Nearly Normal

by Cea Sunrise Person

  Dedication

  To my amazing family—Remy, Avery, Emerson and Ayla—

  who make me feel as close to normal as I ever could.

  Contents

  Dedication

  Prologue

  Chapter 1

  Chapter 2

  Chapter 3

  Chapter 4

  Chapter 5

  Chapter 6

  Chapter 7

  Chapter 8

  Chapter 9

  Chapter 10

  Chapter 11

  Chapter 12

  Chapter 13

  Chapter 14

  Chapter 15

  Chapter 16

  Chapter 17

  Chapter 18

  Chapter 19

  Epilogue

  Photos Section

  Author’s Note

  Acknowledgments

  About the Author

  Copyright

  About the Publisher

  Prologue

  1973

  Kootenay Plains, Alberta

  When folks came to visit us at our first wilderness home in central Alberta, they were provided with little more direction than to turn right immediately after a particular “curve” sign on the David Thompson Highway. They would then drive down a dirt road for a short distance and park near a footbridge at the North Saskatchewan River, where they would load their belongings on their backs and begin the five-mile hike in to our camp.

  Here the beauty of the stark, yellow poplar leaves against the snow-topped mountains and massive open sky looked almost too picturesque to be real. Treading a log bridge across the Siffleur River, they would notice the hoodoos jutting along the bank like jagged stone fingers. Smaller wildlife abounded along the trail—rabbits, chipmunks, porcupines, eagles, woodpeckers and grouse—and on a good day, a bear or moose might wander into view. Farther inland, the variety and number of trees thickened into forest, where the smell of the air changed to include pine and moss. The silence was punctuated only by twittering birds, rushing water and leaves crunching underfoot.

  By the time visitors walked into our camp, they could well appreciate why Dick Person had chosen this particular part of the world to move his family to. And by the time they tasted a wild game meal cooked by my grandma Jeanne, succumbed to the soothing rhythm of Papa Dick’s rambling teachings and sampled some of my family’s home-grown against a background of Jimi Hendrix, they’d feel like they never wanted to leave.

  Perhaps the counterculture dream would have remained intact for Fred if it weren’t for my uncle Dane. Then again, considering our complicated family dynamics, maybe Dane was just the biggest festering wound among many smaller ones.

  I don’t remember Fred. When he came to stay with us, I was three years old. He was one of many summer visitors who came to our tipis during that year and the year before and the year after, eager to meet my grandfather and learn our off-the-grid ways. I say “my grandfather” because even though my mother and two aunts and Grandma Jeanne and I were there, it was always Papa Dick they flocked to. Some suggested he might have missed his calling, that he had the rare brand of charisma found in a cult leader and could have been more than a wilderness guide who extolled the virtues of wild game meat and shit pits and life in the bush in minus-fifty-degree weather in canvas tipis. But my grandfather had none of the zeal required to assemble a cult following. The only religion he preached was nonconformity.

  This was Fred’s fourth visit to our tipis. He’d been introduced to my family by David, an experienced bush guide and regular around our camp. Fred didn’t think there was a person in the world who loved the outdoors as much as David did, until he met my grandfather. Here was a man whose beliefs left no room for other people’s opinions, and though Fred sometimes found this hard to take, he also admired it. With my grandfather, he always knew just what to expect—or so he thought.

  This time when Papa Dick greeted Fred, David, and Fred’s brother at the footbridge to accompany them into our camp, they were met not with blissful silence but by the grinding noise of a chainsaw. “My son’s building a cabin,” my grandfather said by way of explanation. “Just came up from Ponoka—arrived here last month, and he’s been going at it ever since.”

  Fred nodded but didn’t comment. My grandmother had mentioned to him once that they had a son with mental issues, but the son’s presence wasn’t as surprising as the fact that Dick was allowing a cabin to be built at all, much less with a chainsaw. Fred knew my grandfather’s views on such things. Papa Dick had chosen to live in a tipi because he believed the thin walls brought one into closer alignment with nature and also because the circular structure encouraged the flow of energy, while square buildings blocked it with their man-made angles and thick walls. And other than the old VW bus my grandfather occasionally drove into town for supplies and the car battery he used to power his tape deck, he didn’t believe in technology. Batteries, electricity and gas-powered motors changed the molecular charge of the environment, he explained, which was why he himself had built the structure for three tipis and all of our family’s furniture using nothing more than a handsaw, an axe and a hammer.

  As if reading Fred’s mind, Papa Dick glanced in the direction of the noise. “I don’t like it either. But at least he’s not building at the camp. I wouldn’t allow it. He’s up Siffleur Valley a bit.” He paused, scratching his head through his wool cap, then dropped his voice slightly. “And he’s, well . . . off his meds.”

  “Ah. An unexpected visit, then,” Fred responded through a plume of frozen breath.

  Everything Grandma Jeanne had told him was coming back to him now—the paranoid schizophrenia, the years at Ponoka Mental Hospital, and the final straw that had sent him there: Dane snatching me from my mother when I was a baby and locking me in the cellar with him.

  “You could say that. And there’s not much talking to him. In fact it’s best to not try at all. Here’s the thing . . .” Papa Dick met the men’s eyes in turn. “Dane’s got a bow and arrow, and he’s a good shot.” Then he stepped closer and pressed his rifle into Fred’s hands. “Don’t be afraid to use this. If you feel threatened, don’t hesitate to shoot first.”

  Fred stared at him as a jumble of questions whirled in his head. But Papa Dick had already turned to lead the way back to camp, leaving Fred and his companions exchanging uneasy glances in the fading daylight.

  After they arrived at our camp, the first order of the evening was to organize accommodations. Since the frozen ground of late fall made tenting a rather miserable option, Mom and I decamped to the cooking tipi so Fred and his companions could sleep in ours. At that point, Mom and I were still a couple months away from having a real wood stove, so in the meantime our tipi was outfitted with the Guzzler, which wasn’t really a stove at all but a rusty barrel with a hole cut out of it. The stove smoked incessantly and lent little warmth.

  After shivering in his sleeping bag all night, Fred would come over and help Mom set up breakfast. The cooking tipi wasn’t much better, because to make room for the stove’s chimney, the flaps needed to be left wide open, allowing into the tipi a steady cascade of snow.

  “Kids. They don’t feel the cold, do they?” Fred commented to Mom, watching as I ran outside coatless.

  “Probably just used to it. It’s pretty much all she’s ever known.”

  Fred tried being friendly to me, but I wasn’t having it. Most men who visited our camp ended up doing the screwing with Mom, which meant Mom paid more attention to them than me, and attention was already hard to come by. But I needn’t have worried about Fred. The real threat to my security was Randall, who came by regularly attempting to woo Mom back into his bearskin bed. Randall was the chief of the Cree Indian tribe across the river, and he and Mom had been
going hot and cold practically since we’d moved here. Once, at the sight of Randall’s face and while Fred looked on, I threw myself into Mom’s lap and screamed as if I were being mauled by a bear. Fred was twenty-two years old and hadn’t paid much attention to kids before, but I made myself pretty hard to miss. While I cried, he held my Suzie Doll out to me and tried to coax me to play. I ignored him, but the next day when everyone gathered for supper in the cooking tipi, I let him sit next to me.

  For Fred, mealtimes were the best and worst part of his visit. Best because Grandma Jeanne was a fantastic cook, and food was abundant that time of year, so there were caribou tacos, bear meat with dried wild morels, grouse in soy sauce butter and pancakes served with strawberry preserves and homemade yogourt. But mealtime was also when Dane came around. As Fred walked over to the cooking tipi, my uncle would announce his presence by swaggering around outside with his bow and arrow, taking sudden aim at nothing in particular while muttering under his breath. Inside, Dane would stand near the stove, fingering the hunting knife at his hip while yammering on about fellow patients at the mental hospital. “Stanley, you know, he just can’t keep it in his pants. We’ll be sitting around at supper, and he’ll whip it out and go for it right there. Even during group he’ll do it. One time he did it and smeared it all over the walls before the nurses could catch him.” He’d cackle wildly, but nobody else even broke a smile.

  At least when supper was over, Dane would scurry away again, leaving the women to cleanup duty. With no electricity or plumbing, there was much to be done—water heated on the stove to wash the dishes, food put back in coolers and up onto the tree platform to keep it safe from animals, and preparations started for the next morning’s breakfast. Papa Dick would clean his rifles or sharpen his hunting knives or read a book, but Fred didn’t mind helping out. He’d dry the dishes with Grandma Jeanne while I put them away, then he’d grind the wheat to make flour for the next morning’s pancakes. Other than me, Fred wasn’t quite sure what to make of the Person females. My aunt Jessie was slow because of her mentally challenged state, but at least she was helpful—unlike my aunt Jan, who seemed like a different person each time she showed up. So far Fred had met screaming-and-throwing Jan, despondent Jan and maniacally productive Jan. My mother was the highest functioning of all of them, and even she lacked common sense and seemed way out of her element as a parent. But there were plenty of positives too. One thing Fred noticed was that no one ever complained about the work to be done—especially Grandma Jeanne, who seemed to carry the burden of it. She’d pass a joint around to Fred and her daughters, and as they tackled chores, they’d talk about food foraging and the uses of various plants and animal parts.

  Fred and his companions’ main reason for visiting us this time was to fell a big game animal with Papa Dick. They weren’t sport hunters, of course, as such an ignoramus would never be tolerated by my grandfather. Whatever they hunted would be used completely—meat, bones, organs and hide. Day after day, as the four of them made their way through waist-high snow and across deep crevices along the Ram Ridge, the constant buzzing of the chainsaw faded into the background. That noise, which annoyed and likely scared off animals, actually became a comfort to Fred, because he knew that as long as he could hear it, the hunters were not being hunted. Still, as Dane continued to show up at the tipi with his tales of screaming paranoiacs and compulsive masturbators each night, Fred grew more uncomfortable. He tried to be sociable with Dane, but my uncle just growled in Fred’s face and laughed at him like he were some sort of bad joke that only Dane was in on.

  One night, everyone was eating curried elk ribs when I happened to toddle across the fir-bough floor in front of my uncle. He kicked his foot out and punted me across the tipi. Instinctively, Fred moved to comfort me as I screamed indignantly from my landing place in the woodpile, but Mom and Grandma Jeanne got to me first.

  “You asshole!” Mom screamed at her brother. “What the hell is wrong with you?”

  Dane shrugged and went back to his dinner. “Not everyone can like kids.”

  The next morning, Fred packed up, along with his brother, and left us with a heavy heart. His utopian ideal had been shattered. What’s more, he was going home empty-handed; no big game had materialized during his visit. But as he got into his bus and began the drive south back to Calgary, there was one thing he couldn’t get out of his mind: me. He thought about an only child in a world of questionable adults that included a deranged and potentially lethal uncle. He remembered Dane kicking me into the woodpile. But he also thought about the family members who had rushed to my aid. I may have been grubby, poorly dressed and at the mercy of the elements, but I was also well-fed and seemingly happy. At least I was loved—that much he could see. It gave him some comfort, because he knew he would never return to our tipi camp again.

  I looked up from my notebook. “So, that’s it?” I asked him across the table, and he nodded.

  I tucked my pen and notebook into my handbag, once more becoming aware of the sounds and movements around me: orders for skinny half-caf extra-hot lattes being placed, BMWs and Land Rovers cruising by the windows. I was still here—the Bean, West Vancouver, 2015. My past was safely tucked away, only to be brought out if and when I felt like examining it. I leaned across the table.

  “Thank you, Fred. You’ve given me the first chapter of my new book. But more than that, you’ve given me your honesty.”

  “I’m just happy I could help,” he replied. “I guess I sort of always wondered—seeing that little girl like that, you know?”

  I nodded. Sitting across from Fred, his hair still long and clothes still bush-ready, I felt closer to the spirit of my passed-on family than I had since I’d written about them in my first book. Fred was one of the many folks who’d known us in the wilderness and re-entered my life since my memoir was released eighteen months before. Initially I’d dreaded their responses, worrying they’d find my portrayal of my family too unvarnished, lacking the idealism of their own experiences. The reality had been the opposite—beautiful, heartfelt emails thanking me for revealing the complex facets of the Persons.

  “You heard about David, right?” Fred said, sipping his herbal tea. “He died a few years later. After he left your camp and went off to live in the bush with his family.”

  “Yes. Rescuing his pot plants from a storm, is that right? Drowned in a river.” I shook my head. This story seemed to sum up my feelings about my family’s lifestyle—how opposite their values were to my own.

  “Uh-huh. Crazy story.”

  I gave a little laugh. “Yeah, crazy. Seems to be the theme of my life. I mean, I didn’t even know Dane was in the Kootenay Plains until you told me just now. I wrote my entire first book having no idea of that. Just goes to show how the past can change, even when it’s immortalized on paper.”

  “Yeah. Well, Dane was the worst of them, but your grandparents didn’t have it easy with any of those kids. At least in the wilderness, they didn’t have to worry about them fitting into society. I guess you couldn’t blame Dick for wanting to be free of his children’s problems.”

  Maybe, I thought, except that my grandfather was at least partly responsible for them. Along with eschewing government and societal expectations, he and my grandmother had also shunned boundaries, discipline and formal education. Instead of spending their teen years at school, all four of the kids had spent them at home doing drugs and having sex with various partners. How much of an effect their lifestyle had had on their varying illnesses—from mental challenge to schizophrenia to bipolar and depression—was uncertain, but the result had been four uneducated adults with few life skills. One of them, of course, was a young parent destined to repeat her parents’ patterns—my mother.

  “Oh, well,” I said lightly. “It gave me a great story to tell, right?”

  Fred didn’t crack a smile, and I felt my own wilt and vanish on my face. I recalled a conversation I’d had several months ago with another woman who’d known me as a
child. It’s a miracle you survived your family at all, Adrienne said to me. A lot like what Fred was saying to me right now. But until recently, I’d spent my life downgrading my experiences, choosing to view them as the carefree whims of a freedom-loving family, even seeing my past as comical at times.

  Now I understood that what happened in my childhood had been more than abnormal—it hadn’t been right. My family’s insistence on living without fear and rejecting nearly everything deemed acceptable by society had made me constantly question my intuition about what felt wrong. In truth I’d been in real danger on more occasions than I could count. And I had my published memoir to thank for this revelation. Since its release, I’d fielded questions from hundreds of readers alarmed by my family’s lackadaisical treatment of young Cea. Had I not written my book, would I ever have learned to trust my own gauge for “normal”? I couldn’t be sure, and by virtue of that, my readers had given me a gift that I could never repay. If North of Normal had been a test of how my disclosures would be received, my second book would in part say thank you to readers for embracing them. Because now, finally, I was ready to tell the rest of my story.

  Fred leaned forward in his chair. “So, I’m curious. Where does your new book pick up?”

  I propped my hands beneath my chin, thinking of myself nearly two decades earlier at the age of twenty-eight. For years I’d managed to hold it together—succeeded at a career, formed reasonably functional relationships and kept the veneer of my past and present smooth and shiny-looking for outsiders and close friends. But I’d always suspected that the repercussions of my childhood would one day be my downfall. What I had never imagined was how far and hard that fall would be, or that it would take me almost a decade to make it through my dark tunnel of reckoning.

  Chapter 1

  1998

  Munich

  Vielen dank! Auf Wiedersehen!”

  I blew a cheery kiss to the photo crew and exited the studio, closing the door quickly behind me. Standing on the sidewalk for a moment, I let my chin drop and my shoulders slump. The act was over for another day. I’d done my job, smiled for the camera and the client, cracked self-deprecating jokes with the photographer, learned the other model’s life story in a day. In a month or so, I’d be rebooked for another job with this client and repeat the whole process, with no one ever suspecting that in the weeks between, I’d been desperately looking for a way to unmake this perfect-looking life I’d created.