The Moth Presents Occasional Magic

by The Moth Presents Occasional Magic (retail) (epub)

  I had deserted them this whole time, and I only just realized it. My tears were coming from a place of gratitude for this awesome week, but also from the realization that my family needed me, and I’m the man in charge.

  I’m supposed to push the shopping cart with all our stuff.

  I’m supposed to find the cardboard for us to sleep on.

  I’m supposed to protect my mom and sister.

  There was a storm coming, and I wasn’t there to stay awake.

  But for five whole days, I got to be a kid.

  They said that at the end of Outdoor School everybody cries, and in the end I did, too.

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  VIN SHAMBRY is a performing artist and a native of Portland, Oregon. Vin has worked on Broadway and toured the country in numerous national shows and the Fringe Festival in Scotland. For more information about Vin, check out his website, vinshambry.com.

  This story was told on June 2, 2015, at Benaroya Hall in Seattle. The theme of the evening was Fish Out of Water. Director: Jenifer Hixson.

  I’m standing in the conference room of an immigration law firm reading the asylum cases that are framed on the wall and keeping one eye on my boyfriend, who’s pacing. Six months ago I didn’t even know this man, and now I am clutching his deportation notice with both hands.

  Two lawyers come in, and as the whole story unfolds, I’m taking notes furiously.

  One of the lawyers asks, “Did you love her?”

  And without hesitation he says, “I loved her very much.”

  She says, “Good, because now we just have to prove it.”

  I write that down—“Prove love for ex-wife”—and circle it.

  We had met in a dive bar in Brooklyn. There were flames painted on the outside. I walked in, and I saw a guy.

  He’s got messy hair, a big coat, he’s holding a beer. He sees me, lowers his beer, and says, “Oh, wow.”

  I go directly to the bar, but I can feel the coat hovering behind me. He offers to buy me a drink, and I sense the hint of an accent.

  I try to find somewhere else to sit, but there isn’t one, so when I walk back, he greets me with open arms and says, “They always come back!”

  He was relentless, making jokes and talking, but it was impossible to ignore him because he was just so free. So I gave in, and we talked for hours.

  At one point our bodies stopped facing the bar and started facing each other. I asked him about a scar that he had on his forehead, and his face changed like I had unlocked something, and I kissed him.

  Actually, I threw myself at his mouth, and he stopped me and said, “That’s not how you kiss.”

  And I didn’t have a second to process the criticism before he said, “This is how you kiss.” He started over by my ear, and he dragged his lips over my cheeks and then kissed me, and I burst into tears. I wasn’t sure if I was crying because I hadn’t been kissed in a really long time or if I had just never been kissed like that before.

  He came home with me that night, and as I was about to take off my clothes, I asked him, “Um, what’s your name again?”

  “Csaba.”

  I made him say it slowly.

  “Like someone is chubby.”

  I went to the bathroom, and I came back, and my bedroom was covered in Post-it notes that said “Csaba.”

  Csaba on the wall.

  Csaba on the lamp.

  Everywhere Csaba.

  We stayed up all night talking and fooling around like teenagers until the dawn got us. He fell asleep, but I stayed awake, holding this man that I had just met and connecting the freckles on his back like I was tracing a constellation, but a new one, ours.

  Exactly one week later, I looked at him and the words just fell out: “I love you.”

  He looked at me and he said, “I love you, too.”

  And that was that.

  Csaba is from Hungary. I am from Australia. When I meet Americans, the question is always Where are you from?

  But when I meet foreigners, the question is How are you here?

  The response is either a mishmash of words, visas, green cards, renewals, O-1, H-1, J-1…or silence. And the silence means I don’t want to talk about it. I can’t talk about it. It’s all I think about.

  Csaba was the latter. When I met Csaba, I already had my green card and he had nothing. He was out of status.

  He had been married to an American girl years before, but they’d gotten divorced. And he did get a green card in the mail, but they’d made a mistake, and his name was on it but the face was of an Asian lady. The letter said that if the information on the card is incorrect, send it back, and he did.

  And that’s the last thing he ever heard from immigration.

  By the time I met Csaba, he had been out of status for years. He couldn’t travel.

  No driver’s license, get paid in cash. Don’t get arrested, no red flags. And you can’t go home, not unless you want to stay there and not come back.

  In those first few months when we were together, we tossed around the idea of having a lawyer look at the case, like maybe there was something that could be done. But it cost hundreds, and we never had it, and we thought, Let’s just cross that bridge when we come to it.

  And then the bridge came to us.

  I came home, and he was sitting on the couch staring at the wall, and he didn’t speak or turn. He just held up a piece of paper, Letter of Removal. Csaba had to appear in deportation court and plead his case or leave the country within sixty days or be deported.

  I read that notice over and over, staring at that word “Removal,” trying to imagine my life without this man that I had just met six months earlier, and the air left the room.

  We barely spoke that night. We showered holding hands. We slept molded to one another.

  That brought us to the lawyer’s office. In order to keep Csaba in the country, and for us to be together, we had to prove that even though his marriage had ended in divorce, it had been real, which meant finding evidence that he had loved her, finding evidence that my new boyfriend had loved an elementary-school teacher from New Jersey.

