His Porn, Her Pain, Confronting America's PornPanic with Honest Talk about Sex
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Oz, Mehmet, 164
Pachard, Henri, 45
Pacific Center for Sex and Society, 135
Parental relationships, 155
Parents Television Council, 25
Partner sex, 63-64, 153-154, 197n2
Paul, Pamela, 134
Penthouse, 12
Perfect bodies, myth of, 47-49
Performance anxiety, 154-155
Performances, consumption of, 67, 111-112
Pfaus, James, 165, 167
PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction), 27, 163-164
Planned Parenthood, 17-18
Playboy, v, 5, 12
Polysemicity, 144
Popular culture, ideas of what is normal and, 109-110
“Porn addiction”: in counseling, 103-104, 148-149; counselors, advice for, 179; definition of addiction, 159-160, 162-163; diagnostic criteria, lack of, 197n1; DSM-5, 162; erectile dysfunction, 163-166; evidence against, 170; fallacy of, 159-173; invention of, 27, 30; masturbation and, 171-172; myth of, 79; neuroscience, 166-170; as part of PornPanic, 170-172; partner sex and, 197n2; popular culture and, 109; symptoms vs. non-addiction explanations, 172
Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED), 27, 163-164
Porn literacy, 69, 85-86, 175-183
Pornhub, 40
Pornography: concern over personal involvement with, 147-157; cultural ambivalence, 177; decreasing rates of certain social problems, 28, 33; definition of, 2; as demeaning to women, 27, 65-68, 138-139; effect of on consumers, 133-145; empirical evidence concerning, 133-135; as a form of infidelity, 106-107, 141; gender differences in using, 29-30; going to a porn shoot, 43-46; history of, 11-16; as a job, 44-45; lessons from, 69-71; as a means to learn about sex, 15; mechanics of vs. meaning brought by consumer, 43-44; misinformation and myths, 28-30; misuses of, 22-23; narrative of as a dangerous product, 26-28; vs. partner sex, 80-81; religious groups on, 191-192n1; secrecy and, 29; as a threat to marriage, 27; typical content of, 28; variety of bodies in, 47-49; violence vs. nonviolent content, 28-29; watching vs. partner sex, 63-64
Pornography consumers: anti-porn activists, 133-140; caricatures of, 143; Confluence model, 136; difficulties that aren’t about porn, 143-145; men’s satisfaction with partners’ bodies, 141-142; violent content, effects of, 136-140; voices of, 141-143
Pornography industry, and the Internet, 7
PornPanic: concern over personal involvement with, 150; counseling professions and, 181; definition of, 19; definition of a porn problem, 156-157; effect of on couples’ assumptions about pornography, 101-102; effects of, 185-186; examples of moral panic, 18-19; exploitation of, 21; features of American society and, 21-23; introduction to, 16, 17-18; media and, 187; misinformation and myths, 28-30; “porn addiction” as part of, 170-172
Pottery, 189n1
Power dynamics, 65-66
Power struggles, 108-110
Presley, Elvis, 19
Privacy, changing nature of, 90
Private vs. public behavior, 26
Production Code, 6
Professional football, 187
Public health critique of pornography: anti-porn activists, 135-136; controlling the narrative, 26-28; effect of on couples’ assumptions about pornography, 101-102; effects of, 185-186; vs. immortality critique, 19, 25-26; introduction of, 25-26; misinformation and myths, 28-31; Utah legislation, 31-32
“Rape culture,” 135
Rape jokes, 195n12
Rape/rapists, 2, 135-136, 140, 195n14
Reagan, Ronald, 134
RebootNation, 168
“Reduced sensitivity,” 169
Registered sex offenders, 191n8
Reid, Rory C., 167
Reisman, Judith, 191n10
Robinson, Marnia, 168
Rock ‘n’ roll music, 19
Rough sex games, 82
Royalle, Candida, 46
Rubber, 189n1
Rule 34, 51-52
Same-gender fantasy, 61-62
Satanic ritual abuse, 18
Savage, Dan, 17, 154
Scalia, Antonin, 190n6
Scarleteen.com, 85, 182
Scientific studies: erectile dysfunction, 165; lack of, 186; lack of impact on debate, 143-145; neuroscience, 166-170; on pornography consumers, 141-143; sexual violence, 135-137, 139-140
Seduction of the Innocent (Wertham), 18
Self-esteem, 32, 55, 142, 177, 178, 183
Sex, etc., 182
“Sex addiction,” 14, 30, 161, 169, 197n4
Sex education, 13, 14, 15, 18, 187
Sex games, 139-140
Sex Plus, 182
Sex toys, 7, 82, 126
Sex trafficking, 21, 23, 28, 171, 198n30
Sex-related trauma, 154-155
Sexting: activists on, 88-89; adult feelings about, 88; “aggravated” sexting, 91; as child pornography, 93-94; consent, 90-92; introduction to, 87-88; media and legal responses, 92-97, 194n20; parental advice, 95-97; potential criminal charges, 89-90; potential problems, 89-90; sexual double standard, 92; social disapproval, 89-90; typologies of, 91
Sexual dissatisfaction, 14, 28, 29
Sexual double standard, 92
Sexual fantasy: vs. desire, 38-39; feelings of guilt or shame, 82-83; gay pornography, 61-62; lesbians, 40; limitless of, 51-52; meaning of, 38-39; nature of, 37-41; older women, 40-41; as a predictor of behavior, 179, 194n3; preferences, 39-40; teens and, 40; variety of, 40-41
Sexual inexperience, 155-156
Sexual intelligence, 175-183
Sexual orientation, 61-62, 169
Sexual self-esteem, 55
Sexual violence, 21; decreasing rates of, 28, 33, 135-136, 140; misinformation and myths, 30; scientific studies, 135-137, 139-140
Sexualization of children, 79
Sexually-oriented moral panics, 18-19
Shame, feelings of, 82-83, 153-154
SIECUS, 182
Silvera, Joey, 46
Smartphones, misuses of pornography and, 22-23
Snuff films, 18
Social change, 20
Social problems, decreasing rates of, 28, 33
Spellman, Francis Cardinal, 11
Starr, Kenneth, 15
Starr Report, 15
Stoltenberg, John, 66, 134
Stripping/strippers, 144
Suicide, decreasing rates of, 33
Sullivan, Ed, 19
Taboo eroticism, 153
Tattoos, 89
Tavris, Carol, 166
Technological change, 20, 189n1
Teen pregnancy, decreasing rates of, 28
Teen sexting. See Sexting
Teens, 40
Therapists. See Counselors
Thought vs. behavior, 194n1
Training, lack of for clinicians, 22
Trueman, Patrick, 21
Tyler, Meagan, 139-140
Tyson, Mike, 161
Unintended pregnancy, 14
University of Arkansas, 14
University of Hawaii, 135
Unspoken grievances, 102-103
U.S. Department of Justice, 12, 21, 135
Utah legislation, 31-32
Viagra, 154, 165
Violence. See Sexual violence
Violent content, 137-140
Weitzer, Ronald, 133
Wertham, Fredric, 18
Westboro Baptist Church, 18
Whisnant, Rebecca, 66, 138, 144
Williams, Tennessee, 11
Wilson, Gary, 168
Winfrey, Oprah, 109, 134, 161, 178
Withdrawal symptoms, 160
Women. See also Feminism: competing/comparing with women in pornography, 53-55, 111-112; demeaning, 27, 65-68, 138-139; opinions of and porn, 78; self-esteem, 142
World Health Organization, 179
XXXChurch, 168
Young adult fiction, 193n11
YourBrainOnPorn, 168
About the Author
DR. MARTY KLEIN has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex The
rapist for 35 years—that’s 35,000 sessions with men, women, and couples, working on various relationship, intimacy, and sexual issues.
Klein is the award-winning author of seven books, published in 15 languages. He appears frequently in the national media, including The New Yorker, The New York Times, 20/20, The Daily Show, and National Public Radio. He is outspoken about many popular and clinical ideas about sexuality; for example, he is recognized by Wikipedia as one of the most important voices in America’s controversy about “sex addiction.”
An internationally respected expert in the use and impact of pornography, Klein serves on the founding editorial board of the Journal of Porn Studies, is a contributor to the Pornography section of The International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality, and has testified in court cases on the subject across the United States and internationally. A sought-after lecturer, he also recently gave two Congressional briefings on evidence-based sex education.
His monthly electronic newsletter, Sexual Intelligence, goes to 7,000 subscribers; his Psychology Today blog has an even larger following. His popular blog and website (www.SexEd.org) are frequently cited as sources of innovative thinking about sexuality, culture, politics, and the media.