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2.Lene Arnett Jensen, Jeffery Jensen Arnett, S. Shirley Feldman and Elizabeth Cauffman, “The Right to Do Wrong: Lying to Parents among Adolescents and Emerging Adults,” Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 33, no. 2 (2004), 102.
3.Ibid.
4.Schmuel Shulman and Inge Seiffge-Krenke, Fathers and Adolescents: Developmental and Clinical Perspectives (London, UK: Routledge, 1997), 224.
5.Koen Luyckx, Maarten Vansteenkiste, Luc Goossens and Michael D. Berzonsky, “Parental Psychological Control and Dimensions of Identity Formation in Emerging Adulthood,” Journal of Family Psychology 21, no. 21 (2007): 547.
6.Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships (New York, NY: HarperCollins, 1985), 192–193.
7.Ibid., 214.
8.John Gottman and Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (New York, NY: Three Rivers Press, 1999), 149.
9.John M. Gottman, What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc., 1994), 183.
10.Gottman and Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, 149.
11.Bill O’Hanlon, Do One Thing Different: Ten Simple Ways to Change Your Life (New York, NY: HarperCollins, 1999), 19.
Chapter 10:
Working With the Grain
1.Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want (New York, NY: Penguin Press, 2008): 22.
2.Hara Estroff Marano, A Nation of Wimps: The High Cost of Invasive Parenting (New York, NY: Broadway Books, 2008), 229.
3.Ibid.
4.Ibid.
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6.Rubén G. Rumbaut, “Young Adults in the United States: A Profile,” Research Network Working Paper No. 4 (2004): 6, accessed April 23, 2012, http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=1887827.
7.William S. Aquilino, “From Adolescent to Young Adult: A Prospective Study of Parent-Child Relations during the Transition to Adulthood,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 59, no. 3 (1997): 682.
8.Laura A. King and Joshua A. Hicks, “Whatever Happened to ‘What Might Have Been’? Regrets, Happiness and Maturity,” American Psychologist 62, no. 7 (2007): 634.
9.King and Hicks, “Whatever Happened to ‘What Might Have Been’?”; Varda Konstam, “Emerging Adults and Parental Divorce: Coming to Terms with ‘What Might Have Been,’ ” Journal of Systemic Therapies 28, no. 4 (2009): 39.
10.Cynthia Broderick, “Top 10 Things to Do before You Turn 30,” Bankrate.com, March 23, 2003, accessed February 3, 2012, http://www.bankrate.com/brm/news/advice/19990531a.asp.
11.John Zogby, The Way We’ll Be: The Zogby Report on the Transformation of the American Dream (New York, NY: Random House, 2008), 197.
12.Anna Bahney, “A Life Between Jobs,” New York Times, June 8, 2006, accessed December 14, 2011, http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/08/fashion/thursdaystyles/08vaca.html?pagewanted=all.
13.Zogby, The Way We’ll Be, 199.
14.Sharon Jayson, “Many ‘Emerging Adults’ 18–29 Are Not There Yet,” USA Today, July 30, 2012, accessed August 15, 2012, http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/health/wellness/story/2012–07–30/Emerging-adults-18–29-still-attached-to-parents/56575404/1.
15.Jean M. Twenge, Generation Me: Why Today’s Young Americans are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled—and More Miserable Than Ever Before (New York, NY: Free Press, 2006), 106–116.
16.Judith Warner, Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety (New York, NY: Riverhead Books, 2005), 163.
17.Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness, 22—23.
18.Ibid.
19.Marianne Jacobbi, “You, Only Different: Why Do Girlfriends and Wives Keep Trying to Change Their Men,” The Boston Globe, March 15, 2009, accessed November 4, 2011, http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/magazine/articles/2009/03/15/you_only_different/.