Pocket Tantric Super Sex

by Nicole Bailey

  Once she’s on top of him, she can stimulate his penis by moving slowly up and down on his shaft or moving her pelvis belly-dance style. She can also combine love-muscle squeezes with a fingertip massage of his perineum or the front wall of his rectum – this targets the sacred spot (see pages 86–7), one of his hottest pleasure zones.

  CROSS-LEGGED

  Once she’s comfortably in this cross-legged position, there’s not a great deal of room to manoeuvre. In Tantric terms this is an advantage, because it gives you an opportunity to practise the secret language together by working your love muscles (see pages 124–5).

  She can ease herself into this position from any woman-on-top position in which she’s facing him. Experiment with ways to make it comfortable. For example, he can try putting his hands under her buttocks to reduce some of the weight on his pelvis. Or he can bend his legs so that she can lean back and rest on his thighs.

  WOMEN If you find that this position isn’t comfortable or pleasurable, modify it by putting one foot on the floor or the bed.

  SITTING SQUAT

  She takes erotic control while he sits back and enjoys the wonderful sensation of her moving in his lap.

  WOMEN Be his sexy Tantric goddess for the night. Ask him to sit down and enjoy a series of erotic treats. Start by sitting between his legs and pleasuring his lingam with your hands and mouth. Then, climb on top with your back to him, squat and move in soft sensual undulations that will make him glow with pleasure. For an intimate ending, try the Sitting Squat in a facing position so you can gaze into each other’s eyes. If you want more freedom of movement and leverage, just put one or both feet on the floor.

  MEN Close your eyes and focus on the sensations of pleasure coursing through your body. Rest your hands on your lover’s hips, but leave her to set the pace.

  AWAKENING the senses

  If your senses are awake, sex becomes a rich voyage of discovery in which you lovingly experience the sights, smells, sounds, touch and tastes of each other.

  Heighten your lover’s arousal and anticipation by blindfolding them. To awaken your lover’s sense of smell, waft any one of these gorgeous scents beneath their nose: ylang ylang essential oil, fresh flowers, a freshly cut lemon or a recently extinguished candle. Or tease them by dabbing a drop of perfume somewhere on your naked body – ask your lover to explore you to discover the exact site of the scent.

  To awaken the sense of hearing, play a drum beat that starts slowly and softly and gets progressively faster and louder; a recording of waves crashing on the shore; and a piece of classical, sensual, atmospheric or meditative music.

  To awaken the sense of taste, indulge your lover with morsels of intensely flavoured foods. Try a bite of a ripe and juicy peach; your finger dipped into some liqueur and gently stroked onto your lover’s tongue; a fragment of the darkest chocolate; a small sip from a glass of full-bodied red wine.

  To awaken the sense of sight, gently lean forward and kiss your lover on the lips as you remove their blindfold. Now pull away and gaze at them lovingly.

  SACRED SEAT

  In this position, he has the chance for complete Tantric immersion in the visual aspects of sex – he can feast his eyes on the erotic curve of her buttocks and the way her yoni caresses his shaft as she moves on him. He sits with his legs straight out in front, while she takes a seat on his lap with her back to him. Once she’s kneeling astride him, she leans forward to rest her hands on his knees.

  Because his lingam bends away from his body in Sacred Seat, there’s a tendency for him to slip out during sex. She can prevent this by keeping her movements small, staying close to him and grinding in circles rather than bobbing up and down. She can also try a pelvic shaking technique in this position – the rapid movements of her pelvis will send vibrations of pleasure through the genitals for both of you and get sexual energy rising through her body.

  You can experiment with different angles in this position. The most extreme angle is him lying flat on his back and her leaning so far forward that her head is between his feet. Try variations to find out what feels most comfortable and pleasurable for both of you.

  wonderfully erotic

  CREATE A HAVEN FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVER

  Turn your bedroom into a SANCTUARY that puts you in the mood for sensual play. Clear the room of clutter. Light the room with SOFT candlelight. Dress your bed in clean sheets made from NATURAL fabrics. Use woollen throws and blankets, and soft cushions. Add meaningful or beautiful objects, such as EROTIC photos, paintings or sculptures. Now invite your lover to join you for a BEAUTIFUL night of seduction.

  STANDING BOND

  The Tantric approach to sex is based on traditional masculine and feminine principles, and this powerful and intimate position is a strong expression of those: she feels completely held and supported in his arms; he feels strong, powerful and protective. Give yourself up to feelings of profound masculinity and femininity – the ultimate aim of Tantra is the joyous union of Shiva and Shakti (see page 9).

  This position is appealing to most men and women, but remember that men don’t have to embody the masculine principle, just as women don’t have to embody the feminine – women can be dominant during sex and men can be receptive. This position is easiest when there’s a wall to give you support.

  celebrate the union of Shiva and Shakti

  ELEPHANT POSITION

  Whereas other rear-entry positions invite fast thrusting, the Elephant Position allows you to take a slower, more connected Tantric approach. Even though you can’t gaze into each other’s eyes, you can immerse yourselves in sound and touch: whisper and moan softly to one another; and relish the sensation of his lingam fitting snugly in her yoni.

  lose yourself in lust

  MEN Explore different types of movement in this position. Try plunging deep for a couple of strokes and then bobbing in the shallow end of her yoni. Observe the effect on your arousal levels – find out what takes your lust levels higher and what keeps you on a plateau. It’s useful information when you’re trying to delay ejaculation.

  If you like position changes during sex, Elephant lends itself to rolling over. Side-by-side sex and woman-on-top sex are just a spin away. Or try just rolling for the sake of it – enjoy the flowing movements. Treat it as adult playtime.

  OPEN YONI

  Her legs are wide open in erotic invitation as he climbs on top to enter her. This position can be super-arousing for both of you, especially if he gazes at her yoni before he penetrates and/or pleasures her with his tongue. As you make love concentrate on your penis and vagina respectively. After orgasm (his, hers or both) rest in each other’s arms. She can wrap her legs behind his back to make him feel tightly held.

  WOMEN Imagine that you are sucking heat and eroticism from his penis. Take the sensations deeply into your vagina – let the heat inflame you and drive your passion higher.

  MEN Imagine your penis pulsating with love as you move inside her. Imagine filling her with love and energy on each thrust.

  let passion consume you

  THE GIFT OF YOUR LOVING ATTENTION

  Spend the evening giving your lover EROTIC treats: undress for them, give them a massage, a SENSUAL bath or oral sex. The next night invite them to INDULGE you. When you’re doing the giving, tell your lover that your sole purpose is to pamper, DELIGHT and serve them. When you’re the one receiving, IMMERSE yourself in sensuality – let your lover see how much PLEASURE they’re bringing you.

  HUNGRY TIGER

  While this is a good position for “quickie” sex, the Tantric way is to take advantage of the ravenous lust it inspires to try a couple of techniques that will add to and prolong the pleasure.

  MEN Use this position to try the heart orgasm exercise on pages 120–21. Thrust inside your lover until you’re about to come, then inhale quickly, contract your love muscles (see pages 124–5) and draw your sexual energy up to your heart. Say “stop” when you’re near climax, so your lover doesn’t keep moving and
tip you over the edge.

  WOMEN Pour your attention into your goddess spot (see pages 90–91) and get high on the sensations as his lingam repeatedly caresses it.

  UPRIGHT DOG

  In Tantric sex even having sex “doggie style” can be loving, intimate and sensual, and it’s a perfect opportunity to stimulate one of her Tantric hot spots – the goddess spot (see pages 90–91). She’s firmly supported in an upright position and he leans forward so he can hold and caress her. He can enter her deeply and she can reach down to stroke her clitoris.

  MEN This position is exciting for you and super-stimulating for her. The head of your penis is nudging her goddess spot so, before you start to move, take time to savour the feeling of being still inside her. To make her shiver with pleasure, get close to her skin, purse your lips and blow gently. Direct a steady flow of air onto her neck and shoulders, using your breath as a massage tool. If it makes her hairs stand on end, don’t stop.

  ANKLE CLASP

  You may be positioned apart but you can still unite in ecstasy in this highly erotic pose. To get into position he stretches his legs out in front of him, then she sits on his lap, leans back and braces herself with her hands on his ankles. She stretches her legs out behind him and he braces himself on her ankles, too.

  Begin your Tantric lovemaking with some still and separate moments in which you both concentrate on your breath. Try any of the breathing exercises you’re familiar with, including simple deep breathing. Go off into separate worlds but then reunite by gazing into each other’s eyes. If your arousal levels fall, recharge your sexual batteries by moving against each other.

  Because Ankle Clasp effectively locks you and your lover in position, you’ll both need to be creative in the way you move – try wriggling, rippling and shaking. You can also get some stimulation from strong internal contractions of your love muscles (see pages 24–5).

  relish the tight connection

  sensual INDULGENCE

  Fill the bath with hot water and add a few drops of jasmine or your favourite essential oil. Light candles and put them around the edge of the bath.

  When your lover is lying in the water, ask them to close their eyes. Tell them you’re going to massage them with water. As they receive the massage, ask them to rotate their awareness through these four senses:

  • Hearing (the sound of water gently trickling and splashing)

  • Smell (the scent of jasmine or other essential oil)

  • Touch (the sensation of hot water against skin)

  • Sight (the flicker of candlelight beneath closed eyelids)

  Dip a sponge in the bath water, hold it a little way from your lover and gently squeeze out the water over their neck, shoulders and chest. Gently lift one foot out of the water at a time and use the sponge to drizzle water over the toes and the soles of their feet. Do the same with your lover’s hands and arms, concentrating on the palms and forearms. (Don’t lift their legs and their arms if you can’t completely support their weight – the massage won’t have the same effect if your lover has to do the work.)

  Keep up the massage so there’s an almost constant flow of water against the skin. Allow your lover to sink into a deep relaxation. When they’re ready to come out of the bath, greet them with a towel that’s big enough to enclose their whole body.

  Once they’re warmly wrapped up, spend some time kissing and cuddling them in the steamy bathroom. Then take your lover’s hand and lead them to the bedroom. A sweet way to finish this massage is to stand in front of a mirror together: stroke each other’s naked flesh and pay each other some sexy compliments before you slip into bed.

  ASCENDING POSITION

  Although this is a great position for passionate lovemaking, build up to the ecstasy gradually in the Tantric way. Start off with a loving cuddle – stroke each other’s face and body, and gaze into each other’s eyes. There’s no rush to have sex and there’s nothing else you’re supposed to be doing. Just concentrate on savouring the intimacy you have right now.

  As you’re building up to penetration, breathe in time together. Then, when it feels completely natural to do so, he can climb on top and enter her in the missionary position. She then pushes her pelvis as high in the air as is comfortable. He lets his body be raised by her movement.

  Because her hips are off the ground, you can both make the moves. She can thrust upward, or wiggle or undulate her pelvis. He can thrust downward, bumping and thrusting into her as she moves upward.

  thrust, bump & wiggle

  chapter TWO

  TANTRIC touch

  GIVE YOUR LOVER SENSUAL TREATS

  Gently blindfold your lover, then give them any of these SENSUAL and surprising tactile treats: trail a silk scarf up and down their body; draw swirls on their skin using a FEATHER; drizzle warm massage OIL on their back; crush strawberries on the front of their body; circle their NIPPLES with ice cubes; tickle their belly with your hair; stroke or SPANK their buttocks with the back of a hairbrush.

  SITTING EMBRACE

  In this position, you both have your hands free to stroke and caress each other. He takes a seat and invites her to sit on him in this sexy rear-entry position. He can enter her deeply. Sitting Embrace is good for combined goddess spot (see pages 90–91) and clitoral stimulation – she’s free to find the best angle for his lingam to press on her goddess spot and then she can touch her clitoris in the way she likes best.

  He can smooth his hands along the sides of her body, fondle her breasts and hold her firmly by the waist to pull her tightly against him. Although you can’t gaze at each other in the Sitting Embrace position, your lovemaking can still be very intimate and harmonious.

  feel tingles of joy

  PRESSED POSITION

  Enjoy deep, satisfying, sensual penetration in this Tantric position – also known as Totally Auspicious in the Chandamaharosana Tantra (a 9th-century Tantric scripture). She gives herself up to him and feels full from the depth of his thrusting. He feels tightly enclosed. She plants her feet on his chest as he enters her in a kneeling position.

  Although he’s in a dominant position, he can show his love and devotion by clasping her ankles, raising them to his face and gently kissing her soles. Licking and sucking her toes can be the finishing touch to this act of foot worship. The feeling of his penis in her vagina and her toe in his mouth, plus the exchange of some smouldering eye contact, can take you to orgasmic levels of bliss.

  make it deep and penetrating

  TENDER EMBRACE

  This position takes Tantric touch to new levels because you “embrace” as you make love. She lies back and parts her thighs, while he slides on top and gently enters her. Because you are face-to-face, you can savour the melting tenderness of being so close. On a practical level this position is good for what ancient erotic texts describe as “high congress”, which means the combination of a large penis and a small vagina. However, even if he’s not well endowed and she’s not compact, it still rates high on physical and emotional stimulation.

  Because her vagina is contracted in this position, it’s a good idea for him to enter slowly so he doesn’t hurt her. As well as ensuring her comfort, this is also a great way to draw out the blissful erotic tension of penetration. She, meanwhile, can concentrate on relaxing and opening up to him by breathing deeply into her genitals and letting all tension melt away from her love muscles (see page 124–5). Stay in this position for as long as you want to, but aim for at least 15–20 minutes so that you have time to tune in and open up to each other.

  surrender to each other

  fingertip TOUCH

  You can try this amazing Tantric massage by itself or you can make it a very sexy part of your foreplay. The barely-there sensations of your fingertips on your lover’s skin will create whole-body tingles. A fingertip massage is extremely simple – you don’t need any oils or other tools. All you need is a warm erotic haven (see pages 38–9) and your lover’s naked body. Your aim is to connect with your lov
er through the lightest possible touch. Using your fingertips, you can literally tap into your lover’s sexual energy with electrifying results.

  STEP 1 Start by lying down with your lover and cuddling them. Breathe in time with each other. Then, gently turn them on their front and kneel behind them. Place your fingertips on the back of their neck – imagine that you’re trying to touch the tiny hairs on the skin rather than the skin itself. Move your hands slowly down their neck and back, keeping the touch light. If their hairs stand on end or you can see goosebumps, you know you’re doing it right. If in doubt, softly whisper: “How does that feel?”

  STEP 2 Ask your lover to lie on their front and then trail your fingers over their buttocks and the backs of their legs, all the way down to their feet (leave out the soles if your lover is ticklish). Then, use your fingertips to make big swirls and circles all over their back, keeping your touch as light as a feather. As you move your hands over your lover’s skin, imagine that the tips of your fingers are buzzing with energy – picture a tiny electrical charge, a glow or a sense of heat emanating from your fingers. Transmit this energy to your lover as your fingers travel across their body.