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70 “alcohol could erase pain”: Jean Kilbourne, Can’t Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel (Simon & Schuster, 1999).
71 “It took a very long time with tobacco”: Interview with Jean Kilbourne, January 2013.
CHAPTER 5: THE AGE OF VULNERABILITY
73 “The emptier we feel”: Jean Kilbourne, Can’t Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel (Simon & Schuster, 1999).
74 seventeen-year-old Laura: Interviews with Laura, November 2010 and January 2011.
76 Steubenville, Ohio, rape: CNN, March 13, 2013; New York Times, March 17, 2013.
76 Audrie Pott: Associated Press, April 11, 2013.
77 Rehtaeh Parsons: http://www.thespec.com/news-story/2551427-rehtaeh-parsons-a-family-s-tragedy-and-a-town-s-shame/.
77 a young woman I will call Rebecca: Interview with Rebecca, February 2013.
78 “If you drink before age fifteen”: Interview with David Jernigan, April 2011.
78 “Kids who start early are just different”: Interview with Richard Grucza, September 2012.
79 odds of a teenager getting drunk repeatedly are twice as great if they see their parent under the influence: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2004540/Children-parents-drink-likely-binge.html; http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-13779834.
79 Ask Ali, twenty-two, why she started drinking: Interview with Ali, September 2012.
79 allowing their third-grader children an alcoholic beverage: http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/20/should-children-be-allowed-sips-of-mommys-drink/.
79 “Young teenagers do not drink with their families at the table the way we did”: Interview with Tiziana Codenotti, December 2010.
80 “Guys drink for the buzz”: Interview with Andrew Galloway, September 2012.
80 “It’s easy to capture the trends”: Interview with Elizabeth Saewyc, April 2011.
81 “we know that genes play a strong role”: Interview with David Goldman, September 2012.
82 “there’s a lot of sexual trauma”: Interview with Brenda Servais, May 2011.
82 “If they’re college age, sexual assault is the norm”: Interview with Maggie Tipton, June 2011.
82 “their use of alcohol is not to party”: Interview with Janice Styer, June 2011.
83 Runaway Intervention Project: Interview with Elizabeth Saewyc, October 2012.
84 Jenna Marbles: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/14/fashion/jenna-marbles .html?pagewanted=all;; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MXzwAXzUwwE.
84 Jennifer Lawrence: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CLKZb1wLmAY.
85 Which makes it tough to be Melanie: Interview with Melanie, March 2013.
CHAPTER 6: BINGE
87 Let me introduce you to Maggie: Interview with Maggie, August 2012.
89 “University is the acceleration of drinking”: Interview with Kate Simmie, November 2010.
90 “The amount of vodka we drank was overwhelming”: Interview with Sydne Martin, November 2012.
90 “a handle of vodka for pregaming”: Interview with Dana Meyer, June 2012.
91 “drinking efficiently”: Interview with Sharon Wilsnack, November 2010.
91 “Their agenda is to get drunk fast”: Interview with Ann Kerr, June 2011.
91 “Most girls drink to fit in”: Interview with Martha, November 2011.
91 drunkorexia: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/10/111017171506.htm; http://www.news.com.au/national-news/drunkorexia-girls-starving-to-drink-more/story-e6frfkvr-1226180554708; http://dailyfreepress.com/2011/11/14/the-skinny-on-drunkorexia/.
92 “University is the age of risk for all psychiatric illnesses”: Interview with Kay Redfield Jamison, April 2011.
92 one in four students who showed up at campus health clinics: http://www.ctvnews.ca/many-depressed-students-getting-missed-study-1.599598.
92 students with diagnosed mental health illnesses are the fastest-growing group with disabilities: Interview with Mike Condra, November 2012.
93 Zara Malone: http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/10/02/exeter-university-student-drank-herself-to-death_n_1931783.html.
93 Gavin Britton: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-419496/Student-drunk-death-pub-crawl.html.
93 Nicole Falkingham: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2269478/Nicole-Falkingham-Millionaire-architects-love-split-wife-freezes-death-friends-car-wine-binge.html.
93 “drinking to black out”: Interview with David Rotenberg, June 2011.
93 “Girls will bargain their recovery”: Interview with Janice Styer, June 2011.
