by Tracy Brown
He enrolled in violence-management and parenting classes, and continued to read—now, about two books a week. The parenting classes showed him just how dysfunctional his own upbringing had been. He learned that children interpret and understand what’s going on in their environment long before parents usually think they do. He learned that children mimic their parents, and that was certainly true for him. He had patterned himself after Leo from the time he was small. They taught him about good parenting, and until then he hadn’t really realized how unorthodox it was to be the child of an addict. To witness drug abuse up close from such an early age. All his life he’d worked with the hand he had been dealt, and never took the time to really see it for what it was. He realized for the first time that so much of who he was, so much of how he lived his life, was attributable to his upbringing. It finally dawned on him just how dysfunctional his childhood had been. The odds had been stacked against him from the very beginning. The ease with which he had merged into the fast lane came from watching his father, and from seeing how Leo had handled power. He had studied and watched his father, and became his duplicate. He realized that, all the while he thought that he had the game figured out, and that he knew how to play it, the game was playing him. True, he hadn’t become a drug addict, as his father had. But he was in jail, and there was no victory in that. He thought about the fact that he could have wound up dead instead, and he was grateful that things had turned out the way that they had.
Born began to pay close attention to his fellow inmates. He began to listen when they griped about their lack of family, their lack of a sense of direction, and the fact that they had no plans for their future. But there was one man who was incarcerated with Born who would forever change his life.
Earl “Ace” Frasier, an older cat, was incarcerated alongside Born. He watched as Born took part in classes and read books like crazy. Ace was observant, and he watched in silence as he saw a slow change begin to occur in the young hustler they called Born. Born was also observant, and being a seasoned hustler, he could tell simply from Ace’s mannerisms that he was or had been an addict. But despite Born’s suspicion, he still found Ace to be a likable enough guy. Ace hollered at him one afternoon, as they both left the visiting room.
“I see you been reading a lot, youngster. Going to all kinds of classes and shit. Tryin’ to change your life around? Or are you up for parole soon, trying to make a good impression?”
Born didn’t know why he felt comfortable answering the older man’s questions. Ace was a tall black man in his forties, who—judging from his prison I.D. number—had been locked up since the early eighties. He was well respected in their dorm, and could often be found giving sage old advice to the younger inmates from time to time. Born had never really socialized with Ace much, outside of the occasional card game. But this day, when he looked at Ace, he decided to answer his questions. “I guess it’s a little of both,” Born said. “I want to turn over a new leaf. You know what I’m saying? But it don’t hurt that the board will see all the stuff I’ve been doing to change my life around.”
Ace nodded his understanding.
They went through the demeaning ritual of being cavity searched as they returned to their dorm, and when they arrived, Ace picked up their conversation where they’d left off. “You know you’re not really like the rest of these niggas in here,” he said.
Born frowned. “What you mean?”
“There’s a certain energy that you have that a lot of niggas in here don’t have. I’ve been in here for a long time. And when you walked in, I could see that there was no bullshit with you. A lot of these niggas around here purposely try to walk hard, talk hard, and act tough. But, you don’t seem to be trying. Your shit is natural. You walk with confidence, but there’s nothing extra about it. You talk hard, but it ain’t hard to tell that it ain’t just talk. I see a lot of these dudes around here come and sit by you whenever you come back from your classes. It’s almost like they anticipate you coming back, so they can sit around and soak up your aura.”
Born laughed, and shook his head. “Whatever! The shit ain’t that serious.”
Ace smiled. “But it is, though. I can tell the fakes and the phonies. You strike me as a real nigga. That’s why the fakes gather around you, trying to soak up some realness.”
Born smiled, feeling like he was being flattered unnecessarily. “What you in here for, old-timer?”
Ace shrugged his shoulders. “All kinds of shit. But mainly homicide. I killed my brother, and then set his house on fire.”
Born stared at him in silence, digesting the information
“I was on crack. Strung out, needed money. I went to my brother’s house in the middle of the night to get some. I was hoping that, even if he didn’t give me the dough, he would let me in so I could steal something, and sell it to get some dough. It was all about getting high for me that night. So my brother came to the door, and I asked him for money. He wouldn’t give it to me, wouldn’t let me in the house, and I snapped. In my mind I thought that he was turning his back on me when I needed him, that he thought he was better than me. I stabbed him in his chest about seven times. Then I went in the house, stole some shit I could sell real quick, and then set the whole shit on fire. I never realized that my brother’s kids were sleeping upstairs, and I left the house to burn down. By the time I was blocks away getting high, the neighbors were trying to get my nephews out of the house as it burned to the ground. The cops figured out it was me, and I was arrested that same night and charged with murder, arson, endangering the welfare of a child, all kinds of shit. Got sentenced to twenty years.”
Born shook his head, his suspicions confirmed about Ace’s addiction. He was at a loss for words.
