Directing the Power of Conscious Feelings- Living Your Own Truth

by Clinton Callahan

  In any moment, for no reason, you could return to the territory of fear and tap its full wisdom and power for the rest of your life, and you would be okay. You can also now make it safe for others to experience and express their 100 percent maximum archetypal fear. You can help others through their rite of passage into adulthood. This could even be your life’s calling.

  Through stellating fear, the creator / designer / magician / sorceress archetype is turned on in you and is ready for action. The creator is the one who can step past the limits of the known into the terrifying unknown. Even though you are fully afraid, you can still function professionally, speak, think, feel, make intelligent decisions, etc. This is a completely different understanding and relationship to fear than is held in modern culture.

  Over a period of about two years all four of your archetypes can be turned on in a safe and stable way and can be educated in the use of their tools and possibilities.

  HOLDING One thing modern culture seems to have abandoned in its busy lifestyle is touch. Children in pre-industrial cultures are held almost constantly on the mother’s body until they are six months old. For 100,000 years this is how human beings were raised. Modern mothers and fathers are encouraged to not physically bond with their children. This causes a deep wound. You can satisfy your lack of human contact through exchanging holdings, men with men, women with women. A ten to fifteen minute holding once a week for three months removes a crusty old scar and builds a foundation for the healthy adult.

  During stellating your four bodies are accelerating to a new velocity of stillness, a new vastness of instantaneous presence. This shift is like changing from being an ordinary conductor of electricity in which you have ordinary resistances, to being a superconductor of electricity that has zero resistance. It is like shifting from subsonic to supersonic speeds without moving. A completely different set of physical laws becomes valid. What you considered to be reality before is still true. It just is not sufficient anymore for working at the archetypal levels.

  HOLDING The holder sits on a mattress or padded carpet, braces her back against a wall, and wraps the other woman in her arms so she can feel her heart beating. Notice that the woman being held is completely allowing herself to be held. She is not holding the holder. Notice how the holder is not holding her own clasped hands. Instead she is holding the other woman with both hands fully open. This makes for better contact.

  HOLDING Notice how the woman being held has her forehead tucked up into the other woman’s neck. There is skin contact. The two of them have their eyes closed. There is no talking, patting, stroking or rocking. The one woman is simply letting herself be held, and the other woman is simply holding her. While holding, it can make it more comfortable if you brace your elbow on your knee as this woman is doing.

  ARCHETYPAL TOOLS AND THOUGHTMAPS

  If you understand the previous sections and follow the recommendations it is possible for you to stellate your feelings and turn on your archetypes. In case you manage to get yourself stellated I wish to supply you with a few tools and thoughtmaps that may become immediately relevant in your new condition. Please be warned that the following sections may at first seem bizarre.

  Modern society has sensitized its citizens to be terrified of anything that does not originate in the thoughtware of modern culture. By now you have a built-in detector that categorizes things as weird, kooky, strange, esoteric, witchcraft, new age, or fantasy, often before you even notice you have categorized it. The message from modern culture is that weird, kooky or esoteric things must be avoided at all costs because they obviously brainwash people into joining a sect.

  I am telling you that the following tools and maps do not come from modern culture. Your kook detector may at first go off the scale. I have been personally using some of these tools for over thirty-five years. Some of them I invented and some I learned from books, workshops or friends. They have been tested and found to be practical, simple, and remarkably effective by tens of thousands of people. These people use archetypal tools every day to bring more love and harmony into their relationships and more fulfillment into their lives. But the tools definitely come from beyond the thought limits of modern culture; otherwise, you would have learned them in grade school.

  You can skip over these sections and come back to them later if you want. It does not matter. But if you have stellated your feelings and start entering archetypal energies and spaces you should be warned that different laws suddenly apply. Making turns when moving at light speed with a group of people, for example, is very different from making turns during ordinary meetings and conversations. In rarefied archetypal atmospheres these skills and tools can be as important and useful to you as a shoveling is to a gardener.

  The tools include:

  • The bubble and grounding cord

  • The Disk of Nothing

  • The Black Hole

  • Holding double space

  • How to be killed and not die

  If you eventually need additional tools or skills there are more where these came from.

  BUBBLE AND GROUNDING CORD

  Once you reclaim your own authority and place your being center on your physical center, you are then centered, as shown on the Map of Being Centered in Chapter 3. The sensation of being centered is being less intellectually rigid and more responsively alert. You are capable of interacting with both local and general conditions and you can make relaxed gestures within a smaller-sized present. In simpler terms, you could say that when you are centered you are in the here and now.

  Being centered in the here and now also brings you more directly into contact with your own feelings. When you know what you are feeling you can easily sense what other people are feeling. At this point it becomes important to be able to distinguish between your feelings and another person’s feelings. Here are two energetic tools that help to discern whose feelings are whose: your bubble and your grounding cord.

