The Secrets of the Seducer

by Francesco Cibelli

  The Secrets of the Seducer

  The playboy techniques

  A Guide

  Francesco Cibelli

  ©Copyright 2019 by Francesco Cibelli

  Editor: Theresa Snyder

  Cover: Angela Catalini

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  Summary

  Introduction……………………………………………………….. 1

  Seducing in a public place………………………………………. 9

  Seducing at the seaside or on a vacation…………………. 40

  Seducing at university or in public places………………… 50

  Seducing in a disco……………………………………………… 56

  Seducing in chat…………………………………………………. 63

  Seducing an engaged or committed woman……………. 72

  Conclusions………………………………………………………. 84

  Introduction

  Dear reader, if you are reading this book it means that you want to undertake, or perfect, the art of seduction. This is already a good start, for in any art, it is important to have the appropriate training.

  The secrets and tips in this guide are the result of years of my personal experience as a “seducer”. The events I will be narrating have really happened. I have only changed the names of women for reasons of confidentiality.

  The first rule for seducing is to appear seductive. You must feel like the greatest Casanova or Don Giovanni in your city.

  But who are these legendary characters?

  Casanova, a character who really existed, was the greatest seducer of all time. Equipped with an intellect and a natural talent toward the conquest of the “fair sex”, even in times of economic poverty, he managed to seduce hundreds and hundreds of women, young or not so young, rich and noble or poor. He always loved his women deeply, making them feel like queens, from all points of view.

  Don Giovanni, on the other hand, was a literary personality. He was described as a noble knight who seduced all the women who crossed his path: beautiful or ugly, young or old. He did not love women but seduced them only for the sake of including them in his list of deceived women. Therefore, unlike Casanova, he did not care about creating a lasting relationship. For him, women were a “number”. A subcategory of Don Giovanni is the playboy: a fashionable young man who loves luxuries and surrounds himself with beautiful women.

  So, to be able to seduce you can’t be shy, you must not be pessimistic, but you have to feel like the greatest conqueror of all time. How do you expect to win over a woman if you have no self-confidence for a start?

  You have to increase your self-esteem. There are several techniques for this.

  The first step is to be aware that you can have all the women in the world, as long as you know how to set your traps. How many times has it happened - and the chronicles prove it - that a model, a princess, a wealthy woman is engaged or married to a man of humble origins, if not totally penniless? Quite often. This attests that in the world of Eros, there is a component of irrationality, of magic, which cannot be accurately predicted. By learning the art of seduction, you can hope for the most beautiful woman in the world.

  It is therefore necessary to be educated by means of this guide and through the masters of seduction. I always recommend starting from the book of the greatest seducer: “The Complete Memoirs of Casanova the Story of My Life” written by Casanova himself. Besides being a very pleasant read, it is a gold mine in the art of seduction.

  You have to create your own character. Even if you are a boy and you have never kissed any woman in your life, you have to invent stories of seduced women, of impossible conquests, of love successes. As you tell these stories, you will strengthen your self-esteem and end up believing in them too. Because reality, in many cases, starts precisely from dreams.

  Now, you might argue that lying is wrong. I tell you that at an early stage of a relationship, actually, it is wrong to tell the whole truth. The art of seduction is based on artifices, exaggerations, and fantasies. If you introduce yourself as a good guy, believe me, you will have less chance of winning the woman you fell in love with.

  Imagine being hopelessly in love with a girl. You’d do anything for her. By being romantic, maybe writing her poetry, you will have little chance of winning her over. Moreover, if you show her a friendly kind of affection (a mistake that many men make), your chances of winning her will be close to zero. It’s unpleasant to say it, but in the art of loving, the good guy is out of fashion. When I was a kid, I made these mistakes too. And I saw the girls I liked in the arms of boys who were certainly less deserving. Since I started using the technique, I started to collect love successes on successes.

  Do you want to be the good guy? Do you want to be genuine in your feelings of love? Do it only after you’ve conquered the girl, never before. You have to resort to some technique: only the obscene is attractive, triggers fantasy and desire. Very often women are not “saints”. Women like a courted man, in some cases, even the man of other women. In order to have a man, some women feel satisfied if they cause the suffering of other women.

  Therefore, dear reader, do not hesitate to use the techniques of seduction. Also, should they not be into you, women will have no qualms about ignoring you.

  So, invent adventures. Try to build a myth around your person. Try to be appealing with everything you have. Go to the gym, learn to dance, dress well, appear cheerful, carefree, nice and a successful person. Hang out often with beautiful women, actresses, models, showgirls and make sure you are visible with them on social networks as well.

