Schwartz, Barry. The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less. New York: Harper Perennial, 2004.
Tett, Gillian. “Power with Grace.” FT Magazine, December 10/11, 2011.
Thomas, Isabelle, and Frédérique Veysset. Paris Street Style. New York: Abrams Image, 2013.
Chapter 13: How to Age Gracefully
Barrett, Anne E., and Cheryl Robbins. “The Multiple Sources of Women’s Aging Anxiety and Their Relationship with Psychological Distress.” Journal of Aging and Health 20, no. 1 (February 2008).
Chayet, Stéphanie. “La vie est belle! Rencontre Charlotte Gainsbourg.” Elle, September 30, 2016.
Clarke, Laura Hurd. “Older Women’s Bodies and the Self: The Construction of Identity in Later Life.” Canadian Review of Sociology/Revue canadienne de sociologie 38 (2001): 441–64.
Diski, Jenny. “However I Smell.” London Review of Books, May 8, 2014.
Gullette, Margaret Morganroth. Declining to Decline: Cultural Combat and the Politics of the Midlife. Charlottesville: University Press of Virginia, 1997.
Kuper, Hannah, and Sir Michael Marmot. “Intimations of Mortality: Perceived Age of Leaving Middle Age as a Predictor of Future Health Outcomes Within the Whitehall II Study.” Age and Aging 32 (2003): 178–84.
Levy, Becca R., Alan B. Zonderman, Martin D. Slade, and Luigi Ferrucci. “Age Stereotypes Held Earlier in Life Predict Cardiovascular Events in Later Life.” Psychological Science 20, no. 3 (2009): 296–98.
Popova, Maria. “Ursula K. Le Guin on Aging and What Beauty Really Means.” Brainpickings.org. www.brainpickings.org/2014/10/21/ursula-le-guin-dogs-cats-dancers-beauty/.
Shweder, Richard A. Welcome to Middle Age! (And Other Cultural Fictions). Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1998.
Chapter 14: How to Learn the Rules
Babylonian Talmud: Tractate Yebamoth, Folio 54a. www.come-and-hear.com/yebamoth/yebamoth_54.html#54a_2.
Klimek, Klaudia. “Dress British, Think Yiddish: Newest Exhibition of the Vienna Jewish Museum.” Jewish Journal, April 29, 2012.
“Peanut Butter Bracha.” Mi Yodeya. https://judaism.stackexchange.com/questions/10218/peanut-butter-bracha.
“Popcorn, Potato Chips, Corn Chips and Pringles: What Bracha?” Matzav.com, January 5, 2010.
Chapter 15: How to Be Wise
Agarwal, Sumit, John C. Driscoll, Xavier Gabaix, and David Laibson. “The Age of Reason: Financial Decisions over the Life-Cycle with Implications for Regulation.” Brookings Papers on Economic Activity, October 19, 2009.
Ardelt, Monika. “Being Wise at Any Age.” In Positive Psychology: Exploring the Best in People. Volume 1: Discovering Human Strengths, ed. S. Lopez. Westport, CT: Praeger, 2008, 81–108.
———. “Wisdom as Expert Knowledge System: A Critical Review of a Contemporary Operationalization of an Ancient Concept.” Human Development 47 (2004): 257–85.
Baltes, Paul B., and Ursula M. Staudinger. “Wisdom: A Metaheuristic (Pragmatic) to Orchestrate Mind and Virtue Toward Excellence.” American Psychologist 55, no. 1 (January 2000): 122–36.
Bergsma, Ad, and Monika Ardelt. “Self-Reported Wisdom and Happiness: An Empirical Investigation.” Journal of Happiness Studies 13 (2012): 481–99.
Carey, Benedict. “Older Really Can Mean Wiser.” New York Times, March 16, 2015.
Goldberg, Elkhonon. The Wisdom Paradox: How Your Mind Can Grow Stronger as Your Brain Grows Older. London: Free Press, 2005.
Grossmann, Igor, Jinkyung Na, Michael E. W. Varnum, Denise C. Park, Shinobu Kitayama, and Richard E. Nisbett. “Reasoning About Social Conflicts Improves into Old Age.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America 107, no. 16, 7246–250.
Grossmann, Igor, Jinkyung Na, Michael E. W. Varnum, Shinobu Kitayama, Richard E. Nisbett. “A Route to Well-being: Intelligence Versus Wise Reasoning.” Journal of Experimental Psychology: General 142, no. 3 (August 2013): 944–53.