  Both the bubble and grounding cord are tangible. You can tell when they are functionally present and when they are not by using the same sense organs that you use to sense the mood in a conversation when you first join a group of people. The bubble and grounding cord are not distinctions of thought but rather distinctions of sensed space. To establish each of these distinctions you use Is-Glue to make a declaration. A declaration is a creative energetic gesture establishing that something is the way that you say it is. (That last sentence was a declaration.) (So was that one.)

  You (as well as most everyone else) unconsciously use Is-Glue to declare things all day long. You say, “The weather IS beautiful.” “I AM a specialist.” “I CAN help you.” “It IS not coffee break time yet.” “I (DO) want to stop giving examples of declaring now,” and so on. Most declaring fabricates unconscious stories to support the reality that is painted for you by your Box. With a small effort you can convert your faculty of declaring into a conscious skill. Then it becomes a simple thing to consciously declare your bubble and a grounding cord.

  It helps me while declaring things consciously if I snap my fingers or tap my finger on my leg in the moment that I use the Is-Glue in my declaring. I call this using my clicker. I encourage you to use your clicker in the same way. Click! and it’s there.

  To make your bubble, simply click your clicker (tap your finger on something or snap your fingers) while at the same time asserting, “This is my bubble,” either out loud or to yourself. The bubble is a pliable, durable, energetic distinction defining where your personal space starts and stops. It extends about half an arm’s distance from your body all around you: over your head, under your feet, and around your back.

  Click your clicker again and vanish your bubble. Click your clicker again and make your bubble once more. Can you feel the difference? Making your bubble is that easy and that fast, taking almost no time and no energy. It only requires a clear declaration to create it and then a bit of your attention to keep it there. As long as you remember your bubble it is there.


  Inside of your bubble is your personal psychic and energetic space. Outside of your bubble is public space. The moment you first make your bubble could be the first moment in your life that you have clearly established and can definitely experience your own personal private space. Take a deep breath and relax a bit. Enjoy your privacy and safety. This is your space, and your space only.

  Psychic etiquette says that inside of your bubble is your space and that no one else’s energy or information belongs in your space. It also says that your energy and information does not belong in anybody else’s space. Therefore, your first action after establishing your bubble (and your grounding cord) will be to clean other people’s energy and information out of your bubble and fill it up with your own energy and information extracted from everybody else’s bubbles.

  You make your grounding cord in the same way that you made your bubble, by clicking your fingers and declaring, “This is my grounding cord.” Your grounding cord functions like a lightning rod. It is a protective connection that grounds you by connecting your physical center (halfway between your hip bones and halfway back in your abdomen) straight down to the center of the Earth (even when you are in a tall building, a moving car, an airplane, swimming, etc.). Your grounding cord should be four or five centimeters in diameter (about two inches across) and should have a flexible resilience like rubber hose or thick rope. Different people have different-colored grounding cords, and the color may change from time to time. It does not matter what color your grounding cord is. Just be sure that you observe whatever color it is when you declare it into existence. Click again and vanish your cord. Click once more and establish it again. Can you feel the difference? This could also be the first time that you are truly grounded. Having a bubble and a grounding cord is a great feeling. As long as you remember them, they are there. At first it may require using 30 or 50 percent of your attention to hold your bubble and grounding cord in place. Later, after some practice, you can maintain your bubble and grounding cord with no more than 2 or 3 percent of your attention.

  To practice, start like this. First thing when you wake up in the morning, Click! Click! Make your bubble and make your grounding cord. Any time during your day or night that you notice they are not there, Click! Click! Make them again. There is almost no time when it is not appropriate to have your bubble and your grounding cord.

  Cleansing your bubble a few times a day is far quicker than brushing your teeth, and is at least as useful. To cleanse and simultaneously refill your bubble, use your clicker to declare a new personal-space bubble at your center. Click! Your new bubble starts out the size of a pea, but it quickly inflates as you retrieve your own golden energy and information from other people’s bubbles wherever they might be in all time and all space. In a few seconds your new bubble expands with your own golden energy and information, flushing out anybody else’s energy and information that is presently in your space, sending it directly and immediately back to them where it belongs. As your newly clicked bubble grows from your center your body and your bubble fill to overflowing with your own golden energy and information. The excess energy flows down your grounding cord into the Earth, cleaning the grounding cord as it goes. Voila! Your old bubble is vanished, replaced by your new bubble that is cleansed and refilled.

  Now keep your bubble and go listen to another person. Every communication contains both energy (feelings, intention, spin, attitude, purpose, etc.) and information (opinions, facts, ideas, needs, requests, gossip, beliefs, etc.). With your bubble and grounding cord in place it is easy to distinguish whose energy and information is whose. Just because somebody in front of you is having a feeling, even someone you know intimately, does not make it your feeling. It is their feeling. Let them have their feeling in their bubble. You listen and be with them with their feeling, but their feeling is no longer touching your body. Their feelings stay outside of your bubble. You can be in compassionate contact with them and listen to their feelings while your space remains completely free and clear.

