Big Bad Ass Book of Sex

by Nancy Armstrong

  “Oh, my, you are direct. I like that, and yes, please taste it from anywhere on my body,” the woman responded. As Angela gently dipped the nipple into her wine and began running her tongue over it, the woman continued, “I’m Altie, by the way.”

  Looking up at the dark black skin on Altie’s face, Angela mumbled, “An … Angela.”

  She then continued licking and sucking her nipples, moving from one breast to the other, drawing each into her mouth before moving back again. She continued as she felt her partner’s hands slide up her hips to her breasts. The dark hands felt warm on her pale skin, and she squeezed her body against Altie, wrapping her leg around her. She ground herself against the woman’s thigh, amazed at how smooth her skin felt.

  After a few more minutes grinding together, the two women moved to an open couch, noticing that all the men at their table and several men from other tables had moved with them, all transfixed by the melding of the dark black skin and the pale white. Angela noticed the men watching for only a moment because Altie immediately climbed over her, lowering herself onto her face.

  Feeling Altie’s tongue flick along the length of her slit, Angela burrowed her tongue past the deep pink lips into her wet center. The taste was pungent and strong, not distasteful but definitely surprising. Excited by the exotic taste, she lapped at her partner in earnest, taking in as much of her taste as she could before concentrating her attention on the clitoris.

  It was difficult to concentrate, but in just moments Angela felt a flood of pleasure wash through her body and arched her back and lifted her hips, pushing herself onto Altie’s face. As she came, she let her mouth slip off her lover’s clit, turning to her thigh and biting her. The woman flinched but didn’t pull away; instead, she simply rested her head on Angela’s thigh.

  Feeling a bit embarrassed about biting Altie, Angela moved her mouth back onto the wet button, determined to make up for the bite. Moving her hand up, she sucked the clit into her mouth while slipping three fingers into Altie’s soft opening.

  As Angela continued, Altie moaned, “More, give me more.”

  Pulling her fingers out, Angela curled her four fingers and her thumb and slowly pushed them into the wet opening. It was a little tight, but once she got her fingers and the back of her hand well lubricated in Altie’s juices, she was actually able to make a fist and slip it into and out of her lover.

  Angela heard some noise around her but wasn’t sure if it was Altie moaning or the men watching. It really didn’t matter, because in just a few seconds she felt Altie bucking her body above her and then felt the pulsing squeezing her hand as Altie came. When the woman finally collapsed on top of Angela, she slowly withdrew her hand, amazed at how much she had stretched to accommodate Angela’s fist.

  Altie remained motionless as the quivering lips slowly came back together. The two women sat up, and as Angela grabbed a towel and dried Altie’s juices off her breasts, they both heard an audible whoosh as the men surrounding them finally took a breath.

  One man started to applaud, but Altie spoke. “Guys, guys, let’s act like you’ve done this before.” She then looked over to Angela and silently mouthed, “DAMN,” beaming, as she moved back to the table.

  Angela smiled as she took her chair, grabbed her silverware, and took a bite of the steak. The rest of the guests returned to the table and quickly finished the main course.

  When the waiter announced the dessert, Angela sighed, figuring the evening would end on an anticlimactic note. She quickly moved to her table and tasted the wine. “Ah, a port,” she thought. “At least the wine won’t be a letdown.”

  Dolce (dessert)—

  Chocolate Almond Soufflé Torte with Raspberry Coulis with Orange Moscato or Port Rubino

  Angela took another sip of wine and looked around the room for Tawny. She heard a group of people talking, and when they dispersed and began heading back to the tables, she noticed Tawny walking toward her.

  “I didn’t think you were at this table,” Angela said, glancing at the place cards.

  “I wasn’t originally, but we all decided that for dessert it would be free choice. So how’s the wine? They said it would be a Port Rubino.”

  “The wine’s good, the company’s better,” Angela whispered, dipping her finger into her torte and spreading the chocolate over Tawny’s nipple.

  “Wow, that woman you were with was something.”

  “Yeah, it was pretty incredible. Hey, look, she must have six guys talking to her.”

  “It may be just you and me, then,” Tawny said, arching her back and presenting her breast to Angela.

  Diving in to the treat, Angela cleaned the chocolate from Tawny’s breast and then noticed a very hard and familiar-looking cock bobbing deliciously close. She looked up and said, “Bill.”

  “Mind if I join you ladies?” he asked.

  “Not chasing after Altie over there?” Angela asked.

  “I saw the show, and as far as I’m concerned, you were the star. She simply came. Besides, I had a taste of you, and now I’ve come back for the rest.”

  “Okay, well, Bill, this is Tawny. I had a taste of her and have come back for some more, but you’re free to join in.”

  Tawny shook his hand and then moved down to the floor, where Angela moved onto hands and knees over her. Bill sat down in the chair and sipped the port while the ladies got started.

  Angela immediately slipped her tongue into Tawny, savoring the tart but mild taste. Then she moved her tongue back to Tawny’s clit and ran it gently over the nub. She then felt Bill’s cock as he guided it into her.

