by Nancy Lieder
ZetaTalk: Violent Games
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ZetaTalk: Violent Games
Note: written on Dec 15, 1996
Humans speak out both sides of their mouths regarding violence, as they both adore violence and promote it as a
solution to problems while at the same time asserting it is at the core of many problems their societies deals with.
Sports such as football and boxing involve the deliberate injury of opponents, movies present conflict resolution via
death by guns and knives and setting the opponent aflame, and yet when this same behavior is expressed by gangs of
boys in the ghettos it is taken to be a sign of a sick society. Institutional violence such as police brutality is condoned while white collar crime by members of the elite classes is forgiven, but both actions bring severe reprimands if done
by those not on top of the pile. The message is that violence is OK if you can get away with it. This can be seen most
clearly in a comparison of how the expression of sexual desires is treated versus how the expression of violent
tendencies is treated in toddlers.
Children in the playpen with each other can club each other over the head, throw objects at each other, or simulate
murderous instincts in graphic play with dolls with scarcely a reprimand from their parents. The child may be
temporarily separated from others it is hurting, and the victim comforted. That the behavior is unacceptable is hardly
communicated, but what is communicated is that the behavior has limits. Violence is OK, but making Mary scream
when mother is trying to chat on the phone is not OK - that’s the message. The child then begins to learn how to
express their violent tendencies where they won’t get caught. If mother is not around or is busy in the kitchen rather
than on the phone where she desires quiet, then pinching Mary or pummeling her over the head is OK.
Children in the playpen with each other, or even alone, cannot, however, get into sex play. Where the purported
dangers of sex play - venereal disease and pregnancy, cannot possibly be present in the playpen, nevertheless the child is instantly told by the tone of the mother’s voice and the intensity and quickness of her actions that such play is a
serious infraction. Adults are intensely uncomfortable when a child’s curious probing finger goes into the diaper. If
such curious play has come to the mother’s attention, the child is likely not to be left alone during play, and most
certainly won’t be left alone with other children if sex play has begun. The anxiety and resulting anger and fear that
the mother expresses speak mountains to the toddler, who often develops such a parallel anxiety about sex that they are
crippled for life in this arena.
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ZetaTalk: Fear
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ZetaTalk: Fear
Note: written on Mar 15, 1996
Fear is a protective emotion, without which the human animal would not have survived - early man would have
walked off cliffs, walked into the mouths of hungry predators, and followed their curiosity about poisonous snakes.
But in an intelligent, conscious species fear can get the upper hand so that one's life is dictated by fear, as the imagination places possibilities before one, and consequences that may never come about. You have a saying - burnt
once, twice shy - meaning that the fear can outweigh the original incident, growing in significance in memory beyond
what it was in fact. A common situation is a crippling fear based on a childhood incident, blown all out of proportion
due to the child's perspective. He was tiny, got yelled at by someone big who theoretically could kill him, crush him
like a bug. Now an adult, the grown child finds he cannot bear to step into a similar situation, as he feels an
overwhelming fear, a sense of impending doom, that he is about to be killed. Perhaps the original incident was over a
cookie, but the adult translates this into any object desired. Thus, the adult is crippled, unable to pursue a job
opportunity or ask for a date or purchase a new car - all because he got yelled at once when reaching for a cookie.
For those who think this example extreme, it is more common than not. Fear, in an intelligent species, can be an
unreasonable fear, and when allowed to become thus is dictating the person's life. The key to freeing oneself from such strictures is to examine the reasonableness of one's fears. What's the worse that can happen? If you make the
move, will you truly be killed? This examination separates the fear of walking off a cliff from the fear of asking for a
date or wearing a different style of clothing. After having determined that a fear is unreasonable, without a valid basis, then ignore it and proceed. The fastest way to dispel a baseless fear is to challenge it.
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ZetaTalk: Dangers
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ZetaTalk: Dangers
Note: written on Jan 15, 1996
The human body, like all life on Earth and elsewhere, is in a catch-22. Humans require food yet ingest poisons even
while eating the most natural of foods. Sunlight breaks chromosomes yet lack of sunlight creates depression and soft
bones. Crevices both natural and man-made, such as basements, offer protection from high winds and the elements,
but collect pools of radon gas. Exercise is necessary for a healthy body, but puts one at risk of injury beyond what the
couch potato is exposed to. Travel and outings broaden but lay one open to being mugged, raped, or kidnapped. The
miracle of controlled electron flows creates a modern life surrounded by communication and entertainment and labor
saving devices, but can slightly damage the human nervous system if exposure to an intense electrical field is
prolonged. What to do?