  If you have never met a woman since you were born, then start from the bottom. Try to have an affair with any girl who might be interested in you. You must acquire experience. In the beginning it might even be with unattr
active girls. This will help to make other, prettier girls curious, and in some cases even make them jealous. And remember, arousing jealousy is one of the best weapons of seduction.

  Moreover, also being with the girls who are not pretty or who you do not love, will help you to create the credible stories of seduction you will tell. There is nothing worse than being perceived as someone who has never had an affair. Even the most serious and shy of the girls will flee away from you like the plague if you tell them that you have never had any love experiences. Everything serves the purpose of building your myth, even ugly or older women.

  After this introduction, therefore, we can safely affirm that in order to win a woman it is necessary to seduce her with techniques and tricks. But, not all women are the same. And, not all locations where you might seduce women are the same. We need different seductive techniques, depending on the situation. In the next chapters we will go into these aspects in greater depth.

  Seducing in a public place

  There are thousands of places where you can search for “prey”, and it is the duty of the seducer to make conquests regardless of place and occasion.

  Of course, I made a lot of conquests on the streets too, but how can we approach women on the street? Certainly not with trivial compliments such as: “Hello, beautiful!”; “My compliments to your mother!”; or “Excuse me, do you know what time it is?” These kinds of compliments, besides being trivial, do not generate any kind of interaction and cause, at most, a smile from the person who is the object of the compliment.

  You have to be original, nice and playful to prompt a response from the woman in question.

  But now, let’s get into practice. I will describe some of my first loves, almost all of them met on the street.

  One of my first loves was actually, Lorena, a lovely brunette who was introduced to me by my cousin. I was about fifteen years old and she excited me and made my heart beat to the point that I could barely look at her. There were a thousand things I wanted to say to her, but every time she was with me, I was unable to tell her anything at all, or just banalities. So, I started writing her poems, which I put in her mailbox. At first, she would ignore me and even mock me on seeing me. Then, given my perseverance, she stopped me and told me that I was a good guy, that I wrote her beautiful poems, but that unfortunately, she was not interested in me. However, I was so much in love with her that I kept writing her letters and hanging around her neighborhood every day. One day, a friend of hers named Marianna told me that I would be the ideal boy for Lorena, but she was influenced by her friends, who considered me a weird guy… a fool. It seemed that this love of mine was destined to remain only a dream.

  But one day a friend, Antonio, suggested that we wander around on a scooter in Salerno, my city, in search of conquests. So, we ended up in a neighborhood where we immediately spotted a beautiful brunette together with another girl who was pretty but a bit plump. Needless to say, we were both interested in the brunette.

  We parked our scooter and Antonio opened the conversation with the girls with this question: “Girls, where are we going to dance tonight?”

  One of them answered immediately joking, “Wherever you want.”

  My friend then added, “There is a nice event at the Bogart Café tonight.”

  The other girl, always jokingly, said, “That would be fine with us.”

  Antonio and I then introduced ourselves and after a playful conversation lasting an hour, we already had the phone numbers of the girls and an appointment for the evening at the disco. The prettiest girl, Rosa, was unequivocally attracted to Antonio. However, I did not like the other girl, Gerardina, at all. I can tolerate other defects, but I do not like fat girls! Anyway, Antonio convinced me to accompany him in this adventure, by telling me that Gerardina would gladly open her arms to me. Even though, I was in love with another girl, I agreed to the “sacrifice” for the sake of a love experience. Amongst other things, this was prescribed by the books I was reading at that time on “Don Giovanni”. Therefore, that same evening I kissed Gerardina. Needless to say, the kiss disgusted me. I was able to stay with this girl for the extraordinarily long period of about ten days. She was happy and told everyone we were engaged.

  The news that I was engaged soon reached the ears of Lorena, my great flame.

  One day I saw her in her neighborhood, and she said to me, “Your last poem was beautiful. I wish you and your girlfriend well.”

  To which I replied, “Actually, I’m not engaged. I’m going out with Gerardina to please a friend.”

  She replied, “But I’m happy for you. You’re a good guy. You deserve it and I’m not jealous at all. See ya!”

  On the one hand, that meeting disturbed me. I thought that my letters to Lorena were now less credible; on the other hand, however, it made me reflect on the fact that Lorena, perhaps unconsciously, had shown a certain jealousy.