  For the first time this evening, she felt the full feeling of having a cock inside her, and that sensation accompanied by Tawny’s tongue on her clit was driving her wild. She would have come right away, but Tawny kept moving her mouth from her to Bill’s balls and cock and then back again. Just as she got close, Tawny moved away. It was such a delightful agony.

  Tawny, beneath the inspired tongue work of Angela, came first, spreading her legs wide apart. Angela shook her head back and forth, rubbing her face all over the wet lips, feeling the juices coat her face.

  In response, Tawny concentrated on Angela’s clit now, and Bill, getting close to coming himself, was driving his cock deep and hard into her. Once again she felt the incredible pleasure pulsate from deep inside her, quaking over her entire body. She was shaking wildly as she pulsed on Bill’s cock.

  Feeling Angela come, Bill let himself go, spurting deep into Angela. After the first two spurts, he pulled his cock out and let the remainder dribble into Tawny’s mouth. After resting a bit on top of Tawny, breathing in the refreshing fragrance of her, Angela crawled over to the couch, sitting on the floor and leaning her back on the cushions.

  Tawny grabbed a plate from the table and then sat down next to Angela. Bill joined them but sat up on the couch, letting his leg rest against Angela’s shoulder. Tawny and Angela shared the chocolate almond soufflé torte with raspberry coulis as they watched the others finish their sessions and cool down.

  Angela noticed that Altie was able to pare her suitors down to just two men, one of them Angela’s husband. She waved as Altie held up a glass of wine and nodded her head.

  Angela then looked up at Jacob as he spoke to her, “I said I still had a bottle of that wine we bought that night. Would you like some?”

  “Oh, sorry, I must have drifted off for a minute,” Angela replied as she folded up the flyer and returned it to her desk drawer.

  “Yeah, you were long gone. I must have asked you three or four times. So would you like some wine?”

  “Yes, yes, of course,” she replied, watching him walk back into the kitchen. Then she shouted out to him, “Jacob, did you remember to make the Halloween reservations at Del Rey?”

  Returning with two glasses of wine, he replied, “Of course, dear, I made the Halloween reservations. I know how much you love the wine there.”

  “Yes … I do love the wine,” she replied, letting her mi
nd return to that night.

  Part 5:

  Extreme Kink

  Sex is as important as eating or drinking, and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.

  —Marquis De Sade

  Extreme kink? You’re asking yourself right now if the two sections you just read aren’t, well, extremely kinky, aren’t you?

  Fair enough. Swinging, swapping, and inviting guests of any kind into the sex life you share with your partner are decidedly nonvanilla activities. We’ve gone over those types of exploration in great detail, and now we’re moving on to some other weird stuff that more or less generally goes under the heading BDSM, or bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism … a compendium of other weird crap people do that falls into the category of nonvanilla sexuality.

  COMMUNICATION

  Bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism … that’s a lot of words. Isn’t “extreme kink” more fun? It’s catchy. You can dance to it.

  BDSM

  You remember BDSM from Part 2, probably; however, there’s dabbling in light BDSM and then there’s fully embracing BDSM scenes and practices as your main sexual outlet—two very different things.

  BDSM involves punishment, dominance, submission, and role playing. Most sexually adventurous people have at one time or another experienced a little light bondage, being blindfolded, dominance games, or playful spanking in bed. That’s all light BDSM, and it’s appealing because passivity negates expectation; that is, there’s no performance anxiety. Plus, it’s a little naughty, a little taboo. That sometimes turns people on.

  In this section, the assumption is that you’ve graduated from that and are looking to expand your BDSM repertoire. But if you’re just curious, you may find descriptions of BDSM scenarios interesting, at the very least.

  STRETCHING THE TRUTH

  This book is handy even if you are a full-fledged sex slave bound to an inversion table at this very moment. Your master can set this book up in front of you while he or she goes to get a new ball gag.

  BDSM is often used as a catchall term for anything that’s a little kinky or not vanilla in terms of sex play. There are arguments about every thing and every act, and some people might say that what they do is BDSM and some might say that it’s not. We’re not placing any value judgments on any of it by calling it BDSM or not calling it that. We’re just telling you about a bunch of different sexy stuff you can do.

  COMMUNICATION

  If you want to call whatever it is you do BDSM, fine. If you want to call it Charles, Chaz for short, go ahead—just don’t expect anyone else to know what you’re talking about.

  The point is that classifications are arbitrary unless you definitely need someone outside your jargon group to understand what the heck you’re talking about. With that in mind, we’ve defined these practices and implements in accordance with the most prevalent usage. (Further exploration of several of these topics follows in this section.)

  GLOSSARY OF BDSM TERMS

  ALGOPHILIA: A state in which one is sexually aroused by pain, whether causing or experiencing it.

  BOTTOM: The one who receives spankings, orders, or other types of power infliction in a dominant-submissive relationship; the opposite of top; often called “slave.”

  COLLAR: Worn around the neck, generally by a submissive; makes attaching things such as leashes easier; often symbolic of a bond between a dominant and a submissive.

  CONSENT: Clear permission to engage in BDSM.

  DOMINANT: The one who has the power in an exchange relationship, whether it’s physical or psychological.

  EDGE PLAY: BDSM play that involves a significant risk of getting hurt, for example, asphyxiation or fire play.

  LISTEN UP, THIS IS IMPORTANT

  Kinky sex is great. Kinky sex that can lead to four-alarm fires and ambulances, not so much.

  FETISH: A sexual attraction to an item or action that is usually not sexual; has also come to be a descriptor for all things BDSM, for example, “fetish play,” “fetish party.”

  BARE FACTS

  Common fetish items include the feet and other nonsexual body parts, wearing diapers, food, and just about anything else your perverted, kinky mind can come up with.

  FISTING: A practice in which an entire hand, made into a fist, is inserted into a vagina or anus.

  FLAGELLATION: Any kind of whipping or flogging.

  INFANTILISM: A role-playing game in which someone is dressed as a baby (diaper, pacifier, etc.).

  MASOCHISM: Being sexually excited by receiving pain; the opposite is sadism.

  OBJECTIFICATION: Arousal because of dehumanizing oneself or others.

  PAIN PLAY: Any BDSM activity involving inflicting or enduring pain.

  YOU’RE WELCOME FOR THE TIP

  Pain play does not include forcing upon people that damned iPod mix you created, although it probably should.

  RISK-AWARE CONSENSUAL KINK (RACK): An acronym commonly used in BDSM; basically means all involved parties are participating freely and are aware of the risks of the activity.

  SADISM: Arousal as a result of inflicting pain on another or others; the opposite is masochism.

  SECRET TIP

  Well, that pretty much explains middle school.

  SAFEWORD: A word that is agreed on before BDSM activity by playmates; the word is used if things get too intense during BDSM.

  SUBMISSIVE: The one whose physical or psychological power is stripped in a power exchange relationship.

  TOP: The one who gives spankings, orders, or other power infliction; the opposite of bottom; often called “master.”

  TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE: A relationship in which one person gives up physical and/or psychological control to another for an extended period.

  FOR BDSM BEGINNERS

  The world of BDSM has many practices; a lot of them have to do with power exchanges including dominance and submission, and a lot of them involve bondage and cause pain. Almost all BDSM activities require some type of role playing—there is a lot of high drama and theatricality in the BDSM world. These kinds of activities generally call for one partner to voluntarily give up control of himself or herself and be left to the devices of another person, meaning that a great deal of trust must be present in a relationship. Indeed, many BDSM enthusiasts report that this extremely high level of trust is the biggest turn-on of all.

  SECRET TIP

  If you are asking yourself, “Wait, but what does pain, power exchanges, and make-believe have to do with sex?” you probably aren’t a natural candidate for exploring BDSM. Or for real life, either.

  Here’s another important detail: Not all—or even most—BDSM activities end with intercourse or even kissing, though they may end with orgasms. The most important part of a “session” is often setting the scene, and great care is taken to make everything match up with the fantasy, whatever that may be. As far as the turn-on: some people who enjoy BDSM talk about physical pain as though it is a wonderful, transcendent, almost holy experience. Some also say that being denied sexual release for long periods makes it that much sweeter when they finally have an orgasm. It’s all a matter of personal taste.

  If you are a person with a curiosity about BDSM, you probably know this already. To get started, though, you need to find a scene partner or partners. This is tricky, of course, because what you absolutely don’t want is to hook up with someone who gets off on beating the crap out of you while you take it. That is not the essence of a BDSM relationship no matter how much it might seem like it from the outside. Ideally, you and your trusted, committed partner are finding out about all this together, exploring, taking your time, talking things out, and being very cautious.

  Ours is not an ideal world, however, and the idyll is seldom the reality, so you may need to do some research to find interested parties. Your best bet is to go with trusted, established BDSM organizations or publications, of which most metropolitan areas have at least one or two.

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nbsp; BARE FACTS

  Three cheers for metropolitan areas!

  How do you find out if an organization is trustworthy? Look at things such as how long it’s been in existence and how many members it has. If BDSM is what you want to get into, it’s worth the time to do the research. Really read up on it online and in books (a great specialty publishing house for this type of literature is Greenery Press). Gather information before you place an ad or go to a club, and then once you do, ask questions before you get involved, or you could get hurt. There’s nothing wrong with being a novice, but identify yourself as one. This is one instance in which it definitely doesn’t pay to pretend to know more than you do.

  COMMUNICATION

  Don’t be taken in by every online ad that promises kinky BDSM sex. Most of the ads are fake, and the ones that aren’t probably were placed by novices who have no idea what they’re talking about.

  One final proviso and then we’ll jump right in: in all BDSM scenarios, before the power exchange takes place, it is vital that you and your partner have discussed how far it’s allowed to go and set a safeword in case it gets to be too much or too painful or just too freaky. The idea of consent is taken very seriously in BDSM scenarios and culture, and you should make it a priority in your play, too.

  DON’T BE A JERK

  A strict rule in BDSM play: if you hear the safeword spoken by your partner, stop what you’re doing.

  BARE FACTS

  Let’s play master and servant.

  —Depeche Mode

  DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION