by D K Olukoya
1 Corinthians 6:15-16
"Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God farbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."
For your life and destiny to be in correct standing, you need to carry out some deliverance exercises to break some soul-ties. You worsen the matter, when you sleep with plenty of them; you fragment your soul into pieces. You will need to gather yourself back together again before things can actually move smoothly. This involves both your marriage and other areas of your life.
There is this prominent man who did not like the Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries. But one day something happened to him. His wife was travelling abroad and he escorted her to the airport. After dropping her off at the airport, he picked another lady home and slept with her on his matrimonial bed. Around 1:00a.m. in the middle of the night, however, as he got up to ease himself, he found the lady he brought home lying with her two legs on the wall. He was alarmed because it is believed in Africa that those who sleep with their legs on the wall are witches and have gone for their witchcraft meeting.
He tried to wake her but could not. He shook her vigorously but to no avail. He kept trying until 5:00a.m. when he was finally able to wake her up. Apparently, she was just coming back from her witchcraft meeting. Having successfully woken her up, he then chased her away from the house.
It is not everything that yields to prayer. Some things don't yield to prayer; they yield to repentance... Certain things do not require deliverance; they only submit to character rearrangement. The same thing goes for fasting.
The man came to see me that same day. I was surprised when I learnt that he was waiting to see me. He narrated everything that happened. He knew he was in a dilemma and was looking for a fix. I then asked him just to confirm, "You mean you slept with the woman who slept with her legs on the wall?" He answered in the affirmative. I then told him plainly. "Since you slept with her and she is a witch, then you also have become a witch". He asked me for the way out and I told him that he would have to embark on a three-day dry fast. He found it difficult to accept since he was used to breakfast along with coffee in the morning. Anyway, since he wanted his freedom, he complied and the Lord showed His mercy, though he still faced the consequences of having sex outside marriage. Things were never the same.
3 THE BIBLE SAYS WE SHOULD FLEE FROM FORNICATION.
Fornication is sexual intercourse between two people who are not married. It is a divine instruction never to indulge in sex with a person other than your lawful spouse, or else you will bring God's judgment on yourself. The fact that a person has indulged in regular non-marital sex without any seeming repercussion does not mean that judgment will not come. Do not be deceived by that.
The Bible says in Proverb 11:21
"Though hand join in hand, the wicked shall not be unpunished: but the seed of the righteous shall be delivered."
It also says in Galatians 6:7-8
"Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting."
It is true that we serve a merciful God, but it will be a serious mistake to take Him for granted; especially now that you know the truth.
Hebrews 10:26-27, 31 says:
"For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
4 YOU NEED TO WAIT FOR MARRIAGE BEFORE HAVING SEX IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN YOUR RESPECT.
Sex is worth waiting for; I must confess that to you. Apart from the fact that it is dirty and unhealthy to be sexually loose, you automatically trade your self-respect. Your sex partners will see you as a cheap and easy-to-catch person. You lose the trust they can have for you, which is why most relationships that involve sex don't lead to marriage. As a lady, men will respect you when you insist on marriage first before sex. And if he says without sex, no marriage; then you let him go or else you will be added to the list of those he has slept with.
5 YOU SHOULD WAIT IN ORDER TO HAVE A CLEAR CONSCIENCE AND NO WORRIES OR REGRETS.
When a jilted person takes it too personal to the point of considering suicide or vow never to go into any other relationship, it is due to the fact that she has gotten involved in pre-marital sex. But if you keep yourself from sex a breakdown in the relationship will not cause regret and pain.
As a lady, men will respect you when you insist on
marriage first before sex
6 SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUNG PEOPLE HAS BEEN KNOWN TO ARREST THEIR PSYCHOLOGICAL, SOCIAL AND ACADEMIC DEVELOPMENT.
Studies have shown that those who engage in sex at a young age are generally the bottom performers in class. This reason is strong enough for the young singles to keep off.
7 MAJORITY OF 'DECENT' WOMEN CANNOT ENJOY SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE.
There are a number of issues that give women worries when they engage in sex outside marriage. For example, having to hide for the fear of being caught or the fear of contracting a disease, etc. This is really too much trouble and there is no enjoyment in that. So it doesn't make sense at all when you have so many causes for anxiety troubling you during the act and thereafter.
8 HEAVEN WILL APPLAUD YOU IF YOUR VIRGINITY IS GIVEN TO THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE.
That is, your husband or wife. The first person who deflowers you is a very important person because there is a very powerful blood covenant formed. As a lady, heaven can even trust your womb with an unborn prophet or prophetess. Just like our Lord Jesus, the birth of some important figures to God requires a vessel that is chosen, pure and divine. Keeping yourself pure has a spiritual value that goes beyond human comprehension; it could be in form of a divine mandate.
9 YOU DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF AND YOUR DESTINY SOMETHING THAT PEOPLE TOY WITH.
Sleeping with people outside marriage is to make yourself a toy in the hands of others. Sex is deeper than the physical activity people talk about. It can determine a lot about your future. One of the greatest weapons in the hand of the devil to terminate glorious destinies is sex outside marriage. In order to avoid toiling under a bewitched heaven, avoid pre-marital sex.
10 WAITING UNTIL MARRIAGE WILL ALLOW YOU TO GROW AS A CHRISTIAN
You cannot grow in grace when you are having sex outside marriage. You will even prevent your own prayers from being answered. The Bible says the prayer of a sinner is an abomination to God, hence you automatically fall into the category of those that pray and can never receive an answer. The only prayer a sinner can pray and get a desirable result to, is the prayer for forgiveness.
11 YOU NEED TO WAIT IN ORDER TO HAVE A CLEAR HEAD WHEN YOU ARE MAKING IMPORTANT DECISIONS.
Heaven will not tell you anything about marriage when you have already started sleeping with a man or woman and then you want to know if that person is God's will for you or not. The mystery of the Christian faith is that once you accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your saviour, your entire being is handed over to Him on the spot. He becomes the owner of your soul too. Immediately you begin to have illicit sexual affairs with a person, your entire life is involved, most especially your soul. You immediately get disconnected from divine connection and get attached to your sex partner. As such, confusion enters, the calmness and contribution of the Holy Spirit to the decisions you make also gets disconnected. When it gets this bad, any decision you make at that moment does not involve the backing of heaven. Confusion would have set in and getting things right might be so difficult. The decisions people make at their disconnected period from divine contact are usually destructive.
As a lady, men will respect you when y
ou insist on
marriage first before sex
12 YOU NEED TO WAIT IN ORDER TO AVOID UNWANTED PREGNANCY.
Unwanted pregnancy often leads to abortion and this has terrible spiritual implications. There is a spirit known as the spirit of abortion and this causes frustration in the life of anyone that commits it, unless he or she cries out for mercy. Anything he or she does will not work because the blood of the aborted babies will be crying out against him/her. If it does work, they will lack a firm foundation and as such, will not last long before collapsing. Such a person needs to repent and go for deliverance to break free.
13 UNPLANNED SINGLE PARENTHOOD.
Those that get pregnant from sex outside marriage and choose not to go for abortion, for one reason or the other, become emergency single parents. Unplanned single parenthood will not only make their lives miserable it will also subject the innocent child to an upbringing that causes regret and abuse.
14 YOU NEED TO WAIT IN ORDER TO AVOID SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES:
My original discipline is Microbiology. We cure sexually transmitted diseases because they are microorganisms. In the 70s, there were only 2 sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and they were both curable. Now, there are over 25 STDs and several of them are completely incurable. Unfortunately for many people, they are not aware that they have these STDs and they have completely destroyed their womb and reproductive organs. There is a particular STD, which does not show until it blocks the fallopian tubes. Once the fallopian tubes are gone, then forget any thing called conception except by divine intervention. When you tell people to wait for marriage, they feel you do not understand what is going on whereas they are the ones ignorant of the full impact of their actions.
One of the greatest weapons in the hand of the devil to terminate glorious destinies is sex. outside marriage. In order to avoid toiling under a bewitched heaven, avoid pre-marital sex.
15 YOU NEED TO WAIT IN ORDER TO AVOID DEATH FROM STDs:
A lot of people have died from sicknesses contracted through sex, and many are presently under the agony of these diseases. Indulging in this criminal act shortens lives; it's like signing up for untimely death. Though there are several ways people have devised for themselves to have 'safe sex'. Despite this, however, casualties have not stopped mounting the queue. For example, while a lot of people know that the condom is only about 90% effective, they are not aware that there are some diseases that can evade the condom barrier.
Also, you cannot really tell who has sexually transmitted diseases. For example, most young teenage girls have what we call Chlamydia. And most of them do not know because a lot of these diseases do not have easily noticeable symptoms. The safest and best thing is to avoid pre-marital sex.
16 ORAL SEX IS NOT SAFE TOO.
Many STDs can be transmitted through oral sex as well. It is even worse. Genital herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, HIV etc. can be transmitted through oral sex. When I was working in my laboratory in those days, they brought a man to us that had gonorrhea in the throat. To worsen the case, he had conjunctivitis (popularly called Apollo in Nigeria) in his eyes and someone told him that he could use his urine to cure the conjunctivitis by washing his eye with it. So he started using his gonorrhea infested urine to wash his eyes. As a result, his eyes also caught the infection and he now had gonorrhea in three places: throat, eyes and penis.
17 ABSTINENCE IS THE ONLY 100% METHOD OF PREVENTING UNWANTED PREGNANCIES AND STDs.
As a matter of fact if you do not want to be pregnant or impregnate someone before you marry, then avoid pre-marital sex. There are no other options: avoid sex before marriage. As noted above, the manufacturers of condoms do not give you a 100% guarantee because it could break in the process. This can result in unplanned pregnancy that will put you into a hard-to-recover-from dilemma.
18 SEPARATION FROM GOD AND STINKING IN THE NOSTRILS OF THE ALMIGHTY.
Habakkuk 1:13a
"Thou art of purer eyes than to behold evil, and canst not look on iniquity."
The eyes of the Lord are too pure to behold sin. If God the Father could turn away His face from Jesus on the cross because the sin of the whole world was upon Him, it shows the seriousness of the matter. The moment a man becomes an object of irritation to the Almighty, it is a big deal. His prayers become rejected; he loses favour, even before men. The fact is that, it takes a second and divine touch for such a person to survive life without opting for suicide. Premarital sex is a killer.
19 IT MAY LEAD TO WRONG MARRIAGE.
There are some marriages people had to force themselves into as a result of the outcome of the premarital sex they indulged in.
If a lady gets pregnant for a man and as a result marries the man, it does not mean the marriage will work. In fact, most marriages contracted because of unexpected pregnancy have problems originating from distrust. Such marriages were done without proper planning, thereby resulting in the lack of proper knowledge of each other. Most of them do not last. Those that seem to be together for a long period never enjoy their moments together.
20 BARRENNESS AND OTHER GYNECOLOGICAL PROBLEMS CAN RESULT FROM SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES.
The straight fact is that you could be a victim of one of the multiple side effects of having a sexually transmitted disease. Even when they get treated, some of them end up giving a permanent scar to their victims. This is avoidable, avoid pre-marital sex.
21 DESTINY DERAILMENT.
All the devil needs to catch up with someone is to make him or her go off the rails in the issues vital to his or her life. It is like going on an adventure to a clumsy land without a map or compass. The end-result is usually fruitless. In other words, I am saying that it is impossible to be sexually loose and be in good terms with the Almighty. He becomes a stranger over the affairs of your life once you cannot control your sexual urges. God would no longer be responsible for whatever happens to you and as such, you stand the risk of missing your divine destiny. That is a risk which is not worth taking for sex, or for any reason at all.
22 CREATING LADDERS AND OPEN DOORS FOR THE DEMONIC INVASION OF SEXUAL AND OTHER WICKED SPIRITS.
There are spiritual doors through which the devil uses to penetrate people's lives on a daily basis, and sexual organs are a major culprit. Having sex with a person you are not married to is one of the routes that leads to demonic possession by all kinds of evil spirits. This . happens when your sex partner is possessed. Now, even if he/she is not possessed, by virtue of the fact that you have successfully defiled yourselves, demons can enter. Just as bacteria will invade a dirty place, so also demons will invade a dirty life. Once they come in, they master the environment and then bring in as many other wicked demons as possible. Their presence in a person's life is reflected through many ways: strange sickness, confusion, mistakes and errors, etc. Is it not better to stay clean? Be warned!
Having sex with a person you are not married to
is one of the routes that leads to demonic
possession by all kinds of evil spirits.
23 DISTORTION OF THINKING PROCESS AND REVELATION POWERS INVITING THE SPIRIT OF MISTAKE AND ERROR.
Romans 8:5, 14 says:
"For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God."
We are in the end times and as the bible predicts, the level of evil-doing has been unprecedentedly hiked. And no one seems to have a solution for it. But the children of the most High God are led by His spirit on how to survive the perilous times. If you defile yourself with premarital sex you can never benefit from the promise of the Comforter who has already been sent to us. He guides us and leads us away from the scenes of destruction. The Holy Spirit knows all things; you need Him to survive. Avoid premarital sex.
24 SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE IS BOTH PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING AND EMOTIONALLY DANGEROUS BECAUSE IT HAS THE PO
WER TO TAMPER WITH OUR THOUGHT PROCESSES.
Any individual who engages in premarital sex would eventually begin to reason according to the desires of the flesh rather than following the leading of the Holy Spirit. The desires of the natural man will be strengthened due to the sexual intercourse between the two individuals who are not married.
Premarital sex unfortunately gives the enemy legal ground to enter and toy with a person's life. Spiritually the mind will be attacked, slowly giving way to corruption and deterioration of one's character and personality.
Renewal of the mind through the word of God at this stage becomes seemingly impossible because once the soul is under the bondage of sin; it becomes more gullible and more easily deceived. Spiritual insight and perception is lost, the soul is left in darkness and confusion.
25 TO INCREASE YOUR CHANCE OF HAVING A WONDERFUL AND LASTING MARRIAGE.
By research, people who wait till they are married before they have sex, stand a lower risk of divorcing later. Laying a wrong foundation for your marriage through the avenue of sex leaves a wrong idea about the institution of marriage. Sex cannot make a marriage, as it is not the primary purpose of marriage. Even though l Cor 7:2 has advised each man or woman to have their spouse to avoid sexual immorality, it does not mean that marriage is all about sex.
The partners who decide to marry because they feel they are sexually compatible, will end up in divorce or separation the moment the marriage is faced with real challenges. Unfortunately by this time, they now come to the realization that they and their spouses had nothing in common.