Ace continued. “But the time I’ve served in this prison is nothing compared to the sentence of having to live with that guilt for the rest of my life. I can never get the image out of my head—the look on my brother’s face when I stuck that knife in his chest. I can’t escape that. So they can lock me up for as long as they want. I’m serving my own sentence in here.” Ace pointed to his head, and looked Born in his eyes. “I can never bring him back. And that’s the worst punishment. It ain’t like I killed him for betraying me, or for stealing from me, or for fucking my wife. I killed him so I could get high. My own flesh and blood. That’s the price of being hooked on that fuckin’ crack. You sell your soul for that shit.”
Born nodded. “Tell me about it,” he said. “My dad was hooked on that shit. So was my wifey.”
Ace looked at Born intently. “Yet you still sell this shit to someone else’s father and someone else’s wifey?”
Born shook his head. “You sound like my moms. I guess you got a point, you know what I’m saying? But I always felt like, if I didn’t sell the shit to somebody, another hustler would.”
“That’s true,” Ace said. “But if everybody thought like that, what good would that do? If you let yourself think about every fiend after you serve them, you would feel what I’m talking about. You never let yourself feel the guilt of what you’re doing. You get cold to it. You never let yourself feel the desperation of the person willing to give you their body for a hit. If you can imagine how strong a drug must be to have you choosing it over your loved ones! You gotta make a decision for yourself that selling that shit ain’t what you want to do anymore. Fuck everybody else.” Ace leaned forward, speaking with sincerity. “I talk to a lot of young niggas in here like this. Most of them don’t hear me, though, ‘cuz all they want is to get out of here and go right back to getting money. They want to get back to the block, back to the fiends, the cash, the hoes, and all the other shit that comes along with it. They don’t really want to change. But I see you around here going to classes, reading books, staying out of trouble. And it looks to me like you might really have what it takes to get the fuck up outta here and never come back. I fucked my life up. Ain’t no hope for me. Most of these young niggas in here are hopeless. They don’t know nothing
else, and they don’t want to learn nothing else. Period. They’ll get out of here eventually. But they’ll be coming back. Or if they don’t come back, they’ll end up six feet under. But you’re a natural leader, Born. I can tell by how these lil niggas follow you without you even asking them to. And I think if you want to walk out of here and leave this shit behind, you just might be the one who can really make that change. Real talk.”
Born listened to Ace talk more about his own life, the depths to which he’d fallen at the hands of the crack he had used. He told Born about the pain he lived with daily, of how he’d destroyed his family, along with any hopes of living a life not plagued by demons. Talking to Ace made Born look at his surroundings through new eyes. He realized how right Ace was. Born wasn’t like the rest of the guys he was incarcerated with. There was something about Born that set him apart. He was incarcerated with men who didn’t know how to read, men who had never been outside of the cities and towns in which they’d been born. He began to see that there was more to life than what he had limited himself to.
Each afternoon, Born would sit and talk to Ace for hours. Born soaked up the old man’s wisdom and life experience. Ace reminded Born of Leo in a way. The fatherly advice he gave made Born miss his old dad even more. At Ace’s urging, Born became interested in the notion of higher learning, and this is what he used to deter him from more trouble. He stayed out of further drama and became a model prisoner. Before long, the end of his sentence was near. He gave all of his books and tapes to Ace, promising to keep in touch once he got out. By March 1999, he was going home. Born made a vow to himself and to God that he would never look back.
33
DOUBLE CROSSED
Some folks in the hood wondered if Jamari had ratted Born out. The timing was sure convenient. Born’s arrest closely followed his argument with Jamari. Jada never questioned it, though. She had no reason to suspect Jamari of that type of treachery. Not yet, anyway.
When she heard that Born was in jail, Jada couldn’t understand why she felt sorry for him. Especially after all he’d done to distance himself from her. She was hurt that Born had tossed her out, with his mother’s help, rather than helping her fight her demons the way Dorian had helped Sunny. She was hurt by the things that Jamari had told her Born had said about her in the barbershop. Jada was hurt that Born had abandoned her so coldheartedly. He had thrown her out. Then he moved on with another woman, all while Jada was still sick without him. Born had moved on with his life without her. And she felt that it was time she moved on as well. Yet, she still had love for the man, and her heart went out to him. But she was caught up in her own bullshit. Too caught up to really focus on anything else.
She and Jamari dated exclusively for close to three months. Jada was high every day, and she still had not been in contact with Sunny, or with her sister Ava. Her only family, her only friend, was Jamari. He fed her habit, and that was all that mattered to her. For Jada it was more about companionship than love. But it was mostly about the drugs. Jamari was her pusher, and she depended on him for that. When her savings were depleted, he let her move in with him. She was so far gone that she didn’t see that as a setback, but rather as a more convenient way to get high. Now she would be living with the drugs, and she could be high as often as she wanted. She was happy to be living under Jamari’s roof, and he was happy to have her there.
Jamari had begun to care for Jada, despite the voice in his head telling him not to. At first, he’d wanted to seduce her, clean her up, and then flaunt her in front of Born. He wanted to turn her against him. But Jada wasn’t so easily brainwashed. He could tell that she was still in love with Born, and he hated her for that. He hated the thought of Born still holding a place in Jada’s heart. Jamari wanted to be the only man in her life, and even in Born’s absence he couldn’t fill his shoes.
