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by Jenna Bush Hager


  E-mail to Barbara from Gampy

  Yes, here I am. The old Gampster who is missing you more than tongue can tell.

  But I am happy you’re happy. I am also pleased you met the Ruperts.

  The Gampster is still in Houston. Tonight we go to A&M where tomorrow Justice Scalia will be speaking at the library. Then in the afternoon I come back to my office where I will meet up with my new brother, POTUS 42. We will jointly do a taping for TODAY show and then go out to Westside Tennis club where, before cheering thousands, we will close out the successful Bush Clinton fund.

  I have enjoyed working with President Clinton. He has been pleasant about your dad and has avoided a lot of chances to take shots at the administration.

  I greatly respect your AIDS work with the kids. I don’t think I could handle the sadness. I would, I am afraid, leap ahead of Doro as Captain of the family Bawl Team.

  What happened to Bird Man. Has he been officially dumped?

  Yes I will be seeing Johan Rupert in Germany at month’s end. I think I am hitchhiking a ride on his plane from Moscow to Geneva.

  I have been travelling constantly and I am tired, slightly grumpy, and ailing—cold at first, then allergies, almost flu. “Tired” is the key word here as I whine on; but the good news is we will be in Kport Friday afternoon for keeps.

  Tommy, Michele, Ariel, Sadie, and Don are all on the point as I type. Paula and Alicia fly up with us on Friday morning. Excitement on my part is overflowing. It’s like when you fill the tub to the top. Then climb in and the water runs over the sides of the tub. Well that’s how excited I am about being back on the “point” and sleeping in that cold air, the waves rocking me into the arms of Morpheus her ownself. Or is it his ownself?

  I miss you terribly. I really do.

  The Enforcer

  JENNA

  At ninety-two, Barbara Bush still writes letters. When my Ganny is cross, or when she is pleased, for that matter, she can’t help but tell you, often in print. Her most recent letter to me arrived typed, its geometric letters practically jumping off the stark white page. From the first sentence, I knew she was angry.

  That summer we had visited my grandparents in Maine and I’d organized a family tennis tournament. The teams were open to anyone, and as the organizer, hoping for a dramatic run to the finals, I picked the local tennis pro to be my partner. Sure enough, we prevailed over the other teams of cousins, uncles, and my aunt Doro. The stage was set for the deciding match against my dear cousin Wendy and her dad, Craig. A dozen family members and a few family friends came out to watch, waiting for some good or at least some entertaining tennis.

  I put on a show. After missing a shot, I dropped down to the clay court to display my athleticism: doing first a plank and then a push-up. When I hit a particularly impressive shot, I did the worm—a body-shaking dance move where I shimmied along the ground—and received lots of cheers. After my partner and I won a game, I lifted my skirt to the audience and shook my huge tennis underpants.

  The person egging me on the most? My father. He cheered, “That’s my girl!” He triggered a chorus of audience laughter, until I was running around the court, dancing a made-up jig and yelling: “Not today!” My partner and I lost the match, but I felt like I had won: In the bright summer sunlight, I had made some of the people I love most laugh.

  Within a few weeks, Maine was long forgotten, the memories faded like the tans on our shoulders. I was back in New York, my mind occupied with the demands of work and children. I stood at my kitchen counter opening mail. Among the flyers and bills, I saw an envelope with my grandmother’s familiar, loopy cursive. In it was a typed note addressed to both my dad and me. Like a lawyer building her case, Ganny recited my every unsportsmanlike infraction, from lifting my skirt to the cheers I had chosen to yell in the heat of the moment. And what was worse, in her eyes, was that I had done it all in front of my mom, my daughters, family guests, and most of all, Gampy, who had been raised with the highest standards of sportsmanship. She pointed out that Gampy’s own mother, who was an avid athlete, a gracious (not to mention great!) tennis player, and a self-effacing woman, would have despised a display like mine. Ganny was deeply disappointed with me because of my behavior, and angry that my dad had encouraged it.

