The Way of a Seducer
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As your affairs thin out, you will grow in pureness, your spirit will become unyielding.
As you grow in purity of mind, you will attend to the matters that matter.
You will know exactly what to do next.
ON WHAT YOU WANT
No question is more important than ‘What do I want?’.
It is in this sense that to thine own self you must be true.
You cannot beat the Mark inside,
and when you choose for yourself, you choose for all men.
To put your oxygen mask on first is the ultimate act of altruism.
Nothing has such driving force for a seducer as knowing what he wants and accepting his desires. When you know what you want, how to get it takes care of itself.
And yet, while knowing what you want is your greatest catalyst for growth,
it becomes an impediment if you are attached to getting what you want.
I do not know life, life knows me.
When I think I know what I want,
life gives me exactly what I need.
Grace yourself with the trust that life presents perfection and knows what you need, better than you do.
ON INTENTION
A seducer considers what it means to be a seducer each day and in
every encounter.
The intention of a seducer is to always take on his role in the seduction at play and to make her shine.
The intention of a seducer is to ignite the imagination of a beautiful woman and have her forever speak well of him.
ON PREPARATION
A seducer always prepares the next seduction.
Above all, you must consider yourself as dead.
To be wise to your death is the best mindset for success.
Then, become clear about the success you aspire to.
When you are ready for anything, you are prepared for nothing.
Next, act appropriately. Take the next step, in accordance with the fortune you foresee.
This primarily means to arrange your life in such a way that it facilitates your seductive success. Move away, go out, dance… do whatever it takes to find yourself more often in the company of the women that fascinate you.
This also means to take care of logistics.
Privacy is pivotal because seduction ultimately is a very intimate affair, and intimacy requires privacy. If she does not feel comfortable enough to scream as loud as she can, you do not have enough privacy.
What success are you prepared for?
ON LETTING GO
Prepare as best as you can, then - in the encounter - let go of everything you think you know, and everything you think you ought to do.
Letting go is the ultimate act of love, like a mother letting go of her child.
To let go of a result in seduction.
To not scrutinize the interaction.
To be resolved beforehand with whatever outcome.
Desire with all your might, but do not dwell on it.
Do everything you can to attain the success you foresee, but be graceful in loss.
Only prepared, will you be able to let go of the outcome.
Only prepared, will you be able to relax and rise to the occasion of encountering a beautiful woman.
Only prepared, will you be graceful in loss, and only then every failed seduction will be the best preparation for the next one.
Only prepared, life will grant you more than what you think you want;
it will give you what you need.
ON LOSING
Love is about losing.
Life in the land of women is about losing.
How resilient are you in the face of loss?
What do you do when push comes to shove?
Can you bear your burden?
How do you not react when she pretends to be offended?
How quickly do you look for a ‘yes’ when you just got a ‘no’?
Can you move forward when you have a disagreement with the woman in your life?
Every rejection is an opportunity to recover.
Every woman seduced by someone else a chance to be on the side of lovers.
Every disagreement an invitation to practice love.
Every conflict creates a space to grow your connection, your friendship, your bond.
A broken heart is the ideal moment to show you are a lover and not a victim.
A shattered ego the perfect time to expand your heart.
Love is about losing.
Do not run away from failure.
Do not try to avoid it.
Do not ignore it.
Do not try to forget it.
Every failure is beautiful, and every loss can be the beginning and incitation for more glory.
If you choose to seize the opportunity you have just been given.
Love is about losing.
ON DISAGREEMENT
A relationship starts with its first disagreement.
Disputes with your partner are much more than a necessary evil;
they are crucial gateways to growth,
fundamental opportunities to relate and connect.
Adversity is the best time for solidarity,
and every discord a chance to strengthen the bond of loyalty.
How gracefully do you fight with your loved ones?
ON DUTY
The Way of a Seducer is first and foremost a commitment. It is a way you choose to conduct yourself in the land of women.
Neither skill nor confidence is in order here.
Courage is. Discipline is. Duty is.
