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by Henry Hitchings

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  Kevin Cahill, ‘The Great Property Swindle’, New Statesman, 11 March 2011

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th, Noise and Stench in England, 1600–1770 (New Haven, Connecticut: Yale University Press, 2007)

  __________, Cheek by Jowl: A History of Neighbours (London: Bodley Head, 2012)

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  Glenda Cooper, ‘Kiss of Death or Friendly Salute?’, Daily Telegraph, 14 August 2011

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  Leo Damrosch, Jean-Jacques Rousseau: Restless Genius (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2005)

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  Jenny Davidson, Hypocrisy and the Power of Politeness: Manners and Morals from Locke to Austen (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2004)

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  Debrett’s Etiquette and Modern Manners, ed. Elsie Burch Donald (London: Debrett’s, 1981)

  Geoffroi de Charny, A Knight’s Own Book of Chivalry, trans. Elspeth Kennedy (Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 2005)

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  Selected Writings of Daniel Defoe, ed. James T. Boulton (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 1975)

  Giovanni della Casa, Galateo, trans. Konrad Eisenbichler and Kenneth R. Bartlett (Toronto: Centre for Reformation and Renaissance Studies, 1986)

  Benjamin DeMott, ‘Seduced by Civility: Political Manners and the Crisis of Democratic Values’, Nation, 9 December 1996

  Béat-Louis de Muralt, Letters Describing the Character and Customs of the English and French Nations (London: Thomas Edlin, 1726)

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  John Dunton, The Night-walker: or, Evening Rambles in Search of Lewd Women (London: J. Orme, 1696)

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  J. C. Flügel, The Psychology of Clothes (London: Hogarth Press, 1930)

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