Behaving Like Adults
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Contents
Also by Anna Maxted
Title Page
Dedication
Acknowledgements
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13
Chapter 14
Chapter 15
Chapter 16
Chapter 17
Chapter 18
Chapter 19
Chapter 20
Chapter 21
Chapter 22
Chapter 23
Chapter 24
Chapter 25
Chapter 26
Chapter 27
Chapter 28
Chapter 29
Chapter 30
Chapter 31
Chapter 32
Chapter 33
Chapter 34
Chapter 35
Chapter 36
Chapter 37
Chapter 38
Chapter 39
Chapter 40
Chapter 41
Chapter 42
Chapter 43
Chapter 44
Chapter 45
Chapter 46
Chapter 47
Chapter 48
Chapter 49
Chapter 50
Copyright
Also by Anna Maxted
Getting Over It
Running in Heels
Behaving Like Adults
Anna Maxted
For Leonie, my best sister
Acknowledgements
A huge thank you to: Jonny Geller (b.a.i.t.w.); Andy McKillop – gosh, you were patient; Kirsty Fowkes (here’s to more bagels, less attitude from your writers); all the kind, clever people at Random House; Phil ‘Agape or ajar?’ ‘Neither’ Robinson; Caroline Thompson – note, heroine possesses neither satchel nor lunchbox; Sarah Paul and Anthony Barrow – you were marvellous, darlings, marvellous! Mark Curtis – so kind to do all that photocopying and answer my idiot questions; the very gorgeous and generous Lorraine Adams – I couldn’t have done it without you; the equally charming and talented David Sack, I’m so grateful; John Nathan, for hilarious tales of boats and probably more; the multi-talented Sunil Kapoor; Tiffany Smith – because I forgot to thank you last time; Frank Tallis – you’re so clever, we can’t get over it in this house; Gavin Tranter – I’m a bit slow, I hope I got it vaguely right; Aileen McColgan – was lovely to meet you, I hope you approve! Anna Moore – ‘Anna Moore came through for me’; Mary Maxted – see, third time lucky: nice parents . . . Wendy Bristow – the one and only Wend! Yvonne and Kate Oliver – for finding me the lovely Linda Bailey; Ross Walker – for putting me in touch with the fantastic Anne Bellamy; Stephanie – thank you; Jeanette King – you again! Andy Robinson – I pretty much ignored your excellent advice but fiction rools! John Perry – hmm, not quite as much input from you this time, could do better; Tracey Moynihan – this is the last call, honest, officer . . .
Chapter 1
MODERN WOMEN DON’T believe in love. Believing in love carries roughly the same stigma as wearing court shoes. It’s as old-fashioned as going on a diet (as opposed to a detox). It suggests you have no sense of irony and you like Meg Ryan films. A modern woman cannot accept that Father Christmas is a fraud and persist in believing that one sunny day her dark handsome destiny will appear in a puff of Fahrenheit and haul her off to Happy Ever After.
I know all that and yet, I do believe in love. I apologise. But I can’t help it. I presume it’s a genetic blip which might also account for my dress sense. (Too pink.)
I just like stuff to be nice. That’s even worse. If you wish to maintain even a shred of credibility, you have to be cynical and keep your mouth in a hard straight line even when you find something funny. I’m not stupid. I do know the world is cruel. But I always like to hope that it isn’t. I test my ahhhh! count. You proceed through the day, listing every occasion you’re prompted to think Ahhhh! You can’t cheat and hire a puppy to peep out of a basket. Often, my total is horrific.
When I started the dating agency, Rachel crowed that now I’d see what people were really like. I wouldn’t believe the lies they told to get laid! She said this as if I were either a nun, or a social retard who believed – despite living in a densely populated part of the planet for twenty-nine years – that seduction was about honing in on the obvious and blurting it. Whereas I’m well aware that if that were the case, the human race would have fizzled out in the Iron Age when Wilma stared at Fred and said, ‘That’s quite a small flintstone you’ve got there’. Sometimes, I think my friends confuse optimism with idiocy.
