But, be very, very careful when applying tongue to clit, please!
Tempest in a Teapot
This is a simple technique, certainly easy to remember and do. Simply start to either side of her clitoral hood, and sweep or ‘feather dust’ to the other side, rhythmically, back and forth. You can vary the pressure and speed, but never put too much pressure on her. It’s usually best to start slow, then build speed, but in any case, you’ll need to take your time – a woman’s passion builds, it’s not a light switch you can turn on (though you can certainly turn it off if you’re clumsy or inconsiderate.)
You may want to try upward and downward strokes, but beware - upward strokes can scrape under her clitoral hood and irritate her clit itself. If you try it, be very sensitive to her reaction and abandon it immediately if it’s negative.
Spiraling Into Pleasure
This, too, is a fairly simple technique, but it can pay off with great results with little effort on your part. Touch her vulva to either side of her clit, and then swirl the tip of your tongue like the second hand on a clock, around and around. Of course you can go in either direction, you can flatten your tongue broadly, or touch her with just the tip, you can vary the speed, whether from slow to fast to slow again, it is simply important to do it in a rhythmic way, not jerky and to use a feathery touch, not drag your tongue as though you were excavating for a swimming pool. She will perceive your touch differently, depending on where your tongue is at any given time – the closer you are to her exposed clit, the greater her sensation. And where is that? At the 6 o’clock position, where there is no clitoral hood.
Sucking it Up!
This is similar to the technique in Passion Sauvage, except that it is specifically for her clit itself. She has to be completely ‘warmed up’ to get to this point, or you may find her on the ceiling when you try it. Don’t try it too early, and don’t try it when she’s already cumming, it may throw her off her own internal rhythm. Lightly and gently suck on her clit, then release rhythmically, instead of just sucking lightly on it. Again, light sucking only.
You may want to consider slowly, lightly, gently stroking your tongue over her clit while it’s in your mouth – but watch out, while it might not seem like much to you, she’s going to feel an intense set of sensations!
Whirlpool of Desire
If you’ve had cunnilingus before reading this, it may often seem that all pussy licking is "messy." I certainly hope so! If you’ve done well, her pussy is creaming sweet, hot fluids that end up all over your face, mouth and whatever surface you happen to be on. In addition, you may find yourself swallowing her internal lube, and if you’re especially fortunate, she’s a "squirter," in which case everything and everyone involved will be both wet and satisfied.
With this technique, you’re going to place your face flat against her pussy, and chow down, tongue and lips caressing, licking, kissing everything you can find, particularly lapping up her fluids and exchanging them for your own (saliva.) You’ll want to get right in there, which involves lewdly spreading her legs – often, she’ll be more comfortable if you gently push her legs back towards her breasts and face, exposing and spreading her pussy fully for your attention.
I like this position for several reasons. One, it makes the woman feel very lewd and dirty, like a complete sex animal used to slake my lust. Two, it makes her not responsible for the filthy, slutty position that she finds herself in – but that she absolutely loves. And third, for me, I love another woman’s ass hole under my mouth, too – but maybe that’s a subject for another guide!
Chances are, if she really doesn’t like it, she’ll tell you. But if she does like it, it’s a lot of fun (and mess) for you both. Don’t try this if you’re having cunnilingus as a lunch break from the office, however, unless you want to return to your co-workers smelling like hot, aroused pussy.
The Cool Breeze
You’ve no doubt seen a variation of this in the movies, whether mainstream or adult, where an ice cube is held in the hand or between the lips, and brushed over the woman’s lips, or her nipples, giving her a sensation of cold and, paradoxically, heat. It is a very powerful way to arouse a woman, and it’s no less so when applied to her vulva.
It’s best to use an ice cube that’s already partly melted – it’s moist and slippery, and also less likely to stick to her body. A ‘too frozen’ cube can give her a slight case of frostbite, hurt her and end up with you being thrown out, so...a wet and partially melted cube is way better.
Go ahead and use it as you’ve seen in the movies – rub it lightly over her hot lips, it’ll draw out her tongue, making her feel and look even more sexy. Then around her nipples, perking them up and stiff if they’re not that way already. She’s seen those movies, too, and will be charmed that you thought of it, but she’ll be surprised when you ‘skate’ the cube down her body with your mouth, around her bare navel, and continue downward, there to use the cube as you would the tip of your tongue – along labia, over her vaginal opening (be careful not to lose it there, inside, she will not like that!) and then around, and over her clitoral hood.
Remember that a brief, instantaneous touch of the half-melted cube is exciting and enticing. Leaving it in place for more than a second or two is numbing, and possibly painful – and not in a good way, either. So don’t do that.
Additional Techniques
Hand Use in Cunnilingus
Your hands – specifically, your fingers – are an absolutely divine way to complement the pleasure that your tongue and lips are bringing her. Most of us have ten digits, and one tongue, so don’t overlook their ability of those fingers to help in your partner’s seduction and pleasure.