  The same with problems. You can listen and respect people with their problem, but the problem does not come inside of your bubble. A problem may hit your bubble and get sucked down by your grounding cord like lightning through a lightning rod, but it is not your problem. Respect people and their problems, and let people have their own problems.

  The same is true in reverse. When you have a feeling or a problem it is yours. You do not have to try to spread it on other people and make it into their feeling or their problem. Now you can take responsibility for having a feeling or a problem and you can take the necessary actions to deal with it without making the people around you suffer.

  DISK OF NOTHING

  Other people’s hungry Gremlins may try to push your buttons to trigger an automatic reaction from your Box to get you out of the adult ego state and into a Gremlin feeding frenzy. If they can trigger your Box’s reactive defense mechanisms, then you are hooked into a low drama with them and their Gremlin can eat your life energy for lunch.

  Being centered and having a grounded bubble are very useful, but some Gremlins are so insidious about finding trigger hooks that an additional tool can be extremely valuable at times. No matter how rude or abusive the insult, criticism, insinuation, moan, or complaint, you do not have to react. The tool for protecting yourself from flying Gremlin barbs is called the Disk of Nothing.

  The Disk is flat, about ten centimeters in diameter (four inches across), and rimmed with a thin golden tube. The back is solid silver. The front surface is a bluish liquid mirror, something like an activated stargate (from the film Stargate).

  The Disk of Nothing is lightly clipped to your tool belt, meaning it is ready for instantaneous use. And that’s the point, actually: to use it instantaneously.

  In the same moment that a comment is hurled in your direction, whip out your Disk of Nothing and hold it up between you and the approaching hook. The hook goes deep into the nothingness of the Disk of Nothing and cannot touch you. There is nothing in the Disk for the psychoemotional barb to hook onto, so you don’t get hooked. The Disk of Nothing helps you stay present and unhookable.

  It doesn’t matter if the insult comes from the front, the side, the back, the telephone, an email, a letter, lights on, lights off. Whatever form the hook takes, let it land in the Disk of Nothing instead of in you. Then you are protected. Even while someone is shooting insults in your direction you can stay in contact with them, listen to them, and feel with them.

  BLACK HOLE

  Your Box is designed to manage exchanges between you and your environment so that it can stay in control, perform its usual filtering actions, and succeed with its original survival strategy.

  But each Box has a limit as to how much energy it can tolerate before going into overload. More often than you know, communications arrive with higher emotional energy levels than your Box is designed to manage. Without you knowing it the Box protects itself by blocking high-energy communications, causing you to end the communications before they are received. These can be messages that contain too much anger, fear or sadness for your Box to manage. But they can also be messages with too much joy, love, happiness and excitement for your Box. If your Box shuts down these messages then you miss out on them too.

  The Black Hole is a tool that allows you to safely receive and complete communications with more emotional energy than your Box can ordinarily manage.

  The Black Hole is a 20-centimeter-diameter (about 8 inches) hole in the floor that sucks in an infinite amount of energy. Energy has mass, as explained by Einstein’s famous equation E = Mc², where E is energy and M is mass. But information is weightless; it has no mass.

  So the Black Hole distinguishes between the energy and the information of a communication. While the high-energy blast is coming toward you, the Black Hole fiercely sucks all the energy out of the communication before the communication even touches your bubble. All that remains is the information. The energy is sucked down into the Earth, and
the pure information comes through your bubble to you. Your Box can completely relax its defenses, which are ineffective against so much energy anyway, so you stay open and in total contact with the person delivering the communication. The Earth uses the excess energy like organic fertilizer.

  If the communication is powered by anger, for example, then the energy of the anger is absorbed into the Black Hole, but the information of the anger, such as “I feel angry because . . . ,” peacefully comes to you. You can then use a completion loop to repeat back to the speaker what you heard them say. Through using the completion loop you permanently complete the communication and it vanishes forever. This takes you to the next deeper level of intimacy with the speaker. Using the Black Hole opens the door to receiving whole new dimensions of communication.

  As soon as you detect a high-energy communication coming your way, simply click your clicker (snap your fingers, or tap your finger on an object) to declare, “Here is my Black Hole.” Make the Black Hole in the floor just in front of your bubble. Remember, the energy gets sucked into the Black Hole before it even touches your bubble. There is no force or pressure needed to protect yourself against the discharge of energy. You are protected and can completely relax while you receive the information. This is a fantastic tool!

  If a high-energy communication is coming by phone or by email, you can click a mini–Black Hole into existence three or four centimeters in diameter (one or two inches across) on your desk or in the space between your ear and the telephone to suck down all the energy.

  You can also use the Black Hole to cleanse a meeting room after it has been used for an intense gathering. As soon as you notice energetic residue, click your clicker and declare a one-meter diameter Black Hole (one yard across) in the center of the floor. In an instant, this giant Black Hole will suck all the old energy remnants out of that space and reset it to its pristine state, ready for your use. Then vanish the Black Hole. You can perform the whole cleaning operation without even slowing down your pace while walking in and setting up the room.