Dark Psychology Secrets

by Diana Brain

  They also often feel that others don’t fully appreciate their specialness. As such, they may tell their friends as well as relatives that feel unappreciated and misunderstood. They may also say things such as people have not fully recognized and respected their unique nature when it comes to matters of handling business or any other project. Many introverts are known to be quiet. They are good listeners too. However, these are not narcissists since they don’t have a manipulative personality that can drive someone away.

  With the latter, they will make a reticent as well as a poor listener. They will also make a very quick assessment of a person and tend to be slow to help others. Others may block you out of their lives because they are known to be selfish. In this case, they can be identified as individuals who hide their real and true characters in order to be in a position to harm others with their silent treatment.

  While many mature adults are good at recognizing such tendencies, these introverts can be too manipulative for someone to recognize their true colors and decipher their personality.

  As such, others find it interesting to tell and define the character of these individuals in order to evade encountering issues that can affect their relationships.

  Introverted manipulative people will make a quick assessment of someone and end up becoming disinterested in helping them to become better versions of themselves. Such people will agree to things and then up not following through.

  They will, later on, pretend to have forgotten or pretended that there was no agreement. With that said, it’s important to note that all people with narcissistic nature and character are manipulative in many ways.

  Covert or introverted narcissists are known to add some element of self-pity into their lives in order for them to get away with some character or behavior. Instead of directly putting others down, they may express envy.

  This is also another way of controlling others in their lives. Because of their introversion, these individuals will brag silently about their life’s accomplishments. They will act aloof as well as disinterested in making dismissive as well as discounting gestures such as sighing, yawning, and acting bored.

  Although all people with such traits react poorly when it comes to criticism, the introverted narcissist will be a bit more sensitive.

  They will also have the thinnest skin when it comes to addressing some issues affecting family or friends. This implies that they are not only dismissive but extra exploitative by nature. Instead of aggressive manipulation, they will delve into hypersensitivity coupled with anxiety in order to persecute the victims.

  Usually, the danger in dealing with such people is failing to see through their façade since they are slightly overly passive.

  They can also be destructive in nature to the point of running relationships. The emotional abuse that these people carry can be more silent.

  However, it will always wear the other person down because they will feel demoralized. Their needs and demands for attention will also be discounted as well as ignored in the long run. Their victims can get sucked into attempting to console themselves or trying to help the manipulative person.

  And even when attempting to assist these people, there is no way you can successfully fill their emptiness or create a different perspective in their mentality. Also, the self-esteem of the victim will gradually depreciate as they associate with such individuals. This type of person lacks empathy for other people. They will do anything possible to maintain some power over you.

  Their pain, as well as demands, will always take precedence. Therefore, you’ll be left fleeing alone if not neglected.

  Extrovert narcissists, on the other hand, will act covertly if only to pout and get the better of their part of their victims in order to manipulate them in the long run. Do not get caught up in the different definitions of the psychological issues of manipulation. If your feelings are discounted, or if you feel manipulated, you can see a therapist in order to learn how to deal with the behavior.

  Lack of Empathy

  While both the introverted and extroverted narcissists share this common trait, it’s more inclined towards the introverted individual.

  These people are usually oblivious to, and dismissive of other’s thoughts as well as feelings. When you tell and try to discuss their attitude with them, their responses will be centered on themselves. That’s where self-absorption comes in as a trait.

  Passive-Aggressiveness

  Some of these introverted manipulative people deal with people who don’t agree with them on some issues. Therefore, they exude the passive-aggressive nature. When they receive a reasonable request from you, they may end up saying things such as yes and of course. Others use a defense mechanism in order to fail to commit the cause. When you ask if they are in or out of a deal, they tend to give a passive answer that does not really confirm their actual side of the story or situation. When you try to find out why they didn’t follow through an arrangement, these individuals may shrug a little with an excuse. They may also say that their way is always better than other people’s. Now that you know what it takes to decipher the character of an introverted narcissist, how will you deal with these individuals? Most of us know how to spot such people.

  While it does not feel good to be insulted, criticized, or belittled, at least, it’s vital to know that you are hurting in some way. Nonetheless, at times, the people who are around us, such as friends and relatives, make us feel bad about ourselves. We may not be in a position to point out why. For instance, a colleague may fail to say hello to you when you meet. This can be utterly out of their own will or done knowingly. You may think that it could just be a slip even if you feel like something is amiss.

  If this often occurs with one or more individuals in your life, then you might need to break down such characters and understand that you are actually dealing with a manipulative person known as a narcissist.

  This behavior is usually harder to detect in most instances since these people have perfected the art of hiding their real and true characters.

  Over and above, you may also find it important to take a look at a viable analysis of various characters that might manipulate you in one way or the other.

  Passive aggression is a word that indicates that there is a major tendency to engage in the passive or indirect expression of unkindness and hostility towards others through various acts such as sullen behavior, deliberate failure, and subtle insults.

  This is usually done in a quest to fail to accomplish certain tasks. To assist you in identifying these instances, here are a few strategies and elements to look at:

  ▪The Silent Treatment

  In the most basic form, the silent treatment comprises of ignoring someone and refusing to answer any question they ask regardless of the urgency of the matter.

  It also includes refusing to share vital information regarding an important subject in that matter.

  This type of treatment is not usually passive-aggressive exactly, but it’s pretty explicit. There are also more subtle ways through which the person can subject you to their character of the silent treatment.

  For instance, the individual may accidentally fail to identify the fact that you have been working hard at delivering in some projects. The same person may refuse to award you in case you have won in some case at work. During meetings, the individual may adamantly refuse to interact with you in any way. As such, it becomes an issue that needs to be addressed on a personal level during which other interpretations can be used to decipher this trait in the long run. Your colleague may also intentionally ignore your messages as well as comments just to hurt you.

  ▪The Highly Sensitive Individual

  The highly sensitive introverted narcissist is known for parading emotions when hurt. When confronted because of their mistakes, they tend to act like the victims of other people’s actions. They will become defensive, therefore, throwing back the ball at the individual who has been asking questions about projects that have not been handle
d appropriately. According to Glen Gabbard who is a professional psychiatrist, it’s vital to note that some introverted manipulative people cannot take negative feedback and act on their actions especially when it comes to becoming a better person in life.

  These people will also defend themselves for their bad actions. Others will fight or become dismissive in many ways. Typically, they won’t let anyone on regarding how much negativity bothers them. At the end of it all, they will act as the victims who have been hurt by those who are questioning their negative actions. Apart from that, these people will even withdraw. In dark psychology, this person is often termed as a special individual who is often misunderstood. The self-perceptions of some of these people are such as they are special and one of a kind.

  They could also refer to themselves as the most unique creatures in their classes. These are the common narcissistic tendencies that can be drawn from such individuals. These people tend to create a reassuring role that does not exist in the actual sense. They end up submerging the actual true self, which is usually the vulnerable personality in this case.

  The Impersonal and Difficult Individual in Relationships

  As earlier mentioned, part of the society of introverted narcissists includes insecurity as well as the inability to connect with various individuals genuinely.

  To that end, the aloofness in them is a defense mechanism they use to put people away.

  They don’t really want to have the narcissism exposed in any way since these are personal inadequacies.

  Some of these individuals may also be narrowly focused on some self-absorbing tasks that can prevent others from realizing who they actually are in the real sense.

  Some introverted narcissists delve into social networking, technology, as well as games and cliques.

  This is usually a project geared towards helping them to remain antisocial when it comes to human interaction. These activities will also assist them in hiding their personalities.

  Subtle Insults

  The subtle insult is often recognized when people are overly insulted. However, subtle insults can majorly be harder to recognize for precisely what they are. Perhaps a colleague may pretend to compliment you on the work you have just completed. When you sit somewhere and try to think of it, you’ll realize that it’s some insult in disguise. This is for instance; you can turn a report to your boss. He then reads it and says it is almost as excellent as someone else’s. A subtle insult can also comprise of a hidden as well as a semi-hidden reference to a person’s weakest points.

  This is for instance; the colleague in question may have earned a degree from a high-end institution. Maybe you received yours from a local college if the individual makes irrelevant references to your institution and then goes ahead to imply that it’s not an excellent institution. That’s an insult.

  Sullen Behavior

  When it comes to sullen character and behavior, it becomes uncomfortable being around people who are grumpy as well as sulky. It’s also unhealthy to hang out with people who are grouchy or moody. It’s almost as terrible as being near people who act explicitly. For instance, if an individual feels like they are answering you, they may choose to provide their answers using innocent comments such as remarks and questions in a slightly negative manner. As such, a sullen person will not smile. They will not flinch even when a colleague makes a small joke. Individuals who exhibit such characters and behaviors complain about everything they come across.

  Stubbornness

  Being stubborn is beneficial to some extent. It’s a beneficial personality trait in some people. This is especially true when it comes to taking a stand as well as holding onto a certain position. However, at times, the trait becomes merely a way to punish others. The stubborn individual will defend their position or viewpoint religiously and have excellent arguments so that you can’t simply have the time and energy to object what they are saying and advocating for.

  This may also be a way through which these individuals can stay clear of the natural forces that may force them to have natural good and healthy arguments. Therefore, you cannot really dismiss what they have in mind at any given time. Besides, the stubborn character is going to defend themselves by applying various points that will help in protecting their character in the long run. Also, it’s evident that these people will defend their position only because they understand that it won’t annoy the other party.

  Failure to Finish Projects and Tasks

  Most people are quite familiar with stubborn kids who refuse to complete their tasks or projects. When the children reach a particular age, they succumb to peer pressure where they utterly refuse to become part of any other existing projects in the class or any other impending societal projects that they need to be part of. When they grow up, they also refuse to do what they are told. Kids are kids you’ll often hear. However, in this case, the same kids are defying the orders of their parents or teachers since it’s become a norm. It’s often less easy to understand why they behave in a certain manner. You may have this colleague who will always find a way to avoid handling a task that needs to be completed on time. They will leave the full responsibility of handling these duties to someone else, yet they are the ones who were tasked with the duty of delivering the project.

  If this is caused by a result of work-related health issues such as stress or stress at home, then it comes easy to procrastinate. This is known as a procrastinating personality that will end up interfering with the entire project in the long run. As such, people need to be taught how to handle their duties and roles from a tender age since that is the only way through which tasks can be accomplished later when they become adults. This is a frequent character and behavior in people who were raised to trust others to handle their duties. Therefore, they end up piling such roles on their friends as well as relatives in search of comfort eventually.

  Chapter 5: Mind Control

  Mind control is often known as the science of manipulation, brainwashing, mental power, as well as coercive control and malignant application of group dynamics in order to confuse others and distort them in the long run. This is a strategy that’s often used by political and corporate societies in order to achieve what they would wish. Usually, mind control comes from the umbrella of persuasion by individuals who want to achieve something in their lives or businesses. It also centers around the need to make others believe in something that they would otherwise not consider to be a factor that holds water.

  Mind control is a form of brainwashing activity that is used by people who want to deceive others into delving into their beliefs and ways of doing things. It indicates some form of deception that is created to allow the naïve individuals to take action in something they may not believe in. It is often used by people for their own good and benefit. Some people are known to argue that everything is about manipulation. This is not true since, in manipulation, distinctions are often lost. Therefore, it’s much more useful for someone to think in the lines of influence as a major continuum. In the long run, on one end, there is a respectful influence while on the other hand, there are utterly destructive influences that will have a negative impact on the society and its people.

  All in all, it also covers a person’s ability to think. Mind control is a large discipline that covers the subject of cults as well as sects. These are small groups that use deception to control minds while applying tactics to take advantage of the vulnerability of others. These groups also apply several modern and proven to work tactics that may end up exposing others to danger. The cult leaders apply the same tactics in seeking the attention of the followers. It’s also a movement geared towards assisting others in the cult to follow the cause while achieving their dreams. This is usually the term used by these people.

  With that said, a one-on-one cult is often defined as an intimate relationship in which an individual abuses their power in order to manipulate others. It could be a teacher, preacher, or government official. It could also be a therapist who seeks to
extort a client. In a different case, it could also be about a wife as well as a husband who is in the process of getting a divorce. The cultic relationship remains to be a version of the significant groups that may be destructive in the long run. This is because time, as well as attention, is directed towards one individual. With that said, therefore, what really is mind control?

  Defining Mind Control and Its Uses in Real Life

  You can think of mind control as an extensive system of various influences that disrupt a person. At its core, mind control is also defined as an element that has a system of forces that interfere with a person’s system of beliefs, preferences, behaviors, character, while creating a new pseudo-identity. Like earlier discussed, mind control can be used in beneficial ways to help a group of leaders in achieving their life’s goals and objectives. In this book, we are highlighting issues that can affect the growth and well-being of an individual because of the application of mind control.

  According to Philip Zimbardo who is a professional psychologist, mind control is a viable process through which collective freedom of choice is often compromised by various agents who seek to modify or interfere with the system or process of the behavioral outcome. Mind control can also interfere with the manner in which things should be done in society. To some extent, mind control has a way of bringing people into some form of chaotic discourse that will end up interfering with other people’s lives. The professional suggests that we are all susceptible to manipulation using mind control.