by Jan Spiller
COSMIC LOVE
A Bantam Book / January 2008
Published by Bantam Dell
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Copyright © 2008 by Jan Spiller
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Spiller, Jan.
Cosmic love : secrets of the astrology of intimacy revealed / Jan Spiller.
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1. Astrology. 2. Love—Miscellanea. 3. Intimacy (Psychology)—Miscellanea. I. Title.
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CONTENTS
Title Page
Copyright
The Location of Your North Node
Introduction
Essential Information
Part I: THE SIGNS
Bringing Out the Best in Love Relationships
ARIES NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
TAURUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
GEMINI NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
CANCER NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
LEO NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
VIRGO NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
LIBRA NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
SCORPIO NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
SAGITTARIUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
CAPRICORN NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
AQUARIUS NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
PISCES NORTH NODE PEOPLE
How Others Can Help Them Heal
Part II: THE HOUSES
Destiny’s Gifts
Introduction to the Houses
RECEIVING LOVE: GIFTS YOUR PARTNER BRINGS YOU
THEIR North Node falls in your:
1ST HOUSE
2ND HOUSE
3RD HOUSE
4TH HOUSE
5TH HOUSE
6TH HOUSE
7TH HOUSE
8TH HOUSE
9TH HOUSE
10TH HOUSE
11TH HOUSE
12TH HOUSE
GIVING LOVE: GIFTS YOU BRING TO YOUR PARTNER
YOUR North Node falls in their:
1ST HOUSE
2ND HOUSE
3RD HOUSE
4TH HOUSE
5TH HOUSE
6TH HOUSE
7TH HOUSE
8TH HOUSE
9TH HOUSE
10TH HOUSE
11TH HOUSE
12TH HOUSE
Part III: THE ASPECTS
Navigating the Energy of Past Life Connections
Information on the Aspects
NORTH NODE CONJUNCTIONS
People Who Help Along the Way
Sun
Moon
Mercury
Venus
Mars
Jupiter
Saturn
Uranus
Neptune
Pluto
Chiron
Ascendant
Midheaven
North Node
South Node
SOUTH NODE CONJUNCTIONS
Past Life Contracts
Sun
Moon
Mercury
Venus
Mars
Jupiter
Saturn
Uranus
Neptune
Pluto
Chiron
The Double Conjunction
THE COMPOSITE CHART
Conclusion
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Also by Jan Spiller
About the Author
VISIT WWW.COSMICLOVE.COM
THE LOCATION OF YOUR NORTH NODE
Locate the span that includes your birth date in the chart below. Your North Node position is listed to the right of these dates.
May 10, 1899–Jan. 21, 1901….. Sagittarius
Jan. 22, 1901–July 21, 1902….. Scorpio
July 22, 1902–Jan. 15, 1904….. Libra
Jan. 16, 1904–Sept. 18, 1905…. Virgo
Sept. 19, 1905–Mar. 30, 1907…Leo
Mar. 31, 1907–Sept. 27, 1908…Cancer
Sept. 28, 1908–Mar. 23, 1910…Gemini
Mar. 24, 1910–Dec. 8, 1911….. Taurus
Dec. 9, 1911–June 6, 1913……Aries
June 7, 1913–Dec. 3, 1914……Pisces
Dec. 4, 1914–May 31, 1916….. Aquarius
June 1, 1916–Feb. 13, 1918….. Capricorn
Feb. 14, 1918–Aug. 15, 1919…. Sagittarius
Aug. 16, 1919–Feb. 7, 1921….. Scorpio
Feb. 8, 1921–Aug. 23, 1922….. Libra
Aug. 24, 1922–Apr. 23, 1924…. Virgo
Apr. 24, 1924–Oct. 26, 1925…. Leo
Oct. 27, 1925–Apr. 16, 1927…. Cancer
Apr. 17, 1927–Dec. 28, 1928…. Gemini
Dec. 29, 1928–July 7, 1930….. Taurus
July 8, 1930–Dec. 28, 1931….. Aries
Dec. 29, 1931–June 24, 1933…. Pisces
June 25, 1933–Mar. 8, 1935…. Aquarius
Mar. 9, 1935–Sept. 14, 1936…. Capricorn
Sept. 15, 1936–Mar. 3, 1938…. Sagittarius
Mar. 4, 1938–Sept. 12, 1939…. Scorpio
Sept. 13, 1939–May 24, 1941…Libra
May 25, 1941–Nov. 21, 1942…. Virgo
Nov. 22, 1942–May 11, 1944…. Leo
May 12, 1944–Dec. 13, 1945…. Cancer
Dec. 14, 1945–Aug. 2, 1947….. Gemini
Aug. 3, 1947–Jan. 26, 1949….. Taurus
Jan. 27, 1949–July 26, 1950….. Aries
July 27, 1950–Mar. 28, 1952…. Pisces
