Diary of a Married Call Girl

by Tracy Quan

  “Actually,” I told her, “Jasmine’s got a point. The only client who ever complained about my waxing was that divorced rabbi. What’s his name? On West End Avenue. He looks like a guitarstrumming priest from the sixties…”

  “I met him last year,” said Jasmine. “Melvin. I call him the day before I get my pussy waxed and he’s, like, in a cab before the call ends.”

  “Well, I can’t see Lucho only on the days before I wax!” Allie pointed out. “He’s not a client! Isn’t compromise essential to intimacy? Maybe I should try to meet him halfway.”

  “But you’re already halfway,” I said.

  Allie retains, at all times, a small fuzzy triangle above her labia…I prefer a complete waxing, so I can watch my hair growing back to a uniform softness. I relish the dark silky hairs that emerge every six weeks. It’s a psychic treat to feel like a proud little twelve-year-old, surveying her womanly evidence. Further proof that being a teenager is way more fun when you’re a grown-up.…By comparison, Allie’s blond topiary is not extreme. More of a hedge than a bush, perhaps, but still. Why isn’t that enough?

  “Lucho says”—Allie took a nervous sip of Chardonnay—“he says I should stop removing it from my inner thighs and let it peek out of my panties. I’m just not ready for that! I’ve been waxing since I was sixteen!”

  “Does he want to take pictures?” I wondered.

  “Of course not!” She blushed. “He says it’s about oral sex. And my lower lips ‘were meant to be like a wild forest, not a suburban lawn.’ Removing too much pubic hair makes it hard for him to ‘experience my scent.’ Well, that’s what he said last night.”

  “Well,” Jasmine conceded. “He’s telling you something very important.”

  “He is?”

  “And he’s paying tribute! That’s a good thing.”

  “Paying tribute?”

  “When a man isn’t paying, he’d better be paying tribute. This guy”—Jasmine, looking inspired, raised an index finger—“this guy is paying tribute to your pheromones. Love is the grand total sum of all the brain chemicals and pheromones and whatever else coming together in the great big ledger book of human experience. The sense of smell is connected to the tastebuds,” she continued. “So it’s all one package.”

  “You mean…” Allie was unconvinced. “The way to a man’s heart is through…?”

  “His nostrils? Maybe! He can’t get enough of your natural scent. But here’s the thing. When you’re dating a guy, you go out with him just twice a week—to keep things fresh. Men always want what they can’t have. Well, the same thing applies! This guy already knows he likes your natural scent, and he wants more. From your point of view, that’s all that’s needed. You’ve won the first round! You don’t have to satisfy his appetite, you just have to recognize it. It’s like The Rules for Sweat Glands. Always leave them wanting more!”

  Jasmine’s biology lecture was interrupted by my chiming phone. Trish, calling from her gym to confirm a repeat performance with Colin. He’s coming into town with his wife! For his next session, he’s booking a room at the Mayflower on Central Park West—a safe distance from the Waldorf, where they’ll be staying.

  And way off the beaten path where Matt’s concerned. Thank god! When I entered this business, I never thought I’d see the day when a three-star hotel trumps a five-star.

  Marriage changes everything.

  4

  Lingerie Liberal

  FRIDAY, 3/23/01

  This morning my fingers were engaged in a painstaking task—removing tiny green rosemary leaves from a stalk containing too many black ones—when both phones started ringing at once. The domestic landline I share with Matt and my cell phone (shared with no one), vying for attention. I grabbed the phone on my kitchen wall.

  “Nancy! What’s up? Those bibs are adorable! I can’t wait to break them in.”

  One of Elspeth’s newborns could be heard wailing in the background.

  “My au pair started yesterday. She’s a godsend. Fabulous. And I finally had a chance to open all the presents! What are you doing?” she inquired.

  “Making a rosemary marinade. And I have garlic all over my hands!”

  It was nice, for once, to have an easy answer for my sister-in-law.

  “We have to talk about your friend Allison.”

