The Secrets of the Seducer

by Francesco Cibelli

  The second rule is to choose the first message you send carefully. To do this you need to study the profile image and characteristics of the woman you want to conquer. The first sentence must be impressive. This is because there is a lot of competition in chat rooms and especially beautiful ladies have dozens of contacts at the same time. So, you don’t want to be banal. You should absolutely avoid the predictable phrases such as: “Hi, you’re beautiful”, “Hey, good morning”, “How are you?” “What are you up to?”

  If, for instance, it is clear from the image of the girl who impressed you that she is a sportswoman and loves running, you could start this way, “Hey, there. How many hours would I run to reach your city and meet you for a coffee?”

  If she has a picture of her eating chocolate ice cream, that’s how you might start, “Hey, there. I was just eating a hazelnut ice cream and I noticed your profile. Shall we go get an ice cream together?”

  In the event that the profile picture and description are poor, a hypothetical Vanessa could be met like this, “I can’t believe this! Are you indeed the Vanessa I met at the beach last year? Do you remember me?”

  You have a ninety percent chance the girl will answer that she can’t remember anything about it by asking detailed questions. In this case, the questions can be answered evasively and jokingly by adding, “What… after what we talked about, you can’t remember me?” After these first jokes, then, the girl’s questions will become increasingly direct and the best thing will be to respond to them this way, “Actually, I don’t know you. I did all this just to get your attention. Will you forgive me?” Personally, I have often used these last sentences with very positive results in terms of interactions.

  The third rule is to be nice and positive. Many times, you chat precisely to escape from the daily routine, to have fun. If you’re talking about your dog’s funeral, I don’t think you’ll meet too many girls. If you’re talking about unemployment or corruption, you won’t be seductive. You have to talk about topics that arouse interest and emotions such as vacations, the sea, landscapes, music. You have to chat jokingly and not take yourself too seriously. And don’t bother the girl with messages if she doesn’t answer immediately. If you have written interesting things that arouse emotions, she will probably answer you. And, what if you notice the girl is interested? That she always responds to your messages or that she contacts you first? Sometimes you have to respond late or disappear for a whole day. I know, when I have a girl in my pocket, there’s a lot of hurry to conclude. But if I play hard to get, the girl will doubt me. she will worry that maybe I met another girl and for her the hopes have decreased. Playing hard to get will pay off!

  The fourth rule to potentially seduce millions of girls is to speak English. As an Italian, if you only speak Italian, you can only seduce a potential audience of a few million girls. By learning English, the most spoken language in the world, you will be able to get to know girls from all over the world, more than a billion girls. It shall also be addressed that in many countries of the world Italian is seen as the emblem of a Latin lover and enjoys a good reputation. If today I am married to a beautiful Belarusian girl, blonde, slender with blue eyes and eleven years younger than me, it is mainly thanks to my average knowledge of English. Without English I would not have been able to chat first and then communicate in person with my wife.

  The fifth rule is to encourage conversation with double entendres, but without being vulgar. It is necessary to arouse emotion in the girl with whom you chat. It is necessary to stimulate the imagination with pleasant evocations. Even by writing you can indirectly tease the five senses. In the above mentioned case of the girl who ate chocolate ice cream, for example, you could, after having talked for at least an hour, joke in these terms, “Dearest, you only show the good things, but when do I get to taste your chocolate ice cream?”

  The last rule is to be direct. The girl must perceive, even indirectly, that you are interested in her for a story, an engagement. You must not make the mistake of becoming the confidant, the pen pal. The friend’s rule is clear, if the girl tells you all her secrets, her love pains, you will never accomplish anything with her! So, if a girl starts talking in a friendly tone, you must immediately stop her and make her understand that you are not interested only in her friendship. As a result, you should not delay in asking her for a date.

  After two or three days at the most, you have to get a first date. If the girl denies it, it means that she is not interested and you will focus on another beautiful girl, among millions available in the world. I know guys who have virtually fallen in love with a girl, have chatted months, years without accomplishing anything.

  Consider that some girls are paid by the brands to entertain the boys, and some of them, stupidly, fall in love. Well, then, these men are wasting their time. But I’ve heard of guys who sent thousands of euros to virtual girlfriends (or boyfriends?), who then disappeared. So, I repeat once again two concepts: never send money; desist from the challenge of seducing a girl who only wants to waste time. Time is precious to seduce dozens of beautiful girls, whom you have to meet as soon as possible! And remember, you haven’t finished the job yet. Once you’ve arranged your date, you’ll have to seduce your beloved in person.

  Seducing an engaged or committed woman

  Seducing an engaged or committed woman can be both simple and challenging. It is simple if the lady is living in a relationship already in crisis. It is more challenging if instead, her relationship is solid and is seventh heaven for her engagement.

  In the first case, as always, luck helps the daring. Just court the girl. Make a few double entendres. In short, treat her as if she were not engaged. In this case you will represent the forbidden fruit. Precisely because she could not theoretically have you, you will become her obsession. Women like what is naughty. Sooner or later she will fall into your trap, if you know how to place your nets.

  If, on the other hand, the girl you want to seduce lives a solid relationship and is happy with her partner, you need to be more careful.

  First of all, you must investigate her relationship and try to find the weak points. Even the most idyllic love story has its cracks and shadows. Your job is to fill in these gaps and direct them in your favor. I’ll give some examples of cracks that can live with an apparently solid relationship. The boyfriend, although rich, does a very demanding job and is forced to devote little time to her. The crack might be that he is the best man in the world, but he is rather jealous and forces his girlfriend to live a relationship in which social life is sacrificed. Yet another crack might be your rival has a too serious character and makes his woman laugh only rarely. It is easy to understand how to act in each of the three situations described.

  In the first case you will have to devote a lot of time to her, even chatting many times a day, if you can’t see her every day. Let your beloved know that she is above and beyond all commitments, including work. You must surprise her with small gifts, small sentences of affection, gestures that make her understand that, if you were her man, she would be at the center of your universe.

  In the latter case, you have to be more aloof and show that you adopt a lifestyle that makes you happy. You go to parties, disco, and often travel with groups. You have to make her dream about freedom. You have to make her fly with her imagination. You want to make her realize that life is beautiful and that you have to do something different every day in order to be happy. You must fascinate the girl, induce her, even with veiled phrases, to transgress, first with regard to small things (e.g. what’s wrong with having a coffee with a friend?) and then with regard to bigger things.

  In the third case, of course, you must be as cool as possible. The girl must see that you’re happy and play down any situation, even the most critical. You must be ready to joke about everything (even to talk with sexual double entendres, why not!). You need to be her escape.

  The second rule is to pretend to be her friend. Dear wannabe seducer, now you’ll t
hink I’m inviting you to break the friend’s rule. But remember that, in this case, you are trying to win over an already committed and happy woman. Therefore, the friend’s rule must undergo an exception. A girl who is committed and happy about her relationship will almost certainly reject the proposals of an overly direct libertine. If you approach her amicably, you will have fewer barriers and she, too, will feel less guilty towards her partner in dating you. You must try to win the love of your beloved, initially hidden by a protective mantle of friendship. You have to tell her that you know that she is engaged and is happy and that you respect her status. You must tell her that you love her and want to stay in her life as a friend anyway, because friendship is still an important feeling. You must also tell her that, if she were single, you would be interested in her as a woman. You should be honest about this. However, you are content with friendship. This speech could run smoothly (as almost always happened to me) or generate a bit of mistrust in the girl. In the latter case you should reassure her that you are not obsessed with her. How do you do that? Simply by pretending to hang out with various girls and corroborating these facts with photos (also published on social media). You need to show that you have a love life regardless of her. In some cases, you can even ask her for advice on how to behave toward a hypothetical flame of yours. This behavior will lead to two outcomes. The first is that she will break down the barriers toward you. She is engaged and you are dating other girls. It is the ideal situation to be friends. The second is that, over time, the girl may get jealous of your acquaintances (it happened to me).

  The third rule is that, over time, you must become her escape from the routine. To do this you never have to be jealous of her boyfriend. You don’t need to speak ill of him. You just have to ignore him. If she wants to talk to you about it, always respond impartially or with a playful joke. You must be her accomplice. You should never advise her to break up, or she may lose the esteem you’re winning. You must make sure that she maintains her psychological comfort. You have to talk exclusively about entertainment, travel, and beautiful things. If you experience bad things, just briefly mention them. If instead she is the one who needs comfort, stay close to her as long as you want. Make her feel like a queen. Have her fly with imagination, make yourself nice, interesting, and seductive.

  The last rule is to tempt her, in a moderate and not vulgar way. At this point you are already in the phase of a relationship based on a veiled and consolidated friendship. She knows that you are interested in her, that if she were single you would want her. Therefore, you have to stimulate her, even sexually, in a soft way. For instance, you could tell her, out of the blue, while you are in a bar, “You know, dear, I have a sexual fantasy that I never told you about. Would you let me drink from your glass?” She’s your friend. She couldn’t deny you that. At which point you will add, “I feel like I kissed you.” You could then push it a little further by saying to her (at a time when you pretend to be dating someone else), “You know, for my birthday, I’d like something great, but I don’t know if you can help me. I’d like to have a little kiss on my lips from you (when no one can see us).” These little things will ignite the fire and, of course, or at a time of crisis in her engagement, your beloved will fall into your seductive arms.

  One of the greatest loves of my life was a married Albanian woman. I’ve always tried to avoid having relationships with married women with children. I don’t like destroying families. However, Julie was too beautiful, too nice, too sensitive, and too sexy. I never found such a harmony of character as I did with her.

  It all began almost for fun in chat. I first asked her if she spoke Italian and she told me that she had attended an Italian school. We then began to talk about a thousand things with such a natural and friendly attitude that it left me amazed. We exchanged our photos and I told her that I wanted to marry her straight away. She had everything I was looking for in life. She told me that she was already married and had a daughter and that she could not offer me anything more than friendship. I joked that I was not jealous and that, in any case, I would be satisfied with the friendship. So, I begged her to keep in touch with me even the next day.

  That same evening, I wrote her a long poetic message and for four years, every night, I wrote her dozens of messages of love. The next day I found her again in a chat room and asked her if she loved me. She told me that to love someone you have to see each other on video, call each other, and meet in person. I told her then that I wanted to do all these things. In the following days, besides writing in chat, we started to see each other on skype and started to call each other. With her everything was magic: her voice, her smiling image, and our conversations.

  We started spending hours together in chat, on video, on the phone, whenever possible.

  Sometimes she would say to me, “You’re single. What are you doing with a married woman?”

  I told her that I was happy with her and that was enough for me. Meanwhile, a few days later she also gave me positive signals. She told me that, if she hadn’t been married, I would have been her ideal type. So, as a joke, I made her promise that as soon as she got back single, even when she was ninety, she would give me precedence over all her suitors, and we would get married. After a month, we began to write to each other at any time of the day. I spent white nights chatting with her until the first light of dawn. I, who knew all the techniques of seduction, didn’t need to program anything. True love is a great poet. I always had something to say, to ask. Our conversations, even sexy ones, never ended.

  She later confided to me that she had married very young, at eighteen, exclusively at the behest of her father. Her parents had married her to a wealthy entrepreneur from Tirana, also to help her escape from the poverty of the country life of her hometown. After learning this, I thought that all this was intolerable nowadays. Even for the Catholic Church, such a marriage shall be null and void.

  So, I decided it was the right time to meet Julie in Tirana. She told me that it wasn’t worth going to Tirana to have a coffee.

  I jokingly said to her, “But I’m also coming to drink from your glass, to give you a little kiss on the lips. Would you deny me an innocent kiss after I almost write you a novel every night?”

  She replied, “You deserve much more than a kiss, but I can’t do anything else. I wouldn’t be able to fake it with my husband. However, yes, I can’t deny you a kiss!”

  Julie and I met in a bar in a Hotel in Tirana. I took her by the hand immediately. I drank from her glass. Every contact we had would make us see the stars, our hearts beat hard and we breathed in unison. There came the kiss, then came ten more. We were swept away by the fire of passion. We joined together literally without limits.

  Later on, we went on vacation together. I convinced her daughter that ours was true love. We lived in my town with Julie and her daughter for more than a month. But this is another story and it will have to be told another time.

  Conclusions

  Dear readers, we have come to the latest summary and final advice.

  I recommend interacting, anywhere and by any means, with many women, of any age and of any social status. Seduction, like any art, requires a lot of practice and continuous experimentation. Every woman is different and requires different techniques of approach. A young girl wants to be carefree, loves the handsome boy, and often without double ends. The adult woman is often interested in the economic and social condition as well. With the shy girl you don’t have to show off a great experience, you would risk scaring her. With the experienced woman, instead, you don’t have to hide your playboy past.

  One must also have the confident attitude of someone who knows he can win over any woman. The shy and undecided, however, have no luck. The art of conquest is like a war game, the strongest win. It is good to use the technique of “mixed signals”. The latter consists of showing, one day, a veiled interest in a girl you’re meeting, and ignoring her the next, and so on for a few days. In doing so, she will take the first s
teps toward you. As she will miss you, she will be afraid that you are focusing on other women. With this technique your beloved will fall into the net that you have stretched out for her. A mistake to avoid instead is to haunt the girl with phone calls, text messages, chat messages. You need to be able to wait and the results will come.

  A mistake to avoid is to make your friends part of your strategies, especially if the girl really interests you. If you praise your sweet damsel to a friend of yours, you will encourage him to seduce her. In this art, you don’t even have to trust your best friend or brother. Love is something irrational. And sometimes what causes pain to others is pleasing. As you know, there are women who are attracted to those who are married or engaged and ignore singles. The human soul is complex. Instead, it is good to become friends with the best friend of your beloved, as she will, often selflessly, tell you when you can act or when you need to postpone the assault. It may happen (it happened to me) that the latter will fall in love with you. What to do? It’s better to focus on your goal anyway. Afterwards, if you want, you will also get the friend.

  As you may have seen by now, there are different techniques of seduction depending on the circumstances. If you really want to summarize in two key words the most effective techniques, you must fix these two in your minds: jealousy and carelessness. If you can arouse jealousy in your beloved one, your work is finished successfully. Jealousy is one of the most powerful irrational feelings (the daily news shows us this). The carelessness, alternated with moments of veiled interest in the girl you are interested in, causes the girl you are dating to wonder the reason behind this behavior. This will make you mysterious. You will be in the mind of your beloved. You will be her conundrum and she will be the one to chase you.