  And that is my grandmother: exacting and determined to protect the ones she loves. My audacity had embarrassed Ganny; she thought her husband deserved a less juvenile display. I’m in my thirties, but my grandmother’s words and reprimands can still sting, making me tear up and sniffle like a child. She had added a handwritten postscript: Throw this letter away. Don’t mention this again! I dutifully tore up the pages as she’d ordered, but the thought that I had disappointed my precious grandfather was too much to bear.

  There have been many other Ganny letters over the years, full of love, sometimes disdain, and always protective to the core. She is a woman of high standards but also fierce loyalty. If she believes you are in the right, she will defend you without reservation.

  In the spring of 2001, Ganny had herself received a critical letter in the mail. Barbara and I had just been caught for underage drinking. In the note, a friend of my mom’s pleaded with my grandmother to intervene and do something about our wild ways. My grandmother read the letter, and then furiously and impulsively penned one back, stating that her granddaughters were doing just fine, that we studied hard and we wanted to do good. She ended with her own zinger: If this woman were a true friend, she should support my mother and mind her own damn business. The Enforcer was doing what she does best: Enforcing! Protecting!

  People stop me all the time—in airports, grocery stores, on the sidewalk—to tell me how much they adore my grandmother. One woman recently came up to me as I was boarding a flight and said, “I always dreamed of having a grandmother like yours! She seems like the type of woman who bakes amazing cookies.” I laughed. I can honestly say that I have never tasted a cookie made by my grandmother. Or a cake, or a pie. I cannot remember Barbara Bush ever baking anything.

  Is it her appearance—her neat sweater sets accessorized with pearls; or that stiffly styled, signature white hair—that makes people think of my grandmother as a domestic maven, a throwback to an earlier, far more deferential time? My Ganny—I can assure you—is a thoroughly modern woman. She has always been blunt. As first lady, she was vocal about things that could have made her unpopular. She came out as pro-choice, having an opinion different from her husband’s, the person she adores most in the world. In 1989, two months after she became first lady, she toured Grandma’s House, a care center for infants and small children with AIDS. There, at a time when many people were still terrified of the disease, she purposely held a baby, kissed a toddler, and hugged a grown woman, all diagnosed with HIV/AIDS, trying to break the deep stigma associated with the disease.

  In private and in public, she speaks her mind, sometimes the very first thought that comes into it. During the 1984 presidential campaign, Ganny was asked to describe the Democratic vice presidential candidate, Geraldine Ferraro, and she replied that the word she would use “rhymes with rich.” (Gampy and Gerry later became friends.) Twenty-four years later, she said of Republican vice presidential candidate Sarah Palin, “I sat next to her once, thought she was beautiful, and I think she’s very happy in Alaska. And I hope she’ll stay there.”

  She’s also more than willing to say what she thinks within her own family. On one visit when my dad put his feet up on her coffee table, she told him, “I don’t care if you are the president of the United States, take your feet off my coffee table.” And my dad did. When Jon Meacham, Gampy’s biographer, earnestly asked her on the back porch at Walker’s Point if she had ever anticipated her son George becoming president, her answer was to laugh until she had tears in her eyes, and then answer with a resounding “No.” If one of us says something smart, her favorite reply is, “Well, that’s using your head for something other than a hat rack!”

  Her love of animals is the stuff of fam
ily legend. She particularly loves her latest dog, Mini, who has bitten almost everyone in the family. So great is her loyalty to her four-legged companion that if someone tries to pet Mini and Mini bites, she will almost always defend Mini.

  But Ganny also has a very tender side. For years she has enjoyed needlepointing, making Christmas stockings for the entire family. Now she is making a stocking reserve, so that all the great-grandchildren, including any who might be born after she passes away, will have a Ganny stocking to hang for Santa. She has even made a plan to have someone else personalize them if she is no longer able.

  Ganny, who married at nineteen, is an explorer. When my grandfather graduated from college they packed up their new baby, George, and drove their red Studebaker from Connecticut to West Texas, where they rented a duplex. The house at least had an indoor bathroom—most of the houses on the block had outhouses—but they had to share it with the residents on the other side of the house, a mother and a daughter who made their living as prostitutes. It must have been quite an experience for Ganny, who had grown up under the huge old oaks in Rye, New York, and was married in a white satin dress with eight bridesmaids. In the next few years, she would move with her husband to Bakersfield, California, and then back to West Texas, to Midland, where the surrounding towns had names like Notrees, meaning there wasn’t even one tree poking up from the ground.

  When my grandmother was in her sixties, she decided she would take her granddaughters, when they reached sixteen, on their own adventure. The two of them would travel to anywhere in the world they wanted. When our turn came, together, of course, since we were twins, Barbara and I chose Italy. We had never been to Europe, and we dreamed of star-filled nights and dining on pasta in piazzas. The three of us did stroll through museums, ruins, and cathedrals, and rode in a gondola, but in Venice, Ganny also took us to the famous Harry’s Bar, announced that it was cocktail hour, and proceeded to buy us our first martini. With each sip, we felt closer to adulthood.

  I didn’t quite realize it then, but Ganny had met Gampy, the love of her life, when she was that same age, sixteen. By the age of twenty-eight, Ganny had already lost her mother in a car accident, given birth to three children, and buried one of them, Robin, who died of leukemia when she was only three. When I was twenty-eight, I was barely a newlywed. Today, my Ganny remembers not the sorrow, but the wonderful feeling of her darling daughter’s “fat little arms around my neck.” After Robin died, my grandfather wrote to his own mother that he liked “to think of Robin as though she were a part, a living part, of our vital and energetic and wonderful family of men and Bar. Bar and I wonder how long this will go on. We hope we will feel this genuine closeness when we are 83 and 82.” And they still do, at ninety-three and ninety-two.

  But there was a time when the sadness almost broke my grandmother, until she heard my then seven-year-old dad solemnly telling his friends he had to go inside because he needed to play with his mom. After that, she insisted everyone get out and live life, herself included. All those summers in the water, sand, and garden in Maine are as much a legacy of that determination as they are of her love of the outdoors.

  I’m not sure if Ganny was tough before or if she became tough because of her early married life, living far from her family and far from everything she knew, grieving alone in dry, dusty West Texas. When at night I tuck in my blond, blue-eyed daughters—girls my dad says look like Robin once did—I cannot imagine how my grandmother found the strength to pass her own daughter’s empty bed. But by the time I got to know her, Ganny’s strength was so powerful it had truly become a force, a life force for those of us who know her.

  For years, one of her favorite places to be has been in her garden at Walker’s Point, planting, weeding, and pruning. I think of her like my childhood picture-book character, Miss Rumphius, who planted fields of lupine to make the world a more beautiful place. Today, Ganny, who is unsteady on her legs, rides around on a scooter, inspecting the landscaping, looking for places that need to be thinned or cleaned out, spots to add new plantings, all to ensure that Walker’s Point will be even more beautiful after she is gone.

  At night when we all gather for dinner, she still sits, as she always has, close to her husband. When someone says something particularly funny, she will laugh uproariously. Then she will look over at Gampy, who does not hear as well as she does, and will quickly add, “Say it again; say it again, please, so that Gampy can hear it too.”

  When I look in the mirror now, I see bits of my mother’s features and recognize the sound of her Texas twang. But a lot of times when I speak, it’s my grandmother, my strong, impulsively hilarious grandmother, whose voice I hear.

  Rational Dreamer

  BARBARA

  I never thought I would launch an organization; that was something other people did. In fact, it was my slightly bossy twin, Jenna, who first insisted I do so.

  The official start of my story began when Jenna attended an AIDS and Young Leaders conference hosted by UNAIDS and Google. But in truth it began long before that. Jenna and I grew up in the age of AIDS; the disease was first identified in the United States the year before we were born. We were eight when Ryan White, the American teenager who became one of AIDS’ poster children, died. We were eleven when the first HIV drug cocktail was introduced. And we were twenty-one when our father launched PEPFAR, the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief, to deliver HIV/AIDS medications to the continent of Africa, home of the greatest concentration of infections in the world.

  I had traveled with my parents to East Africa when PEPFAR was launched. It’s the greatest of clichés to say that my eyes were opened, but they were. Uganda, where we first landed, was a feast for the senses. The colors were vibrant and the energy and motion enthralling. The cities were alive with an entrepreneurial spirit, people opening makeshift stalls and selling items on almost every street corner, with traffic and pedestrians converging in a great surge toward their destinations. Standing in the midst of it, I had an overwhelming sense that I, too, needed to get moving, that I should be racing forward with my own life.

  As the days passed, my eyes were opened in another way. In sparse, freshly scrubbed clinics (it was a presidential visit after all), I saw the opposite of this vibrancy. I saw wasting and the skeletal descent toward death. I saw lives that did not have to end, and a disease that could be halted by getting medicine to those in need. Hundreds of people waited in lines in the streets for drugs that had been readily available for years in the West—though in the US, we were still dealing with the harsh stigma associated with HIV/AIDS and the complexity of accessing health care, it was becoming increasingly rare to see Americans affected by the disease looking like walking skeletons. Rather, they were thriving physically. The tool keeping people alive—antiretroviral drugs—wasn’t readily accessible on the African continent. This was infuriating to my twenty-one-year-old mind—how could we live in a world where medicines existed but weren’t distributed to places considered “poor” or “complicated”? I felt like I had to be part of something—small or large—to ensure that people around the world were treated fairly, which meant access to medicines and care that could and would save their lives. Once I knew HIV drugs existed, I couldn’t look away.

  After college, I worked in the Red Cross Children’s Hospital in South Africa and for UNICEF in Botswana. I completed my assignments, I received my performance reviews, and then I flew back home. But I wanted to do more.

  For the next few years, I worked in New York, which I loved. I read the news, I went to speeches, I kept up with the latest in global health, although I didn’t know where this knowledge would lead. Until the day in 2008 when my sister called me from the aids2031 conference. She was in the audience when the head of UNAIDS (and one of the researchers who discovered Ebola in the 1970s), Peter Piot, challenged the room to engage our generation in solving global health issues. One of her tablemates raised his hand and suggested a Teach For America–like model for global health. Jenna
called, excited, because she had heard me mention a similar concept.

  A few weeks later, I headed to Jenna’s home in Baltimore to meet a few of the conference attendees for the weekend. We had no intention of starting an organization—it was just a group of global health nerds excited to share ideas. We ate sushi, sang karaoke, and drew on whiteboards. From that weekend, Global Health Corps (GHC) was born. The idea was in fact modeled a bit on Teach For America: Recruit creative, committed twenty-somethings and place them in settings where they are immersed in the challenges of health-care delivery, becoming innovators and problem solvers. It was Jenna who pressed her global-minded sis to pack her bags.

  We started with the idea that today’s challenges—whether the water crisis in Flint, Michigan, or Zika—won’t be solved by a smartphone, but by smart people: These problems require human intervention. Our second idea was equally straightforward: We believe that health is a human right. Our vision was people and patients at the center, with creative systems designed to serve them. And we wanted everyone learning: an American learning from a Rwandan learning from a Haitian. The premise was that GHC teams would always pair two different nationalities, for example, a Nigerian and an American working together on a project in Newark, New Jersey, because each would bring a different perspective and a fresh set of eyes.

  But while our ideas were big, Global Health Corps started small. It began as a gamble; we had two staff members, including me. I had quit my safe teaching job at the Cooper Hewitt Museum, and GHC had a scant two months’ worth of funding in the bank. In the beginning, one of my GHC partners, Jonny, would regularly spend the night under the table in our “office”—a donated conference room—because we were working around the clock. It was convenient, really, but scared the hell out of the first person walking into our office every morning—greeted by Jonny popping out from under the table.

 

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