The absolutely most divine way to bring her to orgasm involves your tongue practicing the techniques you learned earlier around and on her vulva, while your fingers are stimulating her g-spot inside. Just keep at the front of your mind two very important details:
She needs to be wet inside. If you watch one woman use her fingers on another woman’s clitoral area, you’ll see her lick her fingers first. Why? Because we’ve all been touched there by somebody who used dry fingers – dry, high friction, probably calloused fingers. The pain is real, the sensory overload is way too much. Wet, slippery fingers are best, preferably with our own body’s lubricant, but water-based lubes, or saliva can work, too. There’s no such thing as ‘too much’ lubricant!
Use your fingers slowly, gently, tenderly. Pretend that her pussy is filled with nitroglycerin. One false move and one of you will blow up, and not in a good way. Our bodies are sensitive. We don’t like fingers jammed up inside us. We do generally like a finger slowly caressing us inside, followed by a second after we’ve gotten used to the first. Depending on the woman, more fingers might be okay, but honestly, you can do everything you need to do with two fingers.
Your fingernails need to be perfect, and your hands and fingers scrupulously clean. No hangnails, jagged nails, long nails or dirt under the fingernails. Would you want somebody’s dirty fingers going into your mouth? Well, she doesn’t want somebody’s yucky fingers going into her pussy, okay? Also, no rings or other hardware – that stuff hurts!
The G-Spot
The G-Spot is not nearly as mysterious as people have made it out to be, and finding it is pretty simple. It’s basically located inside the vagina, behind where the woman’s clit is located. About the size of a quarter, it responds to gentle stroking – no frenzied pawing is necessary, caressing is much better than poking. Some women won’t feel anything special there, other women will orgasm from having it stroked.
While your mouth is busy on her clitoral area, your fingers slowly slide in and out of her wet pussy, with your palm facing towards you (the back of your hand facing her). That allows your fingers to bend perfectly to caress her g-spot. It’s located just behind her clit, inside her pussy. I liken it to being about where the rear view mirror is on your car. Softly caress the thickened patch you may find there. If you’re fortu
nate, she’ll experience two different kinds of orgasms at once. Both are wonderful and very satisfying, and she will never forget what you did for her!
Twisting your fingers as you slide in and out of her, allowing the tips of your fingers to caress her vaginal walls, will increase her pleasurable sensations also. Fingers are for inside the pussy. The tongue is for the clit.
Toys
Sex toys are lots of fun, and if you didn’t realize it, almost every woman has one or more, and may often use it for self-pleasure, for those times when fingers aren’t enough. And sadly, it’s physically impossible for women to use their tongues on their own clits!
Toys during cunnilingus are probably better for partners who have been together for a while, as an addition to spice things up. Whipping out sex toys the first time you’re with a woman is probably too much, like the only child who gets 50 Christmas presents – you don’t need to use your entire inventory of tricks on the first date, or what will you have left for next time?
Of course, if they’re her sex toys, then that’s fine. She feels comfortable with those, and as with the unorgasmic woman, they may be essential to her cumming, as she’s conditioned herself to their use.
There are two types of basic toys that can be used during cunnilingus, under the heading of vibrators, and dildos.
Vibrators - Vibrators, aka ‘neck massagers’ and ‘back massagers,’ come in a variety of shapes and power sources – battery and plug-in. Adult novelty stores have a wide selection, and these are all available, completely anonymously through the internet. Use your favorite search engine, using the term ‘vibrators’, and I guarantee you that you’ll find no end of companies that want to sell you one (or more.) If and when she gets really serious about vibrator use, there are plug in "wands" that just amazingly do the trick.
This kind of purchase works out better if she’s involved. By all means, talk to her before even looking. If she buys in from the beginning, she’ll be more enthusiastic about its use during your playtime. These are intended for use outside of her pussy.
Dildos - Dildos, which are intended for use inside her pussy (and there are also versions for her ass, and mouth), come in a fantastic array of sizes and shapes, from small, egg-shaped, vibrating models to giant, passive silicone or latex erect penises. Some even squirt!
Again, she needs to be involved from the beginning. If she’s reluctant to try one, do not push it. Chances are, if she suggested a dildo to put in your ass, you might hesitate too, and would resent it if she forced it on you. She may come around, eventually, but take it slow and gently. These are also available at ‘adult novelty’ stores, and through the internet.
Remember that your tongue is the star of a cunnilingus session, and that toys are simply an adjunct, a tool to assist the event. Toys should never be used directly on the clitoris, unless you want to end your sex play immediately and have the woman furious with you. Vibrators, and even the pressure of a dildo, on the sensitive nerve endings of a woman’s clit can seriously hurt, Vibrators can be used in the clitoral area – again, not on the clit itself. Pay attention to her reactions as you use it.
Variety and Positions
There are quite a number of different positions that can be used to bring total pleasure to a woman through cunnilingus. And as wonderful a sexual practice as it is for both partners, it is pleasant to be able to vary the approach over time, to keep it fresh and exciting, as is true of all sex play.
If we were all condemned to, say, the missionary position of conventional penis-in-vagina intercourse, it might lose its attraction in fairly short order for one partner, if not both. But varying every aspect of sex brings spice that can render a somewhat bland meal into a gourmet repast.
Look these over, think about them – if they appeal to you and your partner, try them! Be sure that a position doesn’t exceed any physical limitations, and enjoy yourselves. If at any point a position feels uncomfortable, or painful, stop. You can always try that position some other time, when circumstances better allow it.
I can tell you that the wide variety of sexual positions carried into your relationship, can lighten up what might have become almost drudgery, or at least boring.
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"Jimmy talked me into letting him eat me – you know, licking my pussy. I was very reluctant at first. I mean, what if I smelled bad, or farted while he was down there, or if I just wouldn’t like it? He explained to me that we don’t go to the same beach on vacation every year, because after a while there’s no surprises left, and shouldn’t we try to bring some new things in our love life, too?
That kind of made sense, and honestly, the rest of the stuff we’d tried wasn’t really getting me very excited – role playing, and all that. No matter how I tried I couldn’t pretend he was a burglar, or whatever. So we tried that – the pussy licking – I mean, he tried it, I’m not going to lick a girl – and it was so amazing! He found places on me that I didn’t even know do things.
Oh sure, I masturbate, and I’m not an idiot, I know that my clit’s made for fun. But the ways that he touched me there – with his tongue, and lips – it was just amazing. That really made me happy, especially because he loves licking me maybe even more than I like it – and I like it a lot!
All those things I worried about, I shouldn’t have. Jimmy tells me that we’re going to try different positions, although the one he’s been using is working very well." – Stephanie, 27
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Traditional
The most popular position is probably this one, with the woman flat on her back, with her legs drawn up and feet close to her butt. This position exposes her pussy for easy access, and can lead to deeper types of oral pleasuring if both partners are so inclined. The drawback is that the giving partner will have their head canted at an awkward angle if it goes on for a long time, leading to neck discomfort and stiffness, if not pain. Placing a pillow under her bottom may lessen the discomfort, try it and see.
Women who desire a deeper tonguing often will lift their feet off the mattress (or surface on which they are lying) and place them on the partners back or shoulders. This often contributes to a feeling of lewdness on the woman’s part, as she is actively opening herself to her partner. Some women might be a little shy about it, but frankly, if it helps her feel sluttier, it’s likely to help loosen her up emotionally, and thus make it easier for her to cum.
An even more uninhibited version of this position, has the woman’s legs against her breasts, opening both her pussy and her anus for tonguing. If she accepts this position – and not all women will – and you’re receptive to the idea of licking both of her openings, be careful of the order in which you do this. Transferring bacteria or microorganisms from the natural environment of her anus, can cause havoc when introduced to her vagina. The reverse order, i.e., licking her pussy, then her anus, would avoid these problems. Be sure to check with her at all times, though. You really, really want her buy in – if she’s not comfortable with what you’re doing, she’s not going to have fun.
And if she’s not having fun...well, you can guess the rest.
Cunnilingus is a mutual act – make sure that you’re both very comfortable and at ease with it.
"Oh god, whatever you do, don’t do it like this. My boyfriend was eating my cunt, while I had my eyes closed, looking up at the ceiling. I was cumming like never before. He was making me scream out all kinds of nasty, but kinda hot things, like ‘Eat my hot fucking pussy!’ and, ‘I’m fucking cumming, lick my cream, then kiss me!’ when my husband walked in on us. Maybe if I wasn’t cumming so much, I would have heard him at the front door. Honestly, we were lucky to get out alive." - Maria, 24
The Cliff’s Edge
This position is much like the "Legs Up," except the woman’s legs are flat, or close to flat on the surface she’s lying on. She then controls access to her pussy far more than she would in the first position, and can ‘nudge’ her partner to change position or make other changes she desires. Fo
r the giving partner, it’s likely to cause even more neck discomfort than the "Legs Up," and frankly it’s harder for him to get face down in her pussy.
It’s probably not one of the most popular positions for either partner, due to limitations on access to much of the woman’s more interesting features, and the lessened ability to bring pleasure to both partners, but it may help a woman to feel as though she has some control over the act, not a minor consideration for some women.
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"My English is not that good, but I like men and women both, they are very hot and make me wet and excited. The very best I feel is the licking of me, my pussy and even back there (giggles, and points to her ass) by both. Women are good on my pussy, but men like my butt best (laughs)." – Caprice, 19 (adult model)
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Soixante-Neuf
You may know this position more popularly as "69," or soixante-neuf. Of course, that’s head to toe, or more precisely, head to crotch. Since this is a guide to cunnilingus, we won’t discuss the woman’s mouth on a man’s body, but only a man’s mouth on the woman’s vulva. One partner’s head will be at one end of the bed, the other partner’s head on the other end.
This position is not only pretty comfortable, it’s also maximum fun for both partners. Variations include side-by-side, woman on top, and man on top. In side-by-side, both partners are lying on their sides, mouth to crotch, and not bearing each other’s weight. It avoids the issue of supporting the other person, and also avoids possible claustrophobia concerns.
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