  The first time I saw Csaba in a suit was in his wedding photos. We hadn’t even celebrated an anniversary, but in those photos my boyfriend looked good. I pored over photos of wedding invitations, searched for insurance records. I called their dentist, anything I could to prove their relationship.

  The entire time I did so as the anonymous detective and not the new girlfriend, because we both knew that it would muddy the case. But it also gave me this sense of remove, until one day I couldn’t avoid it anymore and I had to go to the source. I muted the TV, I sat down next to him, and I asked how they met, and if he knew right away, and how he proposed.

  He took a deep breath, and he told me about the barbecue that they met at and how they fell fast. The proposal was simple, nothing special. I focused on taking notes.

  “Did you guys write love letters to each other like we do?”

  Please say no.

  “Did you keep any?”

  Please say yes.

  Every time it stung, I just applied more pressure, more e-mails, more phone calls, more research, until the filing deadline came, and I packed everything up and sent it to the lawyers, and the case was filed. I had spent weeks reaching into his heart and plucking at his heartstrings, and now all there was to do was wait.

  But wait with who? I knew that this could take years, and Csaba was no longer the free and playful guy from the bar that night. I had stopped feeling like I was in our relationship, and I felt like a third wheel in theirs. It was like I looked at him and I could see in his mind that he had already started packing.

  I wanted to shake him and say, Why are you giving up? Don’t you want to stay here with me?

  Before the court date, there was an interview, and in place of his ex-wife, who couldn’t be there, her
parents went to vouch for their former son-in-law.

  Csaba and I took the subway in, and we walked to Federal Plaza, but we stopped a few blocks short, and I said it so he didn’t have to. “They probably shouldn’t see me.”

  That was the plan. It was the right thing to do. It was my idea. But in that moment I wanted him to grab my hand and take me anyway. Make a scene like in a John Hughes movie.

  But he said, “Go home. I’ll see you in the afternoon.”

  When I saw him, he said it had gone fine, but he didn’t want to talk about it, and he was different. It was like a spark was back, and it hit me: I had spent so much time, worked so hard to prove this love to the court, maybe I had proven it too well to him. Maybe our love story was just a small part of their bigger love story.

  And I thought, Oh, I could really get hurt here.

  But the truth was that I loved him—I’d never loved anyone as much as I loved him—and I wanted him to be free.

  On the day of the court hearing, we met our lawyer in the lobby, and she was wearing a waistcoat that had little embroidered cowboy boots on it. If she wasn’t the smartest woman I’d ever met, I would have panicked. I sat up in the back and watched Csaba stand before the judge.

  I knew that I had done so much to get him to that point, but it wasn’t me standing up there, it was him, standing up for his life and his loves and his mistakes and his future. I saw a strength that I hadn’t seen before, and that guy, that guy, looked great in a suit.

  I prayed that it was going to go quick. Whatever the outcome, make it quick. The judge went over the box of relationship that we had given him, and there was a little bit of back-and-forth, and it was quick.

  He looked up long enough to say, “Welcome to America,” and then he called the next case.

  Csaba turned to me, and he smiled, and I knew that he was back.

  It took a while for it to sink in that it was over, that we weren’t being torn apart. We were just us. And a sparkle had gone, but we had uncovered something even better.

  These days Csaba prefers to sleep molded to one another like we used to, but I can’t. I’m not a snuggler.

  But I made him a deal. “I’ll lay my hand on your back.”

  I don’t have to trace the constellation anymore. I know it by heart.

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  EMMA GORDON is a creative professional whose work has taken many forms. A proud graduate of the Neighborhood Playhouse School of the Theatre in New York, she has performed on stages big and small, worked in both TV and film. She has lent her voice to such ad campaigns as those of Outback Steakhouse, Qantas, Marriott, and Philips. She has spent over a decade as a teaching artist combining her skills as a performer, writer, and illustrator with her passion for science education to create arts-infused science curriculum for young people. She is the founder of Science Baby Playshops, a program that teaches science through story and play for babies and toddlers. Check it out at sciencebabyplayshops.com. Emma was born and raised in Sydney, Australia, and has traveled extensively, living in London and the Netherlands before settling in New York, where she lives with her husband, Csaba, and their two sons.

  This story was told on December 12, 2016, at the Arlene Schnitzer Concert Hall in Portland, Oregon. The theme of the evening was Between Worlds. Director: Kate Tellers.

  My story starts on a warm August day in 1995. I was at home playing with my eighteen-month-old triplets, and I was given an advert asking for ordinary women to apply to be part of a North Pole expedition.

  Now, I had no experience. But something in this advert spoke to me. I knew my marriage was ending, and I had a bleak future, but there was hope in there.

  I thought, Well, they’re asking for ordinary women, and I’m definitely that.

  It didn’t occur to me at the time that I should have some outdoor experience or at least have spent a night in a tent.

  It said “ordinary.” I was a mother of triplets. If I could do that, I could do anything, surely. And so I sent an application form off with seventy-five pounds that I actually couldn’t afford, and I wondered if I’d ever hear back.

  But I did. A thick brown envelope arrived on my doormat with a kit list and instructions to report to an old farmhouse in Dartmoor, where the selection was to take place.

  Well, I owned nothing on this kit list. I couldn’t afford to buy anything. So I made a few calls to some military friends of mine, and within three days I had everything I needed from my feet to my head. It was all this sort of drab olive-green color, so I didn’t ask where it came from! I could go now.

  I turned up on Dartmoor, and I walked into the barn. Over two hundred women had applied, and I saw them all in their outdoor kit—bright colors, all from specialist outdoor shops—and I’m in my drab green army kit.

  I stood out.

  The weekend started with a talk on the Arctic, and then we were marched out on Dartmoor.

  It was hell, I hated it. It was cold, it was rainy.

  We walked for mile upon mile upon mile. After an hour I was in so much pain I didn’t know what to do with myself. But I kept going, just putting one foot in front of the other. That’s all I could do.

  When it got dark, and it was still raining, I literally sobbed with the pain, and all I could think was, Take me home, take me home.

  What was I doing here?

  We finished. I got to the end, and I was just going to leave it—this was not for me at all.

  But then the media came down, and they interviewed everybody, but particularly me—mother of triplets—and after every interview they said to me, “What will it be like to be part of this expedition? What will it be like to go to the North Pole?”

  And somewhere along those interviews, I suddenly caught the dream. This was my chance in a lifetime to do something.

  But I was crap.

  So I had two choices. I’d give it up or I’d give it everything.

  Well, I wasn’t going to give it up.

  So I went home, and I spent the next nine months on my own, with three babies, training. When they slept in the afternoon, I was in the garden, running around, doing military-style circuits. Friends taught me how to read a map and pack a rucksack. I went back in nine months’ time, and this time I was ready.

  For days they put us through our paces, and the selectors tested our emotional and physical strength to the limit. We were subjected to many military-style drills and marches for hours across the moor.

  At the end of it all, I was chosen. I’d made it! It was the biggest achievement of my life.

  This expedition, it was a relay—five teams of four women went in relay format to the North Pole. So I actually never went the whole way. I did the first leg. Just seventeen days, and then the next team took over from us.

  But it was here I fell in love with the Arctic Ocean. It was beautiful, the ice and the sounds were amazing. The expedition was just fantastic. I’d found, at the age of thirty, what I was meant to do with my life.

  So I came back. Five women from that expedition, we got together and skied all the way across Antarctica, and we became the first British women’s team to ski to the South Pole.

  I then began to guide expeditions in the Arctic, but a big dream was still in me—I wanted to go the whole way, to the very top of the world. So I spoke to Caroline Hamilton and Pom Oliver, my polar colleagues, and asked them to join me.

  At first they said no. Very few expeditions had gone the whole way to the North Pole, and no women’s team had made it, not the whole way. But I persuaded them, and eventually they agreed that we’d have a go—three women against the fierce Arctic Ocean.

  We had to raise thousands of pounds for our kit, our food, our support team, and the complicated logistics of working in the high Arctic. But the hardest thing that we had to get beforehand was insurance.

  It’s not your average holiday insurance, is it?

  Who wou
ld insure a group of unknown women, especially a mother? We thought I would be the sticking point. The bad press that the insurance company would get if it went wrong.

  We were sitting in a posh office in Canary Wharf at yet another insurance company. We could see them turning off. Suddenly, unfortunately, Pom mentioned I was a mother, and we just thought, Oh, God, Pom, that’s it! No chance.

  One of the guys looked at us and went, “What, one of you has got children?”

  “Yes, yes, yes, sorry.”

  He said, “Well, actually that changes things,” and they had a big conversation, and they decided that they would give us insurance, because I was sure to come back for my children.

  So we got it. The last piece of the jigsaw puzzle. We were going to make this happen.

  I couldn’t have done any of this without my parents. They moved into my home, and they looked after my children, who were excited to be with Granny and Granddad. The hardest moment was when we said good-bye at the airport, and I saw them being really brave, trying not to cry. That was a bit of a gut wrench.

  We flew from London to the high Arctic, and then we took a Twin Otter airplane up to the very last piece of land, Ward Hunt Island.

  It’s five hundred miles of ice and snow to the pole from there. You need to ski, hauling sledges across the Arctic Ocean to the North Pole. We had in our sledges everything we needed for the expedition: our food, our clothing, our kit, and enough fuel to melt water.

  As the plane took off, we were terrified. It was terrible terrain and really cold. There was no person for thousands of miles. All we had connecting us to the outside world was a satellite phone. The nearest airplane was two days away in good weather. It was sincerely up to us to make this journey. We just had to make that first step.

  I’d been on the first leg of the relay and thought I knew what to expect, but this expedition was worse than any I had ever encountered. For the first twenty-seven days, the temperatures were between minus forty-four and minus sixty-nine degrees Fahrenheit on the thermometer. With windchill we were simply surviving. Our sledges were too heavy—they were about twice our own body weight—and it took all three of us to haul one sledge over every ridge as we moved forward.