94 “Vodka is very popular for girls”: Interviews with Rachel Shindman, October 2012 and February 2013.
94 “People pre-drink because it’s cheaper to drink at home”: Interviews with Mike Condra, October 2011 and November 2012.
95 the “grease pole”: http://robburke.net/greasepole/LegendWeb/Legends/History/index.htm.
96 “No Means Harder”: http://www.queensu.ca/news/alumnireview/no-now-really-does-mean-no.
97 Aberdeen Street party: http://www.genx40.com/article/stuff/favoritereading/kingstonwhig26.
98 Habib Khan: http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/story/2010/12/03/ottawa-student-killed.html.
98 “address its culture of drinking”: http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2011/05/31/coroner_rules_alcohol_played_factor_in_deaths_of_two_firstyear_queens_students.html.
99 an estimated 1,825 Americans die: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2701090/.
99 one in three college students meets the criteria: Toben F. Nelson and Ken C. Winters with Vincent L. Hyman, Preventing Binge Drinking on College Campuses: A Guide to Best Practices (Hazelden 2012).
99 Hospitalizations for alcohol overdoses: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21906505.
99 “more young women are binge drinking”: Interview with Andrew Galloway, September 2012.
99 “I am not sure they are going to ‘mature’ out of it”: Interview with Sharon Wilsnack, November 2010.
100 “With flavored vodka, the drinking of female college students became much deadlier”: Interview with Thomas Workman, May 2013.
100 Samantha Spady: http://compelledtoact.com/Tragic_listing/Spady.htm.
101 how do you change a campus culture?: Interview with Rob Turrisi, October 2012.
103 “a targeted motivational intervention for students”: Interview with Brian Borsari, October 2012.
103 NCHIP: Interview with Lisa Johnson, May 2013; http://www.nchip.org/.
104 “I’d screen everybody for high-risk drinking”: Interview with Michael Fleming, 2012.
CHAPTER 7: SEARCHING FOR THE OFF BUTTON
107 “The central question isn’t ‘What’s wrong with this woman?’”: Interview with Nancy Poole, October 2010.
107 childhood sexual abuse or adult abuse histories: Nancy Poole and Lorraine Greaves, eds., Becoming Trauma Informed (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, 2012).
107 majority of young people . . . in the Youth Addiction and Concurrent Disorder Service: Nancy Poole and Lorraine Greaves, eds., Becoming Trauma Informed (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, 2012).
108 “Women are more likely . . . to drink to get rid of negative feelings”: Interview with Pamela Stewart, May 2013.
108 what we now call PTSD: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/heart/themes/shellshock.html.
110 “The unseen problems of high-functioning professional women are serious”: Interviews with Lisa Najavits, February 2011 and October 2012.
118 “If someone steps in and protects you”: Interview with Pamela Stewart, May 2013.
118 In Karin’s case, no one stepped in: Interview with Karin, July 2012.
120 “You want to know about my drinking?”: Interviews with Beata Klimek, May 2011 and June 2012.
CHAPTER 8: SELF-MEDICATION
125 “The breeze at dawn”: Coleman Barks, The Essential Rumi (HarperCollins, 1995).
128 Women are 70 percent more likely to experience depression: http://www.nim
h.nih.gov/statistics/pdf/ncs-r_data-major_depressive_disorder.pdf.
128 a larger number of women have bipolar II: http://healthland.time.com/2011/04/13/catherine-zeta-jones-seeks-treatment-for-bipolar-ii-disorder/.
128 In the United States, a woman is almost 50 percent more likely to walk out of a doctor’s office with a prescription: Interview with Susan E. Foster, May 2013.
129 “Couple pills with alcohol, and it’s a slippery slope”: Interview with Cheryl Knepper, May 2013.
129 Alex was one who used alcohol to treat full-blown bipolar I: Interview with Alex, June 2012.
134 Marion Kane’s story: Interview with Marion Kane, January 2013.
137 “With me, it always comes back to anxiety”: Interview with Julie, July 2012.
CHAPTER 9: ROMANCING THE GLASS
141 “There is some kiss”: Coleman Barks, The Book of Love: Poems of Ecstasy and Longing (HarperOne, 2003).