Mar. 29, 1952–Oct. 9, 1953…. Aquarius
Oct. 10, 1953–Apr. 2, 1955….. Capricorn
Apr. 3, 1955–Oct. 4, 1956……Sagittarius
Oct. 5, 1956–June 16, 1958….. Scorpio
June 17, 1958–Dec. 15, 1959…. Libra
Dec. 16, 1959–June 10, 1961…. Virgo
June 11, 1961–Dec. 23, 1962…. Leo
Dec. 24, 1962–Aug. 25, 1964…Cancer
Aug. 26, 1964–Feb. 19, 1966…Gemini
Feb. 20, 1966–Aug. 19, 1967…. Taurus
Aug. 20, 1967–Apr. 19, 1969…. Aries
Apr. 20, 1969–Nov. 2, 1970….. Pisces
Nov. 3, 1970–Apr. 27, 1972….. Aquarius
Apr. 28, 1972–Oct. 27, 1973…. Capricorn
Oct. 28, 1973–July 10, 1975….. Sagittarius
July 11, 1975–Jan. 7, 1977……. Scorpio
Jan. 8, 1977–July 5, 1978……. Libra
July 6, 1978–Jan. 12, 1980……Virgo
Jan. 13, 1980–Sept. 24, 1981…. Leo
Sept. 25, 1981–Mar. 16, 19
83…Cancer
Mar. 17, 1983–Sept. 11, 1984…Gemini
Sept. 12, 1984–Apr. 6, 1986…. Taurus
Apr. 7, 1986–Dec. 2, 1987……Aries
Dec. 3, 1987–May 22, 1989….. Pisces
May 23, 1989–Nov. 18, 1990…Aquarius
Nov. 19, 1990–Aug. 1, 1992…. Capricorn
Aug. 2, 1992–Feb. 1, 1994…... Sagittarius
Feb. 2, 1994–July 31, 1995…... Scorpio
Aug. 1, 1995–Jan. 25, 1997….. Libra
Jan. 26, 1997–Oct. 20, 1998…. Virgo
Oct. 21, 1998–Apr. 9, 2000….. Leo
Apr. 10, 2000–Oct. 12, 2001…. Cancer
Oct. 13, 2001–Apr. 13, 2003…. Gemini
Apr. 14, 2003–Dec. 25, 2004…Taurus
Dec. 26, 2004–June 21, 2006…Aries
June 22, 2006–Dec. 18, 2007…. Pisces
Dec. 19, 2007–Aug. 21, 2009…. Aquarius
Aug. 22, 2009–Mar. 3, 2011…. Capricorn
Mar. 4, 2011–Aug. 29, 2012…. Sagittarius
Aug. 30, 2012–Feb. 18, 2014…. Scorpio
Feb. 19, 2014–Nov. 11, 2015…. Libra
Nov. 12, 2015–May 9, 2017….. Virgo
May 10, 2017–Nov. 6, 2018….. Leo
Nov. 7, 2018–May 4, 2020…... Cancer
May 5, 2020–Jan. 18, 2022….. Gemini
Jan. 19, 2022–July 17, 2023….. Taurus
July 18, 2023–Jan. 11, 2025….. Aries
Jan. 12, 2025–July 26, 2026…. Pisces
July 27, 2026–Mar. 26, 2028…. Aquarius
Mar. 27, 2028–Sept. 23, 2029…Capricorn
Sept. 24, 2029–Mar. 20, 2031…Sagittarius
Mar. 21, 2031–Dec. 1, 2032…. Scorpio
Dec. 2, 2032–June 3, 2034….. Libra
June 4, 2034–Nov. 29, 2035…. Virgo
Nov. 30, 2035–May 29, 2037…Leo
May 30, 2037–Feb. 9, 2039….. Cancer
Feb. 10, 2039–Aug. 10, 2040…. Gemini
Aug. 11, 2040–Feb. 3, 2042….. Taurus
Feb. 4, 2042–Aug. 18, 2043….. Aries
Aug. 19, 2043–Apr. 18, 2045…. Pisces
Apr. 19, 2045–Oct. 18, 2046…. Aquarius
Oct. 19, 2046–Apr. 11, 2048…. Capricorn
Apr. 12, 2048–Dec. 14, 2049…. Sagittarius
Dec. 15, 2049–June 28, 2051…. Scorpio
INTRODUCTION
Ultimately, all of our efforts are really motivated by our underlying belief in the possibility of relating to others in ways that consistently bring Love and intimacy into our lives. We strive to attain material things (money, possessions, etc.) in the hope that we will then be in a better position to attract love and will feel “safe” enough to allow ourselves to experience it.
Then many of us work on understanding ourselves so we can grow to a point where we no longer sabotage our relationships through our own unconscious attitudes and behaviors. It’s as if we “know” on a deep level that somehow it is possible to reach a place where love and intimacy are ongoing experiences in our relationships with others. My motivation in writing this book sprang from my desire to play a part in the sacred opportunity to bring our daily human experience closer to that potential.
The ideas in this book are being presented for the first time. They have emerged from more than thirty years of private readings that included active research with my clients on the effects of the nodal axis in their relationships. (See Essential Information for an explanation of the nodal axis.) It was their openness about the struggles they encountered, what they did that helped resolve them, and what behaviors and actions seemed to make things worse that gave me insight into the inner workings of the nodal groups.
Together we discovered old, ongoing patterns that had been sabotaging their relationships, and experimented with new ways of directing the energy that could heal these blocks to intimacy that they had been experiencing. Once they could objectively see the unconscious behaviors that had been undermining them, the insight alone helped them begin to dissolve these automatic, self-defeating responses.
Through the insights available in these pages, you can also become aware of—and choose to release—the attitudes, reactions, and behaviors that have been disrupting your relationships. By experimenting with the suggestions recommended for your specific nodal group, you can open the door to creating greater love and intimacy with those who are important to you.
“Love,” as it is used in this book, refers to the universal flow of unconditional Loving energy that permeates the atmosphere and our own being. However, we have been trained from childhood to experience Love by compartmentalizing it on a personal level: love of family, friends, romantic love, love of children, etc. Love itself includes—and yet is bigger—than all these confining labels. We are not isolated. Love flows through us constantly, and all we need to do to experience more Love is to begin participating—in a conscious, positive way—in the exchange of giving and receiving Love with others.
Facilitating this exchange on the highest level requires us to accept that each person who is significant in your life represents an opportunity to increase your capacity for a deeper experience of Love. By consistently choosing the highest path of true authenticity over a desired outcome in the relationship, we can actively cooperate with the process of becoming more whole and genuine, and earn the right to experience even greater exchanges of Love to satisfy and heal us.
Astrology: A Practical Science
Astrology is not a religion. A religion implies a certain amount of faith and trust, a belief in something intangible. Astrology is a science—a mathematical graph of your internal wiring, kind of like an X-ray of your unique psychological and emotional individuality. And like any true science, when used appropriately the knowledge it contains can lead to manifesting predictable results.
You do not have to believe in astrology to use this book. It’s very simple and practical: Just try some of the experiments that are suggested and the results will tell you whether or not it works for you.
Ultimately, what we all desire in our relationships is to deeply connect with the other person in a way that opens our heart—and theirs—so that an exchange of love can be experienced. And yet this is not what we usually end up creating with those who are most important to us.
“Insanity” has been defined as doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. If we do not consciously change the way we interact with others, we will just keep experiencing a repetition of what we have already known. To change old patterns that are sabotaging our success and happiness we need to experiment with new ways to approach our partners.
So my suggestion is that from the experiments recommended for your nodal group you choose those that resonate with you personally and try them—one at a time—until you begin to see results in the relationship involved. Don’t start imagining “down the road.” Just be willing to take that first step and see what happens.
Recognizing Potential
When two people come together in a relationship, the possibilities inherent in their combined energies emerge. Because everyone is unique, so is the potential that arises in each relationship. Each person will bring you a different experience of yourself.
Many of us think we “know” what we’re looking for in a mate. However, when we long for a specific type of person, it is really a certain experience we are seeking—and we really have no idea how the person who could bring us that experience will be “packaged” on the physical level. In fact, we can be so distracted looking for someone who fits our preconceived image that we may miss out on what the Universe knows will actually make us happy. We can avoid this by being more aware of the potential for mutual growth that is actually emerging with the people Life brings our way.
It’s also a misconception to think
that we need to have it all together in order to attract the right mate. Often it is combining with another that puts everything together. For example, a man and a woman may have less money than each thinks he/she should have, but in a relationship together the energy between them may generate a lot of money for both of them!
When two people come together, the potential of what they can create is unique. So when considering a relationship, it’s best to give it some time so you can see what the possibilities really are. The idea is to put away your pictures of what you want it to be like so you can recognize what’s actually there. Developing a true personal love connection takes time, trust, consistency, and sincerely liking the other person and appreciating them for who they are.
Respecting Individual Differences
Astrology is not a science of Universal Truth—it is a study of our individuality. And although on the most profound level we are all One, when we incarnate on the planet we appear distinctly unique. In fact, a birthchart isn’t duplicated for 25,000 years!
Astrology allows us to view one another objectively, without judgment or projection. The idea of astrology is not to try to “fit” another person into society’s picture of a desirable norm. Rather, it’s to gain, through the other person’s natal chart, a clear understanding of their individual adaptations and a sense of their own personal “style.” This includes their values, desires, what they need for fulfillment, the nature of their fears, and how they can most successfully rise above the obstacles they encounter—given their own unique internal wiring.
In astrological counseling, I do not try to change the client’s style, but to assist them in expressing themselves authentically in ways that will bring them the positive results that they want to experience. Often this involves a personal re-evaluation in terms of being “on path” in addressing the particular issues they need to deal with in this lifetime. Being “on path” is also different for each individual, and is defined by the sign and house placement of the North Node—along with any relevant aspects. Since we have free will, we can resist being “on path” and the required growth of character. And when we do, we inevitably experience difficulty in that sector of our lives. To experience success requires embracing that part of ourselves we have been resisting so we can come into the balance that is needed to create success in the material world.