The best course is to focus on goals, and bear in mind that one lifetime is but a chapter in a continuing saga. You will
die, in any case, and a life well spent is better than one prolonged an instant longer by being put in a box.
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ZetaTalk: Self Destructive
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ZetaTalk: Self Destructive
Note: written on Nov 15, 1995
Drunk every day, gambling the nest egg away, recklessly careening down a winding road, insulting the boss, or eating
high cholesterol foods - why do people do this to themselves? Such self destructive behavior often has a motive behind
it that is not recognized, just as suicide does. Where suicide to end a life of chronic physical or psychological pain is understandable, many suicides seem without purpose. People in the prime of life, or young people with their whole
lives before them will either attempt suicide or engage in self destructive behavior sure to leave its mark.
Since maiming oneself or one's reputation is so lacking in benefit, the purpose of this behavior puzzles many. The
answer to this puzzle lies in whom the actor wishes to punish, and what avenues are open to the internal rage that
drives this behavior. Perhaps mother only noticed the child when the hospital called, or the only way to escape an
unwanted obligation was to be disabled. Look behind the behavior to the dubious benefit, and address this when trying to help those who would be self destructive. Anger vented in the right direction may make all the difference, allowing
those who are self des
tructive to stop using their bodies and reputations as a bludgeon.
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ZetaTalk: Killer Instinct
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ZetaTalk: Killer Instinct
Note: written on Jun 15, 1997
Carnivores kill to live, and the instincts that allow true carnivores to survive include the killer instinct. This is more than lack of empathy for the prey, it is joy in the hunt. The thrashing agony of a dying gazelle in the mouth of a lion
touches not the heart of the lion, who is focused on his hunger and what is known as the thrill of the hunt. Without this thrill, carnivores would be less likely to survive, as the fatigue that comes from relentless hunting trips, most often
unsuccessful, would overcome hunger. Thus, for carnivores, the killer instinct is inborn, natural, and therefore more easily forgiven. Carnivores that hunt to live are unlikely to kill strictly for sport, as when satiated they lie about
sunning themselves. However, the killer instinct adds excitement to the long and frustrating hunts, so once up on their
feet and hunting, carnivores are motivated to keep going until they come home with the catch.
The killer instinct has often been ascribed to humans, to explain human behavior that most find shocking. Beyond
sadism, some humans kill just to run up the numbers, casually, for trifling reasons, and without a backward glance or
twinge of remorse. This is romanticized into something called the killer instinct, akin to the noble lion or savage
stalking tiger. How else to explain a human who casually kills others? This is akin to suicide, developing a casual
attitude toward life because there is a desire for death. Many who want to die lack the courage to enter into the final fray, not so much due to anticipation of the final agony, but fear of living through the attempt, maimed and out of
control, unable to finish the job. Casual killers are simply hoping that someone will return the favor, and eventually,
someone does.
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ZetaTalk: The Grudge
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ZetaTalk: The Grudge
written March 12, 2009
There are many motives to a rampage, the application to Service-to-Self worlds we have repeatedly mentioned only being one of them.
There is the momentary blind rage, the South Carolina shooting over a real estate deal being a typical scenario.
Enraged at being backed into a wall, and at 88 years of age struggling with a diminished capacity for dealing
with a changing world, the shooter was dealing with the blind rage that one sees in a bear trapped in its den by a
hunting party.
There is also the carefully plotted murder of convenience, where the husband murders his wife, after having
taken out an insurance policy on her life, so that he can take up with a younger or more compliant model.
There are situations where the shooter has been dealt a series of blows - job loss, economic setbacks, or bad
health - and decides to end his life and take his loved ones with him. This is not an uncommon reaction in those
who have come to think of their dependants as their possession. To these individuals, killing their loved ones is
part and parcel to killing themselves, as they are a package.
The rampage in Germany fits none of these, nor does it fit into the pattern of one who is applying for a position on
future Service-to-Self worlds. It was a revenge killing because the shooter was holding a grudge. Surrounded by
strikingly beautiful girls at high school, he attracted none of them. They were not interested in his parent's wealth, nor did his expertise at table tennis impress them. In a land where mental acumen was common, he was mentally dull. He
felt humiliated by his school experience and fumed over this, deciding to take revenge. He fully expected to get away
with his deed, and only killed himself when trapped. What are the clues that this was not an application for a future
position on a Service-to-Self world? He had a personal relationship with the teachers and girls he was targeting, and
those he killed outside of the school were standing in the way of his clean get-away.
