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Index
abandonment, fear of
absence
of mother
abstinence see celibacy and chastity
abstinence movements
abuse, child
Adams, Abigail
Adams, John
addiction, sex
adolescence
father-daughter relationship
friendship in
sexuality in
adultery
the Bible and
Christian Church and
in cinema
Code Napoléon and
death and
discovery and
as help for relationship
in literature
lover/mistress
in mythology
punishment for
reasons for
secrecy and
transgressive nature of
truth and lies
Victorian hypocrisy over
websites for
advertising industry
advice industry
Aeschylus, Agamemnon
Agape
age, physical
cross-generational unions
see also older people
aggression
Aids
Albee, Edward, Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf
Allen, Woody
Alliott, Catherine, Rosie Meadows Regrets
Amis, Martin
Anderson, Hephzibah, Chastened: No More Sex in the City
anorexia
anthropology
anxiety
of choice
motherhood and
sexual
Aphrodite (Venus)
Apollodorus
Appignanesi, Lisa
brother of
childhood of
children of
father of
Mad, Bad and Sad
mother of
Ariès, Phillipe, Centuries of Childhood
Aristotle
Arnim, Bettina von
Arnim, Elizabeth von
arranged marriages
Arthurian legend
attachment theory
‘attention deficit hyperactivity disorder’
Atwood, Margaret, Cat’s Eye
Augustine, Saint, Confessions
Austen, Jane
Emma
Love and Friendship
Mansfield Park
Pride and Prejudice
babies
see also infancy
baby-boomer generation
Bacon, Francis (philosopher)
Badinter, Élisabeth
Balint, Enid
Balzac, Honoré de
Physiology of Marriage
Bancroft, Anne
Baron-Cohen, Simon, The Essential Difference
Barthes, Roland, A Lover’s Discourse
Bauman, Zygmunt
the Beatles
beauty and look
Beck, Ulrich
Beck-Gernsheim, Elisabeth
Berger, John
Bergman, Ingmar, Scenes from a Marriage
Berliet, Melanie
Bernardin de Saint-Pierre
Paul et Virginie
Bethlem (asylum)
betrayal
in literature
see also adultery
the Bible
New Testament
bigamy
Birkenhead, Earl of
birth rates
1880-1920 period
contemporary
Blackstone, Sir William
Blake, William
Bloomsbury circle
Bohemian lifestyles
Boots (chemist)
Boucicault, Dion, London Assurance
Bowie, Malcolm
Bowlby, John
breast feeding
Bridget Jones’s Diary (Helen Fielding)
Brief Encounter (film)
Brontë, Charlotte
Jane Eyre
Brontë, Emily, Wuthering Heights
brotherly love
Browning, Elizabeth Barrett
Browning, Robert
Burke, Edmund
‘Butterfly Lovers’ (Chinese legend)
Byatt, Antonia, The Children’s Book
Byron, Lord
Caird, Mona
Canadian Institute of Advanced Research
Capellanus, Andreas, The Art of Courtly Love
Capello, Fabio
capitalism
Carlile, Richard
Carpenter, Edward
Carrington, Dora
Casanova
castration, fear of
Catholic Church
contraception and
in France
marriage and
Cave, Nick
Cavell, Stanley
Cities of Words
Cavendish, Lucy
celebrity culture
celibacy and chastity
Christianity and
as transgressive
Chaucer, Geoffrey, Canterbury Tales
Cheever, John
‘chick lit’
childbirth
death in
childhood
adult sexuality and
boarding schools
bullying
child abuse
children as vehicles of parental hopes
corporal punishment
deprivation
divorce and
friendship in
imaginary friends
play therapy
pre-twentieth-century
romantic tradition of
sexual knowledge
sexuality
shaping trajectory of
specialness of child
symbiotic love for mother
in twentieth-century
welfare provision
China
chivalry
Chivers, Meredith
choice
anxiety of
marriage and
shaping of in infancy
Christianity
celibacy and chastity and
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