  “We—um—we do?”

  “You’re obviously uncomfortable about inviting her to Jason’s birthday party.”

  “I don’t think—”

  “Nancy, it’s the kiss of death. You can’t let this happen.”

  “What are you talking about?”

  The garlic on my hands was now overwhelming.

  “During the first year of my marriage, I made the same mis

  take. You’re alienating yourself from your single girlfriends. It’s a normal feeling. But you have a great relationship with Matt and there’s no reason for you to act so insecure! Besides, I’d like to meet Allison.”

  “I don’t think any of this is relevant,” I said, rather stiffly.

  “I think it is. And I’ve been there. I know what you’re going through.”

  Been there? Elspeth has no idea where I’ve been!

  “I am not going through what you think I’m going through.”

  I instantly regretted the coldness in my voice. Then realized there was nothing to regret. Elspeth was barreling ahead, determined to liberate and reform.

  “I know exactly what you’re going through. Matt already told me how uptight you’re getting about Allison. I just want you to know—this is a phase and it’s not a healthy one! Single women are not the enemy! They can make married life more interesting. And acting paranoid about single women makes you less attractive to your husband. I found that out on my own, and I’m giving you the benefit of my experience.” After a heavy silence, she continued. “You missed out on having a sister.”

  She’s trying to be…my big sister?

  I am a big sister. With two brothers! As an eldest sister herself, she should know that this is just not done.

  “I always wanted a sister,” said Elspeth. “We need to communicate more! Besides,” she added, “all my girlfriends are married or engaged, and Chris is such a catch! I hate to see a guy like Chris at loose ends.”

  The distant wailing resumed. Would Elspeth’s maternal instinct please override the sisterly one? But her fabulous new au pair wasn’t going to let that happen.

  “What about…” I hate to do this to my twenty-something cousin, but she doesn’t have to know it was my idea. “What about Miranda?” I suggested. “I know she isn’t dating anyone special.”

  “Your cousin? Isn’t she a little immature for Chris?”

  “Chris would be perfect for her! She needs to start dating above Fourteenth Street.”

  “Good point.…Hey,” she said, “aren’t you—? Don’t you have a French class on Friday mornings?”

  Elspeth has an unnerving habit of starting a new topic just when I think I’m getting a handle on the previous one.

  “I—um—I don’t always go at the same time. My instructor switched days this week.”

  “Oh. I thought it was a class. It’s one-on-one?”

  “I have to go!” I gasped. Riffing desperately, I added, “Someone’s at my door—I’ll call you back.”

  I hung up fast and counted to ten. Gazing in horror at the kitchen wall, I discovered that I had a bad case of garlic phone. You can’t tell your phone to chew a handful of raw parsley, so I attacked the handset with a succession of cleaning potions and hoped for the best.

  As I returned to my marinade, I could feel the mantle of frumpiness enveloping my deltoids. Settling upon my shoulders like a ghost. Elspeth has no idea what my life is really about, but something she said managed to hit home: couple-centric paranoia isn’t pretty. And makes single women look soooo much more attractive to a guy. Especially your own!

  Of course, there are plenty of other good solid reasons to keep Allie far away from Elspeth a
nd Jason. I’m doing the right thing.

  But still. I don’t trust my best friend the way I used to. Because she’s not married! And I trust Trisha—whom I’ve known for just a few months—because she is.

  Married hookers instinctively trust each other. We speak the same code, tell the same lies, fear a common peril. I can’t help feeling that an unmarried hooker—especially one like Allie—hasn’t got enough to lose.

  Does that make her the enemy of my marriage?

  SATURDAY, 3/24/01

  Matt told Elspeth how uptight I’m getting? Paranoia “makes you less attractive” to your husband?

  It’s all starting to get to me!

  Last night, sitting across the table from Matt, while he gazed at my candle-lit presence, I felt betrayed.

  How dare he discuss his lurking disenchantment with his sister?

