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Videography
The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimension (1984) with Peter Weller, John Lithgow, Ellen Barkin, and Jeff Goldblum. Directed by W. D. Richter.
As It Is in Heaven (Så som i Himmelen) (2005) (Swedish with English subtitles) with Michael Nyqvist, Frida Hallgren, Lennart Jähkel, Helen Sjöholm, and Ingela Olssen. Directed by Kay Pollack.
Field of Dreams (1989) with Kevin Costner, Amy Madigan, Gaby Hoffman and Ray Liotta. Directed by Phil Alden Robinson.
Groundhog Day (1993) with Bill Murray, Andie MacDowell, and Chris Elliot. Directed by Harold Ramis.
The Last Samurai (2003) with Ken Watanabe, Tom Cruise, William Atherton, Chad Lindberg, Koyuki, and Hiroyuki Sanada. Directed by Edward Zwick.
Little Big Man (1970) with Dustin Hoffman, Faye Dunaway, and Chief Dan George. Directed by Arthur Penn.
The Matrix (part 1) (1999) with Keanu Reaves, Laurence Fishburne, Carrie-Anne Moss and Hugo Weaving. Directed by Andy Wachowski and Larry Wachowski.
Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl (part 1) (2003) with Johnny Depp, Geoffrey Rush, Orlando Bloom, and Keira Knightley. Directed by Gore Verbinski.
The Princess Bride (1987) with Cary Elwes, Mandy Patinkin, Chris Sarandon, Christopher Guest, Wallace Shawn, Robin Wright Penn, and André the Giant. Directed by Rob Reiner.
The Razor’s Edge (1984) with Bill Murray, Theresa Russell, Catherine Hicks, and Denholm Elliot. Directed by John Byrum.
The Saint (1997) with Val Kilmer, Elisabeth Shue, Rade Serbedzija, Valeri Nikolayev and Henry Goodman. Directed by Phillip Noyce.
The Wonderful Wizard of Oz (1939) with Judy Garland, Frank Morgan, Ray Bolger, Bert Lahr and Jack Haley. Directed by Victor Fleming.
Discography
Randy Newman. I Think It’s Going To Rain Today. Randy Newman. Burbank, California: Reprise / WEA, 1968.
Lee Lozowick Band, écrasé par l’amour, (previously titled dog’s day in the sun). “She Said.” Prescott, Arizona: Muse-ic Records, 2004.
Further Reading and Further Listening
Books that provide enough clarity or provocative thinking to support such a volume as Radiant Joy Brilliant Love are rare and precious. Here are some suggestions.
On The Patriarchy
Block, Peter. Stewardship: Choosing Service Over Self-Interest. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 1996.
Graves, Robert. Watch the North Wind Rise. New York: Creative Age Press, 1949; as Seven Days in New Crete. London: Cassell, 1949.
Quinn, Daniel. Ishmael: An Adventure of the Mind and Spirit. New York: Bantam, 1992.
Wolff, Robert. Original Wisdom: Stories of an Ancient Way of Knowing. Rochester, Vermont: Inner Traditions International, 2001.
On Children
Fedorschak, Karuna. Parenting – A Sacred Task. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 2003.
Harrison, Steven. The Happy Child: Changing the Heart of Education. Boulder Colorado: Sentient Publications, 2002.
Holt, John. Instead of Education: Ways to Help People Do Things Better. Boulder Colorado: Sentient Publications, 2004.
Johnson, Anne, and Goodman, Vic. The Essence of Parenting: Becoming the Parent You Want to Be. New York: Crossroad, 1997.
Lozowick, Lee. Conscious Parenting. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 1997.
Neufeld, Gordon. Hold Onto Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers. New York: Ballantine, 2005.
Pearce, Joseph Chilton. From Magical Child To Magical T een: A Guide to Adolescent Development. Rochester, Vermont: Park Street Press, 2003.
On Sexuality
Long, Barry. Making Love: Sexual Love the Divine Way. Los Angeles: Barry Long, 1998.
Lozowick, Lee. The Alchemy of Love and Sex. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 1996.
On Radical Responsibility
Block, Peter. The Answer to How Is Yes: Acting on What Matters. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 2002.
Callahan, Clinton. Wild Thinking: Radical Knowledge for Liberating Your Effectiveness and Delivering Your Destiny. (Available in German as Abenteuer Denken. Bremen, Germany: Genius Verlag, 2004. Still unpublished in English. C. C.)
Carse, James P. Finite and Infinite Games: A Vision of Life as Play and Possibility. New York: Random House, 1986.
Ferguson, Marilyn. Aquarius Now: Radical Common Sense and Reclaiming Our Personal Sovereignty. Boston: Red Wheel/Weiser, 2005.
Fuller, R. Buckminster. Grunch of Giants. Clayton, California:Critical Path Publishing, 2002.
Glasser, William. Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom. New York: Harper Collins, 1998.
Hartmann, Thom. The Last Hours of Ancient Sunlight: Waking Up to Personal and Global Transformation. New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999.
Lozowick, Lee. Getting Real. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 2007.
Ouspensky, Peter D. In Search of the Miraculous: Fragments of an Unknown Teaching. New York: Harcourt, Brace & World, 1949.
Rischard, J. F. High Noon: 20 Global Problems, 20 Years to Solve Them. New York: Basic Books, 2002.
Wilber, Ken. No Boundary: Eastern and Western Approaches to Personal Growth. Boston: Sham
bhala, 1985.
On Communication and Feelings
Adams, Linda. Be Your Best: Personal Effectiveness in Your Life and Your Relationships. New York: Putnam, 1989.
Berne, Eric. Games People Play. New York: Grove Press, 1967.
Blanton, Brad. Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth. New York: Dell, 1996.
Gordon, Dr. Thomas. Parent Effectiveness Training: The Tested New Way to Raise Responsible Children. New York: Plume, Rei Edition, 1975.
Lankford, Valerie. Four Feelings And What To Do With Them (This is a privately published pamphlet only available directly from the author: Valerie Lankford, 11600 Hunters Run Drive, Baltimore, Maryland, 21030-1951, USA. Tel: 1-410-771-1234 www.valcanhelp.com)
On Archetypal Masculine and Feminine
Moore, Robert, and Gillette, Douglas. King Warrior Magician Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. New York: Harper Collins, 1991.
On Becoming Man
Biddulph, Steve. Manhood. London: Vermillion / Random House, 2004.
Somé, Malidoma Patrice. Of Water and the Spirit: Ritual, Magic, and Initiation in the Life of an African Shaman. New York: Penguin, 1994.
On Bringing the Woman to Life
Gold, E. J. Life In The Labyrinth: The Labyrinth Trilogy Book II. Nevada City, California: IDHHB, 1986.
On Longing
Lozowick, Lee. Death of a Dishonest Man. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 1998.
Lozowick, Lee. Gasping for Air in a Vacuum. Prescott, Arizona: Hohm Press, 2004.
On Creative Relationship
Fritz, Robert. Creating: A Guide to the Creative Process. New York: Ballantine, 1991.
Johnstone, Keith. Impro: Improvisation and the Theatre. New York: Routledge, 1987.
Further Listening
Two astonishing CDs with songs that express many principles explored in this book are:
écrasé par l’amour (crushed by love) by Lee Lozowick
l’ange brisé (broken angel) by Lee Lozowick
These CDs are available through: Hohm Press, P.O. Box 2501, Prescott, Arizona 86302 USA; Tel. +1-928-778-9189.
Index
A
abundance,
Bright Principles and, 333, 363-366, 487
Box and, 224
of cash, 61
of education, 330
of free solar energy, 52
Goddess and, 280
of options, 56
of resources, map of, 365, 417
of radiant joy brilliant love, 2, 25, 245, 414-415, 459
responsibility, map of and 361
of soul food, 208
Technopenuriaphobia (TPP) and, 231
Woman and, 269-270, 421
also see: scarcity, survival
abuse (abused): 53, 126, 217, 246, 257, 276, 290-291, 318, 456, 465-466, also see: being betrayed, broken heart, sexual abuse, victim, violence, wound(s)
acting “as if,” 197, 246, 252
action, 484
active listening, see: Adult listening
Adams, Linda, 160
adaptive behavior, see: center
adoration, 428-430, 436-437
Adult,
communication, 154-163
ego state, 113-118, 484
as gateway to Archetypes, 118, 314, 332
listening, 164, map of, 165
purpose of, 154
speaking, 172, map of, 171
animal nature, see: gorilla basics
Answer to How is Yes, The (Block), 251
ant farm, 35
appreciation,
as Archetypal Principle, 462
of adolescent daughter, 462
of longing, 415
a man’s, 306
and self deception, 64
sending __to Principles, 333
and your “x” on map, 50
apprenticeship, 24
Aquarian Conspiracy (Ferguson), 21
Archetypal Feelings, 355-356, Map of, 355
Archetypal Love,
and Archetypal Relationship, 312, map of, 401
blocked by Box, 250-251
and Bright Principles, 338-339
and Countenance, 406-407, 414, map of, 407
directly experiencing, 7, 245-246, 414, 479-480
energy of, 459
“how to” of, 251-259, 441-443
Map of Countenance vs., 414
as most abundant thing, 248-251
moving at speed of, 235, 410
no end to, 478
Possibility as facet of, 4
retrieving from hell, 356
sending away, 442
substitutes for, 443-444
as “what is,” 302-304
Archetypal Man,
Archetypal Woman and, 264-277
being bigger than Everything, 271-272
“getting killed but not dying,” 272-273
as King, 295-296
mother and, 357-358
as Nothing, 267, 271-273
reading minds and, 290
unfolding the, 21
Archetypal Relationship
__ chamber, 333-334, 338-339
with children, 453-463
context and, 309-341
“Handbook of Living Happily Ever After” and, 476-482
Map of Archetypal /, 332
Map of Archetypal / Ordinary Relationship, 314
Map of, 401
Map of Traditional Masculine Feminine Relationship, 274
non-method of, 311, 442
nonlinear creation and, 333
serving something greater and, 330-333
unconditional Love and, 245-247
Archetypal Woman,
and Archetypal Man, 264-277
and “bringing Woman to life,” 427-429
and the Goddess, 259
and the “good girl,” 292-293
as Everything, 267-268
and father, 358-360
in Manmaking, 286
as Queen, 280
Archetype,
Communicator, 290
exclusivity and, 436
Goddess, 280
Jungian, 5-6, 484-485
King, 295-296
Magician, 299-301
Map of Stellating__, 354
Pirate … Man, 295-296
Pirate … Woman, 278-279
possibilities in ordinary life, 432-433
in Possibility Management, 6, 484-485
Queen, 280
Sorceress, 279
stellating, 102, 353-357
Warrior, 297-299
Warrioress, 279-280
Asimov, Isaac, 152
asking,
dangerous questions, 19, 226, 276-277, 468, 473
for help, 192, 341
how to do it, 251-252, 480
incessant questions, 198, 395
and intimacy, 288
meta-conversation starters, 151
as one of “three powers,” 485
permission, 82
real questions, 508
for what you want, 189-192, 202, 273
also see: choosing, declaring
“asleep with poop in our pants,” 59
assemblage points, (Castaneda), 377, 510
attention, 132-133, 485
and children, 457-460
conscious, 485
energy follows, 457-459
field, 132-133, 260
giving / receiving, 337
paying attention to, 411
placing, 260-261
point, 132-133, 260
power of, 259-263
refining masculine, 306-308
splitting, 306
authentic community, 374, 510
authenticity,
and authority, 7
and communication, 149-152, 163, map of 171, 407
and commitment, 4
and compromise, 32
and expansive learning, 15, 127-128, 227
and expectation, 8
and feelin
gs, 48, 95, 101, 177, 181, 187, 232
and holding space, 141
and intimacy, 78, 103, 129-131, 163, 197, 206, 219, 323, 359, 412
and Manmaking / Womanmaking, 284, 301
Map of, 129
and nonlinearity, 200
and power, 53, 57, 115
and responsibility, 159
and rite of passage, 2, 58, 67, 69, 296, 297
and Western culture, 52-53, 65, 443
B
“bad” feelings, 92-97
bag of things, 485
baggage, psychological, 116-117, 177, 212, 480
balls, 357
Baum, L. Frank, 244
Be Your Best (Adams), 160
Beep! (Rapid Learning), 191, 493, 508
Beep! Beep! Beep! (low drama detector), 184-185
behavior change, 38, 121, 127; also see: liquid state
being,
awake, 133, 213
betrayed, 32, 69, 251, 257, 312, 318, 320, 361, 364, 417
centered (center of being), 486
in contact, 137, 142, 223-224, 234, 399, 403, 412-413, 485
dangerous, 190, 236, 297-299, 351, 371, 496
destiny in action, 186, 491
and doing, 275
Everything, 267-268, 280-281
hooked, 137-138
human, 96, 128, 136
insane, 80, 180, 411
irresponsible, 65, 111
irresistible, 334-337
“killed and not dying,” 272-273
lovable, 24-25
naïve, 23-24, 59, 94, 103, 189, 193
Nothing, 267, 486
present, 43, 174, 175, 235
responsible, 111-113
right, 131
out of your mind, 411
perfect, 131, 257
present, 412
realistic, 254, 255, 406, 436
reasonable, 20, 69, 191-192, 379, 480, 508
resentful, 38, 60, 368, 514
in same time / place, 273-275
a space, 314, 400, 413, 416, 485
at source, 111, 318-319
the story maker, 320
unhookable, 138-140
unreasonable, 288, 427, 508, 514
used, 331-332
-with, 15, 68, 91, 100, 175, 207, 486
-with children, 198-200
wounded, 256-257
wrong, 207, 456, 486, 505
beliefs, 133-135, 487
as Band-Aid, 376
Map of the Technology of, 135
Berne, Dr. Eric, 22, 32, 33, 35, 36, 92, 113, 130
blame,
and communicating, 154
devours your energy, 261
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