How to Fall in Love with Anyone
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okay, honey
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if you can fall in love with anyone, how do you choose?
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the pleasures of ordinary devotion
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12. Nelson, Argonauts, 112.
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Names: Catron, Mandy Len, author.
Title: How to fall in love with anyones : a memoir / Mandy Len Catron.
Description: New York : Simon & Schuster, [2017] | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2017000307 | ISBN 9781501137440 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781501137457 (trade paper)
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