The rampage in Alabama also bears all the hallmarks of a revenge killing. Former employers were targeted, and were
listed on a grudge list found in the assailant's home. The killer did not lack personal qualities that would afford him
good jobs or a mate. He was an A student, attractive, received good reviews from his employers, and in all cases quit
his jobs and was not terminated. Did he have a touchy ego, that every slight was recorded and resented? And why was
his family likewise targeted? Those who strive for perfect grades are often from homes where they feel held to
exacting standards, or where they are trying to gain attention and affection from what seems to be a cruel world.
Having given their all, they expect a reward, and when it does not come to them to the degree they had expected, there
is resentment. Attractive and bright, the Alabama shooter felt his family did not appreciate him. He plotted revenge,
and when the lists of slights, real or imagined, grew too large to bear, he took revenge.
Authorities: Ala. Shooter Quit Job Last Week
March 11, 2009
First, McLendon set his mother's house on fire and killed her, then drove 12
miles and opened fire on his uncle's front porch, killing five more people and
his grandmother, who lived next door. Then, he drove through town and fired
seemingly at random, killing three more people. With police in pursuit, he
ended up at the metals plant where he once worked, and shot himself after
engaging in a shootout with law enforcement officers.
Alabama Shooter Michael McLendon Was 'Quiet'
March 11, 2009
http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=7056936&page=1
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ZetaTalk: The Grudge
Michael McLendon, 27, of Kinston, Ala., was described by former high school classmates and others
who knew him as a former A student who "never had very much to say."
Alabama Shooter had Revenge List of Employers
March 11, 2009
A gunman who killed 10 people in the worst mass shooting in Alabama history had a list of
employers "who had done him wrong," including the nearby sausage plant he quit days before the
spree and the metal factory where he shot himself. McLendon was briefly employed by the police
department in Samson in 2003 and spent about a week and a half at the police academy, dropping
out before he received firearms training, More recently, he worked nearly two years at food
manufacturer and distributor Kelley Foods in Elba, about 25 miles north of where he shot most of
his victims. He was a "reliable team leader" who was well liked, but quit. The company was on the
list of those the gunman felt slighted by. So were another of his employers, Reliable Metals in
Samson, and a Pilgrim's Pride plant near Enterprise.
Teenage Gunman who Massacred 16 in School Killing Spree Shot Himself Dead
March 12, 2009
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1161139/
Kretschmer had deliberately targeted women and girls. He had taken one of 16 guns owned by his
father and returned to his old school, where he shot ten children and three teachers. All three
teachers were women and eight of the children were girls. Kretschmer was the priv
ileged son of
well-to-do parents who had been envied by some of his classmates for his apparent wealth. Police
said the former school table-tennis champion wore a black police uniform of the kind worn by the
elite officers who were on his trail minutes after the massacre. He also put on a gas mask to give
him a more sinister look. He was known as a loser who was miserable with his lot. He tried to buy
friends with his money but he couldn't get any.
Client Shoots SC Real Estate Broker
March 11, 2009
An 88-year-old client who wanted his down payment back on a deal shot a South Carolina real
estate broker. Richard Blow burst into a Coldwell Banker office in Rock Hill Wednesday and shot
68-year-old Jerry O'Neil in the abdomen. He wanted his money back.
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ZetaTalk: Mother and Child
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ZetaTalk: Mother and Child
Note: written on May 15, 1997
The bond between mother and child is so often romanticized that certain aspects are not recognized for what they are.
The maternal bond is more than loving concern and self sacrifice on the part of the mother. It is often a sense on the part of the mother that the child is simply an extension of the self. This aspect of motherhood is assumed to be a
projection of the mother’s personality, due to a dictatorial nature taking the opportunity to establish a master-slave
relationship. Dictatorial and controlling mothers may or may not see the child as an extension of the self, but most
often simply see an opportunity to establish a dictatorship. Mothers who blur the line between their identity and the
identity of the child are characterized by a weak personality, one that seeks to ally with others to bolster itself. This is the person who will become the clinging wife, the obedient disciple, or the member who joins groups only for a sense
of belonging.
When such a weak individual becomes a mother, it is the mother who clings to the child, not the child to the mother.
