,” she explained to me, and pulled the cloth so tight that Ma said she couldn’t breathe.
Of all the people in Ajji’s house, Chinna was the most interesting. She was small and quick, with the look of a darting brown bird about her. Her head was shaved clean as she was a widow and was not allowed any vanities such as long hair or pretty clothes. Fate had deprived Chinna of the joys of normal life, yet she enjoyed herself more fully than anybody else I knew. Chinna loved the latest films, clapping enthusiastically with the rowdy theatre crowds when the hero appeared on screen. She smacked her lips over the chocolates that relatives brought for her from England.
“Ah, I can taste a different land, I can taste the sweetness of the people there,” she sighed, delicately unwrapping the silver paper and taking a lick at the little chocolate before popping it into her mouth and sucking noisily. Ajji watched sourly. “Who would think she is a grown woman? Look at how silly she behaves!”
I was frightened of my grandmother, a slow, silent woman who regarded me with what seemed like a complete lack of interest. She never told me stories, like Chinna, nor did she pamper me with sweets and toys. Oh yes, Ajji bought me a new silk lehenga and matching bangles every time we visited, but the gold on the cloth was thinner than it was on Gopal Uncle’s daughter’s.
“Ajji, why is mine less shiny than Aparna’s?” I demanded, piqued by the unfairness.
“What a girl!” exclaimed my grandmother, her mouth stained with red paan juice as if she had drunk blood. “You are lucky that I even got you a nice skirt. Aparna is my son’s child, remember?”
Nono, I did not like Ajji very much at all. Thatha, my grandfather, was all right, but he insisted on reading to me from huge philosophy books, his voice putting me to sleep. “Thus did Krishna explain the nature of the world to Arjuna,” he droned, his hands waving, emphasizing every word that Lord Krishna uttered, while I looked longingly out the window or watched a large black ant march purposefully towards his twitching foot. Thatha had started twitching when he turned sixty, a couple of years before, tiny shudders that travelled in waves all over his liver-spotted body, as if a creature inside was struggling to get out. My cousins and I had made a game out of guessing when the next twitch would attack Thatha, and when the old man found out about it, he would shiver extravagantly to make us laugh. Thatha died three years after Roopa was born, a heart attack seizing his body as he energetically chopped the green shell off a coconut. He had performed this task for as long as I could remember, his left hand cradling the coconut, his right clenched on a cleaver slicing the thin morning air and thuck! The pale, silver water lay revealed like a secret lake, sweet and ready to drink. Ajji grumbled at this ritual, complaining that Thatha was being silly, performing young tricks with an old body. “To show off to you little ones,” she said. “He is fond of children.”
Ajji did not think there was any point in becoming fond of people, especially children, for they grew up and changed, disappointed their parents, filled them with sorrow, got married and left the house, or died before you really knew them. Chinna said that at Ma’s birth the only thing Ajji asked was whether the child was a boy. When the dai said no, Ajji sighed, for now she would have to have another one.
That year the sugar cane yield was so good that everybody who came to see the baby said that she was Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth, incarnate. Putti, Ma’s grandmother, wanted to name her after the goddess, but the family priest said that Ma’s name should begin with a different letter, one that was more auspicious, more in harmony with Ma’s birth stars.
“When Saroja, your Ma, was born,” said Chinna, her old eyes squinting as if searching the past, “you could get a whole garden of beans for a rupee. Why, you could get three bushels of sugar cane fresh from the fields for that princely sum of money. These days a bit of cane is a luxury, even here in this place where the fields are full. What is the world coming to?”
I didn’t want to know about the prices of things, I wanted Chinna to tell me about my mother’s childhood. Did she cry till she had a choking fit, as Ma had told me I used to do? Did she like boiled peanuts better than roasted ones? Did she cry when she fell or strut around showing off her wounds, like my cousin Indu? I believed that if I knew every little thing about Ma, I would be able to understand why she was happier here in this old building with high, thin windows that let in hardly any light than in the grand Railway colony houses where my Dadda waited for us to return with the new baby.