Duty entails deliberate action rather than an emotional reaction. It calls for behavior prompted by commitment more than by sentiment.
And yet, duty does not encompass obligation.
For a man qui assume sa vie, there is no discrepancy between what he wants to do and what he thinks he ought to do. There is an alignment between duty and desire; he desires and commits to live by a code of conduct. To live and love dutifully, rather than to be contriving, is his choice, and to fulfill his duty is his pride and joy.
So many men are concocting... to get from women what they think they want, to win at the game of love and romance.
As they manipulate, they lack in duty, and a man lacking in duty is not equipped to seduce a woman. He may know how to pick up a girl, but he will never be able to fulfill a man’s task: to capture the heart and imagination of a beautiful woman.
The Way of a Seducer is to discharge your duty as a man.
To embrace your masculinity and proclaim your love for women.
To follow your own path and be a master of ceremony for the seduction at play.
To seduce Her.
To make that commitment will set you free, and to fulfill your duty will allow magic to happen.
ON COMMITMENT
Always honor your commitments.
Be selective, deliberate and decisive about what you commit to, because when you commit to something, the alternative is no longer an option.
A seducer is a man of his word,
and he is never so negligent as to break his promises or to dishonor his commitments.
ON JOY
Do what you enjoy. Enjoy what you do.
Every emotion can be a detonator and catalyst for growth, but you need joy to keep going, and the success of any endeavor is a direct reflection of the enthusiasm with which it is undertaken and carried out.
It is in this sense that the matters of your greatest concern should be treated lightly. You must enjoy them.
Do not wait for success to bring you joy; let your joy grant the success you envision. Once you enjoy it, you get it.
To master the art of seduction means to realize the infinite potential for growth, and that the only sense of arrival you will ever get is to feel you are on the right track.
A seducer rejoices in that realization and knowledge is none of his concern. He sits in the question, seeks the answer, but is not hell-bent on finding it. He finds jo
y in the not knowing, in the experience of mystery and beauty. He seeks to be enchanted, merrily.
More than anything, he revels in the encounter with a beautiful woman.
ON ACTING ANYWAY
The strength of a seducer is in his readiness to take action.
When you hesitate, act anyway.
A man who fails to take action has no worth. He will never become a better seducer.
Yet, rare is a man smart enough to stop thinking.
The difference between a mediocre and a grand life is in acting anyway.
The difference between success and failure is not the absence of fear.
It is not confidence, not a certain belief or a skill set.
It is the willpower, commitment and discipline to act anyway.
Confidence then is a consequence of such action, not its prerequisite.
Are you going to think, or are you going to live?
Are you committed to be good with women, or are you just saying it?
Your actions will tell.
The first step in becoming good with women is to stop considering her reaction. The first step is to act anyway and show up dutiful, even in the face of sure rejection. A seducer does not measure his success by her reaction, but by the way he contributes to the seduction at play.
Regret about what you have done may be painful but the regret over what
you failed to do never ceases. So when in doubt, it is better to dash in headfirst.
By acting anyway, you will break free from your shackles, and new worlds will open up.
ON DECISIVENESS
The Way of a Seducer is one of decisiveness and immediacy.
It is better to make a decision now and to change your mind later, than to make no decision at all.
When you see a woman who captures your heart, let her know.
When you feel something is wrong, bring it up.
When something keeps bothering you, cut it out of your life.
If you put off addressing issues until later, you will be careless all your life,
and carelessness is inimical to seduction.
Even when waiting for the right moment,
remain decisive and prepared to act swiftly.
ON OUTRAGE
Á la folie. To insanity.
Life is too short to try to appear sane,
and salvation only comes to those who went astray.
Most great men were rebels,
because a man of strong vitality allows himself to be outrageous at times.
On the other hand, a man who is proper - who lives by someone else’s standards - will never do extraordinary things. Common sense never leads to magnificence.
When one has become fearless in seduction, then good things come to those who wait. When you are resolved to act swiftly, you can move with calm determination.
Before that time, however, and every time you are in doubt,
the Way of a Seducer is in outrage, insanity and helplessness.
To be defenseless in your love for women.
To become fanatic in your desire to be seductive.
When committing to become a seducer, and in simply refusing to abandon your endeavor before you are successful, you gain the strength to see it through.
An insane man is unstoppable, and a man helpless in his love for women, is deadly seductive.
After all, in matters of love and romance you have nothing to lose but your ego, and what you lack in skill, you can only make up for with enthusiasm, passion and outrage.
How helpless are you in your desire?
How fierce are you in your engagement?
ON BEING SORRY
A seducer is not apologetic, but the first to say sorry.
Say sorry and set it straight.
Being right or wrong has very little to do with this.
ON HOW TO LOVE
Go out and meet women.
Desire women. Worship them. Get nervous and talk to Her anyway.
Absolutely love, love, love women.
Celebrate the whole of womanhood in every woman you meet.
Get rejected. Lose gracefully. Talk to more women. Date every woman who wants to date you.
Ask them everything you want to know about love.
Listen. Listen beyond her words. Make up your own mind.
Fall madly in love. Feel everything you are invited to feel.
Kiss. Kiss some more. Kiss as often as you can.
Stop trying to be cool. Blurt. Mess it up. Feel sick to your stomach.
Share your sadness. Share your fear. Share your enthusiasm.
Open up your heart and be the first to say ‘I love you’.
Be the boyfriend, be the husband... make love your supreme concern.
Feel exhilaration, feel hurt, lost and stupid... have your heart broken, leave each other with dignity, be down in the dumps, forgive, pick yourself up, and do it all over again.
To give all in love,
without regard for a broken heart,
is rarely reciprocated.
However,
to hold back for fear the other will give less,
proves you right every single time.
Don’t hedge your bets.
It is better to trust and be betrayed,
than to mistrust and find out you were right.
If you try to avoid entanglements or every encounter from going to ruin,
not one of them will be memorable.
A man who does not want to get hurt in love will never be blessed by beauty.
However,
a man who seeks to be struck not by an everyday woman,
but rather by a woman of beauty,
will bear witness to marvelous glory,
especially in loss.
ON VULNERABILITY
A man who stands for something can allow himself to be vulnerable in Her presence.
He has gained the liberty to be a slave to women.
Such a man is free to portray a helpless desire without appearing needy, and he becomes invaluable to beautiful women because of his fascination, not in spite of it.
A woman is attracted to a man for his strength, but she loves him for his weaknesses.
To seduce, as much as being seduced, is to be vulnerable.
Stage Two
Exploring the Open Sea
ON THE ESSENCE OF SEDUCTION
Seduction thrives on the juxtaposition of absence to presence.
Distance to intimacy.
Separation to union.
Frustration to fulfillment.
Allusion to openness.
Adventure to comfort.
Danger to safety.
Brutality to kindness.
There is no paradox to be solved,
there is a juxtaposition to be constantly managed.
Not by finding a balance or a middle ground,
but by exploring the edges.
To undulate back and forth between the extremes is a prerequisite for its functioning.
This is the way to ignite her imagination and keep the romance alive.
This is how a seducer makes Her feel he is ruthless and She is cared for.
This is how he keeps seducing his Woman.
This is the right way to make it work.
ON BEING A SEDUCER
You are always a seducer, even in your dreams.
When a man seduces only the women he is attracted to, he cannot be called a seducer.
When he deprives the less alluring women of his charm, he fails them, he fails all women, he fails the Gods of seduction.
He also fails himself as he will never realize his full seductive potential,
and when the encounter with a beautiful woman comes, there will be no time to make amends.
If a man does not exert his seductive prowess with less fascinating women, he will never be found in the heart and dreams of a beautiful woman either.
A seducer never turns it off. He never has to turn it on.
/> To seduce is not an act, a performance or a skill.
To seduce is a way of living, a way of being, a way of moving through the world, a way of moving through life.
The Way of a Seducer is through seduction.