Of course unpleasant characters applied. When you launch a dating agency, even if you specify as we did that Girl Meets Boy was for the ‘young and funky’ (which no doubt deterred everyone in both of those categories), you invite weirdos to your door. It’s Open Day for Oddballs. It’s the Marilyn Manson Fan Club Parents Evening. But overall – despite the nutters, nerds, squares, sociopaths, oafs, halfwits, dummies, brutes, airheads and deviants gracing our files – the Ahhhh! count was immense.
Partly to distinguish ourselves from the Christians with an interest in ornithology brigade, and partly to discern if anyone out there possessed an SOH (a GSOH is a luxury), we asked silly questions on the application form. Even Nige – who’d only agreed to help out because he was between acting jobs and is nosy – agreed that the hoi-polloi were far wittier than he’d given them credit for. I particularly warmed to the twenty-seven-year-old man who replied to ‘Do you have any talents?’ with ‘Probably not’.
Girl Meets Boy began as a business, but the people who used it fast melted my heart to a soft sticky caramel.
Also, towards the end of the great fiancé fiasco (not before in case you were wondering), it did occur to me that I might find someone. Don’t mix business with pleasure? I thought it was a phrase made up by killjoys to stop you smiling at work. I was trying to enjoy what I’d achieved. I’d achieved so much, said everyone, I should be so proud. Oh, absolutely. I’d made sacrifices, but not whole lambs, more the odd chop. I should be happy.
When I’m told I should be happy, I start trying to measure it with a ruler.
Everything is a test. Rachel rings to say that the cab dropped her outside her flat whereupon she bade farewell to a loud luxurious fart, then turned and saw her neighbour padding up the path behind her. We howl with laughter, yes, but is that happy? The cat sits on my lap, her purr rumbles through me, and I sigh – that’s happy, surely? I visit the arthouse cinema because I hate Warner Village (Village? It’s not a village!) and I feel comforted by the fact they sell wholegrain flapjacks – even though I wouldn’t eat one for a bet – and I watch myself do this, and I think, that woman, she’s smiling, but is she happy?
Self-interrogation is dangerous. Your inner voice pronounces the obvious, ‘You don’t realise you’re happy till it’s gone’, as if it’s your fault for not keeping an eye out, thus making you feel worse than you do already. But you’re not to blame. Mostly, happiness doesn’t just drop from you like an apple from a tree. It trickles away silently, evaporating over the months and years, until one day, you feel a strange hollowness inside and you glance around and it hits you – despite all you own, your great, glorious success, you have nothing.
The good – and therefore unreported – news is that you can find it again. It might be a bit of a trek. If you haven’t the least idea of your destination, the journey takes a little longer. But I’m your non-court shoe wearing proof. Rachel was right. I did discover what pe
ople were really like. And yet, after everything that happened, I got happy again. I still believe in love. As I said, I can only apologise. And explain.
When Nige suggested a party, to celebrate the success of Girl Meets Boy, I did wonder.
I had done well, creating a company from scratch and making it pay. Although, any old pinhead can create a company. They make it foolproof at Companies House – for around eighty pounds they hand you over a shrink-wrap company. All you, the pinhead, have to do is provide the names of the board of directors and their share allocation. I was the director, with seventy shares, and—in a selfless act – my younger sister Claudia was secretary, with thirty. (This was in lieu of pay, for the first month. Nige, however, preferred to resist bribes – that way, he said, he didn’t feel ‘obligated’.)
Another twenty quid to Companies House, and I could name my baby, Girl Meets Boy. Then, the most important part of any business plan, I found a good accountant. And that, give or take a bit of fuss, was it. My accountant did the bore’s share of the paperwork, instructing me what I owed the taxman each month via apologetic email. This allowed me to devote myself to my real interest: making Girl Meets Boy a hit.
My strategy was unscientific. I hoped that if I ensured people had fun, and I shelled out for advertising, financial success would follow. And, after seven months, it did.
So did I really want to tempt fate and host a party? People might have fun, but it wasn’t guaranteed. And you have to be pretty pleased with yourself to host a party. The subtext is, ‘I’m so interesting, I think you should all come to my home and bring wine’. And parties are like cakes. They can fall flat for no apparent reason. Also, if you care the least bit about whether your guests are enjoying themselves, you are bound to have a stressed, hassled, fun-free time.