Grossmann, Igor, Mayumi Karasawa, Satoko Izumi, Jinkyung Na, Michael E. W. Varnum, Shinobu Kitayama, and Richard E. Nisbett. “Aging and Wisdom: Culture Matters.” Psychological Science 23, no. 10 (2012): 1059–66.
Hall, Stephen S. “The Older-and-Wiser Hypothesis.” New York Times Magazine, May 6, 2007.
———. Wisdom: From Philosophy to Neuroscience. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2010.
Hartshorne, Joshua K., and Laura T. Germine. “When Does Cognitive Functioning Peak? The Asynchronous Rise and Fall of Different Cognitive Abilities Across the Life Span.” Psychological Science 26, no. 4 (2015): 433–43.
Korkki, Phyllis. “The Science of Older and Wiser.” New York Times, March 12, 2014.
Qvortrup, Matthew. Angela Merkel: Europe’s Most Influential Leader. London: Gerald Duckworth & Co, 2017.
Sternberg, Robert J. Wisdom: Its Nature, Origins, and Development. Cambridge, UK: Cambridge University Press, 1990.
Chapter 16: How to Give Advice
Kalman, Maira. Commencement speech at Rhode Island School of Design, June 2013. https://vimeo.com/67575089.
Popova, Maria. “Wendell Berry on Solitude and Why Pride and Despair Are the Two Great Enemies of Creative Work.” www.brainpickings.org/2014/12/17/wendell-berry-pride-despair-solitude/.
Shandling, Garry. Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee. http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/garry-shandling-its-great-that-garry-shandling-is-still-alive.
Chapter 18: How to Figure Out What’s Happening
Ekman, Paul, Richard J. Davidson, Matthieu Ricard, and B. Alan Wallace. “Buddhist and Psychological Perspectives in Emotions and Well-Being.” Current Directions in Psychological Science 14, no. 2 (2005).
Epley, Nicholas. Mindwise. New York: Vintage Books, 2015.
Hartshorne and Germine. “When Does Cognitive Functioning Peak?”
Kidd, David Comer, and Emanuele Castano. “Reading Literary Fiction Improves Theory of Mind.” Science, October 3, 2013.
Jones, Daniel P., and Karen Peart. “Class Helping Future Doctors Learn the Art of Observation,” Yale News, April 10, 2009.
“Make Sure You’re Not Totally Clueless in Korea.” Seoulistic.com, April 8, 2013.
Moskowitz, Eva S. In Therapy We Trust. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2001.
Weir, William. “Yale Medical Students Hone Observational Skills at Museum.” Hartford Courant, April 10, 2011.
Chapter 19: How to Think in French
Baudry, Pascal. French and Americans: The Other Shore. Translated by Jean-Louis Morhange. Pascal Baudry, 2005.
Carroll, Raymonde. Cultural Misunderstandings: The French-American Experience. Translated by Carol Volk. Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1988.
Cranston, Maurice. The Noble Savage: Jean-Jacques Rousseau, 1754–1762. Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1991.
Galantucci, Bruno, and Gareth Roberts. “Do We Notice When Communication Goes Awry? An Investigation of People’s Sensitivity to Coherence in Spontaneous Conversation.” PLOS One 9, no. 7 (July 2014).
Imada, Toshie, Stephanie M. Carlson, and Shoji Itakura. “East-West Cultural Differences in Context-Sensitivity Are Evident in Early Childhood.” Developmental Science 16, no. 2 (March 2013): 198–208.
Kitayama, Shinobu, Hazel Rose Markus, Hisaya Matsumoto, and Vinai Norasakkunkit. “Individual and Collective Processes in the Construction of the Self: Self-Enhancement in the United States and Self-Criticism in Japan.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 72, no. 6 (1997): 1245–67.
Masuda, Takahiko, and Richard E. Nisbett. “Attending Holistically versus Analytically: Comparing the Context Sensitivity of Japanese and Americans.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 81, no. 5 (2001): 922–34.
Markus, H. R., and S. Kitayama. “Culture and the Self: Implications for Cognition, Emotion, and Motivation.” Psychological Review 98, no. 2 (1991): 224–53.
Nisbett, Richard E., Kaiping Peng, Incheol Choi, and Ara Norenzayan. “Culture and Systems of Thought: Holistic Versus Analytic Cognition.” Psychological Review 108, no. 2 (2000): 291–310.
Chapter 20: How to Make Friends
Barlow, Julie, and Jean-Benoît Nadeau. The Bonjour Effect. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2016.
