All About Love: Anatomy of an Unruly Emotion

by Lisa Appignanesi

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  Index

  abandonment, fear of

  absence

  of mother

  abstinence see celibacy and chastity

  abstinence movements

  abuse, child

  Adams, Abigail

  Adams, John

  addiction, sex

  adolescence

  father-daughter relationship

  friendship in

  sexuality in

  adultery

  the Bible and

  Christian Church and

  in cinema

  Code Napoléon and

  death and

  discovery and

  as help for relationship

  in literature

  lover/mistress

  in mythology

  punishment for

  reasons for

  secrecy and

  transgressive nature of

  truth and lies

  Victorian hypocrisy over

  websites for

  advertising industry

  advice industry

  Aeschylus, Agamemnon

  Agape

  age, physical

  cross-generational unions

  see also older people

  aggression

  Aids

  Albee, Edward, Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf

  Allen, Woody

  Alliott, Catherine, Rosie Meadows Regrets

  Amis, Martin

  Anderson, Hephzibah, Chastened: No More Sex in the City

  anorexia

  anthropology

  anxiety

  of choice

  motherhood and

  sexual

  Aphrodite (Venus)

  Apollodorus

  Appignanesi, Lisa

  brother of

  childhood of

  children of

  father of

  Mad, Bad and Sad

  mother of

  Ariès, Phillipe, Centuries of Childhood

  Aristotle

  Arnim, Bettina von

  Arnim, Elizabeth von

  arranged marriages

  Arthurian legend

  attachment theory

  ‘attention deficit hyperactivity disorder’

  Atwood, Margaret, Cat’s Eye

  Augustine, Saint, Confessions

  Austen, Jane

  Emma

  Love and Friendship

  Mansfield Park

  Pride and Prejudice

  babies

  see also infancy

  baby-boomer generation

  Bacon, Francis (philosopher)

  Badinter, Élisabeth

  Balint, Enid

  Balzac, Honoré de

  Physiology of Marriage

  Bancroft, Anne

  Baron-Cohen, Simon, The Essential Difference

  Barthes, Roland, A Lover’s Discourse

  Bauman, Zygmunt

  the Beatles

  beauty and look

  Beck, Ulrich

  Beck-Gernsheim, Elisabeth

  Berger, John

  Bergman, Ingmar, Scenes from a Marriage

  Berliet, Melanie

  Bernardin de Saint-Pierre

  Paul et Virginie

  Bethlem (asylum)

  betrayal

  in literature

  see also adultery

  the Bible

  New Testament

  bigamy

  Birkenhead, Earl of

  birth rates

  1880-1920 period

  contemporary

  Blackstone, Sir William

  Blake, William

  Bloomsbury circle

  Bohemian lifestyles

  Boots (chemist)

  Boucicault, Dion, London Assurance

  Bowie, Malcolm

  Bowlby, John

  breast feeding

  Bridget Jones’s Diary (Helen Fielding)

  Brief Encounter (film)

  Brontë, Charlotte

  Jane Eyre

  Brontë, Emily, Wuthering Heights

  brotherly love

  Browning, Elizabeth Barrett

  Browning, Robert

  Burke, Edmund

  ‘Butterfly Lovers’ (Chinese legend)

  Byatt, Antonia, The Children’s Book

  Byron, Lord

  Caird, Mona

  Canadian Institute of Advanced Research

  Capellanus, Andreas, The Art of Courtly Love

  Capello, Fabio

  capitalism

  Carlile, Richard

  Carpenter, Edward

  Carrington, Dora

  Casanova

  castration, fear of

  Catholic Church

  contraception and

  in France

  marriage and

  Cave, Nick

  Cavell, Stanley

  Cities of Words

  Cavendish, Lucy

  celebrity culture

  celibacy and chastity

  Christianity and

  as transgressive

  Chaucer, Geoffrey, Canterbury Tales

  Cheever, John

  ‘chick lit’

  childbirth

  death in

  childhood

  adult sexuality and

  boarding schools

  bullying

  child abuse

  children as vehicles of parental hopes

  corporal punishment

  deprivation

  divorce and

  friendship in

  imaginary friends

  play therapy

  pre-twentieth-century

  romantic tradition of

  sexual knowledge

  sexuality

  shaping trajectory of

  specialness of child

  symbiotic love for mother

  in twentieth-century

  welfare provision

  China

  chivalry

  Chivers, Meredith

  choice

  anxiety of

  marriage and

  shaping of in infancy

  Christianity

  celibacy and chastity and