Nige, the arch manipulator, saw me hesitate and cried, ‘Oh, go on! Everyone will have so much fun!’
I looked at his beseeching face and said, ‘Let’s do it.’
That’s my weakness. I like other people. They interest me. There’s hardly anyone you can’t learn something from, even if it is, ‘Check in the mirror, front and behind, before you go out’. Nige wanted cool and exclusive, but I thought we should do the bash Elton John style, invite the world, every member of Girl Meets Boy included. I felt protective towards them, as if they were my kids. Most of them I was fond of. When people trust you, it’s hard not to like them. Even the annoying ones. This party would be a way of saying thanks.
My only problem was Nick. My ex-fiancé. Our relationship was over, except he hadn’t moved out. He was still waiting for his friend Manjit’s girlfriend to clear out her spare room (an excuse so poor I wanted to huddle it in a blanket). The truth was, he wanted me back. I was past being flattered. Nick stayed fixed at that stage of emotional development where you yowl for whichever toy is removed from your grasp. I ended it too amicably for my own good. I feel sheepish about this. I think it’s far worse for the Ender than the Endee. Especially an Endee as charming and wily as Nick. He’d guilt-trip me into inviting him to the Girl Meets Boy party, then worry me like a fox, all night.
Because of this, I wasn’t overjoyed about going on my own. Normally, I wouldn’t fret about it. If there’s one thing I don’t need a man for, it’s to attend a party. They’re a hindrance, every time. But this was different. I wasn’t in the right frame of mind to be fighting off Nick the entire evening. I needed a safety barrier. Also, there was something about attending a party for Girl Meets Boy without a partner that bothered me. It felt too puritan. If I saw me there, alone, I’d be suspicious. Like meeting a baker who wasn’t fat.
As Party Night loomed, Claudia tried to encourage me to pick a man off the pile. ‘Come on, Holly,’ she said, poking the morning’s stack of letters with polished fingernails. ‘It’ll be like Cinderella in reverse. Just ring one up, and explain who you are. They’ll be thrilled. A date with the boss of Girl Meets Yob. Plucked from obscurity to attend your grand ball. The token date. It’s the kind of thing that gives blokes a kick. Or – or! or! or! How about this – you could ask Stuart again!’
I choked. Despite my devious plan of skimming off the single cream for myself, after time spent thinking about it, I’d gone off the idea. I felt maternal towards these men. Even the thirty-eight year olds. Thus, it would not have been healthy to shag them. Plus, I’d had one bad experience, which I’m unwilling to share because it was such a disaster. However, as I’ve just let slip the disaster’s name, I might as well tell you, if only so you see what I was dealing with.
A month before, the PA of a solicitor named Stuart Marshall had emailed us, asking for an application form on his behalf. I sent it to her, but couldn’t resist adding, ‘Does he make you forge his Christmas cards too?’ She replied, ‘That’s the least of it.’
Two days later, Stuart’s details were delivered – by courier – to our office. Stuart’s rapacious misuse of company resources gave him an air of benign familiarity. Despite never having set eyes on the guy, I felt I knew him. Claudia was half in love with Stuart already. She fell on that envelope like it was a fifty pound note.
Nige tweaked Stuart’s photograph from her grasp. He arched an eyebrow, drawled, ‘Whiff of the Channel Five Newsreader’, and spun it through the air to me. Well. Possibly. Groomed like a racehorse. In blue Speedos. A lot of our clients do that – send us a snap that has more in common with Readers’ Wives. Nige finds it ‘sad and grotesque’, but I tend to find it more ahhhh than aaaagh. It’s only because they want to be accepted. They want to find someone. They’re desperate to prove that they’re good enough.
I understand that. It maddens me when I tell someone what I do and they sneer. We’re biologically programmed to seek out nurturing relationships and yet, somehow, there are people who assume the attitude that this pursuit is trite. I tell them that those unable to empathise or forge rewarding bonds with others start by pulling the wings off bluebottles and end up breaking into people’s homes and dismembering entire families. It usually shuts them up. So. I was more sympathetic to Stuart than Nige was. Even when Claudia stuck her feet on the desk and started to dissect Stuart’s vision of the perfect woman.
‘Jesus Christ, listen to this. ‘“She should have a healthy zest for life” – as opposed to an unhealthy apathy – “she should be secure in herself and her choices” – blimey, he sounds like you, Nige!’ (Claudia once overheard Nige telling a fellow thesp that he ‘admired Brad Pitt’s choices’. Unbelievably, Nige wasn’t refering to Gwyneth or Jennifer, but to the genius decisions Brad made when acting a character. Quite rightly, she’s never let him forget it.)
‘“Not needy, but looking to share her passion and vitality,” – what an arse! – “ambitious, but probably already sorted careerwise, able to maintain a balance between work and play, prepared to make quality time for her partner and friends, interests of her own but would share a love of good food, wine, company and exercise. She would enjoy long walks or runs along the beach” – sorry, but who alive doesn’t enjoy a long sodding walk along the beach? – “and would enjoy riding high when I fly my plane” – good God, is he for real? What does that mean? Is it some sort of filthy pun? I bet it’s not his, I bet he hires it.’
‘He probably means his toy plane,’ suggested Nige. ‘He runs round the garden holding it above his head, he wants his perfect woman to watch from the upstairs window.’
Agreed, Stuart did sound a little – no, a lot – much, but I was intrigued. That superlative sense of self-entitlement always starts me wondering about the mother. Not the father, you’ll note. Just the mother. I blame her. What a sexist. Shocking. ‘Go on, Claw.’
Claudia grinned. ‘“She should ideally be at least 5 foot 7 but no taller than 5 foot 9, physically very active” – well, we all know what that means! – “have blonde hair” – no! surprise me! – “and be aged between 24 and 29. I would hope she has at least one relationship of respectable length behind her and has lived with a former partner. She should li
ve in Zones 1 or 2” – unbloodybelievable – “however, ideally, she would not have any baggage (i.e. children or be divorced.) She would be a female version of me.” Wow. Holly, you’ve got to go out with him!’
I’d tipped back on my chair to listen, and I nearly fell off it. ‘What? I’m nothing like that woman! No one is! And you know what I’m like about flying. I panic if the pilot has a weak chin. Anyway. Why me? What have I done?’
I looked beseechingly around our cramped little office – paper everywhere, it seemed to grow from the walls and breed on the floor – hoping for Nige’s support. When he pursed his lips, I knew I wasn’t going to get it.
‘It’s what you haven’t done,’ he said. ‘You need to take action, Holly. Show Nick that it’s over. I know you’re still fond of each other, but it’s not wise, him still lurking round the house. You need him to witness that you’ve moved on to better things. Claw is right. Stuart is just the pissing contest that Nick needs. You needn’t tell Stuart who you are. I’ll ring him, tell him Girl Meets Yob is giving him a free, er, trial. If we deem an applicant to be, ah, a VIP, we don’t put them straight into a speed dating session. We assign them what we call a “free-range” date with an elite counterpart that’s unsupervised and can last as long as they wish. How’s that sound?’
‘Like bullshit,’ I said.
Claw started banging her fists on the desk, shouting ‘Yes, yes, yes!’
While I am old enough not to be intimidated by two people disagreeing with me, I am also wise enough to know when to save my breath. ‘I’ll think about it,’ I lied. Well, I thought I was lying, but my mind had other ideas. It danced around Stuart the whole day. I want to make this clear, I wasn’t attracted to Stuart – I’m not an insane sadomasochist who doesn’t know Hitler’s CV when she sees it – but Nige was right.
I was still fond of Nick, dangerously fond. We’d gone out for five years, most of which were good, great even. And then, we’d coasted. We were two parallel lines, always close but never together. Occasionally, we’d have a passionate row, during which many promises would be made. But not kept. Nick admitted that he didn’t know how to make an effort in a relationship. I was his first, as he put it, Big One. Incidentally, when I say ‘effort’, I don’t mean he didn’t send enough roses or stud the walls with little love notes (although he didn’t). I mean he didn’t talk much, wash enough or seem to take particular pleasure in my company. Don’t do me any favours.