Coming to Age

by Carolyn Hopley

(like everyone else on earth!)

  I struggled against

  this eventuality, but

  never thought of

  how I’d die, exactly,

  until around thirty

  I made a mental list:

  hit by car, shot

  in head by random ricochet,

  crushed beneath boulder,

  victim of gas explosion,

  head banged hard

  in fall from ladder,

  vaporized in plane crash,

  dwindling away with cancer,

  and so on. I tried to think

  of which I’d take

  if given the choice,

  and came up time

  and time again with He died

  in his sleep.

  Now that I’m officially old,

  though deep inside not

  old officially or otherwise,

  I’m oddly almost cheered

  by the thought

  that I might find out

  in the not too distant future.

  Now for lunch.

  Ron Padgett

  DAYS

  Each one is a gift, no doubt,

  mysteriously placed in your waking hand

  or set upon your forehead

  moments before you open your eyes.

  Today begins cold and bright,

  the ground heavy with snow

  and the thick masonry of ice,

  the sun glinting off the turrets of clouds.

  Through the calm eye of the window

  everything is in its place

  but so precariously

  this day might be resting somehow

  on the one before it,

  all the days of the past stacked high

  like the impossible tower of dishes

  entertainers used to build on stage.

  No wonder you find yourself

  perched on the top of a tall ladder

  hoping to add one more.

  Just another Wednesday,

  you whisper,

  then holding your breath,

  place this cup on yesterday’s saucer

  without the slightest clink.

  Billy Collins

  ADVICE

  Folks, I’m telling you,

  birthing is hard

  and dying is mean—

  so get yourself

  a little loving

  in between.

  Langston Hughes

  ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

  The editors wish to thank the following people for help and encouragement in bringing this book to fruition:

  Gina Maccoby, Michael Pietsch, Megan Tingley, Frederick Courtright, Karen Landry, Jean Garnett, and members of the editorial staff of Little, Brown, whose attention to detail delighted our hearts.

  Members of the Third Friday Poetry Reading Group, past and present, and in memory of Mary Coan, Phyllis Herman, Kay Langan, Jane Milliken, and Gail Wilson.

  John Hopley and George, Gretchen, and John Hopley. Denny, Perry, Chuck, and Meg Hoberman, and in memory of Norman Hoberman.

  And all of our families, friends, and colleagues whose enthusiasm for our project has carried us forward from that first germ of an idea to the volume you hold in your hands.

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