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The Awakened Woman

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by Tererai Trent


  10 Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (New York: Ballantine Books, 1995), pp. 472–473.

  11 Lissa Rankin, “The Healing Power of Telling Your Story,” Psychology Today, November 2012, accessed at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201211/the-healing-power-telling-your-story.

  12 Ibid.

  13 Ibid.

  14 Thomas K. Houston, et al., “Culturally Appropriate Storytelling to Improve Blood Pressure: A Randomized Trial,” Annals of Internal Medicine 154, no. 2 (2011): 77.

  15 Sayantani DasGupta, interview with Business Innovation Factory, December 22, 2016, accessed at http://www.businessinnovationfactory.com/summit/story/healing-power-story.

  16 Ibid.

  17 Ibid.

  18 Ibid.

  19 Audre Lorde, “The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action,” Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches (New York: The Crossing Press Feminist Series, 1984), p. 41.

  20 Douglas Martin, “Yang Huanyi, the Last User of a Secret Women’s Code,” New York Times, October 7, 2004, accessed at http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9C04E7DE173BF934A35753C1A9629C8B63.

  21 Ibid.

  22 “The Dialectical Relationship between Children and the Storyteller in Ngano Aesthetics in Zimbabwe,” The Free Library, December 29, 2016, accessed at https://www.thefreelibrary.com/The+dialectical+relationship+between+children+and+the+storyteller+in. . .-a0192351983.

  23 Walt Whitman, “Song of Myself,” Leaves of Grass (New York: The Viking Press, 1959), p. 85.

  Chapter 5: Validate Your Body’s Knowing: Harnessing Your Sensuality

  1 Seynabou Tall, regional gender and GBV adviser, United Nations Population Fund, in discussion with the author, October 2016.

  2 “Ending Child Marriage: Progress and Prospects,” United Nations Children’s Fund, UNICEF, New York, 2014.

  3 Ibid.

  4 David A. Farenthold, “Trump Recorded Having Extremely Lewd Conversation about Women in 2005,” Washington Post, October 8, 2016, accessed at https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/trump-recorded-having-extremely-lewd-conversation-about-women-in-2005/2016/10/07/3b9ce776-8cb4-11e6-bf8a-3d26847eeed4_story.html?postshare=2491475870527101&tid=ss_tw&utm_term=.90b83abaa56c.

  5 See Lisa Wade, “The Orgasm Gap: The Real Reason Women Get Off Less Often Than Men and How to Fix It,” AlterNet, April 3, 2012, accessed at http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/orgasm-gap-real-reason-women-get-less-often-men-and-how-fix-it; Paula England, Emily Fitzgibbons Shafer, and Alison C. K. Fogarty, “Hooking Up and Forming Romantic Relationships on Today’s College Campuses,” The Gendered Society Reader (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2011), 578–591; and Edward O. Laumann, et al., The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2000).

  6 Wade, “The Orgasm Gap.”

  7 See K. J. Bell, “Wake Up and Smell the Condoms: An Analysis of Sex Education Programs in the United States, the Netherlands, Sweden, Australia, France, and Germany,” Inquiries Journal/Student Pulse 1, no. 11 (2009), accessed at https://www.inquiriesjournal.com/a?id=40 and Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti, Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2008).

  8 Kali Holloway, “The Labiaplasty Boom: Why Are Women Desperate for the Perfect Vagina?” AlterNet, February 13, 2015, accessed at http://www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/labiaplasty-boom-why-are-women-desperate-perfect-vagina.

  9 “Violence Against Women in the United States: Statistics,” accessed at http://now.org/resource/violence-against-women-in-the-united-states-statistic/.

  10 Cheryl Strayed, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail (New York: Vintage Books, 2013), p. 143.

  11 Zora Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God (New York: Harper Perennial, 1998), p. 11.

  12 Mary Oliver, “Wild Geese,” Dream Work (New York: Grove/Atlantic, 1986), p. 14.

  13 Audre Lorde, “Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power,” Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches (New York: The Crossing Press Feminist Series, 1984), p. 54.

  14 Ibid.

  15 Ibid., p. 55.

  16 Ibid.

  17 Esther Perel, “The Fluidity of Sexual Desire,” Emerging Women Conference, San Francisco, California, October 2015.

  Chapter 6: Let Your Spirit Take Root: Believing in Your Dreams

  1 See Tara Sophia Mohr, “Why Women Don’t Apply for Jobs Unless They’re 100% Qualified,” Harvard Business Review, August 25, 2014, accessed at https://hbr.org/2014/08/why-women-dont-apply-for-jobs-unless-theyre-100-qualified.