143 “The spider, dropping down from twig”: “Natural History” by E. B. White, reprinted in Scott Elledge’s E. B. White: A Biography (W. W. Norton and Company, 1984).
150 the founder of Women Who Whiskey: Interviews with Julia Ritz Toffoli, June 2012 and May 2013.
152 Scout has been sober—this time—for two and a half years: Interview with Scout, November 2012.
155 Alexandra is an actress: Interview with Alexandra, August 2012.
CHAPTER 10: THE MODERN WOMAN’S STEROID
159 “I can bring home”: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jA4DR4vEgrs.
162 a recent poll done by Netmums in Britain: http://www.netmums.com/woman/fitness-diet/mums-and-drinking/netmums-and-alcohol-the-full-results/netmums-alcohol-full-survey-results.
162 Jungian analyst Jan Bauer: Interview with Jan Bauer, February 2013.
162 “Perfectionism”: Interview with Leslie Buckley, March 2013.
163 a benzodiazepine called Valium: http://www.benzo.org.uk/valium3.htm; http://www.clarkprosecutor.org/html/substnce/prescription.htm.
163 In 1978, it was estimated that a fifth of American women were taking “mother’s little helper”: National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University, Women under the Influence (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006).
166 “I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies”: Hillary Clinton quote at http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2012/04/working-moms-first-ladies-and-recalling-hillary-clintons-cookies/.
166 I performed the Christmas triathlon: Ann Dowsett Johnston, “The Christmas Triathlon,” Maclean’s, December 10, 2001.
167 “It is my opinion that Norman Rockwell and his ilk”: Laurie Colwin, More Home Cooking: A Writer Returns to the Kitchen (HarperCollins Publishers, 1993).
167 “I drink until I’m comfortably numb”: Interview with Danielle Perron, April 2013.
168 “Partying was really a rite of passage”: Interview with Paige Cowan, January 2012.
170 Signing up to be conscious: Interview with Lisa, December 2012.
172 “Alcohol made me social”: Interview with Jennifer, September 2012.
CHAPTER 11: THE LAST TABOO
173 “This may be the most stigmatized area”: Interview with Janet Christie, March 2011.
173 In 2010, a widely reported British study: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/oct/06/pregnancy-light-drinking-no-harm-study.
174 “The U.K. study was unfortunate”: Interview with Sterling Clarren, November 2011.
175 “the territory is gray”: Interview with Nancy Poole, November 2011.
176 “drinking off the charts”: Interview with Gerald Thomas, April 2013.
177 “There is no amount of alcohol that has been proven to be safe during pregnancy”: Interview with Svetlana Popova, April 2013.
177 “He was the child who would not turn off”: Interview with Lynn Cunningham, May 2013.
178 “If you’re white, you’re ADHD”: Interview with Jan Lutke, May 2013.
178 the numbers out of the United Kingdom are high: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/2015160/Half-of-women-drink-alcohol-while-pregnant.html.
179 one in thirteen American pregnant women said that they drank: http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/fasd/data.html.
179 a 2012 study in Australia: http://www.fare.org.au/2012/02/2461/.
179 “How do you get over the middle-and upper-class arrogance around FASD?”: Interview with Phillip May, December 2012.
181 “Alcohol consumed by the mother passes easily into her breast milk”: Interview with Svetlana Popova, April 2013.
182 “We are looking for a marker”: Interview with Sarah Mattson, May 2013.
182 “I binge drank through my pregnancy”: Interviews with Janet Christie, March 2011 and November 2012.
186 Margaret Leslie and her team . . . at Breaking the Cycle: Interview with Margaret Leslie, July 2011.
CHAPTER 12: THE DAUGHTERS’ STORIES
187 “Man hands on misery to man”: Philip Larkin, Collected Poems, Anthony Thwaite, ed. (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2004).
187 “Serious drinkers are like serious eaters”: Marion Woodman, Addiction to Perfection: The Still Unravished Bride (Inner City Books, 1982).
192 We’re all good daughters: Robert Ackerman, Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics (Health Communications, 1989).
193 daughters raised by alcoholic mothers have different issues than those with alcoholic fathers: Interview with Robert Ackerman, March 2013.
193 “I didn’t realize it wasn’t normal for a mother to sleep a lot in the day”: Interview with Peggy McGillicuddy, December 2012.
195 “My mother didn’t want to be here”: Interview with Caroline, November 2012.
197 “I refuse to be like my mom—crippled, a depressive”: Interview with Kate, December 2012.
198 “She was not a functioning alcoholic”: Interviews with Vera Tarman, December 2012 and January 2013.
CHAPTER 13: IN WHICH EVERYTHING CHANGES
205 “If you can kill the right thing”: Robert A. Johnson, She: Understanding Feminine Psychology (HarperPerennial, 1989).
217 “I said to my soul, be still”: T. S. Eliot, Four Quartets (Harcourt, 1943).
217 “One of the greatest difficulties in dealing with food addicts, as with alcoholics”: Marion Woodman, Addiction to Perfection: The Still Unravished Bride (Inner City Books, 1982).
CHAPTER 14: BREAKING THE TRAUMA CYCLE
221 “The past is never dead”: William Faulkner, Requiem for a Nun (Random House, 1951).
221 “Alcohol was my first experience of getting high”: Interviews with Annie Akavak, September 2011 and February 2013.
222 “Braiding” is the approach used at Jean Tweed: Interviews with Nancy Bradley, October and November 2010; November 2011.
223 “Trauma shuts down the frontal lobe”: Interview with Susan Raphael, September 2012.
223 “We miss the biggest part of the story”: Interviews with Nancy Poole, October 2010 and January 2013.
224 stresses the correlation between trauma and addiction: Interview with Johanna O’Flaherty, December 2013.
224 Jean Tweed began offering child care: Interview with Nancy Bradley, November 2011.
225 “I stopped relapsing”: Interview with Annie Akavak, November 2012.
226 “The Children’s Program is about breaking the cycle”: Interviews with Jerry Moe, December 2012 and February 2013.
228 “There’s not much denial with little kids”: Interview with Peggy McGillicuddy, December 2012.
229 helping young children make sense of what they remember of your drinking past: Interview with Lesley, March 2011.
230 “It’s really difficult for us to forgive ourselves”: Interview with Heather Amisson, July 2011.
CHAPTER 15: SOMETHING IN THE WATER
233 “Let’s say there’s a frog pond”: Interview with Dan Reist, October 2010.
233 “This is a huge public health problem”: Interview with Robert Brewer, February 2013.
234 “Lots of harms are co
ming from those who are not addicted”: Interview with Rob Strang, June 2011.
234 “Alcohol is where tobacco was forty years ago”: Interview with Mike Daube, October 2012.
235 “When you consider the science, alcohol is doing the most harm in our society”: Interview with Jürgen Rehm, May 2011.
236 “Alcohol consumption creates more harm to others than secondhand smoke”: Interview with Jürgen Rehm, February 2013.
236 Australian researchers estimated that the costs of harm to others matched the traditional costs of the drinker to society: http://lastdrinks.org.au/research/harm-to-others-summary.pdf.
236 “what we’re looking to do is to prevent the early uptake and heavy drinking of young women”: Interview with Sally Casswell, April 2013.
237 “Women arguably have the most to gain from a strong policy environment”: Interview with Tim Naimi, April 2013.
237 “We don’t have the power base to counter the strategic lobbying of the alcohol industry”: Interview with James Mosher, April 2013.
238 a 10 percent rise in the price of alcohol is associated with a 9 percent drop in hospital admissions for acute alcohol-related issues: Interview with Tim Stockwell, April 2013.
238 Scotland has indeed declared its intention to set a minimum price for a standard unit of alcohol: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-scotland-politics-22394438.
238 Minimum pricing: http://www.ias.org.uk/newsroom/uknews/2013/news010513/iasreport-stockwell-thomas.pdf.
238 Prime Minister David Cameron seems to have reneged on his promise: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9987635/Pubs-demand-minimum-alcohol-price.html.
239 more than a million alcohol-related hospital admissions each year: http://www.ias.org.uk/newsroom/uknews/2013/news300513.html.
239 Federal alcohol taxes have not been raised since 1991: Email exchange with David Jernigan, April 2013.
239 “Ultimately, cheap booze is not healthy for society”: Interview with Tim Naimi, April 2013.