He felt like a loser, but his feelings for Jada persisted. He was eager to have her in his home, and in his bed every night. At last, she was all his. He set about the task of locking her down. He controlled the purse strings, and Jada went along with what made him happy. Jamari saw Jada as a possession. He would have done anything to keep her with him. He showered and spoiled her. He let her get high, as long as she did it with dignity. He tried to fill her every need, so that she wouldn’t need another man for anything.
When Jada told Jamari that she was pregnant, he was thrilled. What he didn’t say was that he’d been watching Jada closely. Watching her comings and goings in order to determine if she was playing him. He followed her to see if she was cheating on him. He watched her patterns, and knew when her period was due, and documented her menstrual cycle so that he could tell if she was pregnant. So when Jada told him that she was indeed pregnant, Jamari was elated, but he already knew. He was relieved that she told him rather than sneaking off behind his back to have an abortion. He took that as a sign of her affection for him. And that encouraged him a great deal. He was going to be a father, and the woman who was giving him a child was the woman Born loved. Nothing was better than that.
Jamari did whatever it took to make Jada smile. All because his overall goal was to keep her with him. The baby seemed like the perfect solution. But he was disappointed to hear that Jada wasn’t sure she wanted to keep it.
Jada asked him one day if he would be mad if she got an abortion. “I’m not sure if I’m ready to be a mother,” she said. She saw the dejected expression on Jamari’s face, and tried to soften her approach somewhat. “I’m just having second thoughts about this. I mean, especially because I like to get high. How can I have a child? The very meaning of motherhood is being unselfish. It’s about loving someone more than you love your own self, and your own happiness. I don’t know if I can be that unselfish. I’ve never in my life been that unselfish.” Jada sighed, and felt her eyes well up with tears. She hadn’t been high in days, and now all the pain she’d suppressed was bubbling at the surface. “Every day when I wake up, I think about my life. What’s my plan for the day? That’s what I ask myself. And then I’ll think about yesterday. How I got high all day, or how dirty the house looked because I was too high to clean it. I think about the day before that. How I still haven’t heard from Ava. How my own mother wants nothing to do with me. And I even think about Born.” Jada saw Jamari’s jaw tighten at the mention of her former love, and she quickly explained. “I think about how I hurt him, when all he tried to do was love me. Sometimes I hate who I am and what I’ve become.” Jada shook her head, hating the very thought of all the pain she’d caused, all the pain she’d seen in her lifetime. Jada would think about Mr. Charlie, and all the men she’d traded sexual favors with in order to get high. She’d think about her family, particularly Ava, and how she’d caught her snorting coke, and threatened to tell Born.
Born. It was thoughts of him that usually sent Jada searching for her usual escape. “Jamari, I get high just to make it through another day. Where would a child fit into all of that?” Jada waited for his response, angry with herself for the fact that Jamari had ever even hit it raw. She knew she’d gotten pregnant when she was high, because that was pretty much the only time she had sex with him without a condom. She’d been too high to care. She wanted to kick herself now for being so careless.
Jamari looked at Jada sympathetically. He heard her reasons for doubting whether she was ready to be a mother. But in his heart he truly believed that having this baby would be good for Jada. Maybe this would help her leave the drugs alone for good. He thought motherhood might be good for Jada, that it might teach her how to be unselfish for once. But he also knew that this was a surefire way to hold on to her. Having his baby would ensure that she would always be a part of his life in some capacity. Jamari was prepared to beg her to have the baby.
“Don’t kill my baby, sweetheart,” he said. The words tugged at Jada’s heart, as he said them. “Don’t you think it’s time to do something with your life? This baby will be your reason to take a step back from the drugs and give your body a rest. I
t might even be enough for you to stop altogether.” Jamari knelt in front of her, and took her hand in his. “Jada, please. I’m begging you. I swear it’ll be alright. We’ll make it work. I promise I’ll be with you every step.”
Jada listened to him plead his case, but made no decision that night. Jamari’s begging went on for seven days. And then she yielded. She awoke beside him one morning, and looked him in the eyes. “I’ll have the baby,” she said. “I think it’s time I turned my life around.”
Jamari was ecstatic. He kissed her over and over again, and his smile spread all across his face. Things were better than ever between them, and he was at Jada’s beck and call.
As the months went by, and her slim and sexy waistline made way for a bulging tummy, Jamari beamed with pride. Jada had mixed emotions. She had never been in love with Jamari. But she felt like it would be cruel for her to have an abortion after all he’d done for her. And little by little, she began to warm up to the idea of being a mother. She would soon have someone to call her own. Someone that she could love, and who wouldn’t desert her like everyone else in her life had.
She stopped smoking crack while she was pregnant. It was hard, because she wanted it so bad on a few occasions. But she stayed clean. She did smoke a little weed during the first trimester. She wasn’t proud of that fact. So then she went cold turkey, and really gave it her all. But it wasn’t long before she noticed Jamari becoming more controlling. Now that Jada was no longer getting high, she started to notice that he wasn’t as likable as she had thought he was. She couldn’t tolerate him as much as she used to when she was always high. And, he wouldn’t leave her alone, so she was forced to endure him. Jada started feeling trapped.