Trust Me, Trust Me Not (Gavert City Book 3)

by Elodie Nowodazkij

  TRUST ME, TRUST ME NOT

  by

  Elodie Nowodazkij

  TRUST ME, TRUST ME NOT Copyright © 2019 by Elodie Nowodazkij

  All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

  This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, businesses, organizations, places, events and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, events, or locales is entirely coincidental.

  For information, contact authorelodienowodazkij@gmail.com or visit: www.elodienowodazkij.com

  Copy editing: Angela Walker – Proofreading: Yasmin Gruss

  Photography by Lindee Robinson

  Cover models: Zachary Zoulafy and Jessica

  Book cover by Najla Qamber

  First Edition: September 2019

  Contents

  A LONG NOTE FROM ME TO YOU or maybe a PSA...☺

  CHAPTER 1 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 2 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 3 - HUNTER

  CHAPTER 4 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 5 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 6 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 7 - HUNTER

  CHAPTER 8 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 9 - HUNTER

  CHAPTER 10 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 11 - HUNTER

  CHAPTER 12 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 13 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 14 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 15 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 16 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 17 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 18 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 19 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 20 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 21 - HUNTER

  CHAPTER 22 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 23 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 24 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 25 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 26 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 27 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 28 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 29 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 30 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 31 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 32 – LACEY

  CHAPTER 33 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 34 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 35 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 36 - LACEY

  CHAPTER 37 – HUNTER

  CHAPTER 38 – LACEY

  EPILOGUE - HUNTER

  THE END

  Thank you for reading!

  ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

  Other books by Elodie Nowodazkij

  Sneak Peek

  CHAPTER 1

  CHAPTER 2 – ERIN

  CHAPTER 3 – DIMITRI

  ABOUT THE AUTHOR

  A LONG NOTE FROM ME TO YOU or maybe a PSA...☺

  All my books feel special to me. But this one? Those characters who have become real in my imagination? They feel extra special. Maybe because there is so much of me in them. Maybe because they have helped me move forward. Maybe because I am so proud of this book.

  They belong to you now, but for a while they were only in my mind. I started writing this book what feels like forever ago, even though it’s been maybe over a year or maybe two years. It’s kind of a blur.

  I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma in October 2017. After months of feeling tired. After months of coughing. After months of backache.

  It all started with shooting pain in my shoulder and arm after drinking a sip of alcohol. It was so bad that I started taking Tylenol if I knew I was going to have a glass. It was the holiday season. And I do enjoy a glass here and there and really didn’t want to miss drinking Champagne on New Year’s Eve. I googled my symptoms as I do and I found that having pain while drinking alcohol could be an early symptom of Hodgkin’s lymphoma. I thought I felt something underneath my arm too, but it wasn’t always there. My mind went on overdrive. And did I mention I have anxiety?

  Since the pain wasn’t going away and my upper back pain was actually intensifying, I went to my primary care physician at the end of 2016. But he basically told me that he’d never heard of the pain with the alcohol symptom for lymphoma, and that based on his physical evaluation he really didn’t think I should be too worried. He dismissed my concerns and told me I should do physical therapy for my upper back because it could very well be muscle weakness. And me having anxiety, I thought, Okay...my heightened concerns stem from my over-imaginative mind, so I’ll do the physical therapy and see. He also told me I could do bloodwork but I figured if he was really worried and not just appeasing my worries, he’d tell me otherwise. I didn’t do my bloodwork (which could have very well shown nothing at that stage because Hodgkin’s lymphoma is funny like that).

  I did months of physical therapy. I changed physical therapists so that it was closer to my work (I was teaching German at a wonderful community college then). None of them asked me to undergo x-rays. I went back to my primary care physician because of a lingering cough in August 2017. Unfortunately it was a different one and she dismissed my concerns. She also didn’t notice I had lost weight. I hadn’t noticed either but it was summer and I was wearing clothes that fit. I did have to buy new pairs of jeans but I figured it was because I had been more active. After all, I was doing physical therapy.

  But my cough continued. My back pain was keeping me up at night. I was feeling like crap.

  And I remember driving to work one day, coughing and yelling in my car that no matter what was making me cough, I was going to be okay. I knew. Deep inside, I knew there was more going on with this cough.

  I started jogging again which in retrospect and after finding out what was going on in my body makes me wonder how I managed to run. Granted it wasn’t fast or long, but still...

  I decided to continue working out too. But one day, I felt dizzy while working out. I blamed it on not drinking enough water.

  I was teaching two classes and writing and doing a thousand things as always. But one day, I felt dizzy teaching, which I blamed on maybe not eating enough. I started eating more snacks despite the fact that I wasn’t hungry. I continued working and writing and telling myself it was okay. Because I went to see my doctor.

  I had an itch and a rash during that time too, but I also have sensitive skin so what are the chances?

  ...Until I found a lump above my chest in early fall of 2017. And then I went back to see my primary care physician and everything went very fast after that.

  By the time I got diagnosed I had a very large mass in my chest, which was now basically poking out of my chest wall, hence the lump. It was such a large mass that the thoracic surgeon who did my biopsy told me I shouldn’t sleep laying down because the mass could be a risk to my trachea. That was scary. I remember sitting with my husband on our bed and we were crossing our fingers that the surgeon would call me back to let me know the biopsy showed Hodgkin’s and not some other cancer which had way less of a good prognosis.

  I laughed and reassured my family when I got the diagnosis. Because we got the news we wanted. But still it was hard. And it got even harder.

  There was a time we weren’t quite sure if I’d still be alive today. And I am. And I am thriving.

  And yes, I’m still in treatment today. Hodgkin’s is a very treatable cancer but sometimes it takes longer when you’re not in the majority of patients who are cured with first-line treatment. I didn’t talk about cancer much online at first and I didn’t tell many people, because I thought I was going to be part of the large percentage of patients that go into remission after their first-line treatment.

  But then I didn’t.

 
And then I had experiences which plainly sucked. I could probably write a book about fighting for your rights, fighting to be heard, fighting for your care as a cancer patient.

  I remember telling one of my oncologists that I was worried about getting a PICC line (peripherally inserted central catheter which is a form of intravenous access) because the mass was narrowing my SVC (superior vena cava), and that oncologist dismissed me. I asked him twice. I asked the nurse who told me, “Well, if they say it’s possible, we should try.” My husband wasn’t in the room with me and it was painful and I was scared and the nurse kept on hitting a snag and then my heart galloped and she said, “I’m never doing this to you again. If they want you to go through it again, they need to send you to intervention radiology.”

  When I met with that oncologist again (who wasn’t my primary oncologist but higher up), he smiled, raised his hand, and walked back out of the room. Like it was nothing. Like that wasn’t traumatizing. I mean, granted it was nothing like a bone marrow biopsy, but still...(that’s another story). That same oncologist told me once the first chemo didn’t work as well as it usually does, “Now you’ve become interesting.” Oh and I could tell you so much more. Like how he dismissed a treatment that was not coming from his “group” as inefficient and yet our third opinion from MSK saw it as possibility because “studies have shown it works.”

  He’s no longer my oncologist for these reasons and many others. We trusted the Fellow we had, but that same oncologist who had dismissed my concerns kept on pushing for one treatment plan, making it seem like it was our one and only option. We weren’t so sure about their treatment plan forward, and when we asked questions, we didn’t get many answers. It was a very hard time. I couldn’t talk without getting out of breath. I couldn’t drive. I couldn’t walk without getting dizzy. And I was scared of going through that treatment plan still feeling the way I did. Both the oncologist we saw at MSK and the one we saw at the University of Maryland Greenebaum Cancer Center gave us hope again.

  And hope is so important.

  I’m not going to go into details because this is a note from me to you, not another book ☺ Just like I’m not going to go into details on the ER visits, and the neuropathy and dealing with health insurance and billing and all that.

  I’m now treated at the Greenebaum Cancer Center and I’m very grateful to my team there. As I’m writing this, the plan is for me to go through an autologous stem-cell transplant and yes, I’m very scared about the entire process, but I have a wonderful team and I advocate for myself and I’m heard and I feel in control of the things I can be in control of and I learn to deal with the things I can’t necessarily control.

  As a cancer patient, I’m so grateful to the Greenebaum Cancer Center for truly being a comprehensive cancer center. My sessions with Vicky Wilson have helped me tremendously. I’m less anxious, less stressed. I know that it’s okay to not always be okay. And I owe it to her.

  And after switching chemo, I found a way to create different moments, like organize a fundraiser for associations who help young adult facing cancer. And one of my highlights? Jenna Fisher (who I loved in The Office but would watch in pretty much anything) not only donated but she also tweeted at me ☺

  Don’t get me wrong, there were a lot of hard moments, but there were also a lot, a lot of good ones throughout treatment. And therapy helps!

  I’m very grateful to my oncologist, Dr. Aaron Rapoport, for letting me be a part of the team and especially for giving us hope—and for never making me feel like I didn’t matter. To the nurses (especially Liz and Meeghan and the infusion nurses) and Meghan (from the Ulman Fund) and Nancy (Survivorship Navigator) who always manage to put a smile on my face and who also sometimes just let me cry when I need to cry.

  I may be tearing up writing this author’s note.

  If you don’t know what to do for someone who’s close to you, who is going through treatment, is in remission or might have relapsed, or got diagnosed recently, sometimes you just need to be there. Organize a meal train (thank you to the Chemical Engineer’s boss for starting one for us and for his colleagues for keeping us fed during the months of chemo treatment). Send a card. Mow their lawn. Text them. Call them. Connect with them. Even if they’re far away. Don’t forget them. And it’s okay to talk about something else. And it’s okay to ask about it. Everyone reacts differently. And not everyone has the same experience with chemo and treatment. But I think not feeling like you’re left behind is important. And when you’re going through treatment, you may be too tired or too sick or too vulnerable to be the one keeping that connection. So, reaching out without always expecting an answer really helps.

  Sometimes this cancer treatment thing takes a long time, and it’s important to not lose that connection.

  And, if you’re reading this author’s note, I urge you to advocate for yourself, to not let your anxiety (if you’re prone to it) be used as an excuse as to why you are feeling strange or sick. Sure, it can be related to anxiety but you do need to be checked out.

  You need to be listened to.

  You need to have your medical team take your concerns seriously.

  Because some days, I do wonder if maybe the first-line treatment would have worked if we had caught it before the mass went through my chest wall. And I’ll never be sure so I don’t dwell on it. But still...it’s important that your worries do not get dismissed.

  If you are suffering from anxiety or depression, then my wish for you is to be able to also find a professional who can help you get through the tough moments and who can give you the tools you need.

  And you know what else? Enjoy the little moments.

  Create those little moments too, because sometimes you have to readjust. But those moments, you can still find them. A ray of sunshine. A laugh. A good book. A conversation.

  Those moments? They truly are the big ones ☺

  This book is for The Chemical Engineer, my husband, my rock, my very best friend, my love. I hope you know how much everything you do and everything you are means to me. I know it’s not always easy. But I know that I’m the luckiest to have you by my side. And I’m so grateful.

  Because Alexander! I’m not going to throw away my shot (and yes this is a reference to the Hamilton musical).

  You’re the love of my life.

  CHAPTER 1 – LACEY

  One month earlier...

  The daisies on my mother’s tomb remind me of happier times.

  Before she got lost in a man’s dangerous promises.

  Before she stood by, nearly smiling when he insulted me, kicked me, and broke several of my ribs.

  Before she left me, my brother, little sister, and so many others to die in a burning house.

  Most of us survived, but three couldn’t escape the flames.

  My fingers touch the fresh flowers and those happy memories rush back to me, slamming back uninvited into my mind.

  When I was eight, my mother took me on my first and only fishing trip. Darkness surrounded our mobile home as she sat beside me and shook my shoulder to wake me up. The moon was hidden by clouds. She hadn’t met Abram yet. Abram and his web of lies hidden behind a charming face and guarantees of a better future. Abram turned out to be a cult leader for a group that called themselves The Circle and a murderer who crushed my hopes and dreams, giving darkness a whole new meaning.

  “It’s going to be the perfect fishing day.” Her voice was a bit high-pitched and her eyes couldn’t seem to focus, but I remember smiling because I had been waiting for that day. She promised me we’d go fishing. I still believed in her promises.

  She laughed loudly and without restraint. My heart clenched. She usually laughed that way only when she was drunk. But her breath smelled of toothpaste, not of alcohol, so I slowly relaxed my shoulders. Her long brown hair was greasy like mine, and our clothes never quite fit. But I didn’t care. We were going fishing.

  My little brother stirred in the bunk bed above mine and asked if he could come wi
th us, but she told him it was a mother-daughter day. I promised I’d tell him everything. He shrugged like he wasn’t hurt but I knew better. Part of me wanted him to come with us, because Mom’s new husband ignored him, but the bigger part of me wanted that mother-daughter day more. It was so rare to spend time, just the two of us.

  I bit into the waffle she handed me and winced at the half-frozen taste. But I didn’t complain.

  “We’re going to have so much fun, I promise baby girl.” The words sprinted out of her mouth faster than the one time we had to run out of a restaurant because she didn’t have any money.

  I nodded. And a sliver of hope stirred in my chest. I still hoped back then. Still believed in her. When we got to the lake an hour later, the morning sun was shining through the clouds. She parked and checked the trunk, and checked it again and again. Then she turned to me with her signature scowl, the one that meant trouble. “Where did you put the fishing gear?” I had no clue what she was talking about but she kept on gesturing to me, her voice rising. “I asked you to put it in the car. This morning.”

  “Ma, you didn’t,” I whispered, more to myself than to her.

  She clenched her fists and took a deep breath, grabbed my hand, and we marched toward the lake. Her scowl turned into a frown and I breathed easier.

  “Can we still catch a fish?” I had learned not to ask too many questions but I really wanted to know.

  She mumbled and then plopped herself on the ground. “We’ll go fishing another day...today I’m going to show you something else my mother taught me.” She tugged me next to her. Her hands shook but she gathered the daisies I hadn’t noticed until now, and she showed me how to attach them together to make a crown.

  And when I put the crown I made on her head, her lips quivered. “You’re my baby girl and I love you. I promise this time around it’s all going to be different.”

  It wasn’t.

  I touch the white petals one by one.

  I haven’t brought flowers to her since I left the hospital, and I doubt my brother’s the one who did it. Maybe it was my little sister with her foster family.