  I prepared a new love letter for Lorena, in which I reiterated that she was my only flame, that I had already left Gerardina, and that there had never been anything between us. Then, I went to Lorena’s neighborhood. I happened to meet Marianna, her friend, who stopped me and told me that she had to tell me something important. I sensed that it had to be something positive.

  “Francesco”, Marianna said, “Lorena confided to me that she would give you a kiss.”

  So much was the emotion that I could hardly breathe as I asked, “So do you think I have a chance to get engaged to Lorena?”

  “No”, Marianna replied, “she would give you a kiss just to please you, since you are so in love with her and you write her beautiful letters. It would be a sort of prize.”

  So, I waited for Lorena to leave her home, and as soon as I saw her, I told her I had to talk to her in private for a moment. We then went to a more secluded place.

  My heart drummed violently as I took her by the hand and said to her, “Lorena, I know you’re not interested in me, even though I love you deeply. But, can you give me just one kiss, so that one day I can remember that fairy tales exist?”

  She didn’t answer me but stared into my eyes with just the hint of a smile. I understood that she was willing to offer me her lips and I got lost in such an exciting kiss that I still remember it as one of the most beautiful moments of my life.

  A beautiful love story with Lorena was born from that day, even though it ended after a few months, as it happens to almost all the stories of teenagers. Later on, I learned that I had another admirer, Marianna, Lorena’s friend. During a period when I was quite free, I devoted myself to her, too. But that’s another story and is irrelevant to the purpose of this guide.

  There are two lessons to be learnt from these stories: the first is that you should not disdain to have experiences even with ugly girls; the second is that making a girl jealous, even unconsciously, is good. If there hadn’t been Gerardina, there probably wouldn’t have been “my” Lorena.

  Two more stories from when I was younger deserve to be told.

  I would often walk along Salerno’s seafront with a friend named Crispino. Every now and then his sister Rachele would stop and exchange a few jokes with us. She wasn’t ugly, but she was shy, not particularly well-groomed, the typical hearth-and-home sort of girl. As a joke I would always say, “Hello Rachele, where did you leave your boyfriend?” And she would mumble something incomprehensible.

  One Saturday, I noticed that she had come with a beautiful floral skirt while her hair had just been done by the hairdresser. Without malice it came spontaneously to me to touch her hair and say, “Such beautiful hair tonight.”

  I noticed a certain turmoil on her part and her eyes closed. However, I said goodbye and went my way. The next Saturday Crispino told me that his sister needed to talk to me. We waited for her in front of a bar and then, she and I, left the rest of the group for a few minutes.

  Rachele, almost wheezing and with a slight flush on her cheeks, said to me, “I’ve never been engaged, and you are the first guy I have liked. I r
ealized that last Saturday. Do I have any chance with you?”

  Since I had already guessed what she wanted to tell me, I replied, “I’m sorry, I’m an unreliable guy with women. I’m a free spirit. I don’t like to be caged in a relationship.”

  But she insisted, “Come on, at least think about it.”

  At that point, to get rid of her in an elegant way, I said, “Okay, give me a month to think about it.”

  Sometime later I discovered that she kept a secret diary in which she recorded daily, the days remaining until the end of the month. Needless to say, during this month I never wanted to meet Rachele alone. I didn’t like her. At the end of the month, she called to tell me that she wanted to meet me. I told her that we could also speak by phone, but she insisted, and I agreed to meet her.

  That same evening, we sat on a bench, she looked into my eyes and asked me, “So?”

  I looked away and replied, “Unfortunately, I don’t feel anything for you. I’m sorry.” I saw the immense disappointment in her eyes, and she said nothing for a few minutes.

  Then she came back to it. “Can I get at least one kiss?” she asked.

  To which I replied, “Out of respect for your brother, I can’t do that.”

  A few nights later I went with my friend Antonio on the seafront to meet girls. We competed with each other for who got to meet more in one evening. Since our approach was playful, and we were good-looking guys, well-dressed and always smiling, the success rate was over seventy percent. In one evening, we were able to meet as many as thirty girls.

  Well, as we were strolling, I noticed a very pretty girl: skinny, brunette, green-eyed, and dressed in a short skirt. I immediately thought that I had to meet her. I really liked her. She was accompanied by her sister.

  I stopped her saying, “Hi, do you remember me? You’re Rosa’s friend, aren’t you?”

  She looked at me and said, smiling, “Rosa from Siano? I don’t think we know each other. I’m not from Salerno.”