  2 Rachel Simmons, The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence (New York: Penguin Books, 2010), eBook, introduction.

  3 Anat Hoffman, “Why I Was Arrested for Praying at the Western Wall,” Huffington Post, October 21, 2002, accessed at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/anat-hoffman/arrested-for-praying-at-western-wall_b_1987099.html.

  4 Andrea Elliot, “Woman Leads Muslim Prayer Service in New York,” New York Times, March 19, 2005, accessed at http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/19/nyregion/woman-leads-muslim-prayer-service-in-new-york.html?_r=4.

  5 Psalm 51:7.

  Chapter 7: Be Courageous, Not Silent: Inspiring Action and Opportunity

  1 Kofi Annan, Keynote Address, International Women’s Health Coalition, January 15, 2004, accessed at http://www.un.org/press/en/2004/sgsm9118.doc.htm.

  2 Justin Rowlatt, “The Indian Women Who Took on a Multinational and Won,” BBC News, October 19, 2015, accessed at http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-34513824.

  3 Marian Wright Edelman, “It’s Hard to Be What You Can’t See,” Children’s Defense Fund Child Watch Column, August 21, 2015, accessed at http://www.childrensdefense.org/newsroom/child-watch-columns/child-watch-documents/ItsHardtobeWhatYouCantSee.html.

  4 Paula Gunn Allen, “Who Is Your Mother? Red Roots of White Feminism,” The Sacred Hoop: Recovering the Feminine in American Indian Traditions (Boston: Beacon Press, 1992), pp. 209–221.

  5 Ibid. Note: Gunn Allen is paraphrasing; the correct proverb reads: “A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground.”

  6 Jo Luck, former CEO of Heifer International, interview with Colleen Martell, May 12, 2016.

  7 Diane Ramsey, CEO, Iowa Women Lead Change, interview with the author, April 2016.

  8 Ibid.

  9 Ibid.

  10 Hope Sadza (Professor and Vice Chancellor, Women’s University in Africa), interview with the author, March 3, 2016.

  11 Ibid.

  12 Ibid.

  13 Ibid.

  14 Ibid.

  15 Stronz, interview with the author, March 7 and April 16, 2016.

  16 Shirin Ebadi, Iranian lawyer, former judge, human rights activist, and founder of Defenders of Human Rights Center in Iran, interview with the author, February 8, 2016.

  17 Ibid.

  18 Leah Campbell, artist and life coach, interview with the author, September and November 2015.

  19 Diane Nash, “Black History Month Keynote Speaker: Civil Rights Leader Diane Nash,” Williams Center for the Arts, Lafayette College, attended by Colleen Martell, February 17, 2016.

  Chapter 8: The Sacred Sisterhood: Cultivating Your Sahwira

  1 Brené Brown, “The Power of Vulnerability,” TED Talk, Houston, Texas, June 2010, accessed at http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en#.

  2 Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist: Essays (New York: HarperPerennial, 2014), p. 47.

  3 Rebecca Traister, All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2016), p. 105.

  4 Ibid., p. 97.

  5 Ibid., p. 116.

  6 Ibid.

  7 Melissa Pandika, “Why Girl Gangs Make for Good Health,” Ozy, March 10, 2016, accessed at http://www.ozy.com/acumen/ozy-ted-why-girl-gangs-make-for-good-health/66795?utm_source=NH&utm_mediu
m=pp&utm_campaign=pp.

  8 Ibid.

  Conclusion: It Is Achievable!

  1 See Tony Bennett, et al., New Keywords: A Revised Vocabulary of Culture and Society (Malden, MA: Blackwell Publishing, 2005), pp. 97–99.

  2 Plato, “Theaetetus 148c-151d,” The Dialogues of Plato, translated by Benjamin Jowett. (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1892), accessed at http://www.sophia-project.org/uploads/1/3/9/5/13955288/plato_midwife.pdf.

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  Title: The awakened woman : remembering and reigniting our sacred dreams /

   Tererai Trent, PhD.

  Description: New York : Enliven Books, [2017] | Includes bibliographical references.

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