“The month that your Ma was born,” continued Chinna, trying to place Ma in history for me, “the sugar cane was being harvested and rivers of juice turned the soil to mush. If you stuck out your tongue, you could taste the wind laden with sweetness. That year, our neighbour and his son had a terrible fight. Old Thimmaya was a supporter of the British and insisted on having the Union Jack in his own compound. The British, in return for his loyalty, rewarded him handsomely with fertile sugar land. Ah! that Thimmaya was like a posh English gentleman himself, with his fine angrezi shoes which his servant polished with beer! But Bheema joined Gandhi in his struggle for India’s independence and called his father a traitor. He built a pyre on his lawn right before the flagstaff and burned all of Old Thimmaya’s fine English shirts and books, even his watch. A foreign watch with fancy gold work on it! Bheema was a good boy, a patriotic boy you know, and he wanted to marry your mother.”
“Then why didn’t he?” I asked.
“Oh nono! He was of a different caste. Besides, their horoscopes didn’t match at all, and then his father threw him out of the house for causing such gad-bad.”
I could not understand this horoscope business. Your horoscope was supposed to predict your future. The priest would read the position of the stars at your birth and then tell you how your life was going to be. But then everybody I knew should have had a good life, for their horoscopes must have told them what to watch out for. And yet there was Ma’s cousin who had lost his leg in an accident two years ago, and an uncle whose wife had run away from home leaving behind two little children. Take Ma herself. She could not marry Bheema the boy next door because his horoscope did not match hers. And yet she had married Dadda, whose horoscope didn’t exist because he was not even sure when he was born!
Ma never failed to get intensely irritated by this story of the missing horoscope. “Your father says he comes from a family of priests! Probably a lie, like everything else about him. Who ever heard of a priest’s child not having an exact record of his birth? His father must have been the village sweeper!”
My Dadda wasn’t a sweeper’s son. Did a sweeper have such an elegant nose, such a bigwide forehead, such a way with stories? True, he did not tell me anything about his birth, his childhood. I knew my father only as a grownup person who travelled in trains and sometimes told Ma to shut up when she yelled and screamed. Ma, on the other hand, had dozens of stories surrounding her. In fact, there were so many conflicting ones from her brothers and sisters, her mother, grandmother and Chinna, that sometimes Ma
seemed as much a puzzle as Dadda. What was I to make of her when half her relatives claimed that my mother was such a nice, well-behaved child and the other half insisted that she was a stubborn fusspot?
“Saroja and her sisters used to go to school together,” said my grandmother. “Lalli and Kusuma came back home looking as neat as when they left. But your mother, Rama-Rama, what a messy girl she was! And she was the oldest, too!”
Ma’s cousin Radha agreed, “We used to have a little rhyme for your Ma—‘Fuss-miss, fighter-cock, queen of the mud, Sa-ro-ja.’”
The year that Ma was born, the mango tree in the corner of the back yard bore fruit. Ajji said that it was because she had been pouring cow-dung water around the tree for a whole year. Chinna protested that it was because Lakshmi incarnate had arrived in the house. Who to believe?
Ajji spat betel juice into her silver spittoon, wiped her mouth with her sari pallav and remarked, “Hunh! Can a daughter ever be a Goddess Lakshmi in her parents’ home? She carries wealth out of the door! Your Ma climbed trees, tore all her beautiful silk lehengas and lost three gold earrings. I thought she would be a sweet Japanese doll, but things never turn out the way you expect. Such is life, remember that and you will never be disappointed.”
“Don’t believe your Ajji,” whispered Chinna to me. “She was happy. It was your grandfather who wanted a son. Men are like that, they need sons to show off to!” She dragged out a mouldy accounts ledger from the glass-fronted cupboard in the corner of the room. In his fine, curling hand, Thatha, my grandfather, had marked Ma’s birth in his accounts ledger as a list of expenses. Maternity hospital—Rs. 50.00; ayah—Rs. 1.00; sweets—Rs. 2.25; jamedaar—Rs. 1.50. (Chinna said that he grumbled about the high sum spent on the jamedaar, a mere toilet-cleaner, but he knew that it was dangerous to annoy her for it was she who took away the bloody afterbirth and the umblical cord to bury deep in the earth, away from scavenging animals and evil spirits.) The list went on: a pink Canjeevaram sari and a gold necklace, which cost him 200 rupees, for Ajji. If she had borne him a son, it would have been a diamond pendant. But there was still time for that. Ma was only the first child, and a man must have daughters as well.
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