The Art of Reading People
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In my experience, nothing has proven as simple and yet effective and powerful as the daily practice of mindfulness.
It has helped me become more decisive, disciplined, focused, calm, and just a happier person.
I can come as far as to say that mindfulness has transformed me into a success.
Now, it's your turn.
There's nothing to lose, and so much to win!
The payoff is nothing less than transforming your life into its true potential.
What you will learn from this book:
-What exactly does the word "mindfulness" mean, and why should it become an important word in your dictionary?
-How taking as little as five minutes a day to clear your mind might result in steering your life towards great success and becoming a much more fulfilled person? ...and how the heck can you "clear your mind" exactly?
-What are the most interesting, effective, and not well-known mindfulness techniques for success that I personally use to stay on the track and achieve my goals daily while feeling calm and relaxed?
-Where to start and how to slowly get into mindfulness to avoid unnecessary confusion?
-What are the scientifically proven profits of a daily mindfulness practice?
-How to develop the so-called "Nonjudgmental Awareness" to win with discouragement and negative thoughts, stick to the practice and keep becoming a more focused, calm, disciplined, and peaceful person on a daily basis?
-What are the most common problems experienced by practitioners of mindfulness and meditation, and how to overcome them?
-How to meditate and just how easy can it be?
-What are the most common mistakes people keep doing when trying to get into meditation and mindfulness? How to avoid them?
-Real life tested steps to apply mindfulness to everyday life to become happier and much more successful person?
-What is the relation between mindfulness and life success? How to use mindfulness to become much more effective in your life and achieve your goals much easier?
-What to do in life when just about everything seems to go wrong?
-How to become a more patient and disciplined person?
Stop existing and start living.
Start changing your life for the better today.
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Buddhism: Beginner's Guide: Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Everyday Life
Buddhism is one of the most practical and simple belief systems on this planet, and it has greatly helped me on my way to become a better person in every aspect possible. In this book I will show you what happened and how it was.
No matter if you are totally green when it comes to Buddha's teachings or maybe you have already heard something about them—this book will help you systematize your knowledge and will inspire you to learn more and to take steps to make your life positively better!
I invite you to take this beautiful journey into the graceful and meaningful world of Buddhism with me today!
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About The Author
Author’s blog: www.mindfulnessforsuccess.com
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Hi! I’m Ian…
. . . and I am interested in life. I am in the study of having an awesome and passionate life, which I believe is within the reach of practically everyone. I’m not a mentor or a guru. I’m just a guy who always knew there was more than we are told. I managed to turn my life around from way below my expectations to a really satisfying one, and now I want to share this fascinating journey with you so that you can do it, too.
I was born and raised somewhere in Eastern Europe, where Polar Bears eat people on the streets, we munch on snow instead of ice cream and there’s only vodka instead of tap water, but since I make a living out of several different businesses, I move to a new country every couple of months. I also work as an HR consultant for various European companies.
I love self-development, traveling, recording music and providing value by helping others. I passionately read and write about social psychology, sociology, NLP, meditation, mindfulness, eastern philosophy, emotional intelligence, time management, communication skills and all of the topics related to conscious self-development and being the most awesome version of yourself.
Breathe. Relax. Feel that you’re alive and smile. And never hesitate to contact me!
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