A Common Life: The Wedding Story

by Jan Karon

  “And in September,” said Hessie, “there’s precious little that’s worth picking.” Hessie had staked her reputation on what she foraged from meadow and pasture, roadside and bank. Her loose, informal bouquets were quite the hit at every spring and summer function, and her knowledge of where the laciest wild carrot bloomed and the showiest hydrangeas grew was both extensive and highly secret. However, as autumn drew on and blooms began to vanish, she hedged her bets—by dashing cold water on her clients’ heady expectations, she was usually able to come up with something agreeably breathtaking.

  “What does this mean?” asked Cynthia, looking worried.

  “It means that what we mostly have to deal with is pods.”

  “Pods?” His fiancée was aghast.

  Hessie shrugged. “Pods, seeds, berries,” she said, expanding the list of possibilities. “Unless you’d like mums.” Hessie said this word with undisguised derision.

  Mums. He noted that the very word made his neighbor blanch.

  Cynthia looked his way, imploring, but he did not make eye contact. No, indeed, he would not get in the middle of a discussion about pods and berries, much less mums.

  “Pods and berries can be wonderful,” Hessie stated, as if she were the full authority, which she was. “Mixed with what’s blooming and tied in enormous bunches, they can look very rich hanging on the pew ends. Of course, we’ll use wide ribbons, I’d suggest Frenchwired velvet, possibly in sage and even something the color of the shumake berry.” As a bow to tradition, Hessie enjoyed using the mountain pronunciation for sumac.

  He stole a glance at Cynthia from the corner of his eye. How had that gone down? She seemed uncertain.

  “Why can’t we just order dozens of roses and armloads of lilacs and be done with it?”

  Hessie sucked in her breath. “Well,” she said, “If you want to spend that kind of money . . .”

  And let the word get out that his bride was a spendthrift? That was Hessie’s deeper meaning; he knew Hessie Mayhew like a book. He knew, too, that Hessie considered the ordering of lilacs in September to be something akin to criminal—not only would they cost a royal fortune, they were out of season in the mountains !

  “Not to mention,” said Hessie, pursing her lips, “they’re out of season in the mountains.”

  “Excuse me for living,” said his fiancée. “Anyway, we don’t want to spend that kind of money.” In truth, his bride-to-be had the capability to spend whatever she wished, being a successful children’s book author and illustrator. Besides, thought the rector, wasn’t it her wedding? Wasn’t it their money to spend however they liked? He hunkered down in the chair, anonymous, invisible, less than a speck on the wall.

  Cynthia heaved a sigh. “So, Hessie, whatever you think. Sage and burgundy . . . or let’s call it claret, shall we? Burgundy sounds so . . . heavy. Do you think we should intermix the ribbon colors along the aisle or put sage on one side and claret on the other?”

  The color deepened in Hessie’s ample cheeks. “Sage for the bride’s side and claret for the groom’s side, is my opinion!”

  “Of course, I don’t have any family for the bride’s side. Only a nephew who isn’t really a nephew, and the last I heard, he was in the Congo.”

  His heart was touched by the small sadness he heard in her voice, and so, apparently, was Hessie’s.

  “Oh, but you do have family!” Hessie threw her head back, eyes flashing. “The entire parish is your family!”

  Cynthia pondered this extravagant remark. “Do you really think so?”

  “Think so?” boomed Hessie. “I know so! Everyone says you’re the brightest thing to happen to Lord’s Chapel in an eon, and you must not forget it, my dear!” Mitford’s foremost, all-around go-getter patted Cynthia’s arm with considerable feeling.

  Click! Something wonderful had just taken place. Hessie Mayhew, sensitive to the bone underneath her take-charge manner, had for some reason decided to be his fiancée’s shield and buckler from this moment on; and nobody messed with Hessie.

  “We’ll fill every pew on the bride’s side,” Hessie predicted. “We’ll be falling over ourselves to sit there! It’s certainly where I’m sitting—no offense, Father.”

  Cynthia took Hessie’s rough hand. “Thank you, Hessie!”

  Thank you, Lord, he thought, forsaking his invisibility by bolting from the chair to refill their glasses all around.

  “And what,” inquired Hessie, “are you planning to do, Father, other than show up?”

  Hessie Mayhew was smiling, but he knew she was dead serious. Hessie believed that every man, woman, and child, including the halt and lame, should participate in all parish-wide events to the fullest.

  “I’m doing the usual,” he said, casting a grin in the direction of his neighbor. “I’m baking a ham!”

  CHAPTER FOUR

  The Bishop

  Gone to seed” is how the rector once fondly described his rectory home of more than thirteen years. Puny’s eagerness to keep the place fastidious had, he was certain, worn away at least a stratum of walnut on the highboy, a gram or two of wool on the Aubusson, and a millimeter of sterling on the tea service.

  She was now feverishly removing another layer from the whole kaboodle, in preparation for any celebration that may be held in the rectory, since, she said, Cynthia’s house was too small to cuss a cat, no offense to Violet.

  Nearly overcome by the odor of Lemon Pledge, he went to the phone and dialed his neighbor. “Want to bring your notebook and go to the park?”

  “I’ll race you!” she said.

  They sat on the bench and listened for a moment to the birds and a light wind that stirred the leaves in Baxter Park. He kissed her, lingering. She kissed him back, lingering still more. She drew away and fanned herself with the notebook, laughing.

  “On to more serious matters!” he exclaimed. “First order of business—pew bulletin or invitations, what do you think?”

  “Pew bulletin! That way everyone knows, and those few who aren’t in the parish, we’ll call. I’ll try to reach David, though I can’t imagine he’d trek all the way from the Congo to Mitford!”

  “Where shall we put Walter and Katherine? Your place or mine?”

  “First things first,” she said. “We need to know where we’re spending our wedding night.”

  “The rectory?”

  “But darling, your bed is so small.”

  “Yes, but your bed is so big.” In his view, they could hold a fox hunt on the vast territory she called a bed.

  “Draw straws!” she said, leaning from the bench to pluck two tall spears of grass. She fiddled with them a moment, asked him to close his eyes, then presented them in her fist.

  “Gambling again,” he said.

  “Long one, my house, short one, your house.”

  He drew the short one.

  “Rats in a poke!” fumed his neighbor.

  “Watch your language, Kavanagh.”

  “Isn’t it a tad early to call me Kavanagh?”

  “I’m practicing.”

  “Anyway, there’s your answer. Walter and Katherine spend the night at my house.”

  “Done!” He checked the topic off his list. “Have you thought any more about flower girls?”

  “Amy Larkin and Rebecca Owen!”

  “Perfect. Music?”

  “Richard and I are just beginning to work on it—let’s definitely ask Dooley to sing.”

  “Splendid. Should have thought of it myself.”

  “A cappella.”

  “He doesn’t go for a cappella.”

  “He’ll get over it, darling, I promise, and it will be wonderful, a true highlight for everyone. ‘O Perfect Love,’ what do you think?”

  “There won’t be a dry eye in the house. By the way, we’re scheduled for the bishop on Wednesday at eleven o’clock.”

  “What are you wearing?” she asked.

  “Oh, something casual. A pink curler in my hair, perhaps.”

  She
swatted his arm over this old joke.

  “I love you madly,” she said.

  “I love you madlier.”

  “Do not!”

  “Do, too!”

  “Prove it!”

  “I shall. I’m serving you dinner tonight, Puny made chicken and dumplings.”

  “Chicken and dumplings!” she crowed.

  “With fresh lima beans.”

  “I’m your slave!”

  “I’ll remember that,” he said.

  He felt the same age he usually felt at Miss Sadie’s house.

  Here he was in his bishop’s office, seated next to his sweetheart, and only minutes away, they’d be talking about sex. He felt the blood surge to his head, coloring his face like a garden tomato. Though he was the priest, presumably competent to discuss a wide variety of personal issues, it was, in fact, Cynthia who felt perfectly at ease talking about anything to anybody, anytime.

  They were currently in the touchy area of Financial, always the leading subject on Stuart’s program for premarital counseling. Thus far, they were in good shape, having discussed some days ago what Stuart called his bottom-line on the issue:

  Consult with the other about significant purchases, be open about your assets and willing to share equally, and agree on a budget that puts God first.

  “And how do you feel, Timothy, about having a wife whose income is significantly greater than your own?”

  Blast. Why couldn’t Stuart have the discretion to avoid this issue? He and Cynthia had discussed it, but he hadn’t been completely candid with her. He hesitated, hating this moment for both of them. “Not good,” he said at last.

  Cynthia looked at him. Did he see hurt or surprise, or both?

  “God brought us together,” he said. “He knew what He was doing. And if He doesn’t mind the inequity in what I bring to the marriage, then I know I’m not to mind it, either. But—sometimes I do.

  “Please understand that I don’t resent her greater assets, not in the least—Cynthia Coppersmith is the hardest-working, most deserving woman I’ve ever known. The problem, if there is one, is that . . .” He paused. What was the problem? Hadn’t he pondered this on several sleepless nights?

  “The problem,” said Cynthia, “is loss of control! Isn’t that it, dearest? You’ve feared a loss of control all along, from the beginning. And now I’m the one who could buy a new car or take us to Spain—”

  “I don’t want to go to Spain,” he said, feeling suddenly vulnerable, close to tears. He also didn’t want a new car; he was perfectly happy with the old one.

  Stuart smiled.

  “If you’re all that God wishes you to be in marriage, you will be one flesh. The money must belong to you equally, Timothy. In your heart you must be able to accept it, not as money you’ve worked for and earned, but as money God means you to have in stewardship with your wife.”

  Cynthia leaned over and kissed him on the cheek. Tears sprang instantly to his eyes and escaped to the sides of his nose before he could press them with a handkerchief.

  “I think,” he said, “that I’m overwhelmed on every side. I still can’t think why God should give me this tremendous blessing—a gracious and loving soul who comprehends the depths of my own soul completely—and then to add financial resources beyond my wildest dreams . . .

  “In truth, money means very little to me. I’ve lived simply all my life, and can’t imagine doing otherwise.”

  “You’ve been exceedingly generous to others,” said Stuart. “For example, you’ve poured your personal revenues into the Children’s Hospital for years. Now, Timothy, you must allow someone to be generous with you, if she so chooses.”

  “I so choose!” Cynthia patted the rector’s arm.

  Relieved, they all had a sip of water from glasses waiting on a tray.

  “Another crucial issue,” said Stuart, “is in-laws.”

  “We won’t have any!” exclaimed Cynthia.

  Stuart smiled paternally. “In truth, you will.”

  “We will?”

  “According to the Lord’s Chapel membership register, there are one hundred and eighty-three of them, which roughly translates to a mere hundred and twenty-five active in-laws.”

  His fiancée appeared vexed, to say the least. “Yes, and there are some who can’t bear the sight of me anymore. Everything was just fine until—”

  “Until they learned you were getting married,” said Stuart. “Then the jealousy flooded in. They were there first—they got his undivided attention for years—now it must be divided.”

  “Ugh,” she said.

  “What I hope you’ll be able to live with is that his attention to you will also be divided. Like them, you’ll have to share your priest. Unlike them, you must also share your beloved, your sweetheart.” Stuart looked fondly at Cynthia. “If anyone can do this, you’re the one.”

  “Thank you,” she said. “Pray for me.”

  “Martha and I have prayed for you since the day Timothy brought you to lunch. We both thought you possessed the most extraordinary light, it reflected upon our friend like a beacon. We thank you for that.”

  The rector noted with a pang of tenderness that his fiancée blushed deeply, something he rarely witnessed.

  “I’ve always felt it takes especially noble character to be a clergy spouse,” said Stuart. “In any case, you and they will soon grow accustomed to sharing him; it’s all a process—a matter of time and patience and love. I know you’re willing.”

  “Yes!” she said. “Oh, yes!”

  The bishop folded his hands across his lean midsection and gazed at his visitors.

  Here it comes, thought the rector.

  “Do you pray together?” asked Stuart.

  “Yes!” they said in unison.

  “Every evening,” volunteered Father Tim.

  “Excellent! I’m reminded of what our friend Oswald Chambers said, that prayer doesn’t fit us for the greater work, prayer is the greater work. Praying together affirms you as one flesh, and, among the endless benefits it bestows, it can greatly enhance your sexual communication.”

  A patch of light danced upon the worn Persian carpet, reflecting the branches of a dogwood tree outside the window.

  “The highest form of prayer is one in which we don’t beg for ourselves,” said Stuart, “but seek to know what we can do for God. This delights God immensely! As you seek to know what you can do for the other, you will surely receive your own inexpressible delight.”

  The rector took Cynthia’s hand.

  “To put it simply, making love confirms your spiritual relationship, and your spiritual relationship will deepen your lovemaking. It all moves in a wondrous circle.”

  The rector and his neighbor drew a deep breath at precisely the same moment and looked at each other, laughing.

  “Now!” said Stuart.

  “Now, what?” asked Father Tim.

  “Conflict resolution.”

  “Do we have to?” asked Cynthia.

  “Have you had any conflicts?”

  The two looked at each other. “His car,” she said.

  “What about my car?” queried the rector.

  “Don’t you remember? I said it was a gas guzzler, has rust, and the seat covers look like Puny’s dishrags.”

  “And I said I’m perfectly satisfied with it.” There! The bishop wanted conflict, he got conflict. The rector felt his collar suddenly tighten.

  “And so,” Cynthia told Stuart, “when we drive on the Parkway or visit our bishop, we take my car.”

  “How do you feel about that?”

  She wrinkled her nose. She stared briefly at the ceiling. She smiled. “I can live with it.”

  Stuart chuckled. He had his own opinion of his priest’s car, but far be it from him to comment. “It’s terrific that you’re willing to name the conflict, my dear. This equips us to attack the problem instead of attacking the other person.”

  Stuart sat back in his chair. “So, Timothy, how do you
feel about driving her car instead of yours?”

  “Good!” he said, meaning it. “I can live with it.” He pressed Cynthia’s hand and turned to look at her. She appeared to sparkle in some lovely way he’d never seen before. After his brief moment of righteous indignation, he was custard again.

  On the way home in her Mazda, he noticed that she looked at him fondly more than once.

  “Sweetie pie,” she murmured, patting his knee.

  Sweetie pie! As a kid, he was called Slick; Katherine called him Teds; one and all called him Father. He liked this new appellation best of all. Maybe one day—maybe—he’d look into trading his Buick for a new model. But certainly nothing brand-new, no; no, indeed.

  CHAPTER FIVE

  The Joke

  He drove to the Wesley mall and looked in the jewelry store display cases.

  His heart sank like a stone. There was absolutely nothing that measured up to the fire and sparkle, the snap and dazzle of his neighbor.

  He would have a ring made, then, fashioned exclusively for Cynthia Coppersmith Kavanagh. He saw their initials somehow entwined inside the band—ccktak. But of course he had no earthly idea who to call or where to turn. When someone left a Ross-Simon catalog on the table at the post office, he snatched it up and carried it outside to his car, where he pored over the thing until consciousness returned and he realized he’d sat there with the motor running for a full half hour, steaming in his raincoat like a clam in its shell.

  “I’m sorry,” he said, looking at her bare ring finger. “If I’d done things right, I would have given you a ring when I proposed.”

  “I don’t really want an engagement ring, dearest. Just a simple gold band would be perfect.”

  “You’re certain?”

  “Yes!” she said. “I love simple gold bands.”

  The image of his mother’s wedding band came instantly to mind. It was in his closet, in a box on the shelf, tied by a slender ribbon. He would take it to the store and have it cleaned and engraved and present it at the altar with unspeakable joy and thanksgiving.

  He felt he was at last beginning to get things right.