Carroll. Cultural Misunderstandings.
Donnellan, M. Brent, and Richard E. Lucas. “Age Differences in the Big Five Across the Life Span: Evidence from Two National Samples.” Psychology and Aging 3 (September 23, 2008): 558–66.
Chapter 21: How to Say No
Bovenberg, Lans. “The Life-Course Perspective and Social Policies: An Overview of the Issues.” OECD, May 31, 2007. www.oecd.org/els/soc/38708491.pdf.
Brim, Orville Gilbert, Carol D. Ryff, and Ronald C. Kessler. How Healthy Are We? A National Study of Well-Being at Midlife. Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2004.
Harford, Tim. “The Power of Saying ‘No’” FT Magazine, January 17/18, 2015.
Kolbert, Elizabeth. “No Time: How Did We Get So Busy?” New Yorker, May 26, 2014.
Kuper, Simon. “Stuck in the Rush-Hour of Life.” Financial Times, October 1, 2010.
Lachman. “Mind the Gap in the Middle.”
Schulte, Brigid. Overwhelmed. London, Bloomsbury, 2014.
“Women of the Hour with Lena Dunham: Zadie Smith,” podcast episode 4.
Chapter 22: How to Control Your Family
Druckerman, Pamela. “Curling Parents and Little Emperors.” Harper’s Magazine, August 2015.
———. “We Are the World (Cup).” New York Times, June 6, 2014.
Ekiel, Erika Brown. “Bringing Up Bébé? No Thanks. I’d Rather Raise a Billionaire.” Forbes.com, March 7, 2012.
Chapter 23: How to Be Afraid
Kuper, Simon. “Paris Witness: Simon Kuper in the Stade de France.” Financial Times, November 14, 2015.
Chapter 24: How to Know Where You’re From
Bemporad, Elissa. “Minsk.” www.yivoencyclopedia.org/printarticle.aspx?id=886.
Korkki, Phyllis. The Science of Older and Wiser. New York Times, March 12, 2014.
Staudinger, Ursula M. “The Study of Wisdom.” www.ursulastaudinger.com/research-3/the-study-of-wisdom/
United States Holocaust Memorial Museum. Holocaust Encyclopedia, Minsk. www.ushmm.org/wlc/en/article.php?ModuleId=10005187#seealso.
Yad Vashem. “Minsk: Historical Background.” www.yadvashem.org/righteous/stories/minsk-historical-background.html.
———. “Online Guide of Murder Sites of Jews in the Former USSR.” www.yadvashem.org/yv/en/about/institute/killing_sites_catalog_details_full.asp?region=Minsk.
Yahad in Unum. Transcripts of testimonies on Minsk.
Chapter 25: How to Stay Married
Bloch, Lian, Claudia M. Haase, and Robert W. Levenson. “Emotional Regulation Predicts Marital Satisfaction: More Than a Wives’ Tale.” Emotion 14, no. 1 (February 2014): 130–44.
Carroll. Cultural Misunderstandings.
Finkel, Eli J. “The All-or-Nothing Marriage.” New York Times, February 14, 2014.
Finkel, Eli J., Elaine O. Cheung, Lydia F. Emery, Kathleen L. Carswell, and Grace M. Larson. “The Suffocation Model: Why Marriage in America Is Becoming an All-or-Nothing Institution.” Current Directions in Psychological Science 24, no. 3 (2015): 238–44.
Greenspan, Dorie. “The Evening-in-Paris Dinner.” New York Times Magazine, October 25, 2017.
Hefez, Serge, with Danièle Laufer. La danse du Couple. Paris: Pluriel, 2016.
Conclusion: How to Be a Femme Libre
André, Christophe. Imparfaits, libres et heureux. Paris: Poches Odile Jacob, 2006.
Beauvoir, Simone de. The Second Sex. Paris: Gallimard, 1949.
Fabre, Clarisse. “La nouvelle gloire de Virginie Efira.” Le Monde, May 12, 2016.
Jeanne-Victoire. La Femme Libre, “Appel aux Femmes,” August 15, 1832. http://gallica.bnf.fr/ark:/12148/bpt6k85525j/f4.image.
Loustalot, Ghislain. “Claire Chazal: Une envie de douceur.” Paris Match, September 18–24, 2014.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
PAMELA DRUCKERMAN is a journalist and the author of four books including Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting, which has been translated into twenty-seven languages. She’s also a contributing opinion writer at the New York Times.
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