  Did he discuss disenchantment with his sister? Or did he merely hint at it, in the way men sometimes do—before they’re even aware of their own feelings? In which case, the betrayal is unconscious, as so many masculine betrayals are. For some reason, that doesn’t make the loss of face any easier to digest.

  “These tomatoes are great!” he enthused. “What’s in this dressing?”

  I threw him a flirtatious, secretive smile. If you admit to a loss of face, then you’ve really lost it.

  “I think you’re a better cook than…” he paused. “Don’t tell Elspeth I said this, honey, but you’re a better cook than my mother.”

  I tried to look pleased, but this wasn’t what I needed to hear.

  A good marinade is no replacement for that mysterious allure which pulled him toward me when we first met. I was smart enough, while dating, to save something for marriage. Matt didn’t know I could cook until we moved in together.

  Okay, so I know how to date, which is no mean accomplishment. Too many hookers are good at their job yet abysmal at the dating game. But am I smart enough for marriage? It’s a lot to keep track of. Provocative single girlfriends. Keeping my career a secret while keeping it afloat. An extra six pounds. And now, this stain upon my self-image that I’m too proud to discuss with him. Being cast as an insecure member of the Couples Brigade makes me feel officially overweight.

  As Matt cleared the table, I made a decision. After he disappeared from the kitchen, I gathered up every bread stick and new potato, and all the crackers, then threw them into a bag. I started to remove a sliced loaf of Eli’s sourdough from the freezer. But Matt will freak if I do that! He’s so impressed with our constant supply of distinctive, ready-for-toasting bread. I spared the sourdough and trashed the frozen wholewheat waffles.

  After I disposed of the starch-filled bag, I discovered a box of hazelnut biscotti in a cupboard.

  “What are you doing?”

  Matt’s voice startled me as I approached the apartment door.

  “Throwing these out!” I said petulantly. “I thought you were online! Why are you spying on me?”

  “Why are you throwing out the biscotti?”

  “They’re stale! Can’t I clean up my own kitchen without being questioned about it?”

  He gave me a puzzled look and disappeared again. Perhaps I should have said something else, but I refuse to admit to a man that I’m thinking about my weight. I learned many years ago that if you don’t mention the first five pounds, most men don’t see them. This means I am only one pound overweight in the context of our relationship—even if I’m six pounds heavier in real time. Math is more like a language than people realize. With many dialects.

  Later, as I tried to sleep, Matt placed an affectionate hand under my camisole. The memory of his curious compliment came back to me. Cooking. Mother. Maybe the six pounds is taking its toll after all.

  “I am not the one who confides in your sister about the details of this relationship!”

  His hand stopped moving.

  “What are you talking about?”

  “What do you think I’m talking about?”

  Sitting up, he put his hand on my hair and stroked it gently.

  “Something’s bothering you,” he said. “I knew it when you threw out the biscotti.”

  Why doesn’t he remember comparing my cooking with his mother’s less than three hours ago? Or what he said about not telling Elspeth? If I don’t remind him, I run the risk of being seen as an irrational harpy, possessed by mental demons! And if I do remind him? He just might decide that I am his mother.

  God.

  What’s happening to me?

  MONDAY, 3/26/01

  Matt has replaced the biscotti. A loving gesture, but I wish he wouldn’t.

  After a weekend of moody reflection, make-up sex, and a Pilates class (to take my mind off the mood that the sex didn’t dissolve), I’ve got an emergency session with my shrink—to discuss the mood that Pilates could not vanquish.

  Yesterday, while we made up, I imagined that Matt was degrading me in all sorts of unspeakable, systematic ways. I sometimes wonder about the orderly nature of my fantasies. Of the lurid underworld I’ve invented where I only have to fall into my correct place for everything to go according to plan.

  Is this a hooker thing? In the business, there are too many days when sex doesn’t go the way you hope it will, and the body (his, yours) miscalculates. A hard-on falters, a dollop of K-Y is just not as much as you need, or another girl is in bed with you, misreading your cues. Sometimes a customer is late, or you get stuck in traffic, which throws off your whole routine. A perfectly choreographed day with the sex just so and everybody coming (or showing up) on time is a dream I’ve been chasing since I started hooking. In my erotic fantasies, it is somebody else who plans and organizes the sex. Within seconds of envisioning such efficient depravity, I find it hard to stop myself from coming.

  And making up with Matt is always good. He’s got that instinctive knowledge about how to touch me. As I held on to Matt after an explosive climax, he had no idea what I was thinking. Matt has a certain way of coming that satisfies and possesses. Because I’m not the first or second girl in a list of favorite phone numbers. And there is no chance that I may have been the third number called, in the hope of fitting in a quickie before the Metroliner. When he comes, it’s with me, and the sensation can’t be replicated—for either of us—because it’s too intense.

  In the physical afterglow, our bodies were at peace. But my mind was still warring—with itself.

  LATER

  This afternoon, I put it to Dr. Wendy: “I have every right to protect my marriage from my best friend!”

  Dr. Wendy leaned back in her chair, clasping her hands in her lap. I could see her biceps peeping out of her polo shirt.

  “Say more,” she urged.

  “Allie would be hurt if she knew this but lately I trust Trisha more than I trust her. I could introduce Trish to anyone in Matt’s circle. Even my nosy sister-in-law.”

  While I’ve met Allison’s parents—a trusting gesture on her part—I keep her as far from my husband as possible.

  “I can’t trust Allison to keep our story straight. I feel close to her—because of what we’ve been through—but that’s not the same thing as trust.”

  Trish is just a girl I work with but there is so much I don’t have to explain to her. Our priorities are the same: preserving a husband’s innocence without losing too many clients.

  “Matt and Elspeth are asking me all these questions. They can’t figure Allison out. And I don’t want them to,” I said. “Straight people always want to know how you spend your time. They have no idea how nosy they are! Nobody would ask me what Trish ‘does.’ Trish doesn’t have to explain herself because she’s a mom. I feel safe around her. I hardly know her but I know we belong to the same tribe.”

  “And yet, this tribe is a faction of a much larger tribe,” Wendy said.

  “Marital Nation,” I suggested.

  “Do you and Trish belong to a special branch of the marital tribe? Or do you feel like the married branch of the sex worker tribe?
”

  “Nobody I work with—except for Allie—calls herself a sex worker,” I said.

  Wendy looked thoughtful.

  “Is there a preferred term?”

  “Oh, it all depends. Allison likes this word Trollop, actually. She’s got a new e-mail sig: ‘Trollop-at-Large!’ She’s putting together a benefit for the…Council of Trollops. And she’s dating this guy who’s making a documentary about hookers! She went and spoke to his class at the New School because he wanted to make sure there would be an actual working prostitute to answer all his students’ questions! And now they’re going out together!”

  “What does he teach?”

  “Something to do with American Studies. He wants her to be in his documentary—and she hasn’t said no, which worries me sometimes. I don’t dare look at my e-mail when Matt’s around. What if he sees Trollop-at-Large swimming around in my in box? Allie’s turning into a liability.”

  But my shrink was looking impressed rather than horrified.

  “Your friend sounds rather brave.”

  “Brave! Allie’s not—I was hustling in hotel bars when I was fifteen! That was brave!”

  “Yes,” Wendy said “Perhaps—”

  “But if I continued to do the things I did when I was a teenager, I wouldn’t be brave, I’d be out of my mind!”

  “But what do you think Allison was doing? When she was a teenager.”

  “I know exactly what. She was a cheerleader! At some high school in Ridgefield, Connecticut! Allison didn’t have to clean her own room until she went to college! I had to clean my room, do the dishes every night, AND rake the leaves. Her mother picked up after her.”

  I had to nip my shrink’s budding admiration in the bud ASAP.

  “You have different parents and you’ve led different lives,” she said in a more neutral tone. “But you’re very close to her. Or you have been. Is friendship always about sharing the same values and experiences? Sometimes—”