Married Life; Its Shadows and Sunshine

by S. T. Arthur

  Mrs. Harding paused in the narrative. Half a dozen eager voices instantly inquired the ultimate fate of Mrs. Eaverson. “A few years after her return home,” resumed the narrator, “she died. Her husband during that period neither wrote to her nor visited her. What has become of him I don’t know. Mrs. Williamson is still living, surrounded by a lovely family of children. Her oldest daughter has just been married, and, to all present appearances, has united her fate with one every way worthy of her hand. Mr. Williamson, or rather Mr. Rierdon, as I should truly have called him, you all know.”

  “Mr. Rierdon!” exclaimed Ella. “It can’t be possible you mean him?”

  “Not old Mr. Rierdon!” exclaimed another. “Why he is respected and loved by every one!”

  “I know he is,” returned Mrs. Harding, “and well deserves to be. Yet, when a young man, he had nothing very imposing about him, and was thought of but little account by a set of young and foolish girls, just such as you are, whose heads were liable to be turned by any dashing young fellow with more impudence than brains, or more talent than principle, who happened to thrust himself forward and push better men aside. I hope the lesson I have endeavoured to teach you may not be lost entirely; and that when any one of you has an offer of marriage, she will look rather at the heart than the head—at the qualities instead of the accomplishments—of him who makes it. If she does not, she will be in great danger of committing the sad mistake made by my excellent but thoughtless young friend, Harriet Wieland, of whom I never can think without pain.”

  Whether the narrative of Mrs. Harding had any good effect upon her hearers, we do not know; but we would fain believe that it had; and we hope our fair young readers will not forget the important lesson it teaches. Let them be well assured that marriage is no lottery, except where it is made so. Every one who will look at the moral qualities of the object of her regard, instead of at what is merely external, will see deep enough to enable her to come to a right decision in regard to him. There is no necessity for mistakes in marriage.

  THE UNLOVED ONE.

  AN EXTRACT FROM “LOVE IN HIGH LIFE.”

  ……FIXED in his resolution to repel every manifestation of tenderness on the part of his wife, Percy Edwards maintained towards her the same cold formality, in spite of all her earnest efforts to break the icy crust of his feelings. He did not love her, and was not inclined to affect a passion; nay, she was absolutely repulsive to him, and the least he could do, under the circumstances, was to protect himself as he did without overt acts of unkindness.

  And thus disjoined, instead of united, Mr. and Mrs. Edwards moved along their way through life, envied by hundreds, who, in exchanging with them, would have left an Eden of happiness for a dreary wilderness.

  A few months of such an existence completely broke down the spirits of Kate. She had no pride to sustain her. Thousands, as unloved as she, seek refuge in pride, pleasure, and a heartless worship at the gilded shrine of fashion. They meet coldness with a sharp disdain; and, finding nothing to love at home, turn to what the world has to offer, and become mere bubbles on the surface of society—prominent, brilliant, and useless. Nay, worse than useless; for they reflect the light of heaven falsely, and create discontent in those who see only their glittering exterior, and vainly imagine it to be the correspondent of internal delight.

  It was not so with Kate; for she was sincere, unselfish, and true-hearted, and could not seek a false pleasure, when the sources of real delight became dry. A naiad, at a fountain, the waters of which had failed, she turned not to another, but bent weeping over the spot, hoping, yet faint with a long desire to hear the murmur of the coming stream.

  There fell, at last, a gleam of light across her path. In her dark and cloudy sky arched, beautifully, a bow of promise. Hope, faint, yet sweet to her spirit, revived, and she looked to the future with a trembling heart. For a long time she locked in her own thoughts the dear secret she had discovered and pondered over it with a daily increasing pleasure. Then it was whispered, low and with a blushing cheek, to her husband. She was to become a mother!

  From that moment she felt that there was a change. From that moment her husband’s manner was different. He was still as polite and formal as, before; but with these was blended a something that her heart interpreted as tenderness for his wife; and from this her fainting spirit drew the aliment that sustained it. If, suddenly coming upon her now, he surprised her weeping, he did not turn away, silent and cold, as before; but would speak some word of apparent sympathy, which instantly dried up the fountains of grief. And thus the time passed, until another being saw the light—until another voice sounded upon the air. Oh! with what a thrill of delight did the young mother take her new-born babe into her arms, and hail it as the bond that was to bind to hers the heart of her husband. How eagerly did she read the face of that husband—as he bent over and gazed upon the innocent being to which she had given birth—and marked its glow of pleasure. But, he did not look into her face—he had eyes only for his boy! The mother sighed faintly; but he did not hear the sigh. Her long lashes fell slowly upon her cheeks, and tears stole from beneath them; but he turned away without observing she wept.

  The bow of promise, which had spanned the heaven of her mind, faded away; and the light that had lain so warmly upon her path grew dim. There was love in the heart of her husband only for his child, but none for her. That dreadful truth came with a shock, felt to the very centre of her being; and, reacting upon her exhausted system, disturbed all its vital functions. Fever and delirium laid their hands upon her, and for many days the light of life but flickered in the wind that seemed every moment about to extinguish it.

  When, at last, through the skill of her physician, the disease abated, and health, though feeble, began to flow once more through her veins; and when reason came back, and with it the outgushing tenderness of the young mother, she found that her babe had been laid upon another breast, and that from another it was to draw the sustenance which nature had supplied for it in her own bosom.

  Against this her heart arose in instant rebellion. But no freedom of choice was left her. The physician said that her health was too slender to admit of the exhaustion attendant upon nursing her own babe. The husband would not hear of such a thing for a moment. And her husband’s mother older-hearted and more worldly-minded than even he, openly sneered at the idea of one in her position degrading herself into a mere child’s nurse!

  It was all in vain that Kate pleaded, tearfully, for the mother’s highest privilege. Those who had the power forced her into a compliance with their will; and the fountain in her bosom, that stirred at the voice of her babe, was suffered to become dry.

  From that time, the health of Mrs. Edwards visibly declined; or, rather, was never restored to its previous condition. She became subject to fainting fits and long periods of depression, from which nothing could arouse her. The babe, instead of forming a link between her and her husband, became a rival in his affections. Mr. Edwards worshipped his boy; but, for his wife, had no feeling other than indifference, if not absolute dislike. All this Kate saw; and it extinguished her last and dearest hope.

  To those who could only look upon the surface, Mr. Edwards was regarded as one of the kindest and most attentive of husbands; and when a rumour of his wife’s fits of gloomy depression of spirits went abroad, the fault was attributed to herself, and laid to the charge of a naturally capricious and dissatisfied temper.

  “If she had fewer of life’s blessings,” said one, “she would be happier. The very surplus of every thing makes her appetite pall.”

  “Any woman, situated as she is,” remarked another, “who is not contented, deserves to be wretched. I have no sympathy for her. Her husband I know very well, and know him to be one of the kindest and most indulgent of men.”

  “He has indulged her too much,” alleged another.

  These impressions the elder Mrs. Edwards strengthened and confirmed, whenever she had occasion to say any thing on the subject.


  “Percy has rather a gloomy time of it,” she would sometimes remark, when allusion was made to the subject; and then, when the inquisitive would ask as to the cause of Kate’s strange conduct, she would shake her head gravely, and say—

  “Over-indulgence has spoiled her.”

  Or—

  “It’s hard to tell what ails her, unless it be the desire for some impossible thing. Some minds are never content. To multiply their blessings is but to multiply their misery.”

  Or—

  “Heaven knows what ails her! Percy would give worlds for that knowledge, if with it came also the remedy.”

  The rapid decline in his wife’s health, or rather its failure, after the birth of her child, to come back its old standard united to her lowness of spirits—naturally gave her husband some concern, and he consulted her physician as to the cause. He, as the profession generally do, assigned a physical cause, and recommended change of air.

  “Let her go to the sea-shore, or among the Mountains,” said he.

  And this change was proposed to Kate.

  “I saw Doctor R—to-day,” said her husband, after the interview, “and he recommends a few weeks on the sea-shore, or somewhere among the mountains.”

  “I don’t wish to go,” replied Kate, in a low, sad voice.

  “But your health, Kate,” said Mr. Edwards.

  “I shall be just as well at home,” she replied.

  “No, I will not admit that. Doctor R—is sure that a change of air will do you good; and what he says is reasonable.”

  Kate made no answer. Mr. Edwards continued to urge the matter upon her; but she had no more to say.

  On the same evening Percy called to see his mother.

  “How is Kate?” inquired the latter.

  “No better. I saw Doctor R—about her to-day, and he says a change of air is absolutely necessary, and recommends a few weeks at the Bedford Springs, or at Newport, or Cape May.”

  “No doubt it would do her much good.”

  “No doubt in the world. But, as in every thing else of late, she is opposed to just what her friends recommend to her as best.”

  “She doesn’t want to go?”

  “No, of course not.”

  “Did you tell that the doctor recommended the change?”

  “Yes. But she insists upon it that she will be just as well at home.”

  “A compliment to the medical opinion of Doctor R—!

  “Isn’t it? I wish you would see her, and urge her to go somewhere.”

  “Very well; though I don’t know that what I say will be of much use. I am not one of her favourites.”

  “See her, at any rate. It won’t do to let her sink down and die, as she certainly will if something cannot be done to arouse her.”

  “I will call upon Mrs. Harrison and tell her what the doctor says. She has great influence over her; and can persuade her to go if any one can.”

  The mother of Kate heard what the doctor had said, and approved of his recommendation. She knew, better than any one else, the true nature of the disease from which her daughter was suffering; and, although she did not hope for much from a change of scene, yet she believed the effect would be salutary rather than otherwise. So she went to see her immediately. She found her, as usual, alone in her chamber, with a sad countenance, and a drooping, listless air. After inquiring, tenderly, about her health, she said—

  “I understand that Doctor R—recommends a change of air.”

  “What all doctors recommend when they do not know the cause and nature of a disease,” replied Kate, with a faint smile.

  “But I think, with Doctor R—, that a few weeks at the sea-shore will be of great benefit. The change will interest your mind as well as invigorate your body.”

  “A temporary benefit may be derived from such a change,” said Kate; “but it cannot be permanent. When I return, I will sink again; and, perhaps, lower, from the unnatural excitement to which I have been subjected.”

  “Kate, my child, it is wrong for you to give up in this way. Your disease is more of the mind than of the body; and you have the power to arouse yourself and throw it off, if you will.”

  “The power, mother! I, the power!” exclaimed Kate, in a voice that made her mother start.

  “Have you not?” inquired Mrs. Harrison calmly.

  “Has the bird, whose wing is broken, the power to fly?” asked Kate.

  “Unless you make an effort to throw off your present state of mind, you cannot live. And are you willing to die, and leave this dear child in the hands of those who cannot love it as you do?”

  “Has it not already been taken from me? Does it not draw its existence from another breast?”

  “But your health required—”

  “My health! mother! My very life depended upon the privilege you have all denied me. Do you want the proof? Look at that shadowy hand”—and she held up the thin white member against the light, which almost shone through it—”and at this shrunken face,” and she laid her hand upon her colourless cheek. “Restore the fountain that has been dried, and let my babe drink at it, and there is some hope. None without.”

  “That is impossible, Kate”—

  “And just as impossible is my return to health through the means proposed.”

  “But, for the sake of your friends, you ought to be willing to try the means of restoration prescribed by a physician in whom we all have confidence.”

  “Friends?” said Kate, half to herself. “Friends? Have I any friends?”

  “My child, why do you speak in this way?” asked her mother, in a voice half sorrowful, half reproving.

  “Friends seek your good, not their own pleasure,” continued Kate. “Have I any who may be called by so excellent a name?”

  And she shook her head mournfully.

  “Have you not a husband?” said Mrs. Harrison.

  Kate again shook her head; and then, after a pause, replied—

  “There is a man who calls himself my husband; but he is so only in name.”

  “Kate! Kate!” exclaimed her mother, “are you mad? How dare you utter such language?”

  “A heart that is breaking, mother,” said the unhappy creature, “may be pardoned, if, in a moment of intense suffering, it is betrayed into an expression of pain.”

  A long and gloomy silence followed this remark, which smote with the apparent force of a hammer upon the heart of Mrs. Harrison. No further attempt was made, at the time, to induce Kate to yield to the wishes of her friends. Her mother endeavoured, rather, to draw off her mind from thoughts such as those to which she had just given utterance. But, she was none the less deeply impressed with the belief that the change proposed would be beneficial; nor did she intend abandoning her efforts to induce her daughter to go from home for a short season. At the first opportunity she had an interview with Mr. Edwards, and held a conference with him on the subject of Kate’s mental disease. She found him rather reserved, and disinclined to much conversation on the subject. But, on pressing the matter upon him, he was more free to say what was in his mind. To her expressions of concern for Kate, he responded with much apparent earnestness; said that it gave him great concern, and that he was satisfied she could not live over a few years if some change did not take place.

  “Since the birth of her child,” said he, “she has never regained her strength. That dangerous fever gave her system a terrible shock.”

  “I’m afraid,” returned her mother, “that we erred in not permitting her to nurse her child—what she so earnestly desired to do. She cannot, it seems, get over that.”

  “She has never said so to me.”

  “But no later than yesterday she alluded to it while I talked with her, and in a way that satisfied me of her having taken the matter far more deeply to heart than I had imagined.”

  “That is a weakness, as you must yourself see, Mrs. Harrison. Apart from considerations of health, I would not have my wife a mere wet nurse; and I am surprised that she shou
ld have thought of such a thing.”

  “The desire was but a natural one,” replied Mrs. Harrison. “As to there being any thing degrading in the act of a mother giving nourishment to her own babe, as some strangely enough seem to think, I cannot see it. I drank at my mother’s breast, and my child, in turn, drank at mine; and, I believe, it would have been far better for Kate at this moment if she had done the same for her own off-spring. In this matter, people are going against nature; and whenever this is done, evil of some kind must inevitably follow.”

  “But, Mrs. Harrison,” returned Edwards, “her state of health puts this out of the question. You know that she was dangerously ill, and that if a nurse had not been provided for the child, it would have died.”

  “I know all that. But, when the sudden illness abated, and she was able to give nourishment to her babe, all, with one accord, denied her a mother’s privilege, though she plead for it day after day with tears. Ah, Percy! I fear a great and irreparable wrong was then done.”

  “It may be so. But I cannot believe but that we acted rightly. Our motives were at least good.”

  “No one doubts that.”

  “I am sure, if she would consent to leave home for a few weeks, her health would improve,” said Percy Edwards.

  “It would, no doubt, benefit her. But she has an unconquerable reluctance to going. Still, I think we may induce her to do as we wish. Only we must act towards her with great tenderness. I am afraid—pardon me for speaking plainly—that you do not consider, sufficiently, her weak state. She needs to be treated with the gentleness and affection that we show to a child.”

  Mr. Edwards looked surprised at this remark.

  “I am sure, Mrs. Harrison,” he replied, “no man could do more for the happiness of a woman, than I do for that of Kate. How I could act differently is more than I can imagine.”