melt… into each other
Tantra slows down sex so that it’s sensual and connected. One of the ways it does this is through controlled breathing. UNDRESS and sit opposite each other. Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breath. Make a conscious effort to breathe DEEPLY so that your belly swells outward. Hold your partner’s gaze and focus on loving feelings. Breathe IN SYNC with each other. Do this for long enough without giggling or pouncing on each other and you’ll BECOME ONE, not knowing where you end and your lover begins.
WEEK 50
ANKLE BRACE
There’s a stillness to this position because it’s so difficult to move. He traps her feet or ankles in his grasp and she traps his. You’re forced into coming up with creative moves – try wriggling against each other (trying to escape). Or try pelvic ripples or vibrations. Another alternative is to stay still. His erection may wane, but the challenge is to revive it using the power of erotic suggestion – that is, talk dirty!
wriggle & writhe
play… the flute
As in many Tantric practices, the pleasure of this technique is gradual. It involves sex, but not as you know it. Instead of the normal thrusting and grinding, you’re going to stay almost completely still. The aim is to channel sexual energy upward through your chakras (see pages 120–121), via a pathway known as “the inner flute”, rather than to disperse it through orgasm.
STAGE 1: He sits and she positions herself astride him, guiding his penis into her. She pumps her love muscles (see pages 116–117). Feel sexual energy building up in your pelvis. Inhale together, contracting your love muscles as you do so. Imagine that you’re inhaling the air through your genitals. Feel your energy rise toward your sacral chakra. Now exhale together and let the energy flow back down and out of your inner flute.
STAGE 2: Now as you inhale and contract, imagine a bright white light at your base chakra that spirals up toward your sacral chakra. As you exhale-relax, picture the spiral of light moving back down your inner flute and out of your body.
STAGE 3: Now combine love-muscle contraction, breathing and visualization to pull your sexual energy to the next chakra: just below your ribcage. Raise and lower the energy a few times. Now do the same with the heart chakra. In time, you can do the exercise to the point where you raise and lower energy to and from all the chakras.
WEEK 51
MANDARIN DUCKS
For the most pleasurable start to the day, do this in the morning. Guys: cuddle behind her and mould yourself to her curves. Take things slowly – lightly run your hand along the curve of her hip and down her thigh, gently cup a breast in your palm. Slip your hand between her legs – keep the pace slow and your touch gentle. When she’s ready to receive you, slide in slowly and stay still. Prop yourself on your elbow so you can see each other (this position allows the perfect combination of rear-entry intensity and face-to-face intimacy).
slow & seductive
merge… through breathing
Being totally at one with your lover can be incredibly arousing. The following technique is described as a delicious dance of breath, energy and light. If you practise it often, it will become an ecstatic way to join with your partner, but before you try it, practise the other Tantric exercises in this book.
ASSUME POSITIONS: He sits on the floor with his legs parted and she sits astride him so that you can hug each other. However, he doesn’t have to be inside her; sitting in this embrace position will mean the genitals are in contact, but there is no penetration.
STAGE 1: Rock your pelvises back and forth (see pages 124–125). Take the tingling, erotic feeling in your genitals and pull it up your inner flute (see pages 134–135). Gaze into each other’s eyes. Feel your sexual energy expanding and connecting you.
STAGE 2: Now kiss – a deep, passionate, mouth-to-mouth kiss. Keep your lips together and begin inverted breathing. She exhales into his mouth and he pulls her breath all the way down his inner flute to his genitals. Then he pulls his energy back up and exhales into her mouth (you may want to practise this technique on its own first). Now bring in the pelvic rocking and love-muscle contractions. He rocks forward, exhales into her mouth and relaxes his love muscles, while she rocks back, inhales his breath and contracts her love muscles. Let sexual feelings permeate your whole body. Enjoy it.
WEEK 52
DRAGON TURN
Knowing the pleasure you’re both getting from a sex position adds to the eroticism. In Dragon Turn the deep thrusting feels great all round – giving him excellent stimulation and her a fantastic full feeling. She lies on her back and uses her hands to spread her legs wide apart. He gets on all fours and enters her. This position allows for free thrusting because her legs are open wide. He should spend time moving in and out of the entrance to her vagina, too, where her sensitive nerve endings lie.
the perfect end…
The hope is that you will be fully turned on and tired out from a super-session of lovemaking, especially if you’ve been picking and choosing a variety of positions from this book! According to the Kama Sutra, the end of sex should be as sensual and attentive as the beginning, so make your lovemaking special right to the end by coming down from sex slowly and sensually together.
LIE TOGETHER: If following a lovemaking session you and your lover are in the habit of jumping out of bed, falling asleep or turning on the television, try simply lying in each other’s arms instead. Even if it’s just for 10 minutes, it will make all the difference. The ideal positions for doing this are the spoons position or a woman-on-top position (as long as she’s not too heavy).
BE AT ONE TOGETHER: Once you’re both fully pleasured, hold each other and let your breathing gradually slow down. Synchronize your breathing with your lover’s until you are both taking deep relaxed belly breaths in perfect harmony. You may be in a state of deep relaxation, but try to stay present with your lover. Stay quiet and just hold each other. Enjoy the altered state of consciousness that sex can bring. Observe any images or fantasies that drift through your mind and, at this point, whisper them to your lover if you feel like it. Concentrate on the warm, loving feelings you have for your partner and gently caress each other. Imagine that you’re wrapped in a cocoon of light.
Index
Ankle Brace 132-133
Ape 102-103
Bamboo 44
Bow Position, The 26-27
Butterfly 119
chakras 120-121, 134-135
Cicada on a Bough 14-15
Cicada to the Side 80-81
Clasping Position, The 45
Congress of a Cow 78
Contrary Position, The 25
Cross-Legged Position 111
Dragon Turn 140-141
Driving the Peg Home 100
Eighth Posture 122-123
Elephant 126-127
Eleventh Posture 19
Fifth Posture 48-49
First Posture 79
Fish 114-115
Fourth Posture 110
Galloping Horse 61
Goat and the Tree, The 34–35
G-Spot 28-29
Half-Pressed Position 24
Horse Shakes Feet 72-73
Kama’s Wheel 98-99
Large Bee 85
Leg Raise 18
Lotus Position 13
Mandarin Ducks 136-137
massage 16-17, 40-41
Mutual View of the Buttocks 106-7
Ninth Posture 30
oral pleasure 36-37, 88-89
Packed Position 128
Position of Indrani 84
Pressed Position 60
Pressing Position 12
Rainbow Arch 58
Riding the Member 90
Rising Position 68-69
Seagulls on the Wing 38–9
Silkworm Spinning a Cocoon 118
Sitting on Top Position 129
Sixth Posture 86-87
spanking 92-93
Splitting of a Bamboo 20-21
Suspended Congres
s 94-95
Swing, The 54-55
Tenth Position 91
Thigh Clasp 52
Tiger Step 53
Turning Position, The 31
Twining Position, The 101
Widely Opened Position 64-65
Yawning Position 59
Author’s acknowledgments
Thanks to Grace Cheetham, Manisha Patel, Luana Gobbo, Sailesh Patel and Dawn Bates at